Monarchy79

No prob.
 
I don’t think the OP meant any offense with using the term “mandingo“.
 
I’m truly starting to believe that porn influences and perpetuates stereotypes and old archaic exploitative archetypes of various ethnicities.
 
This is why I’m soooooo happy with the “Noir Male” films.... because black guys aren’t depicted as “thugs”, “rappers”, “pimps”, or “mandingos”....

https://medium.com/@suzanejardim/reconhecendo-esteriótipos-racistas-internacionais-b00f80861fc9
 
 
When we know better, we do better ?

https://medium.com/@suzanejardim/reconhecendo-esteriótipos-racistas-internacionais-b00f80861fc9
 
 
When we know better, we do better ?

You might want to rethink your terminology. Mandingo is considered a racist term for a black man with a big dick.

Please don’t call ghosting a “norm”, that gives the impression that it’s acceptable, and it’s not.

The whole “ghosting”, thing is just foul, dissmissive, and cowardly. It shows such a disregard for others.
 
Ironically, those who behave this way, cry the hardest, when Karma comes in and serves it back to them triple-fold.
 
Hopefully more people will realize that how you treat others is your way of telling the universe how to treat you.

Please don’t call ghosting a “norm”, that gives the impression that it’s acceptable, and it’s not.

The whole “ghosting”, thing is just foul, dissmissive, and cowardly. It shows such a disregard for others.
 
Ironically, those who behave this way, cry the hardest, when Karma comes in and serves it back to them triple-fold.
 
Hopefully more people will realize that how you treat others is your way of telling the universe how to treat you.

I think he meant that it's just become the norm, regardless of being acceptable. Which is has been. Ghosting is generally a defense mechanism people use to avoid confrontation or any sort of situation where it's going to involve them being "real" or show any side of them that they don't portray.

The whole “ghosting”, thing is just foul, dissmissive, and cowardly. It shows such a disregard for others.
 
Ironically, those who behave this way, cry the hardest, when Karma comes in and serves it back to them triple-fold.
 
Hopefully more people will realize that how you treat others is your way of telling the universe how to treat you.

A true alpha male isn’t “macho”. I think that’s where things get murky. A true alpha male is relaxed and comfortable in his masculinity and doesn’t flaunt it or over exert it. He is confident in who he is.
 
In my opinion any man who is aggressively “macho”, and tried entirely too hard to prove his worth as a “man”, is just as annoying as an overly gem guy who has exaggerated mannerisms, behaviors and ways of speaking. Both are “too much”.

Thanks ??,
 
I can agree with that. ☺️

Great points made in this interesting discussion. I think that a lot of times, people tend to define one’s irritation with “effeminate”, “catty”, extreme behavior as homophobic, but thanks to @gymowner’s comment stating that women don’t even act this way, it finally daunted in me what I would consider it: TOXIC FEMININITY.
 
For me, I realized this once I was in my gym locker room and two gay guys were talking in the language that was just discussed. A lot of “yass bitch”, “gurl”, and other things.
 
And when I think about it, it is somewhat toxic, and here’s why:
1.) just as toxic masculinity places a smear over the true characteristics of what makes a man alluring and respectable, toxic femininity almost disrespects women, and turns the image of femininity into a caricature, almost a mockery.
 
2.) it’s behaviors doesn’t develop or enhance any charater traits at all, just as toxic masculinity doesn’t.
 
3.) toxic femininity creates unrealistic standards of behaviors, and perpetuates stereotypes of gay men, just as toxic masculinity goes for straight men.
 
4.) As a lifestyle where we are supposed to be welcoming and inclusive, toxic femininity is actually polarizing, as it baffles, turns off and offends so many people. It actually works in direct opposition with what society is supposed to be moving towards with LGBTQ Acceptance.
 
5.) It never seems natural or authentic. I truly believe that guys who behave to this extreme aren’t behaving “organically”. It’s entirely too much.

If you're going to play in a big boy world, act like an adult. I don't buy 'chickening out' for a second.
 
Be straight-forward. Be honest. If you can't do it, just say so. Don't be a fucking schmuck.
 
We're dealing with people here. People have emotions and concerns. It's not rocket science.

☺️....
I agree, but I wouldn’t classify this as the traditional definition of racism. These beliefs and actions teeter along a fine line, as in circumstances like this, the customer didn’t have bad or hate-filled intentions, and his methods of “seduction” probably worked in some instances.
 
