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Maybe maybe not. The most beautiful, well maybe top 3 hottest, client I've had is a gay conversion therapist. 🥵

They must get more business inquiries that way and/or pick and choose which clients they do extras for.

I wouldn't want to be called a sex worker. That's more insulting and degrading because I do this sh!t because I don't want to work. 🤪🫡

I've written the statement several times before on this forum that "some guys think masseurs are budget prostitutes." When I realized I didn't write out the whole statement and that it read like a big general blanket statement, time had passed I couldn't edit my comment. Yes escorts don't necessarily have sex or have to have sex but I just assume nowadays it's a nicer way of saying prostitute or sex worker, since so many people, especially women, want to sugar coat it. If it's empowering then why use euphemisms? lol

Masseurs are budget prostitutes. When you don't want to pay escort prices and don't want the stigma of having to pay for one, shoot your shot with a masseur, but you better ask him a million questions beforehand.

But it's never just a non-reciprocal thing, at least for me. It's always the client asking can I do this, can I do that, and they'll even keep coming and try to push the boundary more and more. I'm sure some people must get off on doing that, and I get off on telling them to F off and blocking their numbers.

It must be bad across the board for several reasons. I've had female providers reach out to me asking for advice.

I had a client recently that smelled like sweaty ass paste. It wasn't really his fault, but I guess it was a long work day for him and I just didn't think of offering him a shower. It was such a huge turn off, but also, there wasn't any expectation to do anything either. He kept trying to initiate something and I didn't have the heart to tell him. Also, I hadn't seen him in 5 years and I hate it when old clients show up like that and assume sparks would fly or something. The worst is when they have bits of toilet paper or even whole sheets of it stuck between their cheeks. 9/10 hotel clients will have that or smell like they just did #2. It's extremely gross and rude because they had more than enough time to just jump in the shower by the time I tell them I am nearby and I have to walk my ass through the parking lot to their rooms, and we chat and I know they've been there for a while, not like they were in a meeting or serious phone call the whole time.

No, and you know it.

It's absurd and ironic that we can't even discuss politics, war, and religion here. Oh the irony of celebrating Memorial Day!

These guys say no to giving me a heads up, they keep asking to just drop by and walk in. Maybe they're that closeted and paranoid that they are afraid thay they'll be set up and outted beforehand? 🤷‍♂️

Because they argue.

I've been getting requests and getting into arguments with prospective clients that ask to just "walk in." They don't want to set an appointment beforehand or even message, they want to just walk in at anytime, as if I'm operating a walk-in spa with a lobby for them to wait in, and I'm supposed to be ready at anytime, or perhaps they expect some @$$ up face down type of thing, or if I'm with a client, they expect to just "walk in" and watch. I can't get over this. Do people actually work like that?

I just learned that masseurfinder accounts can advertise on massagefinder for free, so take your shot.

Basically an escort but without escort prices. I joke that people think we're budget prostitutes because an erotic massage with extras may sound nicer and have less stigma than intentionally hiring for sex. There were clients I genuinely liked and I knew they mainly came to me for fun, so I played along because it was mutually beneficial until I got bored of them, or when they eventually asked to hang out and/or get taken care of for free. 😎

Says who and where? For escorting or for a therapeutic massage? $160 for 90 mins is normal but still high for an at home masseur.

$160 is low in today's economy? Anything higher and he's going to work much less and clients will assume he provides a lot more than massage.

It's really hard to say. I would bring him some alcohol, or ask if it would help. 🥃🍸 Most clients I am not attracted to and cannot be sensual with them no matter what. Then there's attractive clients but there's no chemistry, there's some energy barrier and no matter what I just can't interact with them that way. Some I might feel more comfortable with the next time around, but you never know. I personally don't care if the client is disappointed about the lack of eroticism because I didn't advertise myself like that, and nothing was asked beforehand. So the client still got a great massage for a great price and left feeling better, so it's not like they were robbed or scammed. 👍

Are you White though? It's not a surprise if you moved to an area with more Asians and "became popular" as they are very open about preferring White men and women. I always found it funny that Asian individuals will talk about exclusion but they are the only ones besides whites that will still write on their grindr or hookup ads "whites only/whites A++++/whites to the front." ...yet if a white person wrote that or if anyone else said no this or no that, they would scream racism and bloody murder.

He was "one of the largest individual donors to AIPAC."

I'm not happy with what he donated to, but it's his culture so whatever. A lot of people are celebrating this and hope that the platform is bought out and/or goes down, but the platform will still be up, as well as others like it. People like myself chose to be on it and pursue that line of "work" or entertainment, and it doesn't matter who owns it nor what the platform is, because we will find a way to showcase and sell the merchandise one way or another.

I love what the great lesbian professor Camille Paglia has to say about gay men. That we appreciate youth and beauty because they are so fragile and temporary. Women think it's primarily how they look but as males, we innately know, and can subconsciously smell that they're older, infertile/or not young enough anymore for getting pregnant and bringing babies to term, and unless they're a widow they might be a little cookoo too if they're so old and single. Ouch! It is what it is. This is millions of years of evolution. We are never going to change.

I think part of it too is the resentment a lot of us feel due to how we were hounded by older men before we even turned 18. Females my age are now complaining that they're invisible and can't date, so the gays are like that but in Turbo mode times ten.

I suspected that the website has been run by an A.I. software since 2018. That was after the RentBoy scandal, and was when Craigslist deleted their personals sections, and the website laid out more restrictions. Anyone that has had an account there would know that it's run by some weird algorithm and that their customer service was just automated responses. People are trippin over a.i. today but it's clearly been around, and a pain, for a while.

MF has changed its policy and now allows shirtless pics if they're "on the beach, at a gym, and tastefully done, and not an obvious escort pic." It's really not fair to all the masseurs that had their accounts terminated because they "weren't wearing appropriate massage attire" and showed too much skin. It's probably a response to so many masseurs leaving due to their restrictions.