Monarchy79

It’s the form of sexual “ cognitive dissonance” that a lot of people have. I know a guy who is “allergic”, to condoms and has been barebacking it for years (even before PrEP). During those days, his method of “safe sex” was to be partnered and to be “selective” with who they played with in their open relationship. Then he got on PrEP as soon as it was available. He’s spent years admitting to contracting multiple STDs, casually gets “cured” for them, because they’re treatable, and over the past 8 years, has mad multiple bouts in the hospital with the mumps, shingles, and other infections. His immune system is so jacked up, that his body is fighting against itself and the only thing he can define it as is “lupus”. When the medical industry introduced PrEP to the world, they prescribed it to be used WITH condoms. They also expressed their concern that human behavioral studies predicted that targeted groups (gay men), would ditch the condoms, and other STDs would potentially surge. This is exactly what happened. STDs are not to be trivialized. There are many people who have long term illnesses, are suffering, and who have died, from untreated STDs, and regularly contracting STDs and “curing”, them. At the end of the day, life is about choices, and accepting whatever consequences come with them. Condoms have their benefits and drawbacks, and so does PrEP. Choose wisely, and with common sense.

It wasn’t the pharmaceutical companies that lied to them…. It was probably their sexual partners….. 😎 I volunteered for a gay advocacy group (decades ago) that promoted safe sex (passing out condoms in bars, etc) and conducting support groups. Over 90% of our youngest clients who recently contracted HIV, weren’t sexually reckless or stereotypical “sluts”, they placed their trust in a partner who either lied to them about their status, or didn’t know their status, and lied to them about their monogamy. This was B.P. (Before PrEP) With the emergence of PrEP, what I’ve witnessed are a surge or guys LYING, telling others that they are on PrEP, just for the sake of having easy bareback sex. A naive guy will take their word on that and expose themselves to not only HIV, but other STDs. Being on PrEP requires quarterly testing and (in most places) some form of health insurance. Most of these guys out here live like vikings (wild, reckless and “pillaging” asses and dicks) , and can’t even keep up with teeth cleanings and oil changes, so believing that the masses are taking PrEP as prescribed, and being regularly tested, is a bit naive…. Look at the hook up sites… they are filled with profiles where guys have made up “expired” “tested” dates….😝, all while saying they they are “on PrEP” If you’re going to be sexually active, enjoy yourself, but protect yourself, whichever way you choose (condoms, PrEPs, vaccines, etc), but whatever you do, do NOT trust the “word”, of another man.

You’re absolutely right. Unfortunately , this is when being “right”, means very little. Most of the topics discussed in these forums slide into the grey area of “righteousness”, or the lack thereof. I’m certain many clients are cheating on their partners or crossing some boundary of “rules” in their relationship. Dishonesty is one of the “underbellies” of human nature which is so powerful that neither religion or government can control it.

Michael Sam wanted to use the “first openly gay football player”, as his grift to get into the NFL. The problem was that he just wasn’t that good. Talent must supersede politics when you are of any minority group. He had no fanfare for various reasons: 1.) The NFL didn’t find him to be of any benefit because he just wasn’t athletically good. 2.) The sports community (fans and patrons of football), didn’t care enough about his antics, as he thought they would. 3.) The black gay community found him to be yet another lame snow queen, so they had no interest in him either. All in all, Sam played himself. if he spent more time in the GYM, and PRACTICING, rather than trying to be a C -List celebrity, he could have possibly made something of himself in the NFL.

One more bump.

This will definitely impact the business over the next few years. Much of their customer base didn’t think about this, when they made certain “decisions”. 😎

The client could be looking for you to provide slots for him to adhere to. easy solution: Just give him times you are available and let him pick one.

This man has a really nice, succulent set of nipples.

Another murder linked to a “love triangle”. Crimes of passion, from the unhinged emotions from men in unconventional relationships are definitely on the rise.

I think there are quite a few. this is a site filled with men over a certain age who have discussed their successes with finances in other forums .

