Monarchy79

Unfortunately, your comment did not age too well. 😳

Independent masseurs absorb 100% of their rates, and usually scale their rates to bake in gratuity. Although they may be flattered by the tipping, I don’t believe they are bothered if they’re not. Making an average of $180 an hour isn’t a bad deal at all.

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I’m Sooooo glad you made this point. I remember decades ago, feeling empathy for an unattractive man (and I’m not picky…. This dude looked like Danny DeVito as “The Penguin”) who had the hots for me (and was very persistent about it). He even tricked me into a dinner date (long story). That was my last straw. After dinner was over, he tried to get me to come over to his place to basically offer him a mercy fuck. That’s when I told him I have no interest or attraction to him and put my cash on the table and went home. I learned a long time ago to never feel pity for any man, as all men are the same in their pathology. A “hot” guy and an “ugly” guy are the same.. just as shallow, and they both want the same thing. They are just on different spectrums of the beauty scale, so one can get what he wants easier. Trolls know they are trolls and will do what they feel they have to do to get what they want: -They catfish online and on the apps intentionally, hoping that their casted net will catch the proper bait who will just give in at 3 in the morning, because he’s so horny. And guess what? It works!! Many guys will confess being either inebriated, and horny and at least lest some busted catfish suck his dick, knowing he was tricked. -It’s no accident that this person has followed you into the gym steam room. He’s been lurking and watching you through your entire workout, and knows that the other guy you actually ARE attracted to is following you and is cruising you. He’s going to sit himself in that steam room to block your action, or with the hopes that one of you will flash the goods and let him watch you two go at it. -The lame at the bar knows he’s lame and has approached guys weekly, hoping someone will be nice enough ( and drunk enough) to cave in and entertain him. Don’t you be the fool to cave in. -The pest at the cruising park/bathhouse/glory hole center who spies on everyone (and stares at people in action, like a socially inept idiot), kills the vibe and says to himself “well this is a public place, so no one can tell me not to watch them ”, actually understands cruising etiquette, as well as the non-verbal queues that people are giving him. He doesn’t care that he’s irritating people. He knows he can’t get any action on his own, so he’s going to infringe on yours to get his rocks off. Call him out on it, and don’t give him the satisfaction. Be empathetic to others, but never feel or show pity. Everyone has their own hand they’ve been dealt. But don’t let them bluff YOU and play YOU, so that they can get a quick WIN!!!

1.) Get on PrEP 2.) STICK with the condoms too. Sex partners lie about the health habits and statuses, and there’s too many STD’s flying around to even take the risk. Since you’ve been a condom user all these years, don’t even bother changing that experience and then permanently craving bareback. Although others say that PrEP and the Doxy options are effective (they are definitely effective) the body needs a chance to be free from daily medications at some point. Condoms help in giving that break. To make another point, condoms provide a level of cleanliness to sex as well, as (when you’re topping, condoms provide an effective barrier, preventing fecal matter (and other bacteria ) from getting into your penis and urethra.

In my city (DC), Sniffies is most effective for orgies, cum dumps, and party & play Tina junkies (the skanky stuff). The moment I would log on, the map just explodes with buttcracks and dicks all over the screen… it also has tons of cruising spots (some historic, and others that people have created).I realized that if I step out at night just about anywhere with a bush or a corner, there a possibility of some action. Thanks to Sniffies, I literally got two convenient BJs in the middle of the night within a four block radius from where I live this past summer. It’s so much open action for free on that app, the last thing I’d even think about is hiring anyone from there .

YOU WIN!!! …. And im done!!!! 😂😂😂😎

I actually got more attention. Women were very flirtatious, and men would do very questionable things under the influence of alcohol….etc. My clubbing days (the late 90/s-early 2000s) was the last era of the big nightclub in most cities. They were fun. I did it all: Raves, Goth, House, Urban, Gay, Straight, and even the multi-cultural clubs.

It’s not awful. It’s just the nature of nightlife as time has progressed. You know the saying “nothing good happens after midnight?” Well there you have it. The key is to enjoy yourself in that younger club phase and build memories with great friends (while avoiding these little pitfalls). NOTE: These archetypes are even worse in straight nightclubs.

I fully agree with you again. I just believe that apps bring out who people really are. Because they are hiding behind a screen, they lose all aspects of “acting” that’s required to be executed in person.

I’m in agreement with you. There is a “beauty” standard that changes throughout each decade or generation.

Excellent point. I’m glad you referenced the “Daddy”. As I believe that the emergence of that Daddy was the perfect antithesis to the ageism that plagues our community. However, when that shift occurred, tipping the scales of “top-tier” attractiveness, the same thing happened… many of those “hot daddies” became the same mean girls that they previously detested. It’s the cycle of social life…Whomever is on the top of the food chain is going to wreak havoc. It’s only when they age out of their throne that they’ll be humbled and change their way of thinking. -The young twink loses his youth and ages out. -The Daddy become “grandpa”. -The “body girl”, body DROPS its all part of the cycle.

Please note that my posting stated “twink” or “body gurl” to cover both spectrums of the “physique scale”. I also want to note that the term and definition of a twink dates back as far as at least the 1960s.

