socurious

I agree.  Jesus was Middle Eastern.  😆

Sorry that happened to you, I’ve been there. 

some things you can do to minimize losses:
- like @Vin_Marco said, cancel a trip day of / day before if you don’t have a number of confirmed appointments.
Granted not all of us look like Vin and won’t always get flown out, but I know I’ll cancel a trip if I don’t have at least 3 confirmed appointments. That way I’m only out a night hotel stay at most. 
 
- work in cities where you can slightly stand out. As a black male from Texas, I don’t do well in Houston and San Antonio, and do great in austin and dallas. 
 
anyway, that’s how I’ve learned how to minimize some losses when I’ve run into the same issue 

at least you're in debt in Canadian dollars

I spent 3 days in Montreal and couldn't book anything. The three "clients" I talked to before traveling there were all flakes. People in Quebec don't seem to be into hiring escorts it seems. They thought my prices were too high. Most wanted to pay the equivalent to 120-150 American dollars when I was charging 250. Also, so many flakes stealing my energy and time to fulfill their fantasy sexting me. It's becoming annoying. At the end I couldn't even cover my spendings in Canadá during my trip. Now I'm in debt. 

I spent 3 days in Montreal and couldn't book anything. The three "clients" I talked to before traveling there were all flakes. People in Quebec don't seem to be into hiring escorts it seems. They thought my prices were too high. Most wanted to pay the equivalent to 120-150 American dollars when I was charging 250. Also, so many flakes stealing my energy and time to fulfill their fantasy sexting me. It's becoming annoying. At the end I couldn't even cover my spendings in Canadá during my trip. Now I'm in debt. 

He is not Hispanic. Jesus. 

I spent 3 days in Montreal and couldn't book anything. The three "clients" I talked to before traveling there were all flakes. People in Quebec don't seem to be into hiring escorts it seems. They thought my prices were too high. Most wanted to pay the equivalent to 120-150 American dollars when I was charging 250. Also, so many flakes stealing my energy and time to fulfill their fantasy sexting me. It's becoming annoying. At the end I couldn't even cover my spendings in Canadá during my trip. Now I'm in debt. 

Fakedlo

Everyone is busy with family visiting for the high holy days.

Two things are happening. 
1) school is back in session. Your teachers (or people with kids) have less time to hire. Their weekends may be strained too. 
 
2) inflation and economic uncertainty. With inflation being high, people are starting to pull back on luxury services - do I really need to see that provider?
Usually I say things slow down in the summer and pick up in fall before the holidays, but there’s a general uncertainty about EVERYTHING in the economy right now. No one knows if rates will continue to rise, or if the fed will drop them. No one knows if we are headed towards a recession. No one knows if mass layoffs will happen. No one knows anything and they’re holding on to their money right now. 

Thanks man. 

