IronMaus

I recognise this. I don’t use hookup apps (used to, but I got bored of it). But if I’m having sex outside of my work then I’ll usually bottom. When I’m working it’s mostly me being top. Doing work that is predominantly sex based does have an impact on your sex life. Even to the extent that sometimes if I’ve met up with a friend for fun I’ll be thinking ‘I’d have charged £x for that’, or I’ll decline a meet because I’m seeing a client later and I want to be ready for them. I’m fine with the work but this is one of the drawbacks. 

https://rent.men/ShermanMaus
This link will work work even better. 
Maus is is a great guy.  I am not good a opening up to an escort about my submissive side.   It didn’t matter, he read me in less than three minutes and delivered exactly what I needed in a safe, sane matter.
 

I enjoy having sex with bottoms, obese people, and people in their 70s 80s 90s.
But when people of these variety approach me on hookup apps, I'm less inclined to accept their advances.
It's not because I would only do it for work - it's because I do it for work so often.
I look for younger tops in my personal life because I sleep with mostly older bottoms in my professional life.
If it were the opposite on one side, it would be the opposite on the other.

Unfortunately, in some cities this can work against me. When I (politely) reject people in the personal (hookup app) realm, it can deter them from hiring me in the professional realm.

I'm the type of guy who says "thank you" when someone woofs at me and "no thank you" when they hit me up. I understand where this could lead them to thinking I'm just feigning interest as a provider just for money, but there isn't much I can do about it. I could simply ignore their messages and advances but I find that difficult.

Absolutely. Sometimes when incredibly attracted to someone and decide it would be better to hire them than to pursue them personally - especially if I only know them through RM or seeing their porn. I've only done this a handful of times but they were all very worthwhile experiences.

My most precious advice: be proactive about finding clients. Put your ad up, keep an eye at who is looking at you (and how often they do), and send messages to clients who have enough information in their profiles to work with - stats, descriptions, mutual "intos", and reviews. If a client has reviewed users like yourself, your chances are communication are already higher.

So many of my regular and long term clients began with me reaching out first. We should appreciate those that are willing to put themselves out there, and they will appreciate you back.

Absolutely. Sometimes when incredibly attracted to someone and decide it would be better to hire them than to pursue them personally - especially if I only know them through RM or seeing their porn. I've only done this a handful of times but they were all very worthwhile experiences.

Its more common than you may think - but for one hour? I say heck no don't do it!

There is no simple yes or no answer to the question of deposits. Everyone is different and there are enough clients who are comfortable with this for escorts to continue doing it. Trans, femme, and female providers are more accustomed to down payments for very good reason - cis-male providers may have less reason, but that does not mean they have no reason.

Before Covid I was more likely to require a deposit for dates, overnights, weekends, trips from people I could not verify. When clients do not share any information, use a fake name, and have nothing to show for their hiring - longstanding profiles, reviews left, references from colleagues, etc. - it can be a big risk for a provider to block out that time, reject inquiries for anything in that time frame, and budget with those earnings in mind.

Since the pandemic, people are clutching their purses close and far less likely to go for this. So I've relaxed on this almost entirely. I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot over this, but on several occasions I have lost BIG TIME on cancelled occasions. This is a very difficult scenario for us to account for.

Some escorts (for multi-day trips) require half up front and half upon completion. If a client cancels with good reason, they'll likely roll this amount over until the hopefully rescheduled encounter. This works well for them I think this is very reasonable considering the preparation it takes for multi-day trips and the money that will be earned from them.

Its more common than you may think - but for one hour? I say heck no don't do it!

There is no simple yes or no answer to the question of deposits. Everyone is different and there are enough clients who are comfortable with this for escorts to continue doing it. Trans, femme, and female providers are more accustomed to down payments for very good reason - cis-male providers may have less reason, but that does not mean they have no reason.

