Monarchy79

True. However, some people don’t deserve the false sense of satisfaction they get from getting the “last word”.

After reading your other posts on various topics, I see that you think you have a “schtick” of being sarcastic and “witty”. Unfortunately, you’re just coming across as an old, catty, bitch with a tarnished tiara. Do better. BE better.

If you’re bothered by my comments, you can block my profile so you won’t see any of them. Further, when I mentioned silence, I was specifically referring to receiving the services I noted in that comment. Additionally, this is a forum. The point of forums is for people to share their opinions, discuss and learn from other’s perspectives. Take your idle time, and your sophomoric attempts of sarcasm and find something better to do. 🥾💨💨💨

Thanks for your feedback. No. not hurt at all. I have no ill-will towards the former friend. Just have no reason to attempt to go back and recreate a paradigm that’s long gone. I see this no differently my than other chapters that closes in my life, which includes high school, college, and old jobs. Enjoyed my time there, learned what was needed and don’t need to go back. To elaborate further, there are friendships where I’ve lost contact with people, and we started back exactly where we left off (and the reunion was great). However, this scenario wasn’t one of them. I got bad vibes from him in a shady way, which is why we faded out. Having a mindset focused on moving forward doesn’t indicate any continued trauma or issues. IMO, those who continuously go back and forth in relationship cycles with people are the ones that need to be questioned on their “emotional wellbeing”.

Approach life understanding that nothing lasts forever. So if you have an outstanding rapport with a massage guy, barber, retail Salesperson, dry cleaner, tailor, car detailer, friends, co workers, lovers or anyone else; just enjoy the fantastic experiences while you’re getting them. Once this changes, move on, and appreciate the memories, and feel good about what’s to come next with someone new. Recently I ran into a former acquaintance I hadn’t seen in years, we travelled, worked out, shopped, and bar hopped together. Everything was great until it wasn’t. He faded out and just didn’t contact me anymore. He had closer friends with whom I assumed he gravitated with more. I ran into him recently, we exchanged pleasantries and he asked to get together to “catch up”. I told him that we just “caught up”, and I’m good on reconnecting, but it was great to see him and I wish him well. If I see him again, I’ll be just as pleasant, but will tell him the same thing. Once a ship has sailed, I don’t need to swim off shore to try and catch it again….

The most important thing here is the service you’re paying for, which is the haircut. If she’s not so Alison with you, who cares? To each his own, but I love getting treatments where there’s nO talking at all. Manicures, pedicures, facials…. Just let me meditate. I had a facial a couple of months agi and I was scared that the esthetician would start asking me a hunch of questions about my skincare routine etc….. Once I booked my appointment, there was a prompt for “special requests”. I wrote one word: Silence.

No one will ever do that. Most people don’t want hard truths. They want conclusions that make them either feel good about themselves, or like “victims” due to the poor behaviors of others. Your average person has a worse reaction to accountability & self-reflection, than a celiac has to gluten.

Agreed!!! I remember dating a guy years ago. After being “love-bombed” for months, he lost interest and pursued the dude he was most interested in and decided to start a confirmed relationship with him. When things faded out, I wasn’t angry at all. I took the hint and stopped contacting him. He was shocked that I let him fade so easily and actually confronted me about it (we went to the same gym and saw each other all the time). I told him this: I enjoyed the good time we had and have no reason to be angry. Plus, no one matters to me more than myself, so I’ll never care.” I wished him luck with his new boyfriend and continued my deadlifts….

In any relationship (friendship, intimate relationship, or business relationship), one should never expect long-term consistency in behaviors, emotions, or loyalty. Humans are entirely too fickle, self-absorbed and complex messes for that. If you want that consistency, get a dog.

I booked him Sunday Evening. He was great.

National is just not a safe airport, and doesn’t have the appropriate “air” infrastructure to handle as many flights that land and depart, while competing will military aircrafts. On a daily basis, one can literally see a “traffic” jam in the sky, of planes waiting to land. I live 10 minutes away from National airport and always used BWI or Dulles when I did fly.

I simply won’t be flying anymore. The surge in plane crashes is disturbing. And for the statisticians who say that “scientifically”, planes are still safe….. I personally loathe the methodology of comparing aircrafts to other modes of transportation for various reasons: 1.) The average weight of a car is about 4100 lbs. the average weight of a commercial aircraft is about 175,000 lbs. 2.) A car can hold around 2 -5 riders, while a plane can hold scores of passengers. 3.) Many car collisions happen everyday, with no fatalities. There are rarely “fender benders” in the sky. In most cases, when the plane crashes, death is imminent. My trips will be quite long moving forward, because road trips, scenic train rides, and long cruises will be part of my itinerary . I cancelled two business trips (seminars), and took the virtual online option. I’m simply not flying anymore. My sincerest prayers for safety for those who still choose too.

