ChrisWydeman

Each client has their own story and I’ve had many with unique backgrounds influence my tastes over the years. I learned how to play poker from one of my clients and it’s become something that I love. The client used to hire me and we would meet at a local bath house and get the biggest room available. We would play strip poker until we were both naked and who ever won got to top 😉
As I have transitioned out of escorting and into a different career I have a special appreciation for the experiences clients have shown me, be it trying new food, an activity, or something new in the sack. I think the thing I miss most about escorting were the fun adventures I would take with clients were I got to try something new.

Each client has their own story and I’ve had many with unique backgrounds influence my tastes over the years. I learned how to play poker from one of my clients and it’s become something that I love. The client used to hire me and we would meet at a local bath house and get the biggest room available. We would play strip poker until we were both naked and who ever won got to top 😉
As I have transitioned out of escorting and into a different career I have a special appreciation for the experiences clients have shown me, be it trying new food, an activity, or something new in the sack. I think the thing I miss most about escorting were the fun adventures I would take with clients were I got to try something new.

Each client has their own story and I’ve had many with unique backgrounds influence my tastes over the years. I learned how to play poker from one of my clients and it’s become something that I love. The client used to hire me and we would meet at a local bath house and get the biggest room available. We would play strip poker until we were both naked and who ever won got to top 😉
As I have transitioned out of escorting and into a different career I have a special appreciation for the experiences clients have shown me, be it trying new food, an activity, or something new in the sack. I think the thing I miss most about escorting were the fun adventures I would take with clients were I got to try something new.

Each client has their own story and I’ve had many with unique backgrounds influence my tastes over the years. I learned how to play poker from one of my clients and it’s become something that I love. The client used to hire me and we would meet at a local bath house and get the biggest room available. We would play strip poker until we were both naked and who ever won got to top 😉
As I have transitioned out of escorting and into a different career I have a special appreciation for the experiences clients have shown me, be it trying new food, an activity, or something new in the sack. I think the thing I miss most about escorting were the fun adventures I would take with clients were I got to try something new.

I think one of the super powers of escorts and folks that work in adult entertainment is experience navigating complex emotional dynamics this being one possible example. If there is anything an escort should be good at its rapport building. As for boundary violations I wonder what is the purpose of reaching out? Is it for help because they feel that provider has a unique insight they might have or is there some underlying maladaptive behavior thats causing a client to transgress boundaries and self sabotage?
 
This is a complex topic, your client may not be aware going into therapy that their provider has a background in adult entertainment and later finds out through porn hub. The client may be aware going into their first session that their therapist worked in adult entertainment. What I was getting at with my initial post how as prospective clients of therapist that might work in adult entertainment how folks feel about that past. For the sake of this discussion let's assume the therapist is competent and has the skills to navigate these situations.

What I am getting at is, if lets say Rocco Steel became a therapist would knowing he had done sex work effect your comfortably in seeing him a therapy client?

Over the years I have seen many escorts retire and pursue other passions. It got me wondering, if you knew someone had worked in adult entertainment would that effect how you view them in other professions? What are your thoughts on therapists that may have escorted or done porn?

The key thing from my perspective, and which I infer from Chris' comments above, is the insight that a former* sex worker has from that experience. If it gives them insight that is a plus, any therapist who lacks insight is likely to be unsuccessful.
 
* I suspect a lot of sex workers have that sort of insight and bring it to the bed where they meet you, if you're open to receiving it in that setting.

Over the years I have seen many escorts retire and pursue other passions. It got me wondering, if you knew someone had worked in adult entertainment would that effect how you view them in other professions? What are your thoughts on therapists that may have escorted or done porn?

The best predictor of a positive therapeutic outcome is the therapeutic relationship. Translated: the most effective therapy occurs when the client and the therapist trust each other, are willing to work on ACHIEVABLE goals, and, even if they have their disagreements, respect each other and, in most cases, like each other. You can have two PhD.s in psychology from Ivy League schools and still be a rotten therapist. You can be as gay as a picnic basket and still be an ineffective therapist for gay folks. So, it is not really that important what a therapist did in his/her former life as long as he/she is willing to enter into the inner world of the client and attempt to discern what goals the client wants to achieve, and has the skills to design a strategy for CHANGE. Believing that therapy is more art than science, I would avoid blanket statements about who makes a good therapist - and would not rule in or out someone who worked in adult entertainment. A more relevant question would be: which therapist would be most effective for this particular client, at this particular time, and for this specific problem? And that varies over time and circumstance. I would advise, however, that if a client is contracting with a therapist because the therapist was previously an adult entertainer, it is very possible that there might be boundary crossings and possible boundary violations by either the therapist or client. Therapy is about making changes (in thoughts, behaviors, beliefs) and anything that interferes with that mission is inappropriate and not productive.

