Golem

Wow! All this talk of "fake" BFE's. I personally take a much more romantic view, just as I look at this whole hobby of hiring escorts more romantically! Here are my personal thoughts on a true BFE (for me!) which I wrote on another (Ask an Escort) thread:
 
As a client, I know when I am furnished what I feel is a true boyfriend experience, where I actually have not only an extraordinary sexual connection, including everything that excites me sexually, from amazing tongue work while French kissing, to having my nipples manipulated in the most sensual ways possible, to hearing his groans of pleasure as I rim him and suck him, to feeling myself nearing that point of no return as he sucks or f**cks me, but also our sharing with each other in mutually enjoyable conversations before moving on to the sexual play, which is followed by intimate cuddling after we climax.
 
There is nothing quite so intimate to me as being in his arms, with my head on his chest and our arms around each other, sharing our thoughts quietly for a bit, sometimes even napping with each other for a short time. I do think that a boyfriend experience is not necessarily the same for every man, though. I always hope to be treated as if I am the most desirable man the escort has ever met, for the time we enjoy together. As I've said many times since I began this hobby, I do fall in love with the best escorts I hire just a bit during the time we spend together, in bed or out, during both the on-the-clock and off-the-clock time we are together.
 
Now since I am only one client, with only my personal definition of the boyfriend experience expressed here, I'd be interested to get back to the "Ask An Escort" topic requested by the OP. I would love to hear from any escorts out there who are willing to explain what the "boyfriend experience" is for them with clients from their own professional perspective.
 
TruHart1

Despite its lack of popularity here, I do find the expression useful. I sometimes use it to set up expectations when I am going to meet a professional for the first time. Even when I agree it is an extremely vague expression, it does communicate quite well my need for an interactive, non transactional experience, for looking at the eyes, for passionate kissing, in a vainilla context. I always go vainilla the first time.
 
I really do not understand very well the criticism to the "fake" nature of the scenario. I do agree that what matters the most is the sexual performance (at least in my case), but that is meat that can be served in many different plates. BFE is one of those plates, as real and as fake as any other.
 
At least you like it raw.

 
But you know what? Having money involved, raw can also be fake.

Absolutely - it is very silly, make sure you know what is being offered.
An alternative to asking is to tell him what you enjoy and if he is cool with going along with it (boils down to the same thing really). For example, "I enjoy kissing, lots of body contact, being rimmed, being sucked and I am a top - does that work for you?"

Easy.
 
00:00 - 00:30 hey how are ya
00:30 - 59:30 sex
59:30 - 60:00 thanks that was great
 

Same here-at least two hours. I'm considering one-hour appointments for new hires. Some may be limited to one-hour appointments by their budget.

Also - treating sex as pretty much anything other than an explorative conversation about connection and affirmation that we're having using our bodies and psyches is doing ourselves a disservice, in my opinion.

I think one trouble in answering this question comes from the idea of "actual sex" - that itself means different things for different people.
 
What people seek from a sexual encounter varies person to person.
 
Soft intimacy, naked cuddling, bound and gagged, fisting - these are all activities that tap into one's sensual, sexual self.

Meh, the whole hour is actual sex. Talking about it, playing around, PIA sex all counts. The division between those is up to you. How could a tight embrace not count?

Especially when some of us don't get hard fast! LOL!

For me, the entire hour is interactive, but a significant chunk of it is verbally interactive. At least, that's my client perspective and probably just my personality quirk. Foreplay for me is communication and making some connection, however limited. That's also probably why I don't typically do 1-hour sessions. It's not enough time for me.

it's not standard and depends on a regular escort versus a first time meet. With a regular escort I would say 30 to 45 minutes of sex. No need to chat until after we've had out fun. With a first timer need to chat a bit because sometimes texting and working out what we both "enjoy" takes a bit of time to work out. But I've been shocked when it's "magic" and it's nice chemistry and heat and things flow organically that's awesome.

Are you the new moderator of this site now? Congratulations!

Question to clients...
What is your typical price range and how much time and how "detailed" do you expect that time to be in accordance with your price range?
 
I ask because I just had some inquire about my rates. I reponded with my hourly rate of 240. They proceeded to say it was outside their range. Not wanting this person to miss out on a great experience, I asked them what their budget was. They said 140, to which I said I could meet them for 30 minutes for that amount. Their response was "thanks, but I will pass".
 
Did I respond to them with a reasonable offer?

For an hour, $200-300 range.
 
Under $200 scares me. Is the escort turning tricks or engaging in professional services. Over $300 is just buying a big ego in my mind. $300 per hour is $5/minute.
 
