Smokey

Masseur was riding me on the massage table and it collapsed. We carried on and then as I was getting dressed asked if I would pay for half of a new one.

I never do any of this kind of stuff. I just get naked and put my ass up on his table (and yes that pic in my profile is my actual ass) and let my booty do the talking:)! Terp

A few of these sound like 100% sexual assault, which is definitely not hot. I hope you guys are OK.

I’m glad you said that. A lot of these posts say “make your expectations clear” but somehow that takes away from the experience for me. I’m not sure what that says about me. But it’s true. I like a little mystery in the world.

Here's my tip for masseurs who want repeat business, at least from me: Yes, the time is absolutely important (I usually book for 90 minutes and I hate it when I realize it was just barely over an hour). As for the massage itself, I love it when a masseur will make and hold eye contact during the massage, especially during the more sensual or erotic portions. It makes for a very connected experience and makes the whole thing feel less sordid if that makes sense. If we can look each other in the eyes, then there is nothing shameful about what either of us is doing, it feels healing and spiritual almost as opposed to just feeling good as a touch, etc. So that's big for me. Also...just be friendly. I'm always friendly and chat a bit while we're getting undressed and that goes a long way when the masseur responds in kind. I mean, we're about to be engaged in what feels like a very intimate experience where I am naked and letting you touch me all over and often in my own apartment, so...let's be kind to each other and engage with every part of ourselves during this time. The masseurs who have behaved this way are unforgettable.

Wow

I booked him many years ago - was amazing. He was in my city recently and reached out to me. NO second thought I booked agian.
Another great experience. He is pricey but... Massage, him and just everything were great
 
Please don't PM me if you are going to ask about anything sexual. I simply don't discuss that. I'm not saying he does or doesn't. I just don't like to share any intimate details should they occur. I hate to say yeah this happened then that person come back all pissed at me if it didn't . Hope that makes sense.
 
Safe to say Jake is very good looking, super nice guy, great massage and the ending was happy

Sebastian Young has been arrested at least three times for assaulting his wife, with charges eventually being dropped or not formally filed each time. Several years ago, he was arrested and convicted for assault on an elderly person over 65, for which he spent nearly two years in prison. Young has also been arrested at least eight times on multiple drug, DUI, burglary, traffic, and battery charges over the past 12 years. WOW.
 
https://www.news-journalonline.com/news/20160804/daytona-beach-area-adult-porn-actor-charged-in-rape-of-child

I know i will prolly get ridiculed for making this statement so before i do let me qualify it first by saying There are so many ways of doing a session. Whether it is an escort vs. masseur keep in mind that you have every right to get exactly what you desire and should definitely “shop” around before making a decision. Having said that just remember that this shyt aint rocket science and sometimes you may not even know what you TRULY like or want until u have experienced it for the first time and then all of a sudden, something clicks and ur saying to yourself, “hey...i really dig that and wanna try that again!”
So here goes my very watered and oversimplified analogy of the difference between an Escort vs. Masseur ...
 
With an Escort - the client controls the session / with a Masseur- the client gives up control of the session to the masseur .
 
Now before some of you get ur “panties” all in a bunch on this , (lol) ? hear me out .
When i first started doing massage 10 years ago , i was so green . I was scared i would make a mistake . I kept trying to figure out what the client wanted . And after i had seen a number of clients it became apparent to me these 3 things:
 
1. The client wants to let go and relax and not think about much in a massage . They want you to give their body the attention it needs and deserves without having to be a director. They seldom want chit chat during that period . Just make them feel good
 
2. The massage client is quite often in a relationship or situation where they are neglected physically. ie- married to female , stagnant boyfriend, or maybe they have a job that is strenuous or where they are constantly having to make important stressful decisions all day and for the duration of the session they just want to let go~feel pampered and be self indulgent on a small quiet scale.
 
3. Sexual arousal is okay but is not paramount & often “my” clients are more interested in a little frottage or in some cases not even that. And it’s okay ? as long as they leave feeling better mentally and physically...mission accomplished. A release at the end doesn’t really even amount to what i would define as sex. Thats also a very physical way of releasing tension. So it does complete a very good sensual massage in a positive way .
 
Now this is strictly my own views and i know i am not nor do i pretend 2 B an expert in all things “massage” but i have been doin it a long time and i have asked many questions thru the years.
 
At one point i did post an ad on Rentmen. And this is how i came to my version of the differences between the two .
Practically EVERY client that contacted me from Rentmen had specific requests and interests and what they expected out of a session. And that is OK too !
But the client is still in control .
 
Now some will say, “Hey wait a minute, I want to be a sub and I’m looking for somebody to dominate me and tell me what to do!” And you might be thinking well the client is giving up control of the session in that scenario!!
Not so ... The client is still determining what he wants/gets from the escort. And if that client goes into the session and mrEscort X doesn’t perform in exactly that manner, guess what ? The client most likely will end the session early . Still the client is in control .
That’s not to say that a client wouldn’t walk out of a bad massage early also. But the only time I’ve ever had that happen is when a client came to me for a massage mistakingly thinking that I was an escort posing as a masseur . Anyways i dont give bad massages !!
Also, I do not advertise anymore on Rentmen so that clients don’t see me playing different roles and getting confused about the services that I offer.
I know some guys do both, and I am not in anyway suggesting that there is any thing wrong with that. But I prefer for myself the energy exchange between me and the client through the healing power of a massage.
I connect better in that situation. And I like to stay in control.
What can I say? I guess I’m a control freak. ??‍♂️
 
Now, have my massages sometimes resulted in some hot intense sex? Yes of course . But again I like when things unfold naturally regarding sexual contact. I’m not the kind of person that makes a laundry list of requirements prior to sex.
 
I also found out about myself very quickly after I first started doing massage, that I really enjoy healing another person’s body thru touch!!
 
