DrownedBoy

And THIS is the type of shady, underhanded responses that turns people off about the gay community. 
 
I could think of a few things you could work on. Your commentary was unwarranted and unnecessary, and cowardly. 
 
This guy is sharing a terrible experience and being vulnerable in a forum where people are supposed to treat each other with a sense of support and kindness, and you just couldn’t help yourself. You had to smear this discussion thread with snarky, stank shade. 
 
Shame on you. 
Do better.
BE BETTER. 

If you can see an argument for weight, age, or physical appearance (I get hygiene), then why not race? Once we accept that some people deserve professional treatment more than others based on immutable characteristics, then it's fair game on everything. I'm seasoned enough to remember when "no fats, no femmes and no <insert race here>" was constant on gay social networks. 

Ha ha there’s shit everywhere…sounds like the time I hadn’t douched properly 😳😳😳. Seriously though I guess it’s not about winning and losing. It’s just about opinions! 

Your response is to quote a nepo-baby, man-child, who owes his billions to government contracts, has run Twitter into the ground, and is so anti-gay and transphobic that his child has disowned him? 
Like I said, Trump supporter.

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

This guy's 54 (older than me), and I'd let him have his way with me any day. EDIT: Not only is he hot, but from his interview, he's also a gentleman.
 
https://rent.men/maturedmuscle

@pubic_assistance I didn't want to bring this up again, but based on past posts, you have no place in the gay community, and definitely no right to speak about it. Right now, your actions (if not substance) are pretty much the same as a closeted gay guy whose only contact with the community is when you commit adultery on your wife.
I don't know of many gays who feel "owed" by young people...except by not being treated badly. I don't ask for any recognition, but I do ask not to be insulted by young gays simply for walking into a room while being old.
And I don't know how you raised your kids, but as a financially-secure adult with elderly parents, I gladly perform my filial duties, whether it's visiting them, helping them out, or just being there for them. I'm capable of gratitude.

I had a rookie escort bodybuilder text something like, "I promise you you'll have a great time." However, that's a warranty that can't be exercised.

I actually don't like this 'direct' approach at all and would opt out if I got a response like this so...ymmv To me, this is a sign that the session will also be the bare minimum. 

The reality is that some people suffer from rampant internalized ageism and homophobia. @pubic_assistance relentlessly makes disparaging and even hateful statements not only about providers who fall outside of his incredibly narrow view of whom we should all "naturally" be attracted to, but he also - as he does here - treats those of us who hire escorts who are over 25 with more than 5% body fat as if we're insane. He does not recognize that sexual attraction is highly variable and subjective. And, of course, if someone hires an older escort or a bear type of guy, then it can only be because you are so grotesquely ugly that you can't even get undesirables to fuck you for free. 
I do not understand why @CoM Moderators continue to allow him to spew anti-fat, anti-femme, agist, and ableist crap on here. I can't imagine that the providers enjoy his constant yapping about how hideous they are. 
Worse, though he has zero relationship with the queer community, he opines on how we should live and who we should want to fuck. Maybe if he went to P-town or Fire Island or got on Scruff with his actual age, he'd see how easy it is for a conventionally attractive middle-aged man to attract younger ones. My husband and I have to bat twinks off like flies when we're out. 

Sir, you live in God's waiting room!

I just had a discussion with a friend over this when I told him that I liked muscular older guys and daddies (and yes, I had maturedmuscle stay with me during the PS event in April so you can guess my type). He brought up something interesting.
He pointed out that muscle and strength are associated with youth and vitality which is usually associated with younger guys, so if I like only like older muscle bears/bodybuilders/muscle daddies like maturedmuscle and not all body types of old/older men such as fat, skinny, wrinkled, or obese, then I can't really say I like old men. He says then technically, I only like old men who have youthful qualities.
I disagreed on that, telling him that I usually only hired men around my age or older (so 40s or above) because I can find more subjects to talk and discuss over, and old guys can have muscle and bodybuilding is not solely a "young gay" sport.  But that got me thinking if he has a point because then if I only like muscle daddies and not all types of old guys, would that technically be an aversion?

