Monarchy79

I have to tell ya, for being one of the archetypes of “hottness”, from reading your posts, you are one of the most grounded, self-aware, humbled, guys on this site. The antithesis of the shallow bulllshit that plagues this lifestyle. Keep up the good work. ☺️??

Also, I think he has a rentmen ad, so he probably provides massage services, as well as “personal” services. So the rates would be different

No need to worry about catfishing. He’s real. I’ve had massages by him about 5 times, years ago. I’ll PM you

I do the towel-in-the-buttcrack-drying routine too!! Go figure!!

There isn’t a link provided because the OP doesn’t want his experience to possibly give the masseur a bad reputation, especially some parts of the experience aren’t 100% confirmed, and are based on his beliefs and not concrete facts as we don’t know why the masseur behaves in the manner that he did.

There isn’t a link provided because the OP doesn’t want his experience to possibly give the masseur a bad reputation, especially some parts of the experience aren’t 100% confirmed, and are based on his beliefs and not concrete facts as we don’t know why the masseur behaves in the manner that he did.

I’ll also add that that young guy was probably never taught proper thorough hygiene habits. Many men aren’t, both straight and gay, and it affects their sex lives and they don’t even realize it.

I’ll also add that that young guy was probably never taught proper thorough hygiene habits. Many men aren’t, both straight and gay, and it affects their sex lives and they don’t even realize it.

Great Discussion Topic!!! My pre-massage shower routine is as follows: If I have an appointment after work: 1.) gym workout 2.) pre-sauna shower 3.) steam/sauna 4.) thorough shower, which consists of A. First round with soap (like an Irish spring, safeguard, etc.) B. Second round is the body scrub in the shower dispensers and my shower gel The whole routine leaves no area untouched... face, behind the ears, arms, legs, chest, shoulders, torso, back, in between the toes, and of course extra attention to the nether-regions... to add on.. these are two musts for me 1.) a washcloth... soaping up a washcloth really helps remove dead skin cells and build suds, nothing like it.... and 2.) an inch of a soapy finger up the butt... yes, I make sure there’s absolutely no residue of anything back there. From this routine of squeaky cleanliness and scrubbing, it has been always a bonus for YMMV with getting massages (even in places that’s strictly professional and “therapeutic”, and even my personal life .... people will lick every nook and cranny of your body, when they realize that you are impeccably groomed and clean.... and because so many guys are lacking in the hygiene department, masseurs are usually pleasantly relieved, when they massage those buns, spread them cheeks and there’s nothing but freshness... ?

Great Discussion Topic!!! My pre-massage shower routine is as follows: If I have an appointment after work: 1.) gym workout 2.) pre-sauna shower 3.) steam/sauna 4.) thorough shower, which consists of A. First round with soap (like an Irish spring, safeguard, etc.) B. Second round is the body scrub in the shower dispensers and my shower gel The whole routine leaves no area untouched... face, behind the ears, arms, legs, chest, shoulders, torso, back, in between the toes, and of course extra attention to the nether-regions... to add on.. these are two musts for me 1.) a washcloth... soaping up a washcloth really helps remove dead skin cells and build suds, nothing like it.... and 2.) an inch of a soapy finger up the butt... yes, I make sure there’s absolutely no residue of anything back there. From this routine of squeaky cleanliness and scrubbing, it has been always a bonus for YMMV with getting massages (even in places that’s strictly professional and “therapeutic”, and even my personal life .... people will lick every nook and cranny of your body, when they realize that you are impeccably groomed and clean.... and because so many guys are lacking in the hygiene department, masseurs are usually pleasantly relieved, when they massage those buns, spread them cheeks and there’s nothing but freshness... ?

Regardless of the reasons, I find it admirable for an escort to turn a potential client down. It’s better than taking a client’s money, with no intent on providing good services.

A poster said this about escorts: “ Not only are they men who have sex with men, but many of them engage in high risk behaviors like partying, condomless sex, and a high number of different people.” Ironically I find this statement true about a lot of gay men who have lots of sex, free of charge.... take a look at any app or dating site and you’ll see for yourself. What’s ironic is that sex workers probably take heed to testing and treatment far more than your average joe who’s just whoring around for free. More men overall need more testing period.

I actually commend the guy for regular testing, regardless of his sex activity. STI’s and HIV aren’t necessarily “time stamped” and symptoms of either could show far after the sexual activity that transmitted an infection to you occurred.