Yes. I would feel comfortable seeing a former sex worker. I would have zero hang ups

Love the series and the HC beefcake shots.

I earned a masters from one of the top 10 universities in the country and my grammar and spelling isn't the best. If you have a diminished view of someones intelligence because they haven't composed a sentence to your grammatical standards it might behoove you to revaluate views. He messed up a little on his ad, big deal, I know many bright escorts who have had grammatical errors on their ad. While grammatical issues may grab your attention, eagerness to diminish someone else grabs mine. Rather than spend your time knitting's picking someone maybe you could do something more productive?

Precisely, grammar mistakes are easy to make, and not everyone is a native speaker. I often see errors when I reread things here that I had posted earlier, and even typos can look like grammatical errors rather than simple stuff-ups. I would make an exception (and obviously this doesn't apply to ads) when someone makes a grammatical error while critiquing one someone else had made.

There is a station on pandora called "chill out" and it makes for some really intense passionate sex. Blackmill is a great option too I love everything by them.

There is a station on pandora called "chill out" and it makes for some really intense passionate sex. Blackmill is a great option too I love everything by them.

Critiques of your escorts looks are not welcome, you may be hiring someone but that doesn't give you the right to denigrate them. If you have an issue with someone's looks don't hire them.

Critiques of your escorts looks are not welcome, you may be hiring someone but that doesn't give you the right to denigrate them. If you have an issue with someone's looks don't hire them.

Critiques of your escorts looks are not welcome, you may be hiring someone but that doesn't give you the right to denigrate them. If you have an issue with someone's looks don't hire them.

Critiques of your escorts looks are not welcome, you may be hiring someone but that doesn't give you the right to denigrate them. If you have an issue with someone's looks don't hire them.

Critiques of your escorts looks are not welcome, you may be hiring someone but that doesn't give you the right to denigrate them. If you have an issue with someone's looks don't hire them.

So here are some tricks that I have developed for bottoming and if your feint of heart stop reading now.
 
1. Three serving sizes of metamucil before bed will keep your clean outs down to 15 minutes or less.
 
2. Don't use too much water or you may dislodge something. Less is more.
 
3. Using a toy to clean out is VERY helpful. I thickly coat mine with J lube in the shower and insert all 16 inches of it. Ride it for a few minutes and if its clean your probably good to go.
 
4. After I am done cleaning out I use Hebicleanse which is fantastic for getting rid of any unpleasant smells.
 
5. If your not bottoming on a regular basis and you want some extra insurance take two imodium an hour before you clean out.
 
6. If you don't know how to clean out ask your escort or if you need to use their facilities do so. Any escort worth their weight should have a shower shot in their apartment if not for their clients than themselves.
 
Folks bottoming is WORK. You have to put the effort in or your playdate may go very badly. Find out what YOU can eat that digests well and eat that one day before your play date. If you have greasy food the day before your shooting yourself in the foot. If you are not willing to put the work into clean out please spare conventional escorts an find one that flags brown so fun can be had for all parties.
 
A friend of mine said, "when you play with pigs sometimes you get a little muddy". Shit happens but YOU can do your part as a bottom to make sure that doesn't happen. If anyone has any questions please PM
 
Chris

I thickly coat mine with J lube in the shower and insert all 16 inches of it

I think this statement deserves a round of applause!!!

So here are some tricks that I have developed for bottoming and if your feint of heart stop reading now.
 
1. Three serving sizes of metamucil before bed will keep your clean outs down to 15 minutes or less.
 
2. Don't use too much water or you may dislodge something. Less is more.
 
3. Using a toy to clean out is VERY helpful. I thickly coat mine with J lube in the shower and insert all 16 inches of it. Ride it for a few minutes and if its clean your probably good to go.
 
4. After I am done cleaning out I use Hebicleanse which is fantastic for getting rid of any unpleasant smells.
 
5. If your not bottoming on a regular basis and you want some extra insurance take two imodium an hour before you clean out.
 
6. If you don't know how to clean out ask your escort or if you need to use their facilities do so. Any escort worth their weight should have a shower shot in their apartment if not for their clients than themselves.
 
Folks bottoming is WORK. You have to put the effort in or your playdate may go very badly. Find out what YOU can eat that digests well and eat that one day before your play date. If you have greasy food the day before your shooting yourself in the foot. If you are not willing to put the work into clean out please spare conventional escorts an find one that flags brown so fun can be had for all parties.
 
A friend of mine said, "when you play with pigs sometimes you get a little muddy". Shit happens but YOU can do your part as a bottom to make sure that doesn't happen. If anyone has any questions please PM
 
Chris

If you have any intention of putting your dick in there wouldn't you want people to know how to clean out? If your just engaging in rimming hibiclense is perfect