Antonio1981

No one identified as gay in my chapter but it was pretty clear (thanks to Gaydar) who actually was. One guy was discovered because he ended up with nude layouts in Blueboy, Men and some other gay magazines. I ran into a few brothers at gay clubs after graduation. This was in the early 90’s. 

Not at all.  I've always enjoyed them and if I end up being the butt of their jokes no big deal.  Far too many people in our current society have become overly sensitive about nearly everything

I also wonder how they're going to explain their choice to reduce the sizes of their clothes to keep out of shape people from wearing their brand.

This thread brings back many wonderful memories.  It all seems like yesterday yet when I add up the years it is actually nearly 60 years ago.  Damn time flies.

That's actually a great question.  "Wealth" is not always about money.  You leave the world the same way you came into it...  without any sort of worldly possessions.  Now what you CAN leave with is love and respect.  Those are two things Daddy had in spades.  So he left this world very wealthy in what really mattered. 
Many businessmen when they leave are not able to say that they've touched the lives of thousands of people around the world.  They cannot say that thousands of people loved him dearly and miss him no longer being here.  That was absolutely not the case for Daddy.
As a result... I'll always remember him as wealthy.  

My parents were in their early 40s when my brother was born. Our mom lived 50 .more years. Our dad lived only 10 more years
 
My brother has never gotten over our dad's very sudden death from a heart attack.
 
So I have mixed feelings about this discussion

Yes, I do get all of Matt’s emails for both LA and NYC. I really do hope that fubar reopens. It’s odd that no one has taken over the space and it still has the Fubar name on the awning. A lot of fun and action in that little place. Not sure where all the other promoters moved their parties too

Thanks for following up. Right now, I would say that I’m taking things one day at a time and not piling on anymore commitments. My plate is full and I’m trying to figure out a path forward. I appreciate all the advice and letting it all digest at the moment. 

For me, it’s hard to turn someone down. I usually just prioritize the few guys I‘m interested in and send out a query to my first choice. If he responds in a timely manner (i usually give 8 hours) and our schedules align, then i‘d go for it. I hate to send queries to multiple guys and turn down the others that respond as well. It becomes too much juggling… unless, I were to meet the other guys for another date in the week…. But again, it’s a lot of juggling and I like to keep things simple. 

It's hard to believe it has been a year since we last heard from @Guy Fawkes.  On February 19, 2021... Daddy posted a simple message on the review site noting that he had a cold.  

He managed to hold on and fight for a little over a month before finally losing his battle.  
There is a more formal tribute planned for the one year memorial... but in the mean time, it did not feel right to not take a moment and remember someone who had devoted so much of his life to helping the site and it's members.  
Here's to hoping he's holding court somewhere in the sky and looking down at us watching what he built continue to live on.  I pray he was able to find peace and that hope that we have made him proud of what we've been able to accomplish despite not having him around any longer.   
“The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one” – Seneca
 
 
 

They usually have a live sex show between some of the dancers or they have pornstars perform. The guys are also less inhibited because there aren't women around and after some time(usually around midnight) they turn down the lights and the guys will walk around the crowd with just a small piece of fabric around their waist with their erect penises and you can do *stuff* to them in front of people. 

After working for my now-former employer for 18.5 years, in July 2021 my role ended as a result of a reorganization. I received a generous severance package and at 57 was able to take my retirement benefits. They aren't enough to live on, but they are certainly a plus. My package included nine months of outplacement, including the services of an executive coach. She has been very helpful, and I would encourage you to hire one who has experience with people in your profession and age bracket.
You've mentioned being 58 and having 35 years at the same company a few times. You've also mentioned the number of people who report to you and the number of them who are managers. Do yourself a favor if and think beyond age, longevity, and number of reports. Instead, think in terms of the skills you bring to an employer. Managing a 230-member team with 20 leaders is irrelevant if you are interviewing with a retailer who has ten stores and 100 employees. However, leadership, communication, and interpersonal skills plus resiliency will be relevant.
In a different post, you mentioned concerns had been raised about your leadership. I worked for someone I like quite a lot who happens to be 61 or 62. She learned how to be a leader in the 1980's and 1990's and it shows. One day we were chatting, and I just blurted out "1991 called and it wants its management style back." She laughed hysterically and said she was working on it. Given the concerns that were raised about your leadership you might want to ask yourself what decade your leadership style belongs in vs what decade we are in today.  You might also want to ask yourself what steps you can take to address the concerns that were raised.
 

Damn, you have stated the truth in the most factual sense.
I was laid off at age 54 after 28 years in the same industry but only two companies and found that my age, salary and experience was NOT what any modern organization desired. I had to completely re-invent myself at age 54 after two years of answering hundreds of job postings. I survived only because I was in good financial health when laid off (downsized) and made major changes to my life. I had to sell my home and used the proceeds to pay cash for a smaller ranch style home that is actually a good fit for me and the dog. I ended up in a job making less than 1/3 of my previous salary and currently still in that job but have received promotions and salary raises that have made life better. My salary is now about 65% of my career salary. So, age 64 is around the corner and I am counting the days to retirement and hope that my retirement will be comfortable as I have SSI and two pensions that will become available on that magic 65th birthday. 
Wow, I think I really went down a different road, but I have been needing to tell my story. Before you make any moves consider my experience. One thing that really did hurt after being downsized at age 52 was the length of time it took for me to stop financially sinking and the fact that I could not afford to do any traveling for the last 10 years. Travel still is not much of an option as money is tight, but I can make a few small trips but not to any of the places I have dreamed of my entire life. 

