CuriousByNature

The thing with cancer, that I've learned from friends who have been going through that journey, is that every new day brings more advances and hopefully better outcomes as well. I think each of us needs to live with intention, and not to take anything for granted. Life is but a blink of an eye for everyone, compared to eternity - even for those people to live to 110. It sounds like you are doing all you can to live your best life in each moment, and by doing so, you may be the one who is the most alive compared to many of us 🙏

I'm really sorry to hear you've been having to go through these health challenges. I hope your treatments are/will be completely successful and that you have decades more of life to embrace. Nobody should be put in a position where they are forced to confront something they are already processing on their own - that was very bad form for the provider.

I'm normally not in favour of the death penalty, but this sounds like a capital offence to me. It's a good thing I'm not a judge.

These sorts of things are happening in the big Canadian cities too, where congregations of churches and synagogues are aging and shrinking, and the land has skyrocketed in value. I knew a family years ago that attended a church in Vancouver, and that congregation ended up partnering with a developer to construct a high-rise condo building adjacent to the church. This way the city was able to provide more housing, the developers made money, and the congregation also benefitted by either subdividing or leasing the land - I'm not sure which.

I think you're asking a very important and understandable question. I have not met with anyone myself, but I imagine that it would be very difficult to find a provider that you would have a genuine connection with on your first meeting. I'm not saying it isn't possible, but that it's probably difficult, and for your own sake, you might need to set your expectations relatively low until you meet someone who genuinely clicks with you. I'm also not sure how one would judge what a 'genuine' connection is, given the transactional nature of the meetings - but I am sure there are providers who care very much about their clients and try to provide the most genuine experience possible. It's important to remember that providers are people like everyone else, and each will have their preferences about looks and personality - therefore, it could be like hitting a jackpot to meet a provider for the first time and find that a genuine connection exists for both of you. I hope this doesn't sound discouraging at all - that's not how I mean it to sound.

Also in no particular order: 1. Travel 2. Great food experiences 3. Reading 4. Being able to give to others 5. Faith

Now I'll always be wondering when someone tells me they have a runny nose...

Does that mean that 'swallowers are wallowers'?

In addition to the tremendous amount of focus and determination it must take to meet with clients who would not normally attract a provider, I also can't imagine how difficult it must be to meet up with someone you know nothing about. And to do this multiple times in a day or a week. The risk of disease can only be mitigated so far, and the risk to personal safety can probably increase quite suddenly with some clients. Then there's the societal stigma, the risk to interpersonal relationships with family and romantic partners, the stresses and costs of keeping oneself in tip-top condition, the expense of marketing oneself and travel, and the risk of income loss during unexpected crises like pandemics and recessions. I imagine the work is physically, emotionally, mentally and even spiritually draining. No work-place benefits or pensions, no protection through regulations in those places where the work is not legal or fully legal, and then there's also the relatively short term nature of this career path - given that everyone ages, and not everyone is able to navigate change and adapt and rebrand themselves accordingly. All in all, I can't think of many other careers that have the potential to bring so much happiness and fulfilment to the clients, and with such a high level of diverse risk for the providers. This is part of the reason why it really bothers me when providers are objectified and disrespected in this forum. Yes, there are those providers who evidently fall very short of the mark and it's good to warn others about them, but the number of people who are truly suited for this line of work is likely exceedingly small, and I would argue they should be seen and treated as the professionals they are.

Laminated pictures on the wall of multiple dismembered limbs and torsos? Triple red flag! LOL

So I guess that means I have a 'sex parking lot'.

Uhm, maybe don't send that invite to Grandma.

I really don't think @musclestuduws was being sarcastic. It's an honest question when posts get deleted. If I may weigh in, it wasn't as much about meeting the provider, it was more about not being able to because the provider may no longer be in the country. If I'm summarizing the gist, correctly. 🙏

I would hope it has more to do with an undiagnosed mental illness than embarrassment about sex...

Then in those cases, perhaps those who are interested in the details should have to go through the official search processes to learn the cause of death. I believe a deceased person's reputation is something that should still be protected because they no longer have the ability to defend themselves if the details lead to inaccurate assumptions. Often people's causes of death are released by the news and media when it's an important part of the story, and I don't really have an issue with that. What I have an issue with is society's growing expectation that the personal details of public individuals should be immediately/easily accessible. And particularly in cases where the survivors ask for privacy. To me, it's about having respect for the deceased, and for their family and friends as they deal with their loss.

I'm assuming this is hyperbole - lol. I agree it shouldn't be anyone's business. It is unfortunate that the misunderstanding of texts led to some very twisted ideas regarding the body, sexuality, and sexual expression - particularly during the later Victorian era. Vestiges of that period likely continue to factor into many people's moral standards. It also might explain why nobody names their son 'Onan' anymore...

It can be tastefully added to the engraved invitations, just below the RSVP information.

I recognize his photos from other ad(s), but it seems this profile is new. I'm not sure what his previous profile names have been or what the feedback has been for him... but those photos are definitely of someone who has been mentioned in the forum before.

I'm sure I'll receive some eye roll emojis for this reply, but what the heck - I like to tell it like it is. This masseur sounds like a great person. In a world where people are increasingly seen as commodities, and not always valued for the services they provide and their right to set their own boundaries, it's refreshing to see someone who has the inner strength and determination to remain true to the limits they have determined. Too many people are swayed by the appeal of the almighty dollar, and end up in a much worse place. And it's awesome that he has an advocate and friend like you. I haven't seen your posts in a while - hope you are enjoying 2025

I don't know if I'd be ready for cruisey nude turtles. I mean, it's bad enough when they try to pick you up at the local Shell station.

So you suddenly join this forum 13 hours ago and immediately start singing the praises of this Apollo guy, after only 15,600 posts of your own? Sounds very suspicious to me - welcome to the Forum, Apollo! LOL 🤣 Just kidding, of course

I understand why people might think that because someone is a public person, that all of their business should be public business - urgent or not. However, don't you think that some things should remain private if that person or their surviving family desire that? We normally don't have access to public people's bank balances or medical records, so I'm perplexed why a cause of death needs to be public - unless it has a direct implication on public safety. Knowing the cause of death only serves to satisfy our own curiosity (and I am CuriousByNature, so I do understand this), but I don't believe that is sufficient reason to expect that sort of information access. It doesn't add any value knowing how someone died, no matter how famous and public they may have been. But perhaps the expectation for access to private info is higher in the US than here in Canada. Up here I think we may generally have more respect for the individual rights to privacy.

As a Canadian, I feel I must put the following name out there: "Aunty Tariff". It's pronounced 'Tare-eef" because in my mind she's an Arabic drag queen who doesn't want her name to be confused with a different pronunciation, that could inadvertently make this post political.

Ok, that reply was wheely bad.