The same happens when it comes to racism, many folks need to be reminded things weren't as easy in the past and be grateful they were born in an era where their lifestyle won't stop them from being hired, sent to jail, etc. 

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

That attraction is across genders. I had an Arab coworker who was totally Americanized, and women found the combination of Arab features and a normal worldview attractive. 
I personally think it's somehow based on how Arabs are steteotypically viewed in the U.S., with the exaggerated masculinity,  hint of danger, etc.
Arab guys look fine to me too, but many have more facial hair than I enjoy.

I usually give an arrival grace period of 30 minutes. My regulars know I'll ask for an ETA after 15 minutes, so they always tell me ahead of time.
If a provider can't do that, he's free to find another client to get money from. Just not me.

OF is pretty strict about not allowing meet ups so I would not recommend trying to arrange through that platform.

They’ll usually use the same name on their Onlyfans as on their advertising for hire if they are for hire. The Onlyfans serves as a shop window. Also they’ll have a Twitter profile associated with their Onlyfans and that often has the links to all their socials (Instagram etc) which would include their RM or other websites if they are for hire. 
However, I know quite a few guys who I’ve worked with either seeing clients or making films, who started out seeing clients and then moved on to doing Onlyfans. Some of them make so much more money on Onlyfans (and travel all the time) that it’s not worth their time seeing clients any more so they cancelled their RM advert and don’t bother advertising for clients in that way. They get clients contacting them directly, are selective and charge a much higher rate. 
 

Don’t be that person. Treat that question as if it was rhetorical. 

We don’t know.  Are there some things you could work on? 

Some providers’ business models are very convenient for them, not for clients.

Personally I don’t like this approach. Idk if this is someone you know already…but if someone texted me in that fashion, I would tell them: “if you think you can get to me faster, then maybe you should arrange an in-call.” I would just find it quite pushy.
Similar to another thread I have up, I think Grace periods can be done away with all together and traded for proper communication. My absolute pet peeve, is when a client tries to cancel in the middle of my commute, which can vary from 20 minutes in town to 5 hours when going to the next city. But it’s usually always an hour because I don’t have any gay, affluent men in my town. So I have to drive out Kansas City 2-3 days a week just to get bookings, unless I’m visiting a different city and have a hotel close by everything.
Imagine if an escort was rushing to reach a client, and then crashed and injured himself or someone else in the process? Because clients love to text, “are you close? Are you coming? Are you there? Okay just cancel and send deposit back” 😤 I doubt these guys were on their way to a client but, similar to this accident in Dallas the other month, shit like this happens everyday during “Rush hour”:
And contrary to belief, many clients contacting sex workers give lousy notice. They think just because they contact and ask for a time, that it’ll work. Then they wonder why the escort isn’t on time. And often times, expect it same day notice. Which is fine, but if someone wants a same day booking, they have to be willing to be patient…not bent out of shape over a 30 minute or even 2 hour delay.
That’s not a lot of time. Whenever I call dentist, eye doctor, car repair, etc etc: I often can’t even get an appointment in for at least a week. In St. Louis, I was waiting MONTHS just to see a specialist. By the time they were ready to schedule me, I either had to cancel or the ailment healed on it’s on. But there was definitely no, “U AVAILABLE TONIGHT?” 🙄 
 
What really gets me: are the ones who wait MONTHS/YEARS between texts, but then can’t be bothered to give the escort a few extra minutes/couple hours more time to arrive. Like hold: you haven’t contacted me since 2021. Now it’s an emergency? 

Well shoot. I think providers need to take CPR classes!

in the grand scheme, yes you're right, it's not. but younger guys wo't typically go for an older man. yes, escorting is different from proper dating or hook-ups but still. 

This is not an issue. In fact, you would probably one of his younger clients.