SirBillybob

You mean after all these adult years I COULD have actually been liked for my dick, by NAMBLA?

Only if it/they is/are a pleural effusion of confusion.

This post-pandemic qualitative research paper related to male commercial sex work, in the journal Sexes, may be of interest due to this message board’s themes. I have read it, but not the 2 other articles (not MSW-focused) that you should be able to access, if keen, via the periodical’s ‘special issues’ link. You may observe that G Mitchell’s 2015 book Tourist Attractions is not referenced although a 2011 paper is. The article linked here is a meta-synthesis of dozens of research papers, a lengthy read as it is. https://www.mdpi.com/2411-5118/4/2/16

I don’t grasp what might be complicated about this scenario as far as the decision, once set. What is complex is assigning an arbitrary utility value to the regret that you both sustained in your own ways. He made the choice autonomously and likely had some amount of time to weigh it, perhaps even some past experience to draw on. The only thing you could have done, and didn’t, would be to protest and try to override it. He did not put you in that spot and it certainly was not his aim to prompt you to second-guess the appropriateness of your own choice to abide. He could have easily initiated some fluidity 😉 in the exchange by suggesting that the total amount was not justifiable, thus neither leaving empty-handed nor having you subsequently ponder your capacity for magnanimity (which, again, is yours to sort out). It was a one time deal, for now. If a dining partner always insists on picking up the cheque, that is a different set of dynamics. Before reciprocity is possible, outside of double-dutching, one or the other bears it first. If it’s one-off, the imbalance goes to the proverbial pay-forward ledger.

Time immemorial, perhaps for some. Remember pyramid schemes? I think they are supplanted by post-modern scams. A colleague, one of the most intelligent persons I ever met, successful clinician and moderately successful hobbyist screenwriter on the side, decades ago spit up and left on the table what amounted to 10% of annual salary at the time. Excitedly told me about prospective payoff. Blanched when I explained the composite hundreds of thousands of dollars that would need to be put up by the ‘sucker born every minute’ generational iterations following her to prop up her windfall.

Go for it, Debbie! 😏

The craft brew curated in Passadumkeag? After which tying one on locals can be heard uttering the next morning, “Ogunquit, after last night.”

Albanian: give birth. Sugardaddying. Same difference. No thanks. I’m good for a year max then it’s off to foster care for ‘Lindoro’. That’s my reveal. At least with kids there’s a chance of launching.

Come now, my daahling wife, enough waving at the mobs.

I did not watch, much. I think that I’m already spoiled by Tracey Ullman send-up skits and Spitting Image caricatures.

Reminds me of a former colleague, fellow First Nations Health provider from Manitoulin Island, that lobbied for biggest hockey stick in world. It never happened so I assume the majority of the community didn’t give a puck.

I assumed all American flags (1st sentence) were larger than a football. That’s one hella tiny town. 😏

Or as some, mind you never I, might say Queen ‘conswhort’ in spite of Cami’s improved image.

And will the third be the second to lose his head?

I have not been in years but must circle back. 1991, first Brazilian (!!) in the house on Queensberry near British Museum. Late 20aughts, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu fellow’s 1st day Nevern Pl.

My good times over the past 10 yrs 2 months, from point of starting up the ‘hobby’, have been: RANKED Rio de Janeiro about 2 dozen times amounting to several total months across all seasons Barcelona about 10 times, Spring or Fall Zürich, 3 times, Spring São Paulo about a dozen times across all seasons, amounting to a few months in total Bogotá, 4 times, all seasons Madrid merely once but a very lucky single once-in-lifetime find only a block from lodgings Belo Horizonte, once, Dec, amazing single find Medellín, once, Fall, a good single find —— non-RANKED Salvador Bahia, 3 times Santo Domingo, twice Mexico City, twice Recife, once Porto Alegre, once Fortaleza, once Lisbon, once —- All told, very good experiences.

Your point above is a natural response to overly simplistic yet basically sound dictates written above even though you had alluded to functional challenges. I post here a short read regarding my observations on the front lines, as well as personal experience. This is how I frame it to begin, from the perspective of background training, then at least an hour to unpack and explain in more detail, obviously not in this setting, the concepts tailored to the individual. I think that anybody putting their dick to work should consider this learning curve. Anybody in this business should include in their required reading Bernie Zilbergeld’s Myth of the Male Penis, if not already done so. A bit long to get through, in fact many more minutes than this post read, but if you stick with it you may find it interesting. It likely won’t help in terms of your entry above but I suggest doing it anyway as his ideas are central to your biggest functional imperative. You can look for reviews from obnoxious consumers according to whether Zilbergeld’s hundreds of thoughtful pages are overly inclusive of content, but I doubt that such short attention spans would enable useful responses. Otherwise, there is very little in the way of good news for performative labour, particularly if PDE5 inhibitors are not your thing, as it is usually not really sex for the performer and condoms were designed for sex. You are describing a paradoxical bind related to insertive intercourse that boils down to damned if you use a condom, damned if you don’t. Few folks in general choose employment tasks of this nature, fraught with such challenges. Merit pay is not an outrageous notion. Some factors may up-regulate erection reliability. These include having fetishized condoms, in the event a Skinnerian behavioural repetitive paired association between prophylactic and arousal historically occurred, which I myself integrated decades ago by using condoms for masturbation until the point that jacking with or without was equally pleasurable and condoms as enemy militating against pleasure were essentially neutralized. At the time, however, incentivizing protected sex for mere survival was a predominant driver, and my general practice orientation was to externalize an internal conundrum and personify something as inanimate as a few regular inches of latex. After all, that link is the basis of robust fetishistic developments that typically occur more outside the realm of consciousness. A hot dude pulling out a condom fires up my nitric oxide and guanylate cyclase down there because it was wired thus through practice. There is also an apparent random but little understood phenomenon that separates males categorically according to erections that are consistently, prodigiously accessible and autonomous for some, and for others requiring more overt behaviours and concentrated focus to acquire desired tumescence. Woe betide, relatively speaking, and empathy deserved regarding the wrong profession chosen by those that fall more into the latter subgroup. Perhaps those in the former category should offer discounts (joking, well half joking). I just tend to gravitate to contexts wherein sorting out how they are stratified can be discerned in very short order. I don’t witness struggles with erection because they are either obviously overtly robust or I adjust my requirements for the person behind the penis.

Cuz you busily own that dick in you and it wears what YOU want. 😏

Small step. I will only post a few paragraphs but one can obviously google search.

Date yourself.

Clients: 0/1 & 0/1 -> No. Not. Yes. Your thoughts are well organized. Perhaps they could be distilled down to a manageable boilerplate STI playbook. A few sentences on your philosophy and prophylaxis structure. That should be sufficient for most prospective clients and I suggest you provide it whether asked or not. Then you don’t need to try to second-guess why any particular one is inquiring. They’d be getting better info than the last time I asked and received the response: “I take gym supplements.” (non-English) My situation is as a person habituated to protected sex from 1985 on, having experienced years of condomless intimacy prior to that and beating the odds. Just me, but I find them qualitatively similar. Perhaps irrelevant to my points as expressed above.

Almost though. Have faith. It’ll get ground out.

Topaphilia

Ooooohh, he’s now had a crash course in Latin and edited with correct spelling following a lead. The ‘topaphilia’ reference, fondness for Minnie Mouse, was so very triggering. Pardon me. All settled now. Back to the trophy nomination for non-sexualized tourism at the 51st percentile.

Makes sense.