SlimJim

Well said.  I'm comfortable/wealthy as well; but, like you, it's locked away in retirement accounts and home equity.
I've lived a life of saving and investing most of my earned income in my 20s.  Now in Middle Age, what I save and invest is peanuts compared to the growth from the smart decisions I made in my 20s.   To get busy living, I've stopped saving as much and increased my leisure spending; but, it's hard switching from a savings mindset to a spending mindset.

American live over their means.  They buy the newest phone, a better car, get meals delivered or go out to eat.  They pay heavy interest on credit card debt.  They hire expensive escorts.  Of those, my phone is old, my care was 10 years old until a deer ran into it, so now I have a three year old car, I stopped getting meals in.   I have one credit card and it is paid off automatically every month.  When I go out to eat, it is not usually a spectacular place.  As for the escorts, well we all have our needs which are a bit on the costly side.  
The truth is, I do not like spending money when I can avoid it.  At this point in my life however, my limited travel will be economy or first class, not coach.  I will allow myself the occasional financial indulgence at a restaurant.  But, I rarely get wine with dinner.  
I think many Americans could avoid debt if they tried.  I do realize, there are plenty of people who have jobs that barely let them get by.  When I was in that position, I had three jobs, two full time and one part time.  They allowed me to pay for school and become trained in a better paying field. 
 

Or as a well-known British entertainer once said, I'm bisexual, I buy sex.

I haven't worn or been into cologne for a few decades.  However, back in the 1980's if someone was wearing Polo, it was almost hypnotizing. I'd fall in lust with them immediately!   

I haven't worn or been into cologne for a few decades.  However, back in the 1980's if someone was wearing Polo, it was almost hypnotizing. I'd fall in lust with them immediately!   

I haven't worn or been into cologne for a few decades.  However, back in the 1980's if someone was wearing Polo, it was almost hypnotizing. I'd fall in lust with them immediately!   

I haven't worn or been into cologne for a few decades.  However, back in the 1980's if someone was wearing Polo, it was almost hypnotizing. I'd fall in lust with them immediately!   

In a long and unofficial study on men's sexual activity, it was noticed that having a big dick penetrate a tight hole was far preferable to fucking a pussy. The randomized study did rely on anecdotal information, and was conducted over several years in my own bedroom. So far, the study results have not been published in any scientific journals.

with wrinkles and all, I just can't seem to avoid little bloody nicks when I try it myself.....for years, I've gone to a local independent waxer (home) and the results last for weeks......he says I'm, by far, the loudest cusser and screamer...... 

I made it to Johnsons Tampa twice this week: on Thursday and Friday. 
The Tampa location must be three times the size of the Ft Lauderdale location.  There are three times as many bar stools and tables than Ft Lauderdale.  Therefore, even on a busy Friday night, it probably has the same number of customers as the Ft Lauderdale location but doesn't feel overcrowded.  Where I would avoid Johnsons Ft Lauderdale on a busy Saturday night because of the crowds, I would have no problem visiting the Tampa location on a busy weekend.
Thursday night was "Industry" night, and the DJ was playing mostly latin music.  There were few, if any, muscle studs working that night.  Most dancers were tall lean jocks with some definition.   I left Thursday without a single private dance because nothing caught my eye and the loud music was driving me to a headache.
Friday night was a different story!  It's amazing how much difference a good DJ and a few different dancers can make.  The music was better and catered to the American 20s-70s crowd.  The music alone allowed me to enjoy myself much more than the previous night.
The separate Gentlemen-only area upstairs is a blessing.  I found that area more my pace, with lower music volume but with the same progression of dancers coming upstairs throughout the night as they would downstairs on the main stage.  The Gentleman-only area has its own bar and bartender, a dancer on stage, videos of the dancers downstairs, and access to the private dance areas.
I enjoyed private dances with about 4 dancers.  The private dance areas did seem less busy at Tampa than Ft Lauderdale.  Perhaps that's because they're upstairs in the Gentlemen-only area and not as easy to access for patrons staying on the ground floor.  My dances were all nice, but nothing really memorable.  I've had better dances at almost every other strip club.  But, since I only sampled 4 dancers, I'm sure there are other men there who would perform very nicely. 😊 
There were several buff muscle dancers on Friday, and a few twinks who had some muscle definition.  Because there is no LeBoy competition in Tampa, Johnsons Tampa has a few twink type dancers, albeit with more muscle definition than what LeBoy in Ft Lauderdale typically offers.
In summary: I will gladly visit either Johnsons location in whichever city I am in.  While the Tampa location has more room, I wouldn't go out of my way to drive or fly to Tampa in the future just to visit, because I prefer the surrounding Ft Lauderdale area personally.

Let's get a Palm Springs group together!  If you're in Palm Springs (or near) and you're reading this, you're invited. 
Wednesday the 21st at 12:30 at Billy Reeds (1800 North Palm Canyon Drive, just north of Vista Chino).
If you can RSVP that's great, but not necessary; just be at Billy Reeds by 12:30.  
Questions?  here or via DM. 
Cheers. 
 