In the discussions of oral hygiene, it’s first important to maintain proper practices to ensure the health of your teeth & gums BEFORE oral sex is even involved…. Brush after every meal…. Floss daily (daily flossing stimulates the gums, strengthens them, resulting in LESS bleeding (note: At this point, my gums don’t bleed during deep cleanings..) and use a mouthwash… mouthwash at the least helps rinse debris out of the mouth. mouthwash, hydrogen peroxide and tea-tree infused coconut oil mouth rinse (for oil pulling) is in my bathroom cabinet. At least one of them are used within a day. Once you reach the point of kissing, sucking and licking on others, at the least have a clean, healthy mouth. This way, a gargle after oral action can at least ensure that you’re not walking around with dick, ball and ass breath…. I’m not going to get into “scientific” studies, but I’ll say this: when I first came in the game I’m at 18, one of the first guys I ever met who became a good friend and early mentor always told me to gargle with hydrogen peroxide after any oral action. I’ve never had an oral infection or STD. A lot of men have poor oral hygiene to begin with, which is why their yuck mouths have issues before they even suck on a schlong.

Perfect description!!! Every archetype (reflective of the underbelly of gay society )is at your gay bar: -The sexual predator who’s slipping drugs in people’s drinks. -The cockblocker -The socially inept guy -The stinky dude (breath & B.O.) -The STD spreader -The obnoxious “hot mess” Navigating through all of these clowns is just the first layer of digging your way through the bar before you even find someone halfway attractive enough to even approach. Then comes the nuances associated with being a good “pick up” artist. 😂

Personally, I find using the the topic of gay men and manners/ettiquette to be hilarious… Gay men haven’t used proper social etiquette since the days of Oscar Wilde, and even he was shady… 😂😂😂

Our culture is not more “coarse” than it’s been before. The cycle of where you stand in this social paradigm changes. When the changes come, many guys go from being the “rejector”, to the “rejectee”. This is when the “A-list” twink (Or a “body gurl” ) was an ultra-bitch in his prime, he thought nothing of it. He’d laugh at and reject (with pride and vigor), the old, the fat, and the “unattractive”…And he’d get a kick out of humiliating them. It’s when he’s aged out of desirability, and the new crop of “A-List” twinks reject him, and make it clear that he “can’t sit with them”. That he suddenly has a moral ground of decency towards mankind and how people should be “respectfully”acknowledged.

Ummm…. I’ve seen many of instances in bars & clubs where some naive guy approached a dude and the dude either directly turned his back to him, or flat out ignored him, in public… in front of everyone. Although apps and social media give more room for poor social behavior, don’t think that people aren’t just as nasty and vile in person. The reason why so many guys like apps is because it protects them from much of the in-person humiliation of rejection that can take place in person. Being blocked or ghosted is far easier to one’s ego/self-esteem than being flat out rejected in-person.

Stop caring about what people you don’t know think and feel about you. There are millions of guys in hook up apps… if there are those who ignore your messages, who cares?

This situation is very simple. You’re making it far more complicated…. 1.) Escorts are paid professionals . They have the general expectation NOT to be attracted to their clients. 2.) Hook up apps are for “free”, non-transactional encounters (unless the individual states they are “working.”) Escorts have lives outside of work and may be on a hookup site for their own “non transactional” entertainment. When you saw the potential hire on Grindr, you simply “rolled the dice”, hoping that you’d get a free encounter with this guy. As he’s not “working”, his attraction to you became a relevant factor in your communications because he’s now seeking a hookup to HIS satisfaction. From this lost gamble, you now know he isn’t remotely attracted to you, and you’re now leery of hiring him as there is no longer a myth or illusion you can hide behind on your desirability. You BOTH will be clear that if you hire him, he’s performing a task, that’s it and that’s all. The fact that you have this hard truth will kill the vibe if you ever hire him. Move on, consider this a lesson learned and make sure not to contact potential hires on hookup sites, unless you’re prepared for unfiltered truths.

One of my favorite masseurs left DC this year too. I’m truly sad about it.

Why be on Grindr at all if you expect to not get favorable outcomes from it?

And a lack of social ineptitude.

Marijuana isn’t the “star” of the show when it comes to PNP, “Tina” Turner is… Alcohol, Marijuana, Cocaine, Ecstasy, Ketamine, and others are either background singers or part of the band….. In a nutshell, Crystal Meth is the drug that’s the “P” in PNP, yet most party junkies like a variety, so the other drugs may be present…

Facts. And guys who are “ growers”, especially hate nude environments. There has been an extreme obsession with penis size that has gotten to a point where it crosses sexual orientation. Go to a gym and change clothes and strip bare and you’ll find many men of all background either staring are your dick, or intentionally flashing theirs. I’ll admit that I’m one of those “towel” guys that nudists seem to hate. However, for a week, I decided to let it all out…. Strip down after my workout, throw the towel over my shoulder and walk to the shower butterball naked. This guy whose locker was always near mine, literally started at my dick the entire time. And the whole vibe he gave was “Finally!! I finally got to see your dick!!” it was cringey as hell. Oh, and now he strikes up a conversation with me every time he sees me. People would be more comfortable naked, if others had more social grace and didn’t ogle and stare at others so aggressively.