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A week in this lovely city. Stayed in Barra, on the coast s/w quadrant of vast urban zone. Love Pelourinho.
 
As for the spas with trade, meh, underwhelmed.
 
Clube 11 (formerly Planetario 11) was a wash; I did not have one programa. Sauna Fox was a little better, a few sessions but with fellows I would likely have 'passed on' in Rio or Barcelona. The Über to Fox along the south shoreline was very pleasant.

I've been on PrEP since it was available. BUT, the decision to ingest powerful antiviral drugs to prevent infection by HIV is a very individual and personal one. There are numerous factors to weigh, medical, financial, philosophical and so on, and no one should be pressured or shamed into making a choice one way or the other. It's clear that you're committed to safer sex, @mcskill, as it works for YOU. The masseur was out of line in his comments and expectations.

He may not realize it, but LAYwer spelling should make everyone's day. The jury may still be out on if he were a decent lay ?, but I myself would not approach the bench.

Indeed, it's lamentable. Never been to the Atlantics or the prairies, I should get on with it.

I had WAs with OliverBR and he send me a link to his website in Sao Paulo that explains what he does alone or with his partnerhttps://divulgalizando.wixsite.com/sensorysoul . He offers the same services in London, hot guy and is very responsive.

I lived in new Hampshire. Do yourself a favor a do the four hour drive to Montreal

There are escorts and clients out there looking for each other. They clearly think it's worth being out there looking. In the last few days I've messaged several escorts, told them how old I was (even though my RM profile says that anyway) and told them I was not in town just now so couldn't hire in the immediate future. I received positive replies from all of them, not marketing spiels. My conclusion is that the business is alive and well.

"Not available" usually means "don't want", "not interested", "ambivalent", "might get a better offer", "I thought I wanted but that evolved into not sure then nah I don't", "I had better defer the commitment and wait to answer the guy or delay confirming in case I more want later", "I won't be direct in case I don't want to alienate him because I may want him another time on my terms, so I prefer to hedge based on my alleged time-starved life", etc etc.
 
At this point, the detailed descriptions do not assist the reader to better grasp all the aspects of the problem. We all know about human nature in general and in the context of intimacy trade.
 
Rather than journaling all the details ad nauseum, I suggest going forward a structured tally (that can be formatted in a few words) of the proportions, say, over six months, that meet versus cancel/unshow. Not a particular week or weekend or spate of misfortune, as outliers either direction can occur over short time frames.
 
Just shift the nature of the formulated info about the theme in the rather vast amount of time you seem willing to invest in chronicling.
 
When you do not initiate a similar topic on discouragement we do not know if not hearing from you means things are going well or your bad booking experiences are simmering until you get organized to present here.
 
There is systematic research on cancel/no- show rates for other services, some with penalties others not.
 
We cannot judge the scope of the problem for you without a larger sample of providers, so the next best thing is to see your specific data across a long duration.

"Not available" usually means "don't want", "not interested", "ambivalent", "might get a better offer", "I thought I wanted but that evolved into not sure then nah I don't", "I had better defer the commitment and wait to answer the guy or delay confirming in case I more want later", "I won't be direct in case I don't want to alienate him because I may want him another time on my terms, so I prefer to hedge based on my alleged time-starved life", etc etc.
 
At this point, the detailed descriptions do not assist the reader to better grasp all the aspects of the problem. We all know about human nature in general and in the context of intimacy trade.
 
Rather than journaling all the details ad nauseum, I suggest going forward a structured tally (that can be formatted in a few words) of the proportions, say, over six months, that meet versus cancel/unshow. Not a particular week or weekend or spate of misfortune, as outliers either direction can occur over short time frames.
 
Just shift the nature of the formulated info about the theme in the rather vast amount of time you seem willing to invest in chronicling.
 
When you do not initiate a similar topic on discouragement we do not know if not hearing from you means things are going well or your bad booking experiences are simmering until you get organized to present here.
 
There is systematic research on cancel/no- show rates for other services, some with penalties others not.
 
We cannot judge the scope of the problem for you without a larger sample of providers, so the next best thing is to see your specific data across a long duration.

It might have been better for you to control the Grindr contacts with your profile pic cluster showing you both and you being the primary host, or even being folded in to his profile but you doing the texting. That might have inhibited some of the nastiness because they would be responding directly to you.
 
It sounds like he put himself in charge, fished them in, then tagged you in and he was then proxy and switchboard operator for snotty remarks. Similar to if he added "BTW I share a bedsit with my female room-mate but she likely won't just walk in".
 
I prefer the less glamourous term "hypersexual" over "insatiable" ... either ring of obsessionality, though, and I would not have a guest in my home who could not unplug.

The poster's description of his pro escort friend's two cardinal rules do not make sense at all, but I cannot comment further unless aware of the country context because the legalities vary and are nuanced.

Because it is not illness-induced febrile state, this phenomenon is usually called frisson. Some people are more susceptible and may experience it with music or an emotional film scene. How do you explain your tears with a joyous moment, after all, another apparent physiological contradiction? Maybe similar experiences related to nervous system components.
 
In anal sex the vagus nerve may also be implicated, as it is likely both stimulated by, and regulates, emotional response, in conjunction with anal sex being closer to the digestive system. And there are changes in respiration that feed back into the autonomic nervous system.
 
One idea is that it may be an evolutionary artifact of faint/feign/fight/flight response generated by fear, anxiety, or surprise. In music, it may be a high pitched unexpected note with the element of surprise in a sweeping emotional passage, but without cognitive or sustained subliminal fear because the context of music is aesthetic and not threatening.
 
