SlimJim

How would I exchange sexual identities and physical being with myself?

I just had an encounter with a terrifically built handsome man with an above average sized but significantly thick dick.  The encounter was fun but despite the man's impressive physical attributes, I would not repeat the encounter.  He was too self involved or rather he was not as involved with what was happening with us as I would have liked and as the encounter went on, he had some fairly noticeable limitations which came into play only after those things had been done earlier.  For example, he was a great kisser initially but he would not kiss again after we had performed oral and he would not go back to performing oral after the initial time. 
This led me to consider whether I would want to have his gifts if I had to take his baggage.  This in turn became the germ of an idea for a porno movie where two strangers meet, have sex and lo and behold have the rarest of conclusions with a simultaneous orgasms causing their sexual identities to switch bodies.  Before they realize what has happened, they have separated without any contact information.  As anyone who has ever seen one of these body switch movies knows, mild amusement and confusion transpire subsequently.  
So my question is:  Would you want to exchange sexual identities and physical being with the last person with whom you had a sexual encounter?  
 

I can’t even remember when it happened but over the years I’ve become reliant on escorts, both as a stress relief, and of course to fulfil my needs.  It’s been a costly habit but I’ve met some great guys (and some terrible ones!) but on average the good experiences weigh out the bad.  And I’ve got to have sex with some super hot guys that wouldn’t look twice at me in real life.  I think of the beautiful lips I’ve kissed, the massive cocks I’ve sucked and taken, and the assess I’ve eaten… my cup has runneth over.
I don’t think I could ever give up escorts but the costs aren’t sustainable, certainly not at the level I have been indulging.  I’ve gone back on the apps for the first time in a decade and even went to a sauna recently, wondering if I can go back to hooking up.  Of course cold hard reality has hit me in the face. I’m not as attractive as I used to be and anyone I can attract… well, it’s a pretty big dip from what I’ve become used to.
I realize this is a first world problem that deserves absolutely no sympathy. I’m just wondering, can anyone relate? If so, did you make a successful transition? Again I’m not looking to quit the escort scene completely, but rather mix it up and get some balance back into my life.

To end the speculation, it’s on!😊  For those who like to plan ahead, mark your calendars for April 11 (Saturday) and April 12 (Sunday), 2026.  Information about the activities will be forthcoming at a later date.  I hope many of you can attend as I look forward to seeing you!🎉😄

Great, it'll be good to see you again.

I'm in!

I'm in!

I'm in!

I'm in!

3.  Not surprising but the questions were to definitive.  I would rather have sex with a hot man than a hot woman but I would rather have sex with a hot woman than with a below averagely attractive man.  Given equal attractiveness, i would like pick the man but there are circumstances where I would select the woman.  So as a result the 3 is probably the right score but certainly not definitive.  Some of my fantasies for example involve a man and a woman and my being an observer.  I never have fantasies about being with two women, but I do have fantasies being with two men.  My fluidity in these situations, are the reason, I do not label myself. I consider myself a man who has sex with men and women.  

Some initial ideas while I marshall my thoughts (and reconsider my options while I'm at it).
Where do you want to go. Europe, Asia, South America, other places in North America etc. How do you want to do it? Solo travel by car, rail pass, work it out as you go. Organised tour Cruise I've travelled on and off all my life (with significant breaks). I did a big Europe trip out of Uni, rail pass, random travel, youth hostels; a cruise to Antarctica; organised tours in South America (several days, and a two day trip from Buenos Aires to Iguazu Falls); and done city visits for a few days to a week. I'd repeat all of them, but tend towards self paced travel, but not everyone is comfortable with that.
If you want to work out the 'how to travel' rather than the 'where', you could go somewhere close at hand, even in the US and try something you hadn't done before. Two weeks in Europe might be an easy start, just in the UK if you want to try in a familiar language. Rail passes are still a thing (and good value if you want to jump on and off trains and see a lot of places), and Eurail and Britrail passes offer continuous and X days in Y period passes. Youth hostels in the UK used to be fine for people of all ages, and probably still are, although not as cheap as they were in the past. Many are in the countryside (and if you hire a car that can be good).

