Rod Hagen

I have 21.5 years of escorting under my belt (ha ha), so I know whereof I speak: I can count on one hand with one or two fingers left over, which can be useful , the number of bad clients I’ve been with. And, in those few cases, “bad” is minor, for example one guy was hungover and kept leaving the massage table for the toilet to puke. Not ideal, but not the end of the world. Some clarifications, sweat is not unhygienic. Sweat does not smell (google it). Sweat is something that happens to some people, it is not something they are doing on purpose. If you find sweat disgusting that’s you, it’s not an objective truth, and whoever it is who is sweating is not doing it purposely to offend you. Another clarification, the body odor that happens to some people in the hours between their daily showers is not objectively disgusting, it’s something that happens and it is not something they are doing to you, to hurt you. It’s unfortunate that the discussion about obese men and hygiene became so heated. In my sexual life, I’ve been intimate with more than a dozen men over 400 pounds. Maybe two dozen. 98% of these men were fully hygienic for the same reason men who are not severely obese keep themselves clean: they want to be. I will say that, although I have been blown away by the flexibility of some of my severely obese partners (legs over their shoulders when I’m fucking them ) it is usually harder for men living with severe obesity to move around. Add to that the knee injury, or what have you, and those men do the best job they can to clean up. I’ve found that older men in wheelchairs, or otherwise impaired significantly, are sometimes in a similar situation. Those men need to be approached by their sexual partners with compassion. Long way ‘round saying “bad” client does not mean obese client, and obese client does not mean unhygienic client. Ok, I'm done

Great photos. He's done an excellent job of putting on muscle while keeping his waist quite narrow; that is not easy. Good for him.

YUM!

As someone with an average sized dick, I'm very very glad to hear that

Drove down to Laguna recently to swim at my favorite spot below Montage and maybe have breakfast there afterward. No No No. I couldn't make it to the beach, much less the water, through the throngs of people not wearing masks. Got back in my car and drove home. The OC is NOT LA, I sometimes forget.

This is definitely not the kind of song I or my friends like. And so, when the video came out, I remember three separate friends throwing a fit when I made each one wait till the surprise ending of the video. And then each one was happy he waited. Stubborn Assholes.

I wonder if he's one of those religious gay guys who doubles down on religion for the rest of their sad lives. We will never know.

Hour one, Table. Hour Two (three, four...), Bed :-)

For many people an acknowledgment that they were wrong is nearly impossible. An apology is an admission of being at fault on top of being contrite, for those people it's just too much and all you can do is be grateful that your parents raised you to be capable of expressing humility and gratitude while you assess wether or not you did all that you could, with compassion, and use that knowledge the next time. Also, in instances of catastrophe that results from not taking medical or tax and financial advice, you are dealing with a lot of potential shame. When we feel shame, we often clam up. In fact, it's easy to feel a "fuck you" attitude toward the person who gave you the good advice you didn't take. It's not rational of course, but it happens.

That show dealt with some dark content. Drug addiction, death, guilt. People never gave it enough credit.

Me too. He's absolutely sexy. Goofy/sexy.

Ha. Funny :-) Honestly, Were I to give you a non-erotic massage and then you had a massage from my guy, I doubt you would be able to tell he's better than I am at massage therapy. The only reason I know he is is because I'm a masseur too, so I can detect the differences, small as they may be.

I'm an excellent escort and masseur, but I don't look like him. Jesus, he's got..whatdya call them? Cumgutters.

Oral without a condom is one of those things most of us, myself included, tell ourselves is ok but, given the prevalence of antibiotic resistant gonorrhea and chlamydia, certainly is not. And so the next best alternative is to get tested, regularly.

Epi, I also recommend the extra step of driving somewhere else. Not because a change in scenery might boost your mood, it won't. But because I don't want you walking somewhere where the ground is so uneven that you have to look down constantly. You seem very self-aware, and you know that any kind of fall, after 75, can be catastrophic. Someone I'm very close to took a "tumble" at age 78, and the rest of his life will be severely impacted. Either walk in your house, or drive to a flat surface. That would be my recommendation. BTW I fully recognize that you started this thread more to vent and commiserate than to seek advise, yet you are a good man and we are concerned for your health. And also, men, gay and straight, live for giving advise. As Seinfeld said, if you see two men talking, you are almost guaranteed that one is explaining something to the other. Stay safe.

wow. Really Really great smile. That's the smile we all wish we could give.

Don't know why I'm piling on this thread. My masseur is straight and he charges more than I do, and we went to the same massage school. It's hard for me to say why, but as good of a masseur as I am, and i do have hundreds of hours of training and 15 years of experience, he is a better therapeutic masseur than I am. My point is that not all non-erotic masseurs are equal. if a masseur, like my guy (non nude and non erotic), is especially skilled and/or trained he has every right to charge a lot. I would never give up my straight masseur no matter what other extras I could get from a gay guy. My masseur does not advertise on gay sites. Now, as to why other masseurs, unwilling to give extras, would advertise on a site that caters to extras, they're simply being opportunistic. Competition is fierce.

I know you're joking. Seriously, though, do not support Massage Envy, they pay their Masseurs horribly. Or, if you do go, Tip the masseurs directly, do not include the tip on the final bill. And please tip them as if you were seeing them privately. Those guys are definitely taken advantage of, I remember a friend of mine saying "I have a master's degree and I'm being forced to fold towels and sheets, for free, on my off time."

I wish I could say it was Jason Bateman: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000867/ But it was Ricky Schroder. I guess I liked the cleancut ones when I was a young one. https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005401/

When RentBoy and MassageM4M doubled down on really sticking it to the escorts, charging as much as monthly $300 and $200 respectively, I would often run a search to see how many of my new clients recntly arrived from either site, and if it was a low number, I'd let my membership lapse for a few months. Rentmasseur and RentMen are much more respectful in their billing than RentBoy and MassageM4M ever imagined being, so even now When I'm not seeing clients, it makes sense to support them and support myself by continuing to list. Seriously, fuck you RentBoy and Massagem4m.

Here's my story: https://www.advocate.com/politics/commentary/2006/07/17/your-service In the article, I was coy about "when"; it was 1999.

I definitely follow up with a HELLO SAILOR kind of email when someone views my private photos, but not simply my profile, regardless of where he is located. It just seems polite and good business.

I have always felt bad when clients start emails or texts by saying something like, "I hope you don't mind clients over the age of XXX", because it indicates to me that they've encountered escorts who do not become excited by older clients, and that's unfortunate.

Smog is the thing I like least about East Asia Travel, Breakfast is the second. I basically just eat fruit and instant coffee.

Wonderful story Charlie. Congratulations and Thank you for sharing it.