Before Covid I was more likely to require a deposit for dates, overnights, weekends, trips from people I could not verify. When clients do not share any information, use a fake name, and have nothing to show for their hiring - longstanding profiles, reviews left, references from colleagues, etc. - it can be a big risk for a provider to block out that time, reject inquiries for anything in that time frame, and budget with those earnings in mind.

Since the pandemic, people are clutching their purses close and far less likely to go for this. So I've relaxed on this almost entirely. I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot over this, but on several occasions I have lost BIG TIME on cancelled occasions. This is a very difficult scenario for us to account for.

Some escorts (for multi-day trips) require half up front and half upon completion. If a client cancels with good reason, they'll likely roll this amount over until the hopefully rescheduled encounter. This works well for them I think this is very reasonable considering the preparation it takes for multi-day trips and the money that will be earned from them.

Its more common than you may think - but for one hour? I say heck no don't do it!

There is no simple yes or no answer to the question of deposits. Everyone is different and there are enough clients who are comfortable with this for escorts to continue doing it. Trans, femme, and female providers are more accustomed to down payments for very good reason - cis-male providers may have less reason, but that does not mean they have no reason.

Before Covid I was more likely to require a deposit for dates, overnights, weekends, trips from people I could not verify. When clients do not share any information, use a fake name, and have nothing to show for their hiring - longstanding profiles, reviews left, references from colleagues, etc. - it can be a big risk for a provider to block out that time, reject inquiries for anything in that time frame, and budget with those earnings in mind.

Since the pandemic, people are clutching their purses close and far less likely to go for this. So I've relaxed on this almost entirely. I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot over this, but on several occasions I have lost BIG TIME on cancelled occasions. This is a very difficult scenario for us to account for.

Some escorts (for multi-day trips) require half up front and half upon completion. If a client cancels with good reason, they'll likely roll this amount over until the hopefully rescheduled encounter. This works well for them I think this is very reasonable considering the preparation it takes for multi-day trips and the money that will be earned from them.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

My most precious advice: be proactive about finding clients. Put your ad up, keep an eye at who is looking at you (and how often they do), and send messages to clients who have enough information in their profiles to work with - stats, descriptions, mutual "intos", and reviews. If a client has reviewed users like yourself, your chances are communication are already higher.

So many of my regular and long term clients began with me reaching out first. We should appreciate those that are willing to put themselves out there, and they will appreciate you back.

Afrin also has Phenylephrine Hydrochloride - just have to buy there right variety. I'm sure other nasal sprays with the same active ingredient could work.

Oh you are NOT wrong - having given people specific, correct, step by step advice, I've still had people tell me they tried spraying it into their dick. I honestly believe the fear of damaging our penis can lead us to irrational behavior - like going to the hospital and thinking they know what they are doing lol

Oral Sudafed can help but to a lesser degree. When worried about their boner not going down, people will take Sudafed and wait an hour or more hoping it will work - by that time it is hard to tell if its the Sudafed is doing it or just the medicine wearing off.

Doctors are also able to prescribe straight up phenylephrine, but like many other things, many doctors just don't know about this and will tell you they cannot. If you are going to use nasal spray use a fresh bottle - preferably every time, but if you want to use it more than once do NOT put it in your nose, before use wipe the tip with an alcohol swab just the same as your would the trimix bottle, spray it into the needle cap to pull the liquid from, and keep it in a plastic bag if you are traveling with it to prevent any sort of contamination.

When purchasing these boner drugs, they will often provide you with an antidote - but only ONE dosage. It would make more sense if they gave you an entire bottle, but knowing men that would probably only encourage misuse of the drug.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

Oh you are NOT wrong - having given people specific, correct, step by step advice, I've still had people tell me they tried spraying it into their dick. I honestly believe the fear of damaging our penis can lead us to irrational behavior - like going to the hospital and thinking they know what they are doing lol

Oral Sudafed can help but to a lesser degree. When worried about their boner not going down, people will take Sudafed and wait an hour or more hoping it will work - by that time it is hard to tell if its the Sudafed is doing it or just the medicine wearing off.

