liubit

A long long time ago, I discovered Gordon Merrick and his highly erotic, graphic, sex-charged, almost pornographic, novels. I was a deeply closeted 20 something, and I couldn't believe it. Buying those books was a forbidden pleasure, something like a teenager buying condoms at the local drugstore. I would wait for the store to be clear, rush the purchase, hoping that the clerk would not notice my embarrassment. Oh, the amount of cum I spilled reading those graphic male sex descriptions!

I am sorry, but I am definitely not into the bar and club scene. I haven't been to Escape or Temple in more than a decade, and I don't know about alternative venues. I hire through Romeo.

Personal preference and choice, your's and his.

While I'm not a huge fan of ink...I often like the "story" behind the art. Talking about that "story" has often led to a good connection with the young men, and in more than a few cases some fun (not-escort) good times

Sure, I understand it's his choice for whatever reason. I was just expressing my opinion...

Why the ink, God? Why, why, oh why?

Caveat emptor. Like it is said in another thread, with Bel Ami boys, it is "feast or fast".....

I took the leap and met with a counselor today. While I didn't expect any answers, I didn't expect so many questions. (.....) Some general questions - if you were in a similar situation, could/would you completely give up sex to keep the relationship going? Would it lead to frustration and resentment on your part?

First of all, congratulations on seeking and finding outside counseling. As to your question, a totally sexless relation definitely would lead me to incredible frustration and resentment. In my particular case, although sex in my 15-year-old relationship has gone down to a minimum, it is very much still there and, to compensate, my boyfriend allows me to see escorts whenever I feel the urge, no questions asked. Isn't your partner being overly selfish?

People need sex - that's all there is to it. It's one of the most important things in life. Living without it just isn't a reasonable option.

My opinion on sex vs relationship is that a sexless relationship is no relationship at all.

I couldn't agree more with those two comments. It seems to me that your partner wants to have his cake and eat it too, whatever the reasons are for his forswearing sex altogether.

My partner of 15 years knows that I hire escorts, and I know that he does too. In fact, our most important rule is that "extra curricular" activities can take place with escorts ONLY. Non-commercial hook ups are off limits. Another rule is that we tell each other everything, before and after the deed. The system has worked well for the two of us.

Good luck, @Reluctant Daddy. I hope that whatever you decide works for you.

Sorry to hear about your situation, @Reluctant Daddy. You have received great advice here. Let me share my experience.

I'm wondering whether it would help or further hurt things if your husband knew your weekend companion was an arranged escort companion, rather than a fling or affair through Grindr? Since an escort is booked for a purpose and in theory should be less threatening to a relationship than an affair, some people feel it is preferable. An escort is not likely to try to break up your marriage, whereas someone you're having a fling or affair just might if they get too close. You hire an escort to scratch an itch, and in your situation that itch had not been scratched for seven years.

Very good points. I have been in a relationship myself for 15 years now. Although I am 10 years older than my partner, my sexual appetite is a lot bigger than his, and I do mean a lot. We still have sex occasionally --and it is always magnificent when it happens--, but not nearly as often as I would like, and he actually encourages me to satisfy my hunger somewhere else. The most important rule is that my flings happen ONLY with an escort, precisely for the reasons mentioned by @nate_sf above. Non-commercial hook ups are strictly off limits. Believe me, I take him up on his offer, and I am a frequent hirer. My sweetheart also does it every blue moon or so, and we are both happy campers.

I sincerely hope that your situation takes a turn for the better.

Ridiculous. What about "I play with both femininity and androgyny" ? Well, after all he is only 21, he likes using "biiiig" words.

Definitely agree with @inthepit3 and @marylander1940.

@liubit probably knows the answer.

I am pretty sure Kevin Warhol does not escort, @BabyBoomer and [uSER=12070]@NYClocker[/uSER]. If he did, I would have already made him a regular of mine, believe me! I have asked some Bel Ami boys I have had the privilege to meet, and their answer has always been that Kevin is kind of in a different league, that he is "a superstar". The same, I'm afraid, would apply to Kris Evans, who is in Budapest. Now, I guess that if we could get to George Duroy himself, and if money were no object, maybe, just maybe, we could fulfill the fantasy. Wishful thinking, let's keep on dreaming. :rolleyes:

He is definitely gorgeous and his ad sounds fantastic. Somebody taking one for the team?

Yes, yes, please share, @Chance, please do. We all want to know!

Yummy, @jjkrkwood, just yummy

I'm the exact opposite on this, and find the tattoo adds to his hotness.

Different strokes....He has another big one on his leg. I hate tattoos, but this kid is so damn sexual that I am willing to forget. Not that I will ever get close to him (I live in Prague and I have tried to no avail ), but his videos are great, great, great jack off material.....

Yes! This is the guy who's name I couldn't remember from BelAmi. He is attractive, though I am not crazy about the huge tattoo on the side of his neck.

I find his tattoo absolutely hideous, but the kid is just too damn sexy. His performances on Bel Ami videos are simply scorching hot....

For $500, Kevin Warhol. It would be so worth it in my book!

Kevin Warhol is a true dreamboat....

I get your point but considering now the outcall rate is around 300 (4oo for some pornstars) I'm sure if many of yinz are still alive and hiring in 10 years 500 won't seem as unusual as it is now a days.

You are right. Inflation is what it is.

I have never paid anybody that amount for an hourly session, and I don't think I ever will.

Beautiful boy, beautiful.

When I met him in the lobby of the hotel, I was stunned -- broad shoulders filled out a nicely tailored dark suit and tie, he carried a shapka (fur hat) and nice overcoat (it was -15° F), and those sparkling shoes (and I do not have a foot fetish). This guy was 5'10" and about 190 lbs of pure muscle on a blond god with one of the nicest set of melons squeezed into his pants). But I digress..

Digress, @adriano46, digress, please continue digressing. Pretty please.

No, @latbear4blk, in my book he needs both to shave AND get rid of the tattoos. In other words, he is not for me.

His tattoos are a total no-no.

What is the problem many of you seem to have with sending pics?

I do have a problem, @BaronArtz. I couldn't care less what they think about how I look. It is not that. This is why:

I have a problem because I'm not sure where that pic may end up or how it may be used. I don't need the hassle and embarrassment of appearing on someone's tumblr blog or twitter feed as the sad old man trying to hire a 19 year old. I'm upfront when I contact an escort - my age, the fact that I'm not in shape, and that I'm not an attractive man. I think that should give them enough to help them with their decision.

Exactly my thought. You never know where your pic will end up. Like @greatnorthernp says,

"Some of us who hire are very public figures whose lives would be negatively impacted should the pics be made public."