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It just sounds like you’re overthinking things! Sometimes things just don’t work out or people get skittish. You have a verbose writing style and honestly that sends off “time-waster” red flags, so does reaching out way before your trip. You seem very nice so just be a little more laid back x

I’ve wasn’t into receiving until very recently. A client got into the 69 position while I was blowing him and it’s changed my life forever ?. So sad I won’t be seeing him for a while.

So here's a piece of good news to savor while you are sheltering at home.
 
We are all escorts now. Every one of you gets to think just like the best escorts in the United States do. Congratulations!
 
I'm posting this partly in response to two things: the thread on whether escorts websites should voluntarily shut down, and the announcement of the cancellation of the Palm Springs pool party.
 
I don't want to weigh in directly on whether escort websites should voluntarily shut down. Other than to say that the question pretty much answers itself. I think we all know what the word voluntary means. It's a decision to be made by the people who run those websites.
 
The analogy of the restaurant on that thread was a good one. There are two decisions being made: one by the restaurant owner, and one by the customer. If customers don't come, restaurants won't stay open. That is what is happening to restaurants, cinemas, and escorts right now.
 
The AIDS analogy was a good one, too. @Benjamin_Nicholas didn't say it quite this way. But we didn't decide to permanently ban sex. In fact, even the hint of a suggestion that the problem was Gay sex caused a huge and very understandable negative reaction. It's very understandable that there would be a similar reaction when we're being told that going to a bar or going to a beach somehow causes a problem.
 
What we did do to contain AIDS is temporarily close bath houses, which later were safely reopened. We did massive public education about the need to change individual behavior until treatments or cures were found. That alone was arguably the single most important and effective thing to do. It probably saved millions of lives globally.
 
The key messages on AIDS are ones we all know. Use a rubber. Don't share needles. The fact that we all know these messages, and most of us practice them, is why they have been so successful. And why you are reading this, rather than in a grave. We can thank the scientists who figured it all out for that.
 
Having a sort of vaccine for AIDS also has changed the game. But that took a long time to develop. Hopefully it will take much less time to develop a vaccine for this virus. Until then, a lot of this comes down to individual responsibility. It's important to understand what keeps us safe, and observe those rules.
 
For that reason, we are all escorts now. For 18 years or so I lived with the knowledge that the next client I met could infect me with something nasty I didn't want to have, or share with others. Having sex with the wrong person in the wrong way could have killed me. COVID-19 means we are all escorts now. Thinking smart about this and acting responsibly as individuals is what is going to keep us alive. Any escort worth his reputation can tell you that.
 
Morals and money aligned perfectly. Even if I had no scruples about being sick and getting people sick, it was just not a very good business plan. The same applies to restaurants. Before this crisis, restaurants that had outbreaks of salmonella paid for their mistakes dearly, both in their reputation and their bottom line.
 
We're all now in the same situation. Forget about a kiss. The best knowledge on this virus is all it takes to infect someone you care about is to have dinner together.
 
There's another part of the escort ethic that applies. It basically just sucks. But it is particularly important right now, since we are not up to speed on testing and tracing yet. I hated having to call clients to say I had gonorrhea or scabies, and I might have infected them. But I did. And I also got a few calls from public health departments telling me that somebody unnamed had had sex with me and I should come get a test. That will be part of our future, if we want to beat this thing. Until the tracing protocols are set up, I know my plan. I plan to stay negative to COVID-19. And if I do turn positive, I'll tell anyone I think I likely exposed.
 
To be honest, I had a morally relative view of that. There were people I definitely called, because I'd had sex with them very recently. I knew that as much as it's a shitty call to get, they would hopefully end up appreciating the warning. The client that I met only once, and a week before I knew I had the clap, didn't get a call. I figured it was very unlikely I infected him. Maybe I rationalized, but I figured the cost of having him worry and have to get a shot he probably didn't need wasn't worth it. Once tracing protocols are set up, there will be clear recommended guidelines for this with COVID-19. Health professionals will follow them. For the time being, anyone unfortunate enough to be infected can choose whether to follow them voluntarily and inform the people you were close to.
 
So all the lessons we learned from AIDS, and all the best practices of the best escorts, apply to this situation. Getting out of this situation as quickly as possible, and as healthy as possible, depends on one thing more than any other: individuals making responsible decisions based on really good information. That's one very good reason why a website like this one is particularly important right now, actually. The bureaucratic jargon is "harm prevention". Escorts know a lot about living - and living well - in a "harm prevention" community.
 