There’s a significant difference between hiring someone in their chosen profession and propositioning someone who is economically disadvantaged. Nice try though…..

Masseurs who do anything outside of the massage (the extras), are usually doing this on a case by case, YMMV basis. Some may have bottomed for some guys, doesn’t guarantee that they’ll bottom for the NEXT guy. This is why asking if a specific masseur (kisses, bottoms, tops, eats ass, or gives oral) is somewhat inappropriate. If you want a massage that guarantees a higher probability that the “ending” will result in a sex act, then hire an escort who will start your session with a massage.

Are you looking for an actual Sugar Daddy? Or a Finsub? Major difference between the two, and from your posting (and others) it appears that many of you are looking for the latter.

Ummm No…. Many construction, landscaping and other companies search for day laborers and wind up hiring them for full time work. Some companies even assist them with obtaining citizenship (for those who are undocumented ) Further, individuals who hire them, refer them to others and they build their own independent clientele. Plus, a day laborer is getting cash in-hand, without taxes or the middle-man (employer), talking their cut…..everybody wins. Therefore, this is NOT exploitation. In terms of sexual exploitation, we ALL know good and damned well that you’re not anticipating paying a day laborer the $300 + hourly rate, that you’d be required to pay a confirmed professional escort. That’s what makes your intentions exploitative. Looking for a cheaper means to get your rocks off, assuming that a day laborer is willing to ignore his own values to appease your sexual proclivities. being in a higher socio-economic status than someone else, doesn’t give you the right to dangle cash in their face, in exchange for you to suck their dicks.

In all seriousness, how low must one go, in soliciting others for sex. I’m guessing the next thread will be about cruising the streets for mentally-ill homeless men, seeing how cheap their tricks can be….. 😒

…. Because no one wants to feel like they’ve gotten snookered. This is why people compare the prices that they’ve paid for cars (especially insurance), mechanics, landscapers, etc.,

I’ve used Day Laborers, for painting, landscaping work, and general contracting. They are great. They are not street hustlers for sex, and I recommend not propositioning them for such activities.

But you DO have control. Manage your schedule, where it makes availability to shower. if it’s “after work”, then hit the gym after work, use their showers and then you’ll be able to show up clean and presentable. But by no means show up ripe and unclean.

Question: if this guy is so “straightforward”, then why is “sensual” and “erotic” highlighted in his profile and one of his initial pictures are with him in a jockstrap with his bulge flexed and his butt cheek hanging out? if he were truly forthcoming, he’d be fully clothed, with only “therapeutic”, checked on his profile. He’s basically a slickster, enticing potential hires with innuendo and false hints of expectation, all to snooker them with “clarity” when they wind up with a wack massage and a set of blue balls.

Men use all of the same things as status symbols too.

This is true. but it’s best (in my opinion), to be the best version of yourself that you can be, spanning the longest period of time. The old tale of “the tortoise and the hare”, has a lot of wisdom, as the fast route for most things fizzles quickly.

Those two are definitely exceptions. Rare exceptions.

I’m glad you made it out of being drugged, unscathed. Wow!!!

Most (not all), tattoo aesthetics, never age well. Our personal style changes over time and those tattoos rarely follow along well with those changes. its “cute”, when you’re 22 years old with a mullet and tats, beat up sneakers and a cropped tee. Try that crap at 35, and it’s beyond tragic. When people ask me what I think about tattoos, I always immediately suggest temporary tattoos. Following that, I recommend considering one’s path in life, and where they plan on placing them. No one can be a porn star, rocker, or a rapper forever. And although the era of youth is fun, it’s also SHORT. The “Grown Man”, phase of life is much longer and far more challenging, if you don’t play your cards right…. That “boring” man in his 20s with no tats can develop into a nice crispy, sexy man in his 30s, 40s and 50s.

The crime in SF will not be addressed until the money leaves SF. When tourism drops, the class of high tax payers move out, and major retailers leave in mass exodus, that’s when leaders of the city will “sound the alarm”, and make changes. Money always talks.