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Hey guys, here's an update. After having consultations with three professionals (one doctor and two mental health care therapists) the diagnosis is in: it's not bipolar, borderline or even major depressive disorder. It's undealt with childhood/youth trauma (abusive alcoholic dad and neglectful and emotionally distant mother). I was referred to a therapist specialized in trauma and the first session was beyond amazing. I have my next session lined up for next week and I'm actually looking forward to it! She's already taught me some techniques to deal with overwhelm and also learning to allow myself to FEEL whatever I'm feeling instead of clamping down/shutting down and numbing myself. I'm actually looking forward to healing myself! And to be a calm, whole person that can interact with people without constantly feeling like I'm dying on the inside.

I know, right?? Hahaha. Thanks for all the answers! I was really wondering about the table. How viable it is as a masseur to travel without one (if it's a dealbreaker for clients or not and so on). Because I've been pondering if I'd like to become a travelling masseur myself. I'm used to giving massages on a bed so that would not be a problem. I've worked with a portable table before but those things are still superheavy and so clunky. The masseurs I've had sessions with did it on the bed.

I wondered how travelling masseurs do their massages. Do they travel with a table everywhere? Or do it on the bed? Do masseurs do outcalls? If so, do they bring a table? I had a travelling masseur once and he made a makeshift... thingie on the ground out of pillows and a comforter. He said that a hard surface was better than doing it on the bed. While massaging me he got horny and begged me to fuck him. Which I did. On the bed. This was in Europe, so no license was in danger, right? :eek: (By which I mean I think I can say we had sex.)

Great, thanks! I've just booked my second stay now. I'm going back mid-november. I texted Raphael to check if he'd be in Barcelona, but he's hasn't responded. Have you had any luck contacting him? Maybe I'm just planning too far out for him... Still would be nice to get a reply. We had such great moments in the sauna. Yeah... I'm hooked. I booked the TWO hotel this time. There's some guys (including Raphael) I'd love to get some private playtime with. @tassojunior thanks so much for all the info and recommendations. It made my first experience at Sauna Thermas just amazing.

Did you end up finding someone? I'm interested 'cause I like visiting Paris also.

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.

I've been seeing more and more escorts saying they are 8 inch (or even more). Of all the escorts I've been with only one was truly nearly 8 inches (my two hands stacked on top of each other and part of his dick stuck out). The others all claimed to be 8 inches too but they were more between 6-7 inches. Having said that, all their dicks were nice! Gays on hookup apps seem disproportianally obssesed with dick size, it's like they only want to have sex with 8 inches and nothing less. So I get why guys lie, because there seems to be an unrealistic expectation of what average dick size actually is. Now 7 inches seems to be treated as a minimum instead of being big. And also, "average" does not seem to exist in the gay vernacular when it comes to describing dick size. You're either big or small. If you're average, you're deemed small. (Well, that's been my experience anyway). At some point it did come across like some guys wanted to have sex with a huge dick, no matter which guy it was attached to. Makes me wonder why they don't just go and sit on a traffic cone.

This is his rentmen: https://rent.men/raphaelaraujo

Yes! It IS him!! He is SO handsome and the only guy there that was taller I am (I love how tall he is). Very sweet and kind guy.

Is it possible that Gabriel uses the name Raphael at the sauna and online? Because I saw a guy who looked EXACTLY like the picture you posted and I asked if he was Gabriel but he said that his name was Raphael. I had two wonderful sessions with him but now I'm looking at the picture again, it IS him I'm sure. Or he has a double there...

Hmm, I just confirmed a session with him tomorrow before I saw this thread. Now I'm wondering if I should cancel. He seemed personable enough during communications and his rentmen reviews are all five stars, but one (three stars, but still recomends hiring him). The thing that gives me pause is that his Planetromeo profile is over a year old yet he hasn't got a single review on there. Knowing that escorts can just hide any review they want on their profile, this makes me wonder. Hasn't he gotten a single review on there for a whole year? Or not a single positive one? Not sure what to do at the moment.

Awesome, thanks! I arrived this afternoon.

What I find interesting is that the same escort will say "bi" on his rentmen ad, but "gay" on his planetromeo. I've seen this happen about two times now and it gives me pause. I don't contact guys that label "straight" or "ask me". I actually like it when an escort may have a bit of flamboyancy about him, 'cause that puts me at ease. But that's never happened. The guys I've met were sort of inbetween on the feminine-masculine spectrum with most of them having a bit of a shy streak about them. (Sub)consciously I will look for guys that identify as gay, because that helps my fantasy of them actually wanting to spend time with me for more than just the money. Or them actually enjoying themselves. But yeah, bi pops up enough for me too to have noticed it.

Do you know if Gabriel has an ad up on Planetromeo or Rentmen? Tried searching but couldn't seem to find him. I can't host (so can't get him from the sauna to my place) so was wondering if I could do an incall at his place (besides the sauna, I'm trying it all, hahaha).

Oh, thanks! Well, I've never been to a sauna before so thanks for letting me know.

One more question (thanks for being so helpful!). Do I book that room when I enter the sauna, or when I've found a guy to take to it? And I'll let you know if I see Lucas.

Awesome, thanks so much! Gabriel looks super hot. I'll be there from tomorrow till Sunday.

I'm loving all the contributions, by the way! Very helpful, thanks!!

You mean it's expected they stay exclusive to you or expected they are allowed other sexual partners unless exclusivity is specifically requested by the client? How much solo time do you get, on average? I would think it odd if I hired a guy for a weekend but half the time he'd be gallavanting off on his own. I've had non-escorts do that to me, and I don't enjoy it. Hahahaha. How'd he manage that? An hour or so seems what I would have in mind if I'd hire for an extended period. True, my first overnight was with a guy whom I'd previously had an afternoon session with (about 5 hours). We clicked so well that we were both very enthusiastic to do an overnight. So much so he cut his fee in half (without any prompting on my part. Well, he gave me 24 hours on 12 hours of pay). It ended up being an absolute disaster. There were other factors involved of course (he was having family issues and actually should have cancelled our overnight), but still, being with someone in a small concentrated amount of time can be very different than a longer period where your different rythms and habits come out. Thanks for sharing, this is very helpful! Do you want to be glued to a guy when you hire (either short or extended?) or am I reading a suggestion as not to expect that? But yeah, basically the seething, angry and dissapointed part is what I'm a little apprehensive about. I was doing an overnight which I had paid with some of my limited savings only to have the escort be on the phone for an hour (during our session) setting up a weeklong vacation with a super rich client and seeing the escort positively glowing about this, being completely confronted with the fact that that wasn't a possibility for me. Didn't make me feel so special. Maybe I'm better off doing shorter hires. I can get quite insatiable sexually and affectionwise in certain situations (like holidaying in a nice city and hotel) where I just wanna cuddlefuck the guy's brains out. The exception maybe would be visiting Brazil, I'd love to take an escort there who knows the language and the lay-out. I'd just be worried he'd be distracted by all the hot sexy men and forget about me, hahaha. (Well, we could solve that with threesomes. ) I've been in situations like my described fantasy with non-escorts and these were magical. Just hours and hours of cuddling, tantilizingly slow foreplay that didn't escalate. Then dinner and straight back to the bedroom for more cuddling and sexual fun.

Awesome, thanks for the info! How did you go about talking about the fee? How did you ask?

We started with a massage. :cool:

A-MAY-ZING. Cute as a button, sweet as sugar, hot as a stove and ACTUALLY A TRAINED MASSEUR. Oh, yeah, the regional differences in Dutch are so big. I still like the language, though, but English is more peotic foe me.