Doctors are also able to prescribe straight up phenylephrine, but like many other things, many doctors just don't know about this and will tell you they cannot. If you are going to use nasal spray use a fresh bottle - preferably every time, but if you want to use it more than once do NOT put it in your nose, before use wipe the tip with an alcohol swab just the same as your would the trimix bottle, spray it into the needle cap to pull the liquid from, and keep it in a plastic bag if you are traveling with it to prevent any sort of contamination.

When purchasing these boner drugs, they will often provide you with an antidote - but only ONE dosage. It would make more sense if they gave you an entire bottle, but knowing men that would probably only encourage misuse of the drug.

And for obvious reasons the under-40 clients disappear eventually (I used to be one).

Yeah thats alot of cancellations, im a drag queen as well & sometimes i get clients request me in drag, that forsure i charge a deposit & want at least 25% of my
rate which for drag i charge $400 an hr

I only require deposits for certain situations. For example, a client requested I coordinate two other providers for a multi hour session. We all had to travel over half an hour, and I had to bring a table. I was in daily communication with the client for about a week. I had the other providers lined up, got everything ready, even purchased a specialty item that the client requested for his session. Then the day of, he ghosts. Not a peep. Just disappeared.
By this point, I’ve invested hours. That’s when I decided I’m only doing complicated setups, long sessions, long travel, multiple provider coordination, etc with a deposit. The more I have to lose in terms of prep time, loss of credibility with my collaborators, schedule blocking out other would-be clients, and so on, the more inclined I am to require a deposit.
For a normal uncomplicated session, especially incall, I never require deposits. Even for the complicated sessions, I don’t require deposits after the first successful session. Once I know a client is real and follows through, I trust them and don’t need a deposit.
Deposits are an insurance policy. They need not be huge amounts, but should be something a client will think twice about before flaking. The deposit covers my time, often a hour or more worth when they do choose to flake. Even with a considerable deposit, they still do flake from time to time. 
If you’re asking for a lot, I would not be shocked if a provider requests a nominal deposit. We waste sooo much time on flaky clients. Maybe you personally don’t flake. Great. That doesn’t change the fact that a LOT of others do. That’s why many providers require deposits. Especially for the first meeting. 

I looked up your reviews in the archived site and your name wasn’t coming up. I know the forum techs are porting over old reviews to the new review site. I don’t know when that’ll launch.
https://archive.companyofmen.org/cruise
Maybe one of the moderators can be of more helpful.
As to your other inquiry…
Sadly, the guy I would suggest (lists as a masseur) is currently on hiatus. Although he’s never topped me, I have no doubt he’d be a great choice. I’ll add a link to his ad just in case by some miracle he decides to start seeing people again this week.
https://rentmasseur.com/IntimateTouch

LMAO…I guess the blond is real….grin.
And now we know why you don’t follow medical advice from online forums kids! Hey, at least he wasn’t trying to spray it up his urethra!

Reading through this thread, I cannot imagine putting a needle into my dick unless I'm at gunpoint.
Fucking is not important enough to me for that.
As for the nasal spray, I was picturing someone spritzing their dick using the actual bottle.
I guess I was wrong on that one.
 
 
 

I don't think you can link directly to your former Daddy's reviews, so that would be a question to ask the mods.
The only way I can find your page is by going to the Daddy's review archive:

https://archive.companyofmen.org/cruise
On the map that's displayed, select USA. Select California and then Northern California. Click By Name and then enter Sherman in the Name field. Select All in the drop-down menu under Active. Click Find. Your name will be the only one that shows up in the search. Click your name to see your reviews page. Then ask the mods here if there's some way you can link to this specific page!

Absolutely. Sometimes when incredibly attracted to someone and decide it would be better to hire them than to pursue them personally - especially if I only know them through RM or seeing their porn. I've only done this a handful of times but they were all very worthwhile experiences.