Monarchy79

YOU WIN!!! …. And im done!!!! 😂😂😂😎

I actually got more attention. Women were very flirtatious, and men would do very questionable things under the influence of alcohol….etc. My clubbing days (the late 90/s-early 2000s) was the last era of the big nightclub in most cities. They were fun. I did it all: Raves, Goth, House, Urban, Gay, Straight, and even the multi-cultural clubs.

It’s not awful. It’s just the nature of nightlife as time has progressed. You know the saying “nothing good happens after midnight?” Well there you have it. The key is to enjoy yourself in that younger club phase and build memories with great friends (while avoiding these little pitfalls). NOTE: These archetypes are even worse in straight nightclubs.

I fully agree with you again. I just believe that apps bring out who people really are. Because they are hiding behind a screen, they lose all aspects of “acting” that’s required to be executed in person.

I’m in agreement with you. There is a “beauty” standard that changes throughout each decade or generation.

Excellent point. I’m glad you referenced the “Daddy”. As I believe that the emergence of that Daddy was the perfect antithesis to the ageism that plagues our community. However, when that shift occurred, tipping the scales of “top-tier” attractiveness, the same thing happened… many of those “hot daddies” became the same mean girls that they previously detested. It’s the cycle of social life…Whomever is on the top of the food chain is going to wreak havoc. It’s only when they age out of their throne that they’ll be humbled and change their way of thinking. -The young twink loses his youth and ages out. -The Daddy become “grandpa”. -The “body girl”, body DROPS its all part of the cycle.

Please note that my posting stated “twink” or “body gurl” to cover both spectrums of the “physique scale”. I also want to note that the term and definition of a twink dates back as far as at least the 1960s.

In the discussions of oral hygiene, it’s first important to maintain proper practices to ensure the health of your teeth & gums BEFORE oral sex is even involved…. Brush after every meal…. Floss daily (daily flossing stimulates the gums, strengthens them, resulting in LESS bleeding (note: At this point, my gums don’t bleed during deep cleanings..) and use a mouthwash… mouthwash at the least helps rinse debris out of the mouth. mouthwash, hydrogen peroxide and tea-tree infused coconut oil mouth rinse (for oil pulling) is in my bathroom cabinet. At least one of them are used within a day. Once you reach the point of kissing, sucking and licking on others, at the least have a clean, healthy mouth. This way, a gargle after oral action can at least ensure that you’re not walking around with dick, ball and ass breath…. I’m not going to get into “scientific” studies, but I’ll say this: when I first came in the game I’m at 18, one of the first guys I ever met who became a good friend and early mentor always told me to gargle with hydrogen peroxide after any oral action. I’ve never had an oral infection or STD. A lot of men have poor oral hygiene to begin with, which is why their yuck mouths have issues before they even suck on a schlong.

Perfect description!!! Every archetype (reflective of the underbelly of gay society )is at your gay bar: -The sexual predator who’s slipping drugs in people’s drinks. -The cockblocker -The socially inept guy -The stinky dude (breath & B.O.) -The STD spreader -The obnoxious “hot mess” Navigating through all of these clowns is just the first layer of digging your way through the bar before you even find someone halfway attractive enough to even approach. Then comes the nuances associated with being a good “pick up” artist. 😂

Personally, I find using the the topic of gay men and manners/ettiquette to be hilarious… Gay men haven’t used proper social etiquette since the days of Oscar Wilde, and even he was shady… 😂😂😂

Our culture is not more “coarse” than it’s been before. The cycle of where you stand in this social paradigm changes. When the changes come, many guys go from being the “rejector”, to the “rejectee”. This is when the “A-list” twink (Or a “body gurl” ) was an ultra-bitch in his prime, he thought nothing of it. He’d laugh at and reject (with pride and vigor), the old, the fat, and the “unattractive”…And he’d get a kick out of humiliating them. It’s when he’s aged out of desirability, and the new crop of “A-List” twinks reject him, and make it clear that he “can’t sit with them”. That he suddenly has a moral ground of decency towards mankind and how people should be “respectfully”acknowledged.

Ummm…. I’ve seen many of instances in bars & clubs where some naive guy approached a dude and the dude either directly turned his back to him, or flat out ignored him, in public… in front of everyone. Although apps and social media give more room for poor social behavior, don’t think that people aren’t just as nasty and vile in person. The reason why so many guys like apps is because it protects them from much of the in-person humiliation of rejection that can take place in person. Being blocked or ghosted is far easier to one’s ego/self-esteem than being flat out rejected in-person.

Stop caring about what people you don’t know think and feel about you. There are millions of guys in hook up apps… if there are those who ignore your messages, who cares?

