Monarchy79

Just because people agree with your antics doesn’t make it “just”. 
It just means that they are just like you. 
And any grown man who thinks it’s cute to crack fat jokes on someone, calling them such juvenile names as “whale of a man” leave a lot to be desired when it comes to class, maturity and overall decency. 
 
You may not proclaim yourself to be limp wristed, but if your comments could be personified;  a pink, patent-leathered Chanel purse would fall right out of your mouth… 
Now I am going to gift you the rare gift of having the last word, as I don’t want this forum to be closed by the moderator…. 
 
You’re Welcome. 
 

That may be a fact. 
But the truth is that out of the thousands of members on this site, there’s going to be someone who looks like that guy, is his weight, and has been insulted with such comments, and your posting is going to trigger their past trauma. 
 
I know how you roll, but I have a preference for forum posts that are honest, but also are less vitriolic. We endure enough of that outside of this forum in real life, so let’s try to be civil here and create a safe space for opinions and even debate. 

Well...I'm not "gay" (maybe half)..so I don't speak for that community.
As far as "being mean". I'm pretty sure that obese whale of a human isnt here on the site.  So there is no one to be mean to. I am sharing an honest opinion on a forum designed to share opinions.  We aren't at a lady's tea party where I am restricted to complimenting your dress and talk about the weather. So my opinion stands.

I enjoy being myself. Always have.
Maybe the "limpwristed" crowd don't enjoy my frankness, but enough of the gentlemen here do...So I refute this accusation that any opinion about physical appearance on a site that frequently discusses physical appearance is "mean" if it's not pretending to be kind.
No victim/ no crime.

Agreed. 
and my opinion is that you’re mean. 
what’s the issue here? 

It’s also important to understand gay porn’s foundational beginnings….
One of the first gay porn studios (it was either Colt or Falcon), had strict requirements in their films….the actors were required to be:
1.) Young
2.) Fit
3.) White (preferably blonde). And in this particular studio, if black actors performed, they either played secondary roles (as like the hotel doorman or something), of if in a sex scene, could only Top and never Bottom.
4.) Masculine presenting 
5.) and the soles of their feet had to be clean (there are a lot of films (of all genres), that neglected to address this issue and would accidentally capture male performers with dirty feet. 
This same studio was also made aware (in advance) of the pending AIDS epidemic, didn’t inform their actors and still pressured them into condomless sex, which killed an entire generation of young porn actors. 

Once  I find the documentary, I’ll post it here. 
 

You make an excellent point, and this further delves into the social aspect of human beings overall and how groups who are marginalized will marginalize the next group they believe is beneath them on the social “hierarchy”. 
Although gay men have endured a lot of marginalization, this community created its  own microcosm of internal discrimination to further continue this pathetic cycle. 
 
 

It’s also important to understand gay porn’s foundational beginnings….
One of the first gay porn studios (it was either Colt or Falcon), had strict requirements in their films….the actors were required to be:
1.) Young
2.) Fit
3.) White (preferably blonde). And in this particular studio, if black actors performed, they either played secondary roles (as like the hotel doorman or something), of if in a sex scene, could only Top and never Bottom.
4.) Masculine presenting 
5.) and the soles of their feet had to be clean (there are a lot of films (of all genres), that neglected to address this issue and would accidentally capture male performers with dirty feet. 
This same studio was also made aware (in advance) of the pending AIDS epidemic, didn’t inform their actors and still pressured them into condomless sex, which killed an entire generation of young porn actors. 

Once  I find the documentary, I’ll post it here. 
 

What he  @pubic_assistancesaid reflects the actual reality of what gay men say to themselves and to each other when they see images like this. 
Hard Truth: Gay men (for the most part) are mean to each other. In fact, so mean, that there are tons of social media posts, Reddit threads and discussion points on the topic. 

Gay porno will never embrace body positivity for the same reason why body positivity has never been embraced in the gay community overall:
ALL Men are shallow.  This includes “victims” of body positivity. 
Men of all body types want the same range of physical aesthetics (lean, righted, muscled, athletic)  in a man and are very discerning about it too. 
Men in general (of all sexual orientations), have a sense of hipocrisy when it comes to the requirements they have for others’ appearance…. A straight man will judge women’s faces and bodies with hard  critiques as he hasn’t seen a gym since middle school and can’t find his penis because his apron beer belly has been obstructing it’s view for the past 20 years. 

And with gay men, it’s just about the same. I remember being in a social setting when this guy was whining about his inability to find a man….. when he told me what he was looking for, I figured out why he’s having problems…. He’s searching for 10s and he’s a universal 3 at best. 
 

