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To answer the OP’s question: I would never discuss this with a stranger. Indeed, @purplekow I wouldn’t discuss my sexual history and prior dating experience on a first date with anyone. I’m not there to answer a volley of questions. I am interested to learn what interests they have, what motivates them and how they take pleasure in life. I do consider over-sharing to be a modern malaise. For me, the best answer was given earlier by @nycman I too believe in honesty within a relationship and I’ve always made ‘full disclosure’ to my various partners over the years.

On this scale, I’m a 5

Possibly he was wearing just sneakers and a jockstrap? Possibly he was fully clothed but with the addition of custom knee-pads? Possibly he was bare-chested, kneeling and making the acquaintance of another man? The possibilities are endless…

I love a cutie…but I lust for a hottie

No disrespect @Ali Gator but in my view, you’re being too cheap. And the only person who will suffer here is you. You’ve dreamed and thought of this man a lot. Now he’s available and you put obstacles in your own path. I feel you will bitterly regret not taking the glorious opportunity offered to you.

You forgot to state how often you include in your diet some of “all the cute guys” you mentioned earlier…😎

I feel you should shop daily @Luv2play. A heathy body can best be maintained by a varied diet of fresh produce. 😎

I’d like to add ‘my two cents’ for the OP. If your date doesn’t find you attractive @DMonDude - or if you fear that - ask him to focus on the features of Benjamin Franklin that they will soon be fondling. A lot of working guys truly like him, and some even find him readily arousing.

I’ve had similar requests for help and expert advice over the years. If I barely know someone, I tend to smile and give a very brief response. If a person persists, I comment that ‘it’s complicated’ and ‘it’ll take me time to research (or answer) so I’ll have to charge’. That deters most. If someone does insist, I say ‘I’ll have to consult my diary and I’ll need an immediate large retainer’ Once I met a great young man for what was a terrific first date. He’d done a little research on me and at the outset, enthused about my work and asked me various questions as he wanted to make a career in this area. I answered politely but briefly. Then I deflected by saying “ there’s so much to talk about, so let’s talk over coffee afterwards. I want to spend our time together by getting naked and seeing how compatible we are”. I felt then that I’d handled it well. He performed as agreed and we were both happy. He didn’t offer me coffee later and we didn’t discuss his career plan further. It was a great date but no repeat. Other times, people I like and know have asked for help and I’ve obliged. It’s easier with people I know but don’t like: I simply say ‘unfortunately, I have to charge’ and I’ve named a fee of 6-10x what I’d normally charge.

There may be tough days ahead of you @SomethingFun but for what it’s worth, I feel you’ve made the right decision. Now get yourself a good (aka aggressive) lawyer to handle the divorce. In the future, you and he might be friends as @PhileasFogg suggested but give yourself plenty of time and space first. And don’t rush into a second marriage even if you suddenly meet a great-seeming man.

To answer the OP, I’d avoid. It’s just me: I’m cautious. I always wear the seatbelt in cars (survived one car crash, shaken but unhurt). In hotels, I always check the fire exits nearest to the room before I unpack (experienced 2 hotel fires, got out quickly and unhurt). In commercial aircraft, I pay attention to safety briefings and check location of the exits (been in one incident, hard landing on foam, unhurt) I know everyone deserves a second chance but I never had “convicted felons OK” on my Seeking ad/profile

Has anyone actually seen him for a date? If so, please report back.

He’s obviously a handsome young adult. But to me, his photo has a certain quality as if AI generated.

My guess is that it will prove very popular…assuming “AGV” stands for Added Girth(cum)Volume

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion. Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me. The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.