Ryan Roman

I'm curious guys: how many of you follow-up with a brief message to guys who've viewed your ad. If you do; have you found it made a difference in client relations, or no difference whatsoever.

I guess I'm curious to hear what others do (I thank the guys for checking out my page, and let them know if I can be of assistance in the future to feel free and contact me).

What city was this in? I'm glad to hear you never had anything bad happen, I've heard a lot of stories over the years. I think I sometimes romanticize the past and the scene but there was a lot of risk back then.

I had a few cities I worked along the great lakes... One city was bit more dangerous... One city was pretty safe and I did pretty well... The third city had some fierce competition and I was probably out of my league but I didn't care. I enjoyed it at the time. But in hindsight, I realize what I was doing was dangerous. Luckily, the cops never bothered us.

I met the love of my life (RIP) right as this song dropped... And it could have been about him... And I've met the Goos a few times...

Hey, thanks for the input, but I don't quite follow. What do you mean?

"I'll get a room with a hot tub... Can you bring some 'supplies'... I had one guy try that with me multiple time and he knew I'd never do that.

One of my regular escorts told me that after asking the client some questions like age, ethnicity, and after few message exchanges discussing specs and rate, he already knows who is a timewaster so he will stop responding not caring about the possibility of losing business because the profile is "very consistent". I told him that he might be losing business but he stood by his words. I would like to know the opinion of other working guys.

The ones who I find are my time wasters tend to go on about elaborate scenes for a night... Consistent time wasters...

Does any place have an active street scene or has everything moved online? I remember back in the 90's Columbus had an active street scene on High Street in the Short North. Any given Saturday afternoon or evening you would find all sorts of hot shirtless rough trade boys working it. Now there's nothing even in other parts of town.

I got my start through the street scene... I was 19 and maybe 140lbs wet... It was exciting and taboo... In hind sight, WTF was I thinking... I was lucky nothing bad ever happened. Don't get me wrong, I look back on those days fondly, but I was damn lucky nothing bad every happened.

Messenger is awful - now I can't have my messages forwarded to my email like I used to. So I have to log in and check my messages? F*ck that. I set up an automatic "please call me - messenger sucks" message.

I may have to try that and just have them text me directly.

I’ve been waiting for this thread.

 

I have rentmen messenger but I’m not fond of it. I may delete it.

 

I think it’s the WRONG solution to the problem they’re trying to fix.

 

it seems the problem they’re trying to fix is the lag in communication time between clients and escorts. And they want to keep it within their platform because it means more revenue and top of mind awareness for them, even though not ideal for us.

 

but their email system is terrible. in my experience You get a notification for the first email but not any subsequent ones. Notifications by text used to have a link to the email, but after SESTA/FOSTA they say “to read it go to the site”. If they want communication to happen quicker they should have fixed their buggy email system.

 

as @MrMattBig said, the messenger isn’t any more reliable either as I’ve missed notifications from there too.

 

And quite frankly it’s another way for the power imbalance to be abused. A time waster reached out to me asking the same questions he had asked by text on my previous trip to dc. When I asked if it was his number he said no, because he knew what he was doing.

 

So as I said I probably won’t be using it widely.

I'm of the same opinion about RentMen messenger. I'm thinking about deleting it myself. As currently designed, it doesn't solve the original problem.

Or what do you consider to be more serious when approached by a client?

I've seen some profiles saying they only take 'booked in advance' appointments.

While others say that they only consider serious those requests for 'same day'.

It wasn't like this few years ago. What changed: the market or the clients?

I prefer advanced scheduling, but have no problem seeing a client the same day.

My thoughts: why stop now, when there’s been things that hit far closer to home than this. People were still coming into the biz, despite the hundreds of thousands of cases of STD, Hepatitis (and there’s been increases in that, according to various cities STD clinics, before COVID 19), and HIV. Same as I’ve been saying already on the forum, but I don’t have too much time to elaborate on at the moment.

 

I didn’t stop seeing clients, nor was there any 2nd guessing if I would. The question I’m wondering: when are the rest of the clients out there going to start hiring again lol.

 

Couple weeks ago, one of my regular clients came by. I was outside most of the day, which in the Midwest around this time of year, can trigger allergies, which triggers my asthma.

 

We had to end the session early because I was short on breath (and not from the action lol). It was exasperated by the fact that I forgotten my asthma medication at home. Later on he was telling me that he hope it wasn’t COVID 19. I told him I’m pretty sure it isn’t, I’ve been dealing with this on and off for years. Sure enough, once I got my inhaler back...I was immediately able to breathe normally. We met again a week later, but then after the session I was gasping out of his place because he had incense burning, and that is a definite asthma trigger.

 

Point is, there’s always stuff out there. Why lie to myself by stopping something temporarily, and then going back once things are “safe”. Obviously you don’t want to take unnecessary risks if you don’t have to, but I’m not going to give myself a false sense of safety.

 

Think of it this way: If I were to ask this same question to a die-hard church lady, or to a random, Uber conservative doctor, what would their answer be? Would they say, “it’ll be safer to wait until COVID 19 is over before going back to having multiple sex partners?” ?

While I've only seen a few clients since the start of COVID19, I made the decision as rationally as possible based on all of the available information being provided by public health authorities. I've not made myself available for appointments, but have had a few clients contact me, and saw them. It's not the same as pre-COVID19, but that's ok. My "other" life has me working 11 hour days.