One of the greatest operating costs to a company is Labor… while companies have an appreciation for reliable labor and employees, at some point they don’t want to pay for them. It’s better to groom them slowly and keep only a few at the top who are getting those crème de la crème wages and control the direction of the company. 
 A Company will pay some higher wages to experienced employees but, hope to buy them off with vacation time, some benefits and maybe some bonuses… Otherwise, it’s to the companies benefit to rotate out employees so that have newer ones coming in that they can pay lower wages to and give fewer benefits to. Lately I see people getting risky stock options~ (usually Pharma companies and start ups). If you’re only planning 6 to 12 years or so before retiring, stock options may or may not be  a good deal.
  I worked for a corporation for a number of years. It was very much that way. Grow, expand, weed the garden, repeat… always a new crop of faces though they keep a few dedicated before giving them forced early retirement. (Not always). The higher you go, the more moves sideways and the greater demand of time and effort for that salaried bit~ There’s a bit of fight on your part and lots of patience.
 My career experience in medicine and research was different. The wages are more consistent throughout your career… if not predictable~ 
 Had I stayed in Wisconsin and continued working for Milwaukee County Park System, I’d have retired years ago with a fantastic pension. 
 The older County jobs really were a good deal back in the day if you got in young~ I started there when I was 16yrs old~ By 24yrs old I was up for being a park supervisor with a bump up to district and regional manager shortly there after, (especially with university training). I could have left after 30 Yrs or stayed on for awhile to build up a bit more retirement~ (all prior to Scott Walker). Instead, I moved to the west coast in 1990 to continue my career in academia and medicine/research… Then left that in 1998 to Escort~ Those were that two best decisions I have ever made in my life~ 
 The modern trend is to cut costs not increase financial liability and labor is a liability: benefits, sick pay, holiday pay, bonuses, continued education/training, workman’s comp, general business insurance… etc~ 
 I know a number of people who worked for companies their entire life and towards the end, got the “golden boot”: a watch and early retirement or choice of decreased wages or decreased work hours~ Saw that a lot around 2000 and forward. 
 There’s a fine line between age discrimination and what’s financially wise for a company: ie. Keep labor costs down. It’s cheaper to hire someone with less experience, more energy and who may have a goal for higher wages but, hasn’t yet achieved that. They can keep you and groom you, or subtly force you to move on via boredom or negative pressure~ 
 You could go a tier higher in your field and then plan for retirement in a few years… a company will know that’s part of the deal upon hiring you~ 
 Whatever you pursue/decide, I hope that it brings you the greatest satisfaction and happiness now and in the long run~ 
 
 

A friend did well when re-entering the job market at 66 years old.

That ass is still as good as new. I saw him a few weeks ago walking down the street in Sunset Boulevard in tight gym pants and it still looked spectacular. 

As a guy who falls more on the side of "fit" than "fat" but is absolutely not a muscle queen I have been amazed at how aggressively "fat" guys have pursued me. When turned off by their approach rather than their bodies, they are unable to see anything beyond body type/size and accuse me of hating fat guys. But all of my relationships have been with bigger guys. None of theirs have. I don't dislike you because you are fat, I dislike you because you are obnoxious and self-pitying and feel entitled to treat me like shit because I'm "skinny".

100% THIS.

In the office like in many other social relations perception is more important than reality. Good luck to you!

The truth may be somewhere in between. She’s unprofessional and insecure, but she might also see your efforts to go beyond your job description as overreach. If you have a mentor, you might want to seek his counsel on the political battle ahead of you. 

As far as I know, the only options are Amtrak/Amtrak buses, or other bus lines, not a shuttle or anything like that. As others have said, renting a car at LAX for the duration of your stay in SoCal is likely the best option. Other airports in the LA basin may be better options than LAX.
I'm not the best person to ask, as my Qantas options to fly from a west coast port of entry to PSP are competitive, and no more than it would be to other nearby cities in the west/mountains (typically AUD100 each way on top of my trans-Pacific fare). For internal US travellers, just sucking up the higher airfares into PSP that I know US carriers have, and using Uber/taxis in Palm Springs may be a reasonable option.

Thanks for following up. Right now, I would say that I’m taking things one day at a time and not piling on anymore commitments. My plate is full and I’m trying to figure out a path forward. I appreciate all the advice and letting it all digest at the moment. 

Thanks for following up. Right now, I would say that I’m taking things one day at a time and not piling on anymore commitments. My plate is full and I’m trying to figure out a path forward. I appreciate all the advice and letting it all digest at the moment. 

Thanks for following up. Right now, I would say that I’m taking things one day at a time and not piling on anymore commitments. My plate is full and I’m trying to figure out a path forward. I appreciate all the advice and letting it all digest at the moment. 

Thanks for following up. Right now, I would say that I’m taking things one day at a time and not piling on anymore commitments. My plate is full and I’m trying to figure out a path forward. I appreciate all the advice and letting it all digest at the moment.