Granted for every hour an escort spends with a client, he’s spend 2 hours working out, cleaning up, traveling to me or straightening up his place so I’m really employing him for 3 hours at $66-100 per hour. I think that’s very reasonable since I earn between $70/ and $100/hour, too.

My price range is pretty wide - I make allowances for the location I am in, whether I am hosting or not AND what I am looking for (massage vs whatever). Usually I look to schedule 90 minutes- - I am usually pretty detailed about what I am looking for, but not explicit, if you know what I mean...
 
Nothing wrong with your response - I find it reasonable.

Yeah, I was working that day and did not have the time to react.

Look, I'm not suggesting that SA is great for everyone. It depends largely on what you, the older man, are seeking. It clearly requires you to commit considerable time and some money.
 
I can only speak for myself. Over the years, I had my fill of handsome muscle-boys and escorts: some were great in bed, some were only so-so. I wanted a regular boyfriend. The dating apps didn't work for me and as I don't go to bars, I felt I had to advertise online. Now I admit I'm very particular; I wanted a good-looking younger guy who's caring, intelligent and very presentable. I didn't mind going on a number of dates: some guys were simply dull, some were uninteresting and I certainly met some no-hopers. I even had one first-date that was so horrendous I can relate the details to general hilarity even years later.
 
But I met the guy I wanted. And it turns out that he'd been looking for someone like me. He's certainly not high-maintenance. Of course, I spend money on him but no more than I'd spend in any relationship. I like us to do things together (travel, theatre, wine and dine etc) and he's brought great joy into my life. We've been together for several years now.

I just remembered this post.
 
Adam has become worst after the closing of CL and BP, but still plays an important role in our market. More and more guys are asking for 300, and I just do not think sex worth that amount when you have so many ways to hook up for free or for much, much more affordable prices.
 
Without Adam, I do not think I would be able to set a 200 cap with success.

A4A, Grindr, and SA 150-200 the range for me, with success.

I have to admit, when I saw him pop up on RM, I was a little surprised I hadn't seen a post here by you yet, cahill

I have to admit, when I saw him pop up on RM, I was a little surprised I hadn't seen a post here by you yet, cahill

Sometimes I get to feeling down but I have this place to come to.
 
And I look around and think back, there are those who are worse off than I am.
 
I shared in another thread that both my mother and her father died in their 50s. I have outlived both of them. My mother's brother died in his 40s.
 
And though my maternal grandmother lived into her 80s because of diabetes she had to have both legs amputated below the knees while in her 70s.
 
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
 
My landlord called me this morning. He is going on vacation for a couple of weeks and wanted to make sure I had enough groceries. How thoughtful is that!

Interesting SA exchange for the day... not a bad looking guy...in his profile he describes himself thusly:
 
 
Sub boy - 19 - little boy here for your pleasure
 
About Me
looking for mommy’s or daddy’s to serve. i listen very well and am well behaved
 
Seeking

Friends with benefits
No strings attached
Rent Assistance

looking for dominate daddy’s or mommy’s, or both!!!
 
 
He initiated the following:
HIM: hey i got a hotel room in <town> near airport if you wanna come by
 
HIM: the thing is tonight’s my last night and i am short on cash
 
ME: Let me know whenever you head back to <town>
 
HIM: i’m staying in <town>
 
HIM: jumping from crack shack to hotel to hotel but I ran out of money so I’m kind of fucked
 
HIM: could you help me pay for the room until the weekdays and then you can come over like whenever you want on the weekdays?
 
ME: I can’t realky help you
 
HIM: well i’m shit outta luck cause i have no mon y left
 
HIM: my number is xxx-xxx-xxxx
 
Then this morning:
HIM: can you come rn or sometime before 11?
 
 
I cross reference his number using a couple of tools... one name that comes up is “Abdel Kadir Shaikh”.
Abdul Kadir Shaikh was a Pakistani politician who was the 13th governor of Sindh from 6 July 1977 to 17 September 1978. He was born in 1926 and died on 27 March 2008 (Wikipedia)
 
 
Do you:
1) Ask him for a 3-fingered selfie?
2) Run by the drugstore for condoms and lube and go meet him?
3) Run by your meth dealer for a gift and ask him to a nice dinner to get to know one another?
4) Call Homeland Security and ask for references?
5) Block his account, sell your house, move to Mexico and have plastic surgery to alter your appearance?

Bump - see he's on Rentmen posted in NYC now. I just hit him up but haven't heard back yet. Maybe I'll just take the plunge and take one for the team! WOOF

I’ve seen this but in the opposite direction. Lots of fake profiles of “daddies” that will ask to start giving me money right away even if they can’t meet up anytime soon and will want to know my PayPal log in information to do this...which makes zero sense and gives it away as a scam instantly. I hope nobody actually falls for that.