Ummm….. I didn’t SUGGEST entertaining these options. I clearly stated that they exist. My posting was no reflection of what I can or cannot afford. Please read the comments thoroughly before responding.

He’s an absolutely no. -No skills -Smoke cigarettes (and smelled like it) -questionable hygiene.

Reading non-verbal cues is important. No one really needs verbal authorization in most circumstances. If a client is on a massage table, and he’s squirming and clinching his butt cheeks every time the masseur is poking T his bitt, that obviously indicates he doesn’t want anything inside of him. Same thing goes for kissing. If the guy turns his head away, that’s and indicator that he doesn’t want the guy’s tongue showed down his throat. Many predatory guys clearly see these cues and intentionally ignore them.

There’s a lot of rape and sexual assault in the gay community amongst men. And I’m not talking about the typical circumstances of being drugged either. There’s a thin line of aggression (thinly veiled with the innuendo of sexual desire and lust) that’s commonly crossed with dealing with men, many of which guys force themselves on those who are either naive, or in vulnerable positions. Too many times a gay man’s first sexual encounter at the cusp of adult hood is from an older or more experienced guy who mixes pleasure with pressure and busts his cherry open. Although the guy may have enjoyed it at some point, when looking back, he realizes he’d been “had.” We’ve seen the cases even in these forums where that slick masseur gets super sexual, mounts himself on top of the unknowing client and shoves his oiled dick inside him. Quite a few clients have experienced the massage that turned into full on fucking where you were already on the table, too greased up to “lock your hole”, and afterwards naively thinking that the masseur was just “caught in the moment”, but later learning that this is his “M.O.” and his theme is taking advantage of his clients. I don’t know why, but a lot of men are just predatory when it comes to sex. And it’s not even because they have to be. The last time a guy tried to sexually assault me, I was totally shocked. He looked three times better than me and was in tip top shape. He could have easily gotten the goods from anyone without hesitation.

They definitely still exist. Lot Lizards still work the truck stops and California still has its street-walking ladies. Figueroa street is still lined up with them.

Another issue is that although the pricing has increase, there’s a surge in unskilled, and overall bad providers. There are many forums where people are addressing getting scammed, catfished, And having mediocre experiences. it’s just like the price of a car increasing, but the trim is rusting and the performance is shotty…. …. And please feel free to poke fun at me on this analogy, but it’s actually true and a major topic regarding inflation with luxury goods…. The Chanel Bag. The Chanel Bag has went from costing $1300 in the early 90s to $10,000 recently. People are now buying vintage as the hard ware is now of a lower quality, the leather peels and the bag doesn’t maintain its lustre. I have no problem with price increases on anything that is on par with the current state of the economy, but to inflate pricing of goods and services without having at least the quality match is just not right.

This is a great forum topic, as many have noted that despite their increases in salary and resources, they are now more conservative with hiring as the rates have exceeded father than the rates of actual inflation. When the rates of a product or service has far exceeded the availability of resources of the customer base, this usually indicates some form of price gouging. The current rates are exploitative and soon, this hiring bubble will burst, as these services aren’t “essential” to most.

Your statement is correct…. However, you might have missed the overall point of my comment.

I completely understand. In that case, keep it a secret to the grave. There’s enough drama….

Actually you should name names…. What if this is this guy’s shtick? He knows he’s a catfish, he knows the client is going to be uninterested, and he knows the client is going to feel guilty and pay him… Imagine making $300 + per hour to turn people OFF? That dude is brilliant!!

This philosophy is what keeps scammers in business.

No one said anything about “withholding” money. If the arrangement is for the escort to top the customer, then a limp penis is a breach of that agreement, therefore payment arrangements/ alternatives of services need to be discussed. The same thing goes for “unprepared” bottoms.

There’s a grey area here… Not liking something and having a bad experience because of the poor services of the provider are two different things. Going to a movie and finding it to be uninteresting with a poor plot is a dislike. (You should pay) Going to a movie theater that ran out of popcorn, had soda spilled in the seats, the the reels of the film were distorted is a bad experience. (Payment modification needs to be discussed with management) Going to a restaurant and realizing that the style of food prepared isn’t your taste is a dislike (you should pay) Going to a restaurant where there was a cockroach swimming through your main course, and there were lipstick prints on your wine glass is part of a bad experience. (Payment modification needs to be discussed with management) The same thing goes for the personal services discussed here. There’s a major difference between not getting what you expected (you should pay) vs. basic standards not being met, that led to a poor experience. For example, being shorted on time, dirty set up for a massage, blatant demonstration of massage skills, or for an escort, a limp appendage, and not performing what was requested serves a poor customer service. (Payment modification should be addressed with the provider.) These things should be addressed and there should be at least a discussion of payment modification. Stand up for yourselves. In most situations where you’re getting bad service, the provider of that service knows it , and does doesn’t care. He’s taking advantage of your kindness and inability to confront him.