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Do people still use A4A ? I haven't used that to hook up since the early 2000's. And the pro section ALWAYS seemed more full of con-artists than actual pros.

Do people change their sexual tastes over the years ? My preferences haven't budged since the 80s.

Well...the "ugly American" is one who demands that Europeans comply with their own American standards. In this case the idea of self-service is already an ugly American invention so my expectations were the opposite. (Also I wasn't demanding all....in these instances I just act like I'm mentally disabled). Blind, elderly and stupid people still get help. 😉

I don't even pump my own gas. So I refuse to pack my own groceries. I was in London this summer and jumped into a market from some fruit. They ONLY had a self check out (with a little glass gate that wouldnt let you out without scanning your receipt). So when I want service, I just act like I just got off the short bus. I deliberately fucked up the scanner over and over until someone came and took care of my order for me. Then I looked around and said where's the bag ( they charge for bags ). The attendant wanted rid of me by than and didn't bother charging me for the bag. I made him hold it while I place my grapes inside. 🍇 'fuck 'em. I'm not getting paid to work in the store.

I keep profiles "buddy listed" that I found interesting ( and some who've been vetted here ). Since many of these guys travel around. I check the list to see if anyone I've spotted before is visiting the same location where I am too. Saves time digging through a lot of useless profiles. I believe i have about 50 profiles tagged as "worthy of a try".

I am happy that they avoided the myth that Diana was an innocent victim. Her mental illness contributed to much of her unhappiness. Not to say the royal family are the easiest or that the marriage was the best. But she was far from innocent. I also like that they are portraying William as being conscious of her troubles while Harry is oblivious. As adults, the two have different memories of the same events. Leading to much tension between them and their wives.

CDC is not indicating an uptick in cases in the US. ( see chart below) indicating a low point in the infection rate in the US.

Yes ! I have a building in Harlem where a bunch of Puerto Ricans live. No matter how many times I've told them to NOT dump grease and paper towels down the drain or in the toilet...the sewer backs up at least twice a year. Blocked with grease and paper towels. They just don't care.

I've noticed over the years that a masseur offering a two hour erotic session will respect the two hour schedule while an escort will typically assume the session is over once everyone's dumped their load. To prevent this habit from cutting into your two hours, you need to be very specific about your desires for what happens after your orgasm. Whether it's bringing them to orgasm to cuddling to having a glass of wine...you need to give guidance, since some guys go for half an hour, drop a load, zip up and leave.

Most definitely. Not only is San Diego expensive - it's incredibly dull. Leaving NYC to San Diego for an escort makes little to no sense unless they are filling some niche gap in the market that they've discovered. As others have mentioned, a hard-limit of "no kissing" is going to reduce your audience. Other factors (age, body-type & looks) are always limiting factors. Since@socurious doesn't have a profile anywhere so I can't determine what other factors may be limiting his audience, but my guess is that the audience is going to be chopped down to a few guys no matter where they travel.

I own several rental properties. Those with an abundance of single women tenants always need more frequent plumbing maintenence. It's unbelievable the amount of crap that women flush down their toilet.

You don't want oil/creme on your underwear so ALWAYS undress. If the masseur wants to work without nudity he will drape you with a towel. I've never been to any spa with a male masseur that asked me to leave my underwear on.

To me...doing the math. I would say it's Dallas and San Diego that have the saturated markets. NOT NYC. There's a bigger gay/bi community in New York than those other two cities and the tourism is FAR more busy so by comparison 300 is a minimal number to serve the huge tourist industry in NYC alone.

Completely. We must go through 20 million plastic food containers a day but its the straws that will end the planet. Nothing makes sense here

Yummy 😋

Until PreP is proven 100% effective for everyone, there IS still a bullet in the revolver. The statistics for the general public are still between 96% and 98% effective. Even in perfect controlled lab results it's 99%. So there's always a small chance you'll be the unlucky guy who gets that bullet....so it IS somewhat reassuring to be under the impression your partner is on PreP as well.

Single use plastic gloves are mandatory in all food service businesses in NYC. You would die if you knew number of gloves a single delicatessen goes through in a days time. Times the number of delis and restaurants in NYC feeding the millions of people who dine out and take out every week. It's billions of gloves tossed in the trash every year.

Madonna was a pretty girl in her 20's. This A.I. photo estimates what she'd look like today if it weren't for all the unfortunate plastic surgery that has rendered he into a plastic blow up doll. It's such a pity because according to this guesstimate, she would have still been a handsome woman in her 60's. Pretty sure her 25 year old boyfriends aren't dating her for her looks anyway.

Yes. I have been researching those. Seems like most are in the Fort Lauderdale area, and the one's I've visited so far are a bit "seedy". ( in my opinion )

Yup. Same here. Nice facility, lovely dining room and good food. He hates the place. This one has a great social director and many people participate. His problem does very much revolve around being uncomfortable around a lot of straight people. Unfortunately, he has no family and all his friends have passed. He made no relationships with younger people outside of a few regular escorts. So now finds himself old and alone. Home health care wasn't an option as his eyesight and hearing are poor.

I am recently dealing with a situation involving an elderly gay friend. One of my long time clients retired and moved to Florida ten years ago. He's now in his 90s' and all of his friends down there have since passed away. He moved into an elder-care facility which is lovely and well run, but he's extremely lonely. He reached out to me a couple months ago, hoping I could give him some advice. I've been back and forth a few times searching for a facility that has other gay men for him to socialize with because he is of that generation who spent so much of their time only hanging around gay bars, and gay friends that he is uncomfortable being around straight people. They show him pictures of their grandchildren and talk about their family as part of their social life. I noticed this makes him feel inferior, no matter how much I keep telling him, that he doesn't need to be the same as everyone else, and he can share the joy without showing pictures he doesn't have. He just can't do it. It's a missed opportunity for him to be happy in a very nice facility, but you can't change a tiger's stripes so late in life. I think perhaps he never planned to live to 90 because there seems to be little planning for who's going to manage his needs and how his social life is going to function. Hopeful, I can find a facility that is more familiar with some Appletinis in the lounge and a piano bar where everyone sings show tunes.

SOLD. Wrap him up.

One of the big mistakes a lot of gay men seem to make is isolating themselves from the real world. Going to gay bars, gay restaurants, gay cruises and only keeping up with their gay friends. Straight people have large family affairs, weddings and children. One of the great joys in life (for me) is seeing those kids grow up. I just attended a wedding last weekend for my niece. Being "Uncle" whether by blood or friendship is certainly a resource for late-in-life love and support when you spend your early years being a supportive "family" member for the younger generation.