CuriousByNature

You make a very good point @SecretProvider I was thinking more about those people who get blocked for only a couple of looks at the page, or those who block a provider when they reach out to the client one or two times. I've never looked at any page anywhere close to 100 times, but I suppose there are people out there who are looky-loos, and blocking those people might make sense. Sometimes when I see on this board that there is a name change or updated pictures for a provider, I'll check their page again.

Reading these posts leaves me incredibly impressed with everyone. And depressed for myself - hahahaha 😆

It's the blocker's loss if they block someone who would have become a good client or provider. And if they wouldn't have, it's nobody's loss. It's easy to take things personally, but that is a waste of emotion. There's lots of fish in the sea for providers and clients. I have been blocked a couple of times, likely because I have only ever looked (or messaged in a complimentary way) without ending up arranging a meeting. One individual who blocked me was a surprise because I don't recall ever seeing his profile before - though he could have had a name change. In any case, I logged off and was still able to message him and ask if I had somehow offended him. He replied very quickly and said he hadn't meant to block me and even shared his private gallery. Years later I'm still unblocked, so I'll take him at his word. But generally speaking, I wouldn't normally bug someone if I'm blocked. In the vast majority of cases it shouldn't even matter.

I would only send out my photo to someone if I was renewing my passport.

I think you should definitely get the engagement ring back from him. lol But joking aside, it sounds like he needs space. Could it be that his feelings for you went deeper than a provider-client relationship? You've offered to increase his massage fee, and I don't think there's anything more that you can do. It's good to let him know that you didn't realize you were getting a discount, and how much you appreciate that, but that you are also more than happy to be paying his regular fee because you appreciate him and his service so much. I wouldn't ask what more you can do, but rather, let him know you are sorry for disappointing him, that you never realized he would be disappointed, and that you would like him to contact you when he knows he'd like to move forward with future visits. Just a thought, for what it's worth.

I'm not sure how many - not a lot. I found out about this site and the various provider sites almost exactly 6 years ago, and after 30+ years of thinking nobody would ever want to spend time with me in any sort of romantic way, I started to think maybe I could meet someone this way. In those first few months I requested access to many private galleries, but very little contact beyond that and thanking them for sharing when they did. I knew it would take time for me to follow through with a meeting and that it would need to be far from home, so I always let providers know my circumstances because I did not want to waste their time. Some were very understanding, and others were not - which I understood and could not hold against them. Then the pandemic hit and there was no way I would be able to travel and meet anyone. I also have been concerned about STIs, and I am very risk averse. Having been molested early in life has likely contributed to a lot of confusion, and I waffle back and forth about my worthiness to experience the fullness of human contact, and I'm probably less likely to pursue meeting anyone compared to 5 years ago when the thought was new and exhilarating. I even lost quite a bit of weight so that I could feel less self-conscious. At least the weight has stayed off, so becoming healthier was an unexpected silver lining to my odd journey. I tried to stay in periodic contact with a few providers who were particularly kind, or who confided about some of their own struggles. There are those who are no longer on the sites, and I think about them often and hope they are doing alright. Honesty has always been very important to me, so I have never suggested a meeting and then backed out of it. I know providers are busy and that they have to deal with that far too often. Perhaps one day I'll be able to bite the bullet, but if I never experience these sorts of things - aside from what happened to me many years ago - I can't complain. Sorry for the long answer to your short question

I'm confused by the back and forth on this issue. I have never met with anyone, but I understand that donation amounts have increased in most places, especially since the pandemic. And the cost of living has gone up in many places as well. So it is understandable that donation amounts would also increase - providers can command whatever donation amount a client is willing to pay. However, affordability has generally decreased across a wide range of goods and services, and many people seem to be feeling the crunch of their income not growing at the same pace as the cost of living. I assume that is the primary problem here. Things like meeting with providers has probably become less and less affordable for a lot of people, but that doesn't mean a provider needs to reduce their requested donation for their time. If their donation amount is too high, they won't get enough business to justify the amount, and they may need to lower the amount being requested. Simple economics. But there are still many clients in high income brackets who can afford to meet with anyone and at any cost, and these individuals will continue to support the higher donation amounts that providers request. It ultimately doesn't matter whether or not someone can survive on a middle income in Brazil or elsewhere. What matters is that affordability pressures in the US and Canada have reduced the ability for many people to access time with providers. It isn't the providers' fault - it's that the present economy has concentrated relative wealth in a smaller and smaller group of clients.

So, nobody thinks they were soul mates?

As long as he shares his fries with me, I would be okay with it. LOL To bring things back to the original question, and the apparent drop in donation amounts. Last night I found myself in a situation where a very desirable (to me) provider, PAID ME for my time. It was amazing. Such a connection. And it seemed to last for hours and hours. But then I woke up.

It looks like this Noel could certainly keep you warm on a cold winter's night that was so deep.

Sadly we don't have any record about what the ghosts of his mother and dog called him during those seances...

Also any guy named Rex.

When God was handing out beauty, it seems he was particularly generous with Mr. Rockham.

As long as he doesn't smell like Durian God... 🤣

Some people are more complicated than others. There are facets to most people that never see the light of day, and therefore they manage to escape scrutiny. For others, not so much.

I wrote that it 'might' be a good thing. Some will agree, and others will not. I still find it odd when I see a thread for a 'NEW' provider that has 7 pages of replies, and the OP has been deceased for some time already. BTW, we don't have to agree or convince each other of anything.

None of us are perfect

I don't think the question posed by @cbaby deserves this kind of response. Perhaps a bit of overreaction on your part?

Hence my words, "Not a big issue". It isn't 'needed', and nor did I suggest it was.

Not a big issue, but it might be good to avoid adding 'NEW' to a thread title, unless you also happen to add the month and year. There are threads from 5 years ago that still indicate a provider as being 'new'.

He might be a fan of Mozambique's flag.

I suppose as a Canadian I would be able to claim back the tax by filing a US tax return, but I don't currently live close enough to the border to make a trip across the line worth it for a 1 in 290 million chance at winning.

This is a situation where he should capitalize the 'r' in his profile. Bi people are not gross. LOL

I'm more concerned that she noticed his body temperature at a time that her toe was being crushed. Glad it was just one toe. It's a good thing.

What??? When did that change? LOL