Exploitation based on negative stereotypes happens commonly with a lot of interracial sex and dating, and my antennas are usually “on”, to ensure that if someone is interested in me, it’s because of “me”, and not the idea of some fetishized novelty, created in a scene in a porno.
 
I think overall, we try to identify with people of other ethnicities in ways to make them comfortable, but then wind up making the mistake of using stereotypes from bad sources, which wind up looking stupid and offensive.
 
At the end of the day, we are all humans, and should focus on what turns each other on by our sensual and metaphysical responses to sight, touch, smell and energy.... and have fun doing it☺️??

☺️....
I agree, but I wouldn’t classify this as the traditional definition of racism. These beliefs and actions teeter along a fine line, as in circumstances like this, the customer didn’t have bad or hate-filled intentions, and his methods of “seduction” probably worked in some instances.
 
Exploitation based on negative stereotypes happens commonly with a lot of interracial sex and dating, and my antennas are usually “on”, to ensure that if someone is interested in me, it’s because of “me”, and not the idea of some fetishized novelty, created in a scene in a porno.
 
I think overall, we try to identify with people of other ethnicities in ways to make them comfortable, but then wind up making the mistake of using stereotypes from bad sources, which wind up looking stupid and offensive.
 
At the end of the day, we are all humans, and should focus on what turns each other on by our sensual and metaphysical responses to sight, touch, smell and energy.... and have fun doing it☺️??

☺️....
I agree, but I wouldn’t classify this as the traditional definition of racism. These beliefs and actions teeter along a fine line, as in circumstances like this, the customer didn’t have bad or hate-filled intentions, and his methods of “seduction” probably worked in some instances.
 
Exploitation based on negative stereotypes happens commonly with a lot of interracial sex and dating, and my antennas are usually “on”, to ensure that if someone is interested in me, it’s because of “me”, and not the idea of some fetishized novelty, created in a scene in a porno.
 
I think overall, we try to identify with people of other ethnicities in ways to make them comfortable, but then wind up making the mistake of using stereotypes from bad sources, which wind up looking stupid and offensive.
 
At the end of the day, we are all humans, and should focus on what turns each other on by our sensual and metaphysical responses to sight, touch, smell and energy.... and have fun doing it☺️??

Tank you! Allow me to be less classy and call his assertion for what it is, racist bull shit.

I agree there's been a misunderstanding here. I don't think any posts were meant against @Mister10Deep Instead, there were some sarcastic posts between other posters and some ironic mocking of Black stereotypes. Or am I also misunderstanding??!!!

Right.
 
I’m soooo waiting for him to respond back, with details that involve his luring of the black man with such temptations and trappings as:
1.) weed
2.) a bucket of fried chicken in the case of the post-smoking “munchies”,
3.) an available Sony PlayStation console
4.) the alluring sounds of rap music blasting in the background, to provide an ambience to make him comfortable
5.) and a pack of magnums and a bottle of Hennessy on the nightstand to set the mood.
 
Smh....
 
Nothing more entertaining that fetishizing someone based on archaic stereotypes, isn’t it?

C’mon guys so many of the comments in this thread are irrelevant, dehumanising, degrading etc. Alex is a great guy and as for the speculation about the size of his dick, peoples personal preference about his hair, beard, etc that no place on this thread or forum.
 
You want details, PM me.

Right.
 
I’m soooo waiting for him to respond back, with details that involve his luring of the black man with such temptations and trappings as:
1.) weed
2.) a bucket of fried chicken in the case of the post-smoking “munchies”,
3.) an available Sony PlayStation console
4.) the alluring sounds of rap music blasting in the background, to provide an ambience to make him comfortable
5.) and a pack of magnums and a bottle of Hennessy on the nightstand to set the mood.
 
Smh....
 
Nothing more entertaining that fetishizing someone based on archaic stereotypes, isn’t it?

Can't wait to hear this one. I tend to run into issues such as personality, background and upbringing, sexual experience, education, fetish, chemistry, erogenous zones, and common interests.
 
It will be so much easier to hear how I can "turn on" a black man by treating them as a monolith with cetain tried and tested methods. I was always under the impression that they had variations within their race.....like, normal people.
 
Teach us, oh wise non-black person, how to tame and capture this exotic species.....oh wait, that's been done already.