Monarchy79

Lmao!!! There is no disconnect or hipocrisy... Good try buddy, but I’m sooooo used to word-play manipulation by “intelligent”, white men who attempt at intelligently rationalizing their biases, and supporting their views 1.) What you didn’t know about the dude I called “babe”, is that we communicated outside of this thread to bring forth a better understanding of the topic. So with that, we were both comfortable with the use of the word “babe”. 2.) The word “babe” doesn’t have a netagively-deep-seeded historical context, spanning over a 400 year period; the term “Mandingo”, does. The fact that you even compared the two proves your weak attempt at both minimizing the severity of the use of the word mandingo, and trying to deflect from the real issue by picking apart my posts and desperately trying to find some point to counter. Try harder ? 3.) The porn star who calls himself “mandingo”, has made the choice to capitalize off of perpetuating racial stereotypes, for the purpose of sataisfying racial-based fantasties of some viewers. However, that’s entertainment. And a staged performance on film doesn’t give anyone the right to translate that into real life. I would hope that you are smart enough not to use porn flicks as an educational tool on viewing, grouping, categorizing and generalizing people. If so, I sincerely pity you.

Smart decision. Maybe I should take a break as well, then maybe I’ll start finding interest in regular guys again.

Oh boy, I can definitely relate!!! I’m not a Dom-selfish Top, I’m a Vers who is smack in the middle. Every encounter I’ve had with a regular guy has been off balanced (one extreme or the other). And then the dating.. ugh... I’ve been on so many awkward dates, that I now turn down offers.

So fellas, I got my first massage that turned erotic about two years ago. And ever since, I’ve had some ultimate sensorial, mind blowing experiences. Unfortunately, it has tainted my desire to deal with “regular” men. In the past, I’ve found dealing with most men to be pretty mediocre, as either their skills were limited,they were either sexually selfish (or overly submissive and pleasing) or they had a skewed perception of what good sex is... many of my encounters left me disappointed And irritated. However, with these sexy masseurs, who know how to do everything right (in my opinion), I just rather get a sensual/erotic massage than bother with taking the chance of wasting my time with a dude who either has bad skills, hygiene or approaches to seduction. Has anyone else ever felt this way?

You literally cracked me up!!!! ??? At least you know what contributed to that young man’s ripe butt.... Hard Work!!! ?? You should treat him to another massage after his next shift, of course, starting with a nice hot, soapy shower... ?

I’m going to go further, and many people are going to disagree with this too. If a masseur has “preferences”, I think he should be able to clearly state them without getting grief for it. So if he doesn’t like guys who are black, white, Latin, Indian, Asian, fat, skinny, muscular, young, old, middle aged, blonde, brunette, redhead, bald,tall, short, or any other characteristic, just put it out there. So if I don’t fit into his preferences, we won’t waste each other’s time with an inquiry. This would: 1.) eliminate those awkward “YMMV” moments, and 2.) decrease those stories where some masseur blocked, or ghosted a potential client. Let’s be real here, if a customer reviewed a masseurs profile numerous times and that masseur thought he was hot, he wouldn’t block him, he’d send him a message, offering the most hottest massage ever

With all of these comments, I think I am going to register on RM with a profile. This might sound crazy, but I’d prefer that any Masseurs who wouldn’t want me as a client would block me. It saves me time, and I’ll be able to pick from those who want me as a client. It’s actually a win-win for both parties when you really think about it. I’d rather someone block me from the beginning if I’m not their “type”, then set up an appointment and upon meeting them, having the awkwardness of bad vibes and the “dark-side” of YMMV. Always remember guys, in every aspect of life, the people who don’t like, want, or desire you aren’t the ones that matter, only your fans and admirers should get your thoughts and attention. For the others, thank them for blocking you and tell them to get out the way ☺️??

No prob babe, This is good. The more we share, the more we learn to understand one another better. ☺️??

Many escorts are young, and somewhat naive, or flat out don’t care about being exploited for the almighty dollar. Approach a regular, intelligent, black gay man in a social situation and refer to him as a “mandingo”, and the response you’ll get may not be too pleasant.

Well the comparable relationship that a white man has to a black man is that of a cuckold. Have you ever seen those porn flicks where a big dicked black man, fucks a white woman who is married, but her small endowed white, effeminate husband can’t satisfy her? Well that’s the “mandingo-cuckold” stereotype. I’ll also add a little bit more trivia to, concerning the marginalization of the black man and the big black dick. Centuries ago, european scientists equates penis size with one’s level within the hierarchy of human civilization, and European men with smaller penises were consideeed the ideal. A black man’s big black penis was poked fun of and used as scientific “proof” that he is primitive, and sub-human. The fetishizing of black men dates farther than you realize

Well in this forum a black life doesn’t matter, only his “big black mandingo” dick does. There are people on this site who won’t: 1.) rent to a black male tenant 2.) hire him for a job 3.) vote of his innocence in a jury 4.) be friend him But will “order” him and exploit his assumed “animalistic” sexual prowess, and suck and sit on his big black dick. And will confirm to himself that because he has swallowed the semen of a black man, that he therefore isn’t a racist. Lol

Scroll up to my original post please ??