That said, I think we now all realize that we need massive and pro-active government leadership. Back in the scariest days of AIDS it was government organizations like the CDC, or local health departments, that were hammering the public about the need to use rubbers, and not share needles. Right now we are being instructed by the same organizations, and in some cases the same leaders. We are being told to shelter at home, or not have gatherings of 10 or more, depending on where we live.
 
Dr. Fauci, who is my personal AIDS hero, has been very clear pretty much since this started that we all need to hunker down. The sooner we do that, the sooner we can unhunker, and focus on humping again.
 
These are the same people who told us to use rubbers and not share needles. They kept me alive as an escort. I'm counting on them to do it again.
 
Not to sound scary, but reports coming in from Italy suggest that a lot of people in their 30's are ending up in ICU units. Worse, they are getting the respirators that 70 year olds need as a matter of life and death. This virus could come in waves and mutate, just like the Spanish flu did. So it's not 100 % clear that the virus in Italy is exactly the same as the one that has been contained in China. Or that this is mostly a serious personal health risk for 70 year olds, but not 30 year olds.
 
For that reason, I applaud @Oliver's decision. I was observing the discussion happening there without commenting, since I didn't feel like it was any of my business. It is actually probably a good model for decision making. This is a once in a century crisis, hopefully. And it changes by the day. In the midst of that, informed and responsible people can mostly be counted on to make informed and responsible decisions, I think.
 
And speaking of Italy. They are proving that they are all escorts now, too. Buona salute, amico mio!
 

Coronavirus Treatment: HIV Drug Used To Cure COVID-19 Positive British National In India
 
With so much information about this subject I can't find a more reliable source but there's been plenty of talk about PrEP and other HIV prevention and treatment drugs helping your body fight Covid-19.
 
Is it worth it not taking it because we're not active? Most folks get it for free anyways.

I’ve wasn’t into receiving until very recently. A client got into the 69 position while I was blowing him and it’s changed my life forever ?. So sad I won’t be seeing him for a while.

Well no not *exactly* what I mean. You can pass the virus even if you’re not positive for it

correct (kind of) but why would I go meet a hookup of any type, not know if they’re shedding virus, and then bring that to someone else? Frankly I’m not that nervous about getting sick myself...I feel I’m in good enough shape to handle it. But I don’t want someone else to get it just because I had to “scratch an itch”.

I hired 3 guys last week since I knew a lockdown in my state was coming.
 
When the lockdown is lifted, I'm sure to hire big again. But for now I'm not planning to hire anyone. I'm still working, if from home, and I'm busier than ever with the markets gyrating all over the place.

When I was a kid and discovered masturbation, I'd lay on my back and flick my cock alternately with my index fingers. it wasn't until I sneak-read my parent's copy of "Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex" that I learned the method most guys use. I don't remember if I'd had the "facts of life" presentation yet, knowing about penetrative sex, it might have been more obvious.

I hate to hijack your thread almost immediately...but being a fellow Gun Oil aficionado, any hints on how you clean it up? Any soap or product that cleans it and doesn’t leave residue on shower floor for instance.

I wake up and work out in my room, eat pre-packaged fruit from my local grocery and then WFH on my laptop for 8hrs. I miss meeting new people but I’ve been able to catch up on a lot of podcasts. Trying not to get into the habit of binge watching shows I like is proving to be difficult though.

I wake up and work out in my room, eat pre-packaged fruit from my local grocery and then WFH on my laptop for 8hrs. I miss meeting new people but I’ve been able to catch up on a lot of podcasts. Trying not to get into the habit of binge watching shows I like is proving to be difficult though.

I do not believe in entrapment. However, when communicating on a dating or hookup app I believe that all communication must stop immediately when a person identifies themselves as being underage.

Happy Holidays from NYC everyone!

Happy Holidays from NYC everyone!

Your profile pictures are really good! I would say a little bit more about yourself in your ‘about me’ section

Your profile pictures are really good! I would say a little bit more about yourself in your ‘about me’ section

This sounds amazing!

This is a reality, and I’m not necessarily sure if I have a problem with it, as escorting is a very “personal” service.
 
Whether it’s social or morally right or wrong is another discussion. But in an Industry where it’s requried for someone to touch, taste, prod and maintain and erection, preferences do come into play.
 