What is this "sex" of which you speak?

Because professional pornography is made for the customer's fantasy, not the performer's 😉.

true 
the abused/marginalized frequently recreate the abusive dynamic as the aggressor when they feel someone is below them, or less than, for whatever reason.  
and many are too damaged and lacking any self-awareness to know 

I am not saying I am attracted to this guy or want to watch his porn, but that doesn't mean he isn't a human being worthy of respect. If people want to watch him, more power to them.  There is an audience for him.  No need to be unkind. 

It's not that they haven't tried.  It's just that it probably hasn't sold as well.
Guys don't watch porn to see themselves.  They watch it to watch the unattainable.  The fantasy.  
That's what porn is:  A highly unrealistic, hyper-visual, fantasy-driven medium.
This sort of marginalized porn has usually been shoehorned into a fetish category and as much as I'd like to see society evolve, it's not realistic to think it's going to change anytime soon.  
The gay community is mega progressive in regards to our rights, but we heavily inner-discriminate if someone doesn't fit within a classic frame of beauty.

Gay porno will never embrace body positivity for the same reason why body positivity has never been embraced in the gay community overall:
ALL Men are shallow.  This includes “victims” of body positivity. 
Men of all body types want the same range of physical aesthetics (lean, righted, muscled, athletic)  in a man and are very discerning about it too. 
Men in general (of all sexual orientations), have a sense of hipocrisy when it comes to the requirements they have for others’ appearance…. A straight man will judge women’s faces and bodies with hard  critiques as he hasn’t seen a gym since middle school and can’t find his penis because his apron beer belly has been obstructing it’s view for the past 20 years. 

And with gay men, it’s just about the same. I remember being in a social setting when this guy was whining about his inability to find a man….. when he told me what he was looking for, I figured out why he’s having problems…. He’s searching for 10s and he’s a universal 3 at best. 
 

Well….. sharing that you grew  up in an all white American small city, and your mind saying “yuck”, to things that weren’t the “standard”, based on your environment, this speaks volumes to your pathology, how you think, and the comments you make in these forums. 
 

Only ONE man I’d spend $1,000 to be with…
First Name: Neiman
Last Name: Marcus
 

I took the plunge and saw him last night....
The name “Tito” in itself is a bit off putting. He’s more like a Vlad, an Igor, or a Mikhail. He’s either Russian, or Eastern European, But NOTHING like these Eastern European “models”, “Instagram guys”, or “rent men twinks or twunks”, who are usually discussed here.
 
Very nice guy, and very focused. Travelled with his table, very clean and sanitized setup as well. There was no draping, but his reasoning for you being naked is not for any reason but for him to thoroughly massage and stretch everything with ease. I truly believe that he’s a heterosexual (but not in a negative way).
 
He has extensive massage skills that are proven on the table. His massage isn’t sensual, erotic, or even therapeutic. This is a strictly intense athlete’s massage. Like post-Russian-Professional- gymnastic-athlete-massage. Like a Muy-Thai-Boxer’s recovery treatment. It’s like getting a massage in a Turkish or Russian bath.
 
He massaged everything from head to toe... and there was no inkling or hint of any possibility of “fun” happening.
 
This is the type of guy you see after an intense sporting event, or after continuous athletic training. This is not a massage you get to “feel good”, or be aroused, or have your “root chakras titillated”...
 
From the intense trigger point work, and stretching, I feel like a new man. Released the pressure from every knot I had.
 
If he lived in my town, I’d definitely see him once a quarter. If you workout, or are an avid runner or cyclist.... get on his table.

Only ONE man I’d spend $1,000 to be with…
First Name: Neiman
Last Name: Marcus
 

Only ONE man I’d spend $1,000 to be with…
First Name: Neiman
Last Name: Marcus
 

Personally,
Food can be flavorful and have some spiciness, without being so hot that my sense of taste is burned off my tongue…. 
 
I also try my best to avoid extremely spicy food, but not because I don’t like it, but because of my philosophy on spicy food:
If it’s hot going IN, it’s going to be just at HOT coming OUT 🔥🚽

Only ONE man I’d spend $1,000 to be with…
First Name: Neiman
Last Name: Marcus
 

I have an appointment tomorrow and will report back. 

Consider this a nominal fee you paid to learn two valuable lessons:
1.) Don’t give deposits
2.) When people have long stories, explanations or exchanges, filled with “complex” matters and circumstances… it’s usually bullshit.