“Thanks for that black lives matter 101”, was the specific quote of passive-aggressive, dismissive sarcasm. 1.) blacklivesmatter wasn’t referenced here at all. There was no need for him to reference it here. 2.) other posters explained to this dude why the term “Mandingo”, is a negative term used to describe black men, and he, in turn, responded by using another point of reference that’s a sensitive issue to many black people as well. It was purposefully sarcastic, and to say that you didn’t see any sarcasm in it, is yet another form of flippant behavior and the nonchalant mindset that’s so offensive to others.

You excuse yourself for your ignorance (one step forward) all while making a sarcastic dig at black lives matter(two steps back).... You’re a real class act... ?

No prob. I don’t think the OP meant any offense with using the term “mandingo“. I’m truly starting to believe that porn influences and perpetuates stereotypes and old archaic exploitative archetypes of various ethnicities. This is why I’m soooooo happy with the “Noir Male” films.... because black guys aren’t depicted as “thugs”, “rappers”, “pimps”, or “mandingos”....

https://medium.com/@suzanejardim/reconhecendo-esteriótipos-racistas-internacionais-b00f80861fc9 When we know better, we do better ?

If you want details on my bad experience, let me know. https://rentmasseur.com/UniqueEuroLatin

Amen!!! When joining any gym, I always suggest, if possible (and if you like it), getting free classes like a Pilates reformer class in place of the personal trainers. The PTs who are usually pre-assigned new members are usually newer, inexperienced, or trainers who don’t have much of a clientele. The top trainers are too booked to entertain new members.

Sheesh, No one has tried this guy yet?

Awesome invention!!! Unfortunately, this could possibly deter more people from using condoms altogether. A lot of casual sex is based on dishonesty (or at least lack of full disclosure or concern the the health of their partners). I sincerely hope that the opposite happens and more people will use the condoms for their own awareness as well. More people can get treated for STDs, and the infection rates (which are currently on the rise), can decrease.

monarchy you really know how to hit the nail on the head Thanks, I think it’s because I’m an extremely pensive, analytical person, who rarely has the opportunity to outwardly Express my thought on such topics. ☺️☺️

A true alpha male isn’t “macho”. I think that’s where things get murky. A true alpha male is relaxed and comfortable in his masculinity and doesn’t flaunt it or over exert it. He is confident in who he is. In my opinion any man who is aggressively “macho”, and tried entirely too hard to prove his worth as a “man”, is just as annoying as an overly gem guy who has exaggerated mannerisms, behaviors and ways of speaking. Both are “too much”.

Thanks ??, I can agree with that. ☺️

With all of that said, I will say that I am very attracted to a “masculine dandy”, the type of guys who has organically masculine and feminine traits, and can attract and bewilder both men and women of all. sexual orientations. Kinda hard to describe what I mean, but it does exist.

Great points made in this interesting discussion. I think that a lot of times, people tend to define one’s irritation with “effeminate”, “catty”, extreme behavior as homophobic, but thanks to @gymowner’s comment stating that women don’t even act this way, it finally daunted in me what I would consider it: TOXIC FEMININITY. For me, I realized this once I was in my gym locker room and two gay guys were talking in the language that was just discussed. A lot of “yass bitch”, “gurl”, and other things. And when I think about it, it is somewhat toxic, and here’s why: 1.) just as toxic masculinity places a smear over the true characteristics of what makes a man alluring and respectable, toxic femininity almost disrespects women, and turns the image of femininity into a caricature, almost a mockery. 2.) it’s behaviors doesn’t develop or enhance any charater traits at all, just as toxic masculinity doesn’t. 3.) toxic femininity creates unrealistic standards of behaviors, and perpetuates stereotypes of gay men, just as toxic masculinity goes for straight men. 4.) As a lifestyle where we are supposed to be welcoming and inclusive, toxic femininity is actually polarizing, as it baffles, turns off and offends so many people. It actually works in direct opposition with what society is supposed to be moving towards with LGBTQ Acceptance. 5.) It never seems natural or authentic. I truly believe that guys who behave to this extreme aren’t behaving “organically”. It’s entirely too much.