I haven’t had escorting services yet, but tons of massages and I always make it clear that I’m black. Some guys don’t like black guys (their reasons aren’t important to me), and that’s fine.
I’d just rather know that up front and discontinue the conversation, rather than have an awkward moment on the table, or weird communications.
 
As I’ve stated in another post, I’d encourage all service providers to actually state their preferences (race, age, body type, etc.) and would hope they wouldn’t be judged on it either. I’d rather not waste my time in engaging with anyone who does not like me.
 
I’m not saying bigotry is acceptable. I’m saying that the rules are a bit different in the sex industry.
 
Now housing, banking, education, and employment should never involve these factors. But in who one will have sex with is a grey area, regardless of how vile racism (or any other “ism”) is.
 
And quick funny,
The first experience I had with a masseur who didn’t like black guys was actually black... lol....
 
Go figure....

I have an arrangement with a regular of mine where I pay for longer sessions often including a date to a theater performance and dinner. I always pay for the tickets to the play and we have always (except for the first time we did this) go Dutch on dinner. This was his suggestion as he knows I work in education and am not some super-rich executive, knows that I have good connections to good theater events in town that he enjoys and knows he is still getting a pretty good extended rate of at least $100 an hour for a four-five hour session. I don't think I'd balk at paying for dinner, since we usually go to fairly affordable ethnic restaurants, but it's nice that he is being considerate of my money. Plus he knows that I'm almost a guarantee client every time he comes into town.

Reverse race-play which is a very much a thing. Master/slave play amongst two white men is not the same as master/slave play amongst a POC and a white man for a variety of reasons.
 
Additionally, there is an influx of white men who I feel address me “sir” because they automatically associate skin color, in a sexual context, with dominance hence sometimes the “sir” being accompanied with “white slave here for bbc” and similar language. Not always, but sometimes. So I guess I’m asking the forum, for peace of mind, why they would be motivated to use the word when contacting an escort.

An increasing number of prospective clients are greeting me with “sir.” Would any clients care to elaborate what motivates one to call an escort “sir.”
 
I’m not naive, I know the context in which it is used is not purely formal salutations, but nor does my ad insinuate I’m into master/slave or dom/sub play, nor am I wearing a “master’s cap” in any of my photos. Is it motivated by race or is there just a huge influx of “bttm slaves,” gravitating towards me? I usually request they stop calling me “sir,” to which some respond “sorry, sir” LOL but idk..
 
I typically don’t entertain these inquiries as the language to follow usually isn’t appropriate nor does it come from a good place (i.e. “BBC,” theatrical interracial porn lingo). Sir is less ambiguous but still feels....
 
Thoughts?

I’ve had a few overweight clients and knew immediately from their RentMen bios. I don’t think you should feel discourage or anxious to reach out and get the experience you want. If a guy isn’t comfortable meeting then that just isn’t the guy for you! I’m sure you can find someone lovely if you just initiate contact

I’ve had a few overweight clients and knew immediately from their RentMen bios. I don’t think you should feel discourage or anxious to reach out and get the experience you want. If a guy isn’t comfortable meeting then that just isn’t the guy for you! I’m sure you can find someone lovely if you just initiate contact

Speaking of fathers and their daughters’ work: I wonder sometimes about The Diary of Anne Frank. Otto Frank, Anne’s father, published it after she died. Some speculate that much of it was fabricated. I myself have trouble finding credible a quote she purportedly composed herself in her diary: “In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.” Perhaps I’m just jaded.
 
I took two classes on the Holocaust. In one of them each member of the class had to do a brief presentation on one Holocaust diary (dozens of them are extant — Anne Frank was not the only Jew who kept one). My particular one was written by a twelve-year-old boy. He lived with his parents and the three swore that when the police came to call, rather than be taken away, they would all immediately ingest cyanide tablets that the father had procured, in the interest of leaving this world on their own terms. The police eventually did come to their home, and the boy took a cyanide tablet immediately as his parents had earlier instructed him to do, as they had all agreed to do. His last words reportedly were: “Daddy, the cyani—“ and then he dropped dead. The police officials were so horrified by this that they just left. The parents survived the Holocaust and had another child. It really annoyed me. I felt great disdain for those parents. What the hell?
 
Side note: He and his parents lived in a “ghetto.” Until those classes I don’t think I was aware of the term originally referring to living quarters for Jews during the Holocaust.