Maybe the 40 thieves got him? Oh, wait, he's Ali Gator.

Perhaps one should consider asking him if he would do the detailing and do you for $400.  You were expecting to pay $100 plus tip, assuming $ 20 dollars for the tip, and you are okay with $300 for the session, $420 total.  Split the difference with him and have him do you and your car for $450.   I would also tell him, you are definitely worth it.  He left the door open, Walk on through.      
 
In situations like this, I frequently consider that I am going to die with at least that much money left to my heirs, so where is that money better spent.  I almost always pick me.  Those bastards can earn it themselves as I did.  You are talking about $2 dollars a day for a month.  Skip those lattes and go for the cream. 

@Ali Gator  Thanks for the update. I'm glad you two are in contact about it all and that it wasn't awkward. "You do you", as they say, and keep us updated on that fascinating neighborhood of yours!  

The members of this website are going to lose it when they eventually discover that I don't live in Las Vegas and I'm not a Millennial... It's all a disguise to throw people off from my true age and location!  (I'm really based on the East Coast as copy editor for MSNBC News)
Thanks @Ali Gator for the image in my head all day: 
 
 

Haha, that's not the image in your head. I've met you and that's a photo of you!

Dear All -
My family gave me an artful and delightful birthday weekend.😄🎂
Then I come here, and my other "family" gives me marvelous well-wishes.  I am truly blessed.😊
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!😄

Happy Birthday, Oliver!!!

Happy Birthday, Oliver!!!

Happy Birthday, Oliver!!!

I notice in the birthday section that our dear friend @Oliver has turned 90 today. I hope that he is healthy and happy. Oliver took over the Palm Springs Weekend from me years ago and built it into a huge success. Kudos @Oliver

I packed up and move across country, single and with only a few social connectiona where I now live.  It has been 6 months and in that time I have made a few acquaintances who may become friends.  Most of these have beenat the gym I attend which has a predominantly gay clientele.  The people have been very friendly, but ultimately, they all have their own circle of friends and so for the most part, I think I will meet people who are open to the idea of adding to their social group or men in the same situation as I am.  I try to be outgoing and strike up converations wherever I go.  When I started at the gym, I wore a multicolored fedora, not only because I looked damned good in it, but it also gave people something by which they could recognize me and something which might spark a conversation,   I had good results with that.  The people at the bank and the grocery store recognized me by the second or third visit and the people. At the gym several people came up to me and said they had noticed my efforts, most because of the hat but one said no it was not the hat but the belly.  They had been overweight and lost weight by going to the gym and he wanted to encourage me to keep up the work.  So my advice is either join a gym, wear a brightly colored hat, or be noticeably obese.  I chose all three.  
You have to recall that not everyone is looking for friends and their is no hanky code to identify who is and who is not.  
 

It does get harder.  When I was young, friendships formed with people who were all in the same situation as I was.  College, job, you name it.  We bonded out of common interests and difficulties.  Finding people with the same interests later in life has been more difficult.  It’s compounded by my disinterest in bonding over “things”—sports, superhero movies, etc—and my desire to form connections over common feelings, attitudes, and, yes, emotions.  Joining clubs related to hobbies won’t necessarily provide that.  Mens groups geared toward inner thoughts and desires might help but those are hard to find. Sorry, I realize I’m just commiserating….

I'm so glad for shorter shorts becoming the norm.  I love seeing thighs in public.

Look, my interests and passion are pretty well set and I try to be as open and honest as possible with them. I'd love to connect online or F2F with guys who share my sexual niche. I'm also on Fetlife as Letmeworshipit and on other sites under the same same. Wish there was a club or organization that connected guys like me who are pretty much oral-only and cock-centric. A place where hungry cocksuckers and bulging, priapic oral top feeders can meet, socialize and do what cums naturally.