This situation is very simple. You’re making it far more complicated…. 1.) Escorts are paid professionals . They have the general expectation NOT to be attracted to their clients. 2.) Hook up apps are for “free”, non-transactional encounters (unless the individual states they are “working.”) Escorts have lives outside of work and may be on a hookup site for their own “non transactional” entertainment. When you saw the potential hire on Grindr, you simply “rolled the dice”, hoping that you’d get a free encounter with this guy. As he’s not “working”, his attraction to you became a relevant factor in your communications because he’s now seeking a hookup to HIS satisfaction. From this lost gamble, you now know he isn’t remotely attracted to you, and you’re now leery of hiring him as there is no longer a myth or illusion you can hide behind on your desirability. You BOTH will be clear that if you hire him, he’s performing a task, that’s it and that’s all. The fact that you have this hard truth will kill the vibe if you ever hire him. Move on, consider this a lesson learned and make sure not to contact potential hires on hookup sites, unless you’re prepared for unfiltered truths.

One of my favorite masseurs left DC this year too. I’m truly sad about it.

Why be on Grindr at all if you expect to not get favorable outcomes from it?

And a lack of social ineptitude.

Marijuana isn’t the “star” of the show when it comes to PNP, “Tina” Turner is… Alcohol, Marijuana, Cocaine, Ecstasy, Ketamine, and others are either background singers or part of the band….. In a nutshell, Crystal Meth is the drug that’s the “P” in PNP, yet most party junkies like a variety, so the other drugs may be present…

Facts. And guys who are “ growers”, especially hate nude environments. There has been an extreme obsession with penis size that has gotten to a point where it crosses sexual orientation. Go to a gym and change clothes and strip bare and you’ll find many men of all background either staring are your dick, or intentionally flashing theirs. I’ll admit that I’m one of those “towel” guys that nudists seem to hate. However, for a week, I decided to let it all out…. Strip down after my workout, throw the towel over my shoulder and walk to the shower butterball naked. This guy whose locker was always near mine, literally started at my dick the entire time. And the whole vibe he gave was “Finally!! I finally got to see your dick!!” it was cringey as hell. Oh, and now he strikes up a conversation with me every time he sees me. People would be more comfortable naked, if others had more social grace and didn’t ogle and stare at others so aggressively.

That’s a “hold”, but not a deposit. They will only charge a fee to the customer for a no show, but will not charge for a deposit in these cases.

I should go to the “Questions about Hiring” forum as ask escorts if they would take business from potential clients if they knew they were white collar criminals or registered sex offenders. I pose this comment to make the point that the clients have just as “if not more” potential to be harmful and dangerous than the actual professionals. Keep in mind that these are the workers who sometimes entertain the incels, the unattractive, the degenerate, the mentally ill, the socially inept, and many of whom has past histories of crime and issues. What blows my mind is that the professionals operate with more understanding and less judgment.

Would you all judge the guy if he was in prison for….. prostitution? 😎

@Simon Suraci made one critical valid point (out of many as I agreed with all that he posted), which was this: Stop being lured by the “Hot” guy, on those massage sites. I’ve been saying this for years, and I’ve never fell for the “hot” guy. There’s a method to it, as he’s not saying to pick guys you are absolutely repulsed by. it’s about fusing in looks, with potential, and skill , mixed with reality. Here are some realities: 1.) A guy that is so “hot”, that he could give an instagram model or only fans performer a run for their money, is going to charge TOP DOLLAR and NOT give you any massage with skill or beyond anything therapeutic, because he doesn’t have to. His collateral is solely in his looks and nothing else. 2.) The “Hot” guy wants your money, but doesn’t want to work for it. He doesn’t want to perform escort services because he only wants to play with guys who look like him, but he has no other redeemable skills to earn money, so “massage” is the other alternative. If he can make $300 for an hour of slathering cheap baby oil on some poor, naive sucker, without having to do anything else, he’s “won”. 3.) The “Hot” guy is playing into your fantasies only. He knows the value of his looks and his only mission is to capitalize off if. Being on a gay massage site, selling therapeutic massage, is the perfect niche of shaping false expectations, with innuendo. It’s the easiest way to snooker a lust-hungry man who seeks the fulfillment of being with a super “hot” guy. Here are some red flags of the type of guys on these sites who will snooker you: 1.) “perfect” , “hot” photos where they are perfection in its purest. instagram model style. 2.) excessive travel. Nothing but high-class vagabond hustlers. 3.) Ethnic descriptions such as “Arab”, Mediterranean”, or “mixed”. they are the biggest hustlers and teases.

Amen!!! If a group of “gurl” friends want to hang out and cackle, go to BRUNCH not a damn bath house. As a matter of fact, not even brunch… a drag brunch.

This dude is not gay. At all.