If they're willing to give me a few hours advanced notice, I don't mind same day requests. The inquiries that expect to meet in < 2 hours are much more difficult to accommodate, and often I'll have to say no to those last minute requests.

Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are both easily transmittable via anal, oral, and vaginal condomless sex. They both are also capable of creating localized colonies in the throat and rectum. They both also have high rates of asymptomatic presentation in human males. Lastly, both also have treatment resistant strains slowly spreading in the public.

 

If you suck cock without a condom or don't use a dental dam when rimming or lick pussy, there are multiple STIs that may infect you or the person you're having sex with, so it's important to know all of this and make informed choices. Rectum and throat swabs are standard practice for any good STI testing routine for men who have sex with men. If you engage in any type of unprotected receptive oral sex, you should make sure throat swabs are part of your testing routine. The same goes for engaging in any unprotected anal play and rectum swabs. Blood and urine tests are not sufficient. The frequency of testing is something to discuss with your doctor. If you cannot be open and honest with your doctor, find a new doctor. Life is full of risk and part of being a mature adult is making informed choices about those risks.

You need to be open and honest with all of your health care providers if your a professional. If you hire professionals, make sure you go every 3 months for a regular STI check up. If you have the slightest sense something is wrong, see a health care provider. We are all responsible for our sexual health.

I've got clients booked for this weekend. No impact yet. It's important we all know as much as possible and remain calm concurrently. Shutting down schools, colleges, public events, etc., will help slow down transmission and not overwhelm the North American health care system as has occurred in Italy. Stay healthy and smart.

Since I live in San Francisco, I am considering driving to PS and thereby avoiding the airports and airplanes. I am interested in hearing what others think about the risks of going through an airport and then flying. Are these risks likely to keep you away from the PS Gathering?

So... Originally I wasn't going to be able to attend the gathering as my spouse made plans for us to go to Island House in Key West that week... He then regretted not going to Palm Springs (not knowing the gathering was that weekend). He's now thinking of 'pulling out' of Island House (I never pull out ?). So... I may be able to attend after all... Here's hoping.

I only met Alec once (so he qualifies as my input to another thread) and didn't meet Ryan. I couldn't manage to get to the US between his announcement and his actual retirement. I absolutely agree with your assessment of Alec. Their case my be illuminating on the subject of this thread and on people's thoughts on the viability of escort-to-escort relationships. There may be more difficulties if one member of a couple is in the business and the other isn't (same with porn actors). The fact that they both retired at the same time would seem to support my theory that one partner working is more a difficulty than both. I'm not an escort so obviously my opinion is pure speculation.

I can speak to having a partner not in the business. My partner and I met at a sex party, on our first date (a week later). I told him I was an escort, and he said he didn't believe monogamy. Three years later, our primary issue has been my time away from him when I have multi-hour clients. Early on, he would have just hooked up with a guy while I was with a client (he was an amateur slut as opposed to my professional level ?). However, over the last 2 years he's suffered from IBS, which has impacted his sex life... Making him feel lonely when I'm working with a client. Even though he understands the economic need, it's still an issue we're working through.

My burner is a TracFone ZTE ZFive 2 running Android. I can't send or receive MMS; SMS is fine. I've done some web research on this issue, which seems an all-too-common Android problem. I've tried a lot of the suggested solutions, from switching text apps to battery pulls to fiddling around with APNs. None of this has worked. Admittedly, I haven't tried every possible APN available for TracFone, but I've tried a few and it hasn't helped. Anyone have any bright ideas?

If you're ok with getting a new 'burner' number... There's an app called Burner in the Google Play store that allows you to have a second line on your smartphone that you can 'burn' if needed. If had it for a few years and supports MMS messages with images (but not video).

I'm not panicking at this point, but I would not tempt fate with a cruise or any other mass travel environment.

Right now, I agree with the general sentiment to avoid cruises in the near future. The husband and I took two cruises last year, and the second cruise we stayed in an interior room (he didn't mind; I hated it). Being locked down in an interior room would have been a nightmare for me personally. I love cruises, but I think this year I'd steer clear.

So far, business as usual... However, the husband (different thread altogether) booked us a trip to Island House in Key West for mid-April... And he's now have second thoughts about us going.

yes but are any of them really "guilty" ones?

I'd need to look at the definition of "guilty" pleasure ?

Just one guilty pleasure? I have a few... ?

You'd need to turn off the web browser location function

I got a couple of private messages from very nice guys offering to be the "first" client.

 

But I am hoping to have a better understanding of all of the things that I need to know.

 

Any thoughts.

 

thanks in advance

You've gotten some really great advice from the other guys. Pics are important. I escort part-time, and enjoy it. But... You really need to know what you and won't do sexually. If you're not sure, find a FB or FWB to try a few things out. Knowing what you're into - as well as not into - will help you be a better provider. Best of luck, man!

Jesus, has nobody heard of burner phones??

Burner is a great app for scheduling appointments through with second phone number.

A "low dose" daily strategy works well for me for Cialis and generic. Dissolve pills in a measured amount of non-acidic juice (like apple) and keep in refrigerator. Take a measured amount of the juice daily. (ie, 1x20mg dissolved in 4oz juice = 4 daily 1oz doses). The extended effect of each dose means they overlap to always keep me good to go.

I found the same to be similar with Viagra... If I know I'm going to performing for an extended period.

These pills work very differently on different people.

And a quite small dose can actually work better and less invasive.

For newbies, I'd suggest experimenting. Just a 1/4 Cialis gets me rock hard.

Good advice. I'll have to try that and see how it works.