 

How would I exchange sexual identities and physical being with myself?

I just had an encounter with a terrifically built handsome man with an above average sized but significantly thick dick.  The encounter was fun but despite the man's impressive physical attributes, I would not repeat the encounter.  He was too self involved or rather he was not as involved with what was happening with us as I would have liked and as the encounter went on, he had some fairly noticeable limitations which came into play only after those things had been done earlier.  For example, he was a great kisser initially but he would not kiss again after we had performed oral and he would not go back to performing oral after the initial time. 
This led me to consider whether I would want to have his gifts if I had to take his baggage.  This in turn became the germ of an idea for a porno movie where two strangers meet, have sex and lo and behold have the rarest of conclusions with a simultaneous orgasms causing their sexual identities to switch bodies.  Before they realize what has happened, they have separated without any contact information.  As anyone who has ever seen one of these body switch movies knows, mild amusement and confusion transpire subsequently.  
So my question is:  Would you want to exchange sexual identities and physical being with the last person with whom you had a sexual encounter?  
 

I can’t even remember when it happened but over the years I’ve become reliant on escorts, both as a stress relief, and of course to fulfil my needs.  It’s been a costly habit but I’ve met some great guys (and some terrible ones!) but on average the good experiences weigh out the bad.  And I’ve got to have sex with some super hot guys that wouldn’t look twice at me in real life.  I think of the beautiful lips I’ve kissed, the massive cocks I’ve sucked and taken, and the assess I’ve eaten… my cup has runneth over.
I don’t think I could ever give up escorts but the costs aren’t sustainable, certainly not at the level I have been indulging.  I’ve gone back on the apps for the first time in a decade and even went to a sauna recently, wondering if I can go back to hooking up.  Of course cold hard reality has hit me in the face. I’m not as attractive as I used to be and anyone I can attract… well, it’s a pretty big dip from what I’ve become used to.
I realize this is a first world problem that deserves absolutely no sympathy. I’m just wondering, can anyone relate? If so, did you make a successful transition? Again I’m not looking to quit the escort scene completely, but rather mix it up and get some balance back into my life.

To end the speculation, it’s on!😊  For those who like to plan ahead, mark your calendars for April 11 (Saturday) and April 12 (Sunday), 2026.  Information about the activities will be forthcoming at a later date.  I hope many of you can attend as I look forward to seeing you!🎉😄

Great, it'll be good to see you again.

I'm in!

I'm in!

I'm in!

I'm in!

3.  Not surprising but the questions were to definitive.  I would rather have sex with a hot man than a hot woman but I would rather have sex with a hot woman than with a below averagely attractive man.  Given equal attractiveness, i would like pick the man but there are circumstances where I would select the woman.  So as a result the 3 is probably the right score but certainly not definitive.  Some of my fantasies for example involve a man and a woman and my being an observer.  I never have fantasies about being with two women, but I do have fantasies being with two men.  My fluidity in these situations, are the reason, I do not label myself. I consider myself a man who has sex with men and women.  

Some initial ideas while I marshall my thoughts (and reconsider my options while I'm at it).
Where do you want to go. Europe, Asia, South America, other places in North America etc. How do you want to do it? Solo travel by car, rail pass, work it out as you go. Organised tour Cruise I've travelled on and off all my life (with significant breaks). I did a big Europe trip out of Uni, rail pass, random travel, youth hostels; a cruise to Antarctica; organised tours in South America (several days, and a two day trip from Buenos Aires to Iguazu Falls); and done city visits for a few days to a week. I'd repeat all of them, but tend towards self paced travel, but not everyone is comfortable with that.
If you want to work out the 'how to travel' rather than the 'where', you could go somewhere close at hand, even in the US and try something you hadn't done before. Two weeks in Europe might be an easy start, just in the UK if you want to try in a familiar language. Rail passes are still a thing (and good value if you want to jump on and off trains and see a lot of places), and Eurail and Britrail passes offer continuous and X days in Y period passes. Youth hostels in the UK used to be fine for people of all ages, and probably still are, although not as cheap as they were in the past. Many are in the countryside (and if you hire a car that can be good).

Maybe the 40 thieves got him? Oh, wait, he's Ali Gator.

Perhaps one should consider asking him if he would do the detailing and do you for $400.  You were expecting to pay $100 plus tip, assuming $ 20 dollars for the tip, and you are okay with $300 for the session, $420 total.  Split the difference with him and have him do you and your car for $450.   I would also tell him, you are definitely worth it.  He left the door open, Walk on through.      
 
In situations like this, I frequently consider that I am going to die with at least that much money left to my heirs, so where is that money better spent.  I almost always pick me.  Those bastards can earn it themselves as I did.  You are talking about $2 dollars a day for a month.  Skip those lattes and go for the cream. 

@Ali Gator  Thanks for the update. I'm glad you two are in contact about it all and that it wasn't awkward. "You do you", as they say, and keep us updated on that fascinating neighborhood of yours!