@socurious welcome to the provider world! We deal with so much bullshit and flaky people on a daily basis. It takes a while to adjust to it and sift through the endless inquiries. That’s part of the job and something clients don’t often appreciate about what we do and how much time we spend (and waste) NOT working on clients but dealing with nonsense. We spend triple the time or more dealing with people who don’t book or follow through. Rude, disrespectful, time wasters, etc. It’s all par for the course. It’s normal. Frustrating, yes. But normal. And unavoidable, to some extent.
I agree with many of the previous comments. Prospective clients demanding lots of unpaid time on the phone or text are a big red flag. Never give a client an hour of your time for free. Repeated previously answered questions are also a red flag, as are requests for more photos when you have a good variety of them already posted, including nudes.
Read the signs and be skeptical. If a client seems high maintenance, unreasonable, stupid, a liar, lazy, delusional, overly paranoid, or entitled, don’t see them. Don’t see clients who behave suspiciously. Better to lose one legit client exhibiting suspect behavior than waste your time on twenty more unserious clients exhibiting the same types of behaviors. Filter, filter, filter.
Take heart. You will get better in time. When in doubt, listen to your gut.
Deposits are one tool to help cut down on the nonsense. It won’t eliminate all of it, but reduce it. There’s a trade off though: you lose a significant amount of business from legit clients who would rather die a slow, agonizing death then send a deposit. You will read their comments aplenty on these forums. There are plenty of clients who have no problems sending a deposit, but they are far fewer. You also will hear providers here pontificate about the necessity for deposits for any client, for any situation, no matter what. That’s just not true, but it works well for some providers. It’s a personal choice. Do whatever works for your business model.
There is no right answer regarding deposits. Personally, I choose not to require deposits. I vet my clients through various means and maintain a very wide potential client base that way. I continue to develop a thicker skin with each passing year. I no longer get so bothered by the odd flaky client, no-show, or other problem client. I accept that no matter how much I do to prevent this stuff it still will happen. Even when you require deposits, it still happens at times. All I can do is reduce the amount of bad clients with my vetting procedures.
Over time you learn and get better at keeping out the riff raff. Experience teaches you how to maximize your time and how to let things go. Having boundaries and sticking to them also helps. People are people. They do all kinds of stupid stuff. There’s no changing that part of the business or human nature. It is what it is. The best you can do is make the most of what you CAN control, which is how you choose to respond, how much you let it get to you, and what business decisions you make to improve your outcomes. Focus on what you CAN control, act on those, accept and let go of the things you can’t control.

In most European countries prostitution is legal and in those where it's not fully legal cops won't bother dealing with it. (A few exceptions to the last part of the sentence in Russia and other more extreme countries)
As we all know things that are legal are cheaper than illegal ones!
This is why the OP @socurious ask specifically about American cities!

Certainly don’t spend an hour talking with a client about the session. That’s 100% sign of a time waster. If they ask for pics that’s also a big red flag, especially if you have pics on your advert. If you don’t have a professional set up, by which I mean a website with decent pics, maybe a video, lots of information, a good advert on the relevant sites (Rentmen, RentMasseur) then you’re more likely to attract clients who see you as someone who can be messed around. 

Have some rules: never discount, no last minute bookings, no extended chat, no sexting, no session less than an hour (it sends the wrong signal to do < 1hour), and remember that even with that approach at least 25% of contacts about sessions never actually result in a booking. People get anxious, change their mind, need ages to decide to go ahead, have other priorities, get busy etc. Some have no intention of ever booking but most I think are just mulling things over. That’s ok with me as long as they do the mulling without taking up too much of my time. 

I don't think the OP was referring to real cancelations - life does happen - but people who are contacting with zero intention of making it to a booking - essentially leading him on with sex talk with the promise of a booking that is never going to eventuate.   

6 hours seems like a very random number for a first encounter. It sounds like a setup of some sort

"It lifts the heart to know that you will be available to be.... "
That's standard flowery scammer language right there! 😃

This is a variation of a very common scam. I get a variation of it about once a month, though it's never been from a woman. It usually mentions a very generous client who is traveling into town, is very specific with dates, etc. Often they say they are representing someone else and wanting to set things up on their behalf. They follow a similar pattern.

It's been gnawing at me since inception. 
I appreciate the correction. 
Pedantics of the world, unite. 

Damn. I just noticed the massive mispelling I did when making this thread. 
WEAR.

Soon after I made this thread the bot asked me to fill out a form to provide my address, name, phone number, etc. I blocked right away. Thanks. 

It’s 99% likely to be a scam. I bet there follows a request for bank details to be supplied for payment. Be highly suspicious.

Seems a little fishy to me. Proceed with caution. If they ask you to provide payment information, personal information, or something else unusual, cut your losses.
It also depends on the platform. If it’s RentMasseur it’s highly unlikely a woman will contact you, although it is possible. Women, in general, are a red flag for me because the vast majority have been scams. I do see women and have had successful meets, so it’s not a problem but something to approach with a great deal of caution.

If you are interested, I escort too. But you know two escorts don't pay each other if they make out. So....