When I started doing massage It was only by accident because I had lost (like so many others) my job when Bush Left office and I couldn’t find work. My self-esteem was very low from constant rejection for employment.
My friend who was already doing massage brought me into it . And Once I started doing massage, I felt better about myself because I was helping others feel better too.
 
Since that time I have massaged I think I Estimated about 5000 or more & I never looked back .
Personally, I’ve hired both. Escorts and Masseurs.
They both bring something of interest to me to the table. But when I make those purchases, I shop around to get exactly what I want. And so should you.
Don’t get too upset if it takes a few tries. Chalk it up as a learning experience.
I have found that some of the most memorable experiences I’ve had were completely by accident and when I tossed all my Pre-requisites to the wind & took a leap of faith.
With that i say to you ...Peace and happy hunting !!! ✌️?

My relatively rural location (compared to many of you) probably plays a role in my ability to find skilled Masseurs who provide some nice extras — including extended Prostate massaging/draining, oral (mutual) and me being topped.
 
My current regular go to Masseus offer ample fun extras and I am left relaxed and drained. FYI, for a successful massage, I need to ejaculate at the end. A good massage moves a lot of energy around and that swirling energy needs to exit through the root chakra,
 
Anyway, I have come to know my regulars and we talk in general terms about both our experiences as client & provider. Without fail, they indicate that I receive the senual/erotic/sexual extras BECAUSE I really appreciate and come for the massage they offer - I am not just there like some (many) to hurry through that or skip that for sex. They are not impressed with those who disrespect them this way.
 
I am older:), carrying some extra pounds and my body exhibits the ravages of the decades. Add to that, shining eyes, a great smile, compassionate personality and my providers take pleasure in using their skills to help me feel the best possible.
 
It has become a mutual connection and while sexual components are involved they are more aspects of energy flow. They look foward to our monthly sessions (I see my three regulars monthly) They take professional satifaction in the role they play in my body maintenance,
 
So, your mind set is important as is finding a skilled masseur who knows the body systems,
 
That said, I have also treated myself to Escorts when I travel. Those sessions are understood to be SEX - HOT, Great, Draining sex! Even here, one of the top 50 ranked providers used some light massage as we started to get me relaxed — In this memorable session, massage was used for a different result.
 
The key is RESPECT, whether with a Masseur or an Escort. RESPECT! RESPECT! RESPECT! - Follow this guideline and you will probably receive the best and the most that the provider has to give.

Why does a therapeutic masseur need personal privacy? If so there should be no photo at all rather than a stock photo of someone else, that's entirely dishonest and not professional. I am happy you found him attractive, but there is no guarantee that everyone will share that opinion?

I like Karsei Nei Tsang. It's gimmicky (sediment? blockages? lol?), but some of the movements feel really good. I do about 9 or so of the massage-type movements that I know feel good. Kinda hard to trace and massage scrotal veins in the dark though, and also in people with dark skin and when it's very cold. The palm polishing is one of the movements as well, with one sac in a ring formed by your thumb and middle finger. Gotta have some ultimate trust though to let someone have your jewels in such a vulnerable position like that hahahaha. There's a book on it that can be found online for free. Also on wellnessfeel they have images and descriptions for all of the male movements. Tell the masseurs you like to read up about it and give it a try.

Never had to ask. Two of the guys I see do it as part of their routine; one really concentrates his efforts there. Very nice indeed.

To your last point, I don't see why anyone's panties are getting in a bunch. So little was divulged about this client that there is no way anyone other than the client and masseur would be able to read this thread and identify who it's about. There isn't anything remotely identifying posted here, and this certainly isn't the first time an escort or masseur asked for public feedback about how to handle a client situation.

From my viewpoint, not so much about “disclosing” and more about asking for input on how other potential clients might react. It’s a discussion forum, seems like a smart move to gain insight and perhaps adjust (or not) accordingly in the future.

Because this is a place to dicuss interesting topics on massage. I find it refreshing to have topics like this rather than a constant stream of 411's.

Forget the “big” dick.....I can’t get passed the scanky toe nails.
 
<shiver>

Seems like it should be enough for most, but I guess there are people with no sense loose on the intarwebs...

Thanks, I thought there was more than just that one liner, but perhaps I'm not remembering it correctly.

Anybody in Philly familiar with this guy:
https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/28695/
 
Damn. He has got that sexy, southern Daddy vibe. Terp

I agree. I inquired with him a while back. He doesn't live in the city. He is about 40 miles out, which is why I haven't (yet) taken the plunge. Nonetheless, those eyes are amazing.

Could it be a fake ad?
"About me" reads like a pastiche from several other masseur/escort ads. Stats in "Appearance" don't match those in "about me" description. Photos don't match description either: Native American heritage? Big hands? 200lbs? And 22 years old with 6 years experience?
 
Maybe I'm skeptical but I suppose if you want to find out have your iTunes gift card ready.

Could it be a fake ad?
"About me" reads like a pastiche from several other masseur/escort ads. Stats in "Appearance" don't match those in "about me" description. Photos don't match description either: Native American heritage? Big hands? 200lbs? And 22 years old with 6 years experience?
 
Maybe I'm skeptical but I suppose if you want to find out have your iTunes gift card ready.

I prefer outcalls (masseur coming to me) for the basic reason that after the massage I can zone out in the comfort of my home. I don't even need to get dressed. Sometimes I even schedule the masseur to come in the evening and go right to sleep after the massage. After an incall ( me going to the masseur) I need to get dressed, leave, and either drive, Uber or take mass transit home. That blissful state leaves VERY quickly once you are out back in the real world. If you can host a masseur at your place, I say go for it!

As long as I don’t wake up missing a kidney, I count my blessings. Should I raise my standards?