Out of context, the sound may be "bloodcurdling", perhaps not unlike your own orgasmic squeals that might stampede a harras of horses down the street under your window.
 
Heightened arousal and its emotional state may also include unique unanticipated sensations that lead to frisson as part of the integration into experience.

How about ScratchNWin ? meet me at Tattersalls ?

No, I had access to his IG to corroborate the suggestion of serious skin blemishes in one of the RM pics. I have a thing for flawless skin.
 
Jame "Buffalo Bill" Gumb: "It rubs the lotion on its perfect skin or else it gets the hose agin ... Yes it will, Precious, won't it?"

Greetings from Barcelona! My third visit to this city since 2015. Thermas quite good. The last 2 visits on this trip I have been entertained by Juan from Columbia. Wow! At 50 euro good value.

It might have been better for you to control the Grindr contacts with your profile pic cluster showing you both and you being the primary host, or even being folded in to his profile but you doing the texting. That might have inhibited some of the nastiness because they would be responding directly to you.
 
It sounds like he put himself in charge, fished them in, then tagged you in and he was then proxy and switchboard operator for snotty remarks. Similar to if he added "BTW I share a bedsit with my female room-mate but she likely won't just walk in".
 
I prefer the less glamourous term "hypersexual" over "insatiable" ... either ring of obsessionality, though, and I would not have a guest in my home who could not unplug.

Earl’s Court, Green (District) or Blue (Piccadilly) line, east access point at Earl’s Court Rd (not Warwick the west access) ... short walk 2 blocks north and then left on Nevern Pl a few steps to #32 bsmnt door, North side of Nevern, near corner of Templeton Pl.

You can pretty much count on a veritable smorgasboard of beefy Latinos at Adonis events. And a steady supply of visitors from Spain, Italy, Brazil...
 
At Evolve, there are no partitions. Certain nooks/crannies afford more privacy than others.
 
And, yeah, I can never tell when one song ends and another begins so I am very clear at the start ("let's go for three songs") and sometimes check ("where are we in our song count"). Since I started doing this, I've never been caught by surprise -- though at least one dancer has been quite "generous" with me in terms of how he tallied the songcount. (He didn't upcharge me, but I did tip him extra -- not for the time exactly, but also because he was generous in other ways as well.)
 
If you're worried about the song count, you might consider trying Spunk at Monster. I've not checked it out for myself (yet) but -- in this thread -- @Boy4 describes a per-minute screen system that seems to take the guesswork out. LOTS of dancers hit both Spunk and Adonis, including -- it seems -- the beefy latinos. Not sure about whether there is a partition set-up at the Monster.

As they say "business is business"..... We all long for an intimate connection, but must be realistic about it. Escorting is a business, perform the service, get paid, get out.... And we must also know ourselves, take a good look in the mirror and know What we are and who we are.....None of us older gents look or perform as we did in our youth.... Viagra may make your cock hard for a period, but energy and stamina is still that of a senior.... At my age, almost 68, its very hard for me to get hard or cum... It takes a special "head space" and a special connection.... I really don't care if I cum..... My pleasure is GIVING service, and that gives me a "mental" orgasm..... We are no longer who we once were, and need to be "woke" to that. And of course there will be guys that no longer find us attractive or desirable, but there are also those that will.... That is where you want to put your time, energy and MONEY.

It might have been better for you to control the Grindr contacts with your profile pic cluster showing you both and you being the primary host, or even being folded in to his profile but you doing the texting. That might have inhibited some of the nastiness because they would be responding directly to you.
 
It sounds like he put himself in charge, fished them in, then tagged you in and he was then proxy and switchboard operator for snotty remarks. Similar to if he added "BTW I share a bedsit with my female room-mate but she likely won't just walk in".
 
I prefer the less glamourous term "hypersexual" over "insatiable" ... either ring of obsessionality, though, and I would not have a guest in my home who could not unplug.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

So sorry for your loss, truly. LTR here too, and cannot imagine your pain. The dating/hooking up world has changed dramatically in 25 years. The world today seems clearly defined between transactional and relational connections. Escorts are purely transactional, and there is no expectation other than the time purchased. Grindr is highly transactaional - many guys are looking for hookups with NSA, there are a few exceptions but that's my read. If a Grindr connection results in something more, you are truly defying the odds. If you are looking for a relational connection, respectfully suggest trying other venues. Long story short, you should adjust your expectations re: M4M and Grinder. If you are looking for meaningful connections, there are other sites out there more oriented to that......give them a search. Depending on where you live you might also get involved in a social group, charity or other venue to meet new peeps. Despite all the great technology we have, in-person connections are still the most real and meaningful.....good luck my friend. Jack ;)

It might have been better for you to control the Grindr contacts with your profile pic cluster showing you both and you being the primary host, or even being folded in to his profile but you doing the texting. That might have inhibited some of the nastiness because they would be responding directly to you.
 
It sounds like he put himself in charge, fished them in, then tagged you in and he was then proxy and switchboard operator for snotty remarks. Similar to if he added "BTW I share a bedsit with my female room-mate but she likely won't just walk in".
 
I prefer the less glamourous term "hypersexual" over "insatiable" ... either ring of obsessionality, though, and I would not have a guest in my home who could not unplug.

The sizzling Miami guy of late was the only real challenge I have experienced in going to Stock in decades, including the long forgotten St-André location nearby. Or very very occasionally I have simply truncated the private dance at one song, but I honestly cannot recall the last time doing that.
 
I typically get my "utilities'" worth "to completion". And I don't waste anybody's time if they are not going to get an envelope.

Every time I have been to Stock there are the dancers that "are your type or not your type" but i have never found any to be jerks.
I have always had an enjoyable time.