Monarchy79

America welcomes diversity, but not equality.

At least he’s being honest. A lot of white guys (and even other minorities feel this way). As a black man, I understand the generalizations and how they evoke fear in others. But I find it disturbing that generalizations ONLY stick to black providers or clients. It’s as if Jeffrey Dahmer never existed. I think that one of the biggest privileges of being white is that you are not chained to the screw ups of others in your own race (you’re treated as an individual). When your are black, you are connected with every crime, affliction, and bad experience that every group has had with a black person in their entire life.

Agreed. I just find it hilarious (and hypocritical) when men of various ethnicities call white men racist for having a preference for white men, when they have the exact SAME preference…. I find this to be very common….

This topic is a bit more layered and complex than people are realizing. Although the rest of the world of business is quite clear that there’s a racial hierarchy, the sex/“personal services” area is a bit different; and it takes more than just one’s ethnicity to determine what type of rates they can charge…. From what I’ve witnessed: 1.) An average looking white guy can probably command a higher rate than an average black guy, BUT a good looking black guy with a BBC can charge more than an average white guy. 2.) a Latino guy in his home land (brazil, Puerto Vallarta, Dominican Republic), will get lowballed due to the saturation of competition and the currency exchange rates, but he can come to the US, oil his sexy body up and offer unskilled massages with his uncut pinga swinging by around, and command a higher rate than a white dude with training. 2.) White guys however have longer shelf lives. Other groups get older and “fade out” the business. White providers morph into “daddies”, and capitalize off of that easily. For example…. a white twink can morph into a twunk and then into a daddy; but you rarely see that progression with other groups. 3.) Then there’s the “niche” effect…. black “thugs”, get paid more than white “skaters”, but a young white twink can command more of a higher rate than both of them. A white guy that gives you “redneck, white trash” vibes can also compete with the black “thug”, in rates. Then factor in such things as age, body type, hair color, etc. For example, if you’re a white guy, and have a hot body, are within an “appropriate” age range, AND have a rare physical attribute , such as being a natural blonde (like Nordic blonde, where even your pubes are bright blonde) or a natural redhead (ginger), then you’ll be able to command top dollar. All in all, whatever your ethnicity is, find your strengths and capitalize off of them.

And Asians exclude other Asians themselves… When was the last time anyone heard or saw an Asian vocalize a specific preference for another Asian? I’ll wait…. 😎

Fleece Johnson would agree….

I completed my second dose in August of 2022. The only side effect I had was mild itching (at the site of the shot) for one day, and a scar that faded in three weeks.

Further, The Monkeypox became somewhat of a “scarlet letter” of diseases, and came along with stigmas. Catching it, reflected a narrative of being a sexually-irresponsible, reckless deviant. No one wanted to have that image (even if they were all of those things). Add to that, being quarantined and locked away from one’s livelihood (earning money) scared the crap out of people too. This was one disease that no one wanted to catch. I’m glad people took it seriously.

Personally I believe that there’s a “twist” to this comment, as I personally believe that we gays mobilized only because the Monkeypox had drastic physical/visual impacts. if Monkeypox didn’t have the side effects of those terrible rashes, it would have grown to Pandemic levels. Gays weren’t mobilized in the name of vigilance. The Gays mobilized in the name of VANITY. I know this, because I did too. I went full on celibate until a month after I got both shots.

The easiest way to help with sex addiction is to discipline yourself to avoid “triggers”, like porn, hookup sites etc, and find another “addiction” to replace it…. Preferably an addiction with benefits, such as working out, or a craft related hobby that requires, time, study and review, and possibly volunteering or and extra job. they key is to be so inundated with other things that you won’t have time to be triggered by the incessant desire for sex. Idle time is a major issue for any sex addict.

Life lesson: Men, in general are shallow and critical on appearance. And being in a group that’s exclusive to men (the “G” in LGBTQ), it’s going to amplify it. Whether it’s your level of femininity/masculinity, skin color, race, hair color, eye color, body size, body shape, economic status, intellectual acumen, age, zip code, car type, profession, political affiliation, or style of dress, someone is going to be a cruel critic. 1.) Grow a thick skin 2.) ruthlessly defend yourself to those who insult you to your face 3.) ignore & block haters/critics online ……and live your best life.

I think that Kissing (in any situation) is extremely YMMV…. So many factors involved, extending far beyond general attraction… specifically dental health and oral hygiene. A lot of guys simply don’t brush, floss and rinse enough… you’d never notice until you get close enough to kiss them.

I’m in absolute agreement with you!!!

The only problem with that is politics is going to rear its head in other forums (it’s happening now).

It’s time for you to try him. Take the plunge. We’ll gladly appreciate your feedback!!! 😁

Just don’t have sex until you are fully healed. even if you’re not conducting any oral action, your facial expressions from sex can impact recovery within your face. Just consider this to be a point of temporary celibacy. Sex will always be there. Congrats on the surgery!!!

That’s a reflection of HIS ignorance, not on the general assumptions of massage therapists. People with common sense know the difference and act accordingly. You should be thankful that this potential date displayed his stupidity early on…

The irony of all of this revolves around your screen name. The “Mr. Humphries” I remember, (licensed or not) would definitely be one of the naughtiest masseurs in the industry…. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You can be proud of your profession without slighting the professions of others. Your previous comment gave an air of you feeling that you are a “step above” unlicensed massage therapists, or “masseurs”, which was the main catalyst for my response to you. As I said before, there’s room for massage therapists, masseurs, and escorts. Let each group enjoy their lane and allow their customers to enjoy them, without judgment.

Well a “masseur” and a “masseur that goes all the way” are also different fruits. Thats where the acronym YMMV comes in. And to answer your question, a masseur who goes all the way can provide experience that some (or many) escorts don’t intend (or aren’t expected) to give, which is in the area of intense foreplay, the exploration of erogenous zones, the “build up” of intensity, and that sense of “not knowing what’s yet to come.” The entire sensorial experience is different.

The same risk as if the provider didn’t disclose any of this information. The level of risk is determined by the practices of sex that YOU determine to be safe or risky.

Nope. I’m a condom user too.

But we (the customers) aren’t the ones who lump you all in…. It’s you… the licensed- 100% therapeutic-massage therapists. The customer understands the difference and makes a clear distinction of expectations when we go to: Hotel Spas, physical therapy massage studios, etc. it’s the “Massage therapists” who usually choose to cross lines of advertisement then are shockingly insulted when a customer desires a more sensorial experience. If you are a “professional, 100% therapeutic, massage therapist”, then don’t advertise on Masseurfinder (they actually have Massagefinder for the purely therapeutic folks), Rentmasseur or Rentmen. Create your own website to advertise where you can make your expectations of services clear, and there’s always specialty spas that cater to such needs. But to come into those type of spaces, and then be “shocked” and “insulted” is simply ridiculous. There’s room for all types of massage and all types of customers.

I’m in full agreement with you. I’m just humored at how people seem to be shocked that such behavior exists.

Neoliberal capitalism is just a symptom. Human nature is the disease. People will ALWAYS find a way to exploit others for their benefit. The history of human civilization has proven this.