Providing a link to the masseurs MF or RM profile wouldn’t be considered a review.....

Sidebar: Shame on many of you guys for judging the OP.... hipocrites galore. I find it funny how he can be judged for being married and having escorts on the side, but many of you are in these new-age open marriages and open relationships your damned selves.... Lots of stones being thrown from glass houses.

Another option of a solution for this is to act needy, clingy and “in love”... that will have them running away as soon as the sessions are over. Guys are wired in a weird way. Show them interest and they’ll squirm away like feral cats.. show them indifference and they’ll chase you into Infiniti. Most escorts are used to being worshipped, and fulfilling needs of companionship to their clients. They are used to feeling needed and validating their Johns. By you not having that type of interest intrigues them and makes them want you more. Let them believe you are looking for that BFE, and once they are done, they will accept their payment and leave.

No advice needed ☺️??. Continue doing your thing, and by no means have any discussions with the escorts, explaining how you feel. It seems like the connection they appear to have with you is what makes the experience pleasurable for both of you.... I’m sure you don’t want to ruin that vibe. Just make sure they have no way of contacting you when you’re not seeking their services.

Very useful information!!! I’m no doctor, but I’d recommend continuing daily doses of that medication, unless you are a 100% condom user.

Your post just reminded me to add “guys who are sarcastic smart asses” to this list as well.... ???

My list wasn’t rated in any type of order or preference. And I agree with you, romance is dead. There’s nothing romantic about scrolling through an app, looking at pics of guys like you’re looking at a dollar menu at McDonalds. There’s nothing like finding an immediate attraction to someone in-person. The way they walk, their body language, the way they smell, the meta-physical energy. Apps and websites don’t provide that, which is why there are so many dating and hook up fails from sites and apps.

Although I haven’t been to a place like this (in the United States), in over 10 years, I will say that the “online” options aren’t that great. The in-person options are easier and have less issues as online, such as: 1.) catfishes 2.) flaky-indecisive people 3.) people who over-chat 4.) Serial Killers There is more to attraction than what one visually sees on a screen. Whether it’s a bathhouse, bar, club, gym sauna, alley, or library, in-person interactions always work best, and provide a higher level of authenticity.

He’s highly sexual. He wouldn’t escort. He’d do it for free!

My former friend was absolutely crazy. But his insanity was masked with good looks, a charming, charismatic personality, and a form of sociopathic narcissism beyond belief. He had an extreme talent of taping into people’s weaknesses and insecurities, making them feel safe and validated, and then manipulates them into being basically devoted followers (like a cult), his fiancée, and his friends all fall into his world where everything he does wrong rationalized, everything he says is gospel and everything he believes is agreed with. He controls everything. He’s also very generous, and people who are in need, also fall into his control as well. When I was friends with him, I thought I was losIng my mind. And we kept clashing because I wouldn’t “conform”. At first, I thought I missed his friendship, but what I missed was an idea of what I wanted our friendship to be. Now, close to a year and a half of no contact, I’m relieved and I can tell the crazy stories of what I witnessed in this dude's crazy world and laugh at it.

Lmao!!!! ????

And another thing.... in many cases having a BF is overrated too. You never know what goes on behind the scenes in the perfectly-crafted “relationships.” A former friend of mine just got engaged and everyone is gushing over it (the ring Is Fabulous) but what they don’t know is: 1.) They have a one-sided open relationship (he can sleep with whomever he wants, but his fiancée must get authorization from him to play around, otherwise , it’s considered cheating ) 2.) He has ADHD , and an auto-immune disease that requires constant treatment and random times in the hospital. In addition to that, he takes numerous random medications for both. (He disclosed this long into the relationship, after he reeled him in) 3.) Although the fiancée is highly educated and had a good career, he’s close to $100k in student loan debt and has a 500 credit score 4.) my former friend is also an insomniac, but demands they share the bed nightly, so while the other one is trying to sleep, he’s up all night with the TV on. This will be a marriage of limited rest. 5.) Group sex with his friends is also a requirement. Oh, and he’s “allergic” to condoms and takes PrEP in “cycles” (which I question its efficacy), which puts him and the fiancée at risk of numerous health conditions. But their wedding will be fabulous, and their social media profiles are awesome, and depict a picture perfect relationship. My point is, take your life as it is and appreciate the beauty and value in it. And make it what you want it to be. It takes a daily practice of affirmation to reprogram your thinking.