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W Well that shut me up. I assumed that the men participating in the study on the effects of HIV drugs were not going to self-report on cognitive functions. I'm gonna keep quiet now because I don't have enough knowledge on this particular subject to really engage in the discussion.

It's not that barebacking is new, obviously, it's that now that PrEP is an option, more people are open to the idea of barebacking.

I came out as naughty submissive. Which is pretty accurate. I like it if my partner takes the lead but I will not put up with anything that I don't enjoy. By simply tapping them with a finger and going "nu-uh". Or saying "I don't enjoy that". It is pretty accurate for me but only outside of the BDSM scene. I am super vanilla, so most of the questions didn't apply to me. I do identify as a submissive top and like active (but sweet) powerbottoms.

I get that sending dick pics individually might be a waste of time so why not post a couple up on their profile? I understand @thickornotatall 's wish to see the good before hiring. It is part of the service, Big dicks isn't an interest of mine so I don't really care either way, though I do appreciate having some nude pics of the escort, if only to enjoy the nice memories after our date.

I've seen more and more ads popping up lately that have no fully nude or dick pics in their profile and in their ad text it says: "Do not ask for dick/XXX pics, I do not send these". It makes me wonder... These guys realize that their dick and being nude is part of the service, right? Sure, sure, there are no rules and guarantees but... Let's not kid ourselves, a lot of clients are looking to get nude. Personally for me it doesn't matter whether I get to see their dicks in advance since for me the body, face and chemistry is so much more important (and their butt, hahaha). But unwilling to send ANY nudes? Or post them? As an escort? I find it interesting/strange, to say the least.

To me that feels a bit like a contradiction in terms? Healthcare to me means making medical care available to everyone regardless of their income. Which is how it works in Belgium. You pay 9 dollars a month and you are covered for everything that relates to mainstream medicine. For alternative medicine each healthcare company is allowed to come with its own payouts. If you are unable to pay the 9 dollars a month I think our social services pay it for you... But I'm not completely sure about that. There still is a "personal part" in medical costs here in Belgium. For instance, a visit to the GP costs 25 euro, but healthcare pays back 20 euro. The 5 euro is known as the "personal part". For more serious ailments (like cancer, for instance) the personal part is waived and everything is covered completely by healthcare (including consultations, treatments, medications, doctors and even psychotherapy during cancer treatment). (Incidentally a friend of mine had to see a GP in the US when she was travelling there. My eyes bulged when she said she had to pay 200 dollars for the consultation.) If the financing is that bad in the US, to me that's not a good system of healthcare... By the way, I'm not glorifying or flaunting the system in Belgium. I'm genuinely enjoying the discussion and hearing how it is over there and share information.

Wow, seeing you guys talk about healthcare and PrEP makes my eyes cross a little... In Belgium when it's decided that a drug is covered by healthcare it becomes a nationwide standard and all healthcare companies are required by law to provide the exact copay or benefits or whatever the term would be. Getting PrEP in Belgium is making an appointment in one of the specialized STI clinics here and you pay around 15 euro (20 dollars) a month for a bottle. All the testing and consultations are covered by healthcare, as far as I know. Or at least the biggest chunk of it. Thanks for sharing. I've not personally seen such a dramatic shift to barebacking here in Europe, even though PrEP is relatively easy to come by. But since my personal experience is very limited, I can't really make a statement either way. But I have heard stories about Berlin, for instance, where barebacking seems to be on the rise. I know it's easy to say that if you're worried about barebacking, don't do it, but when you're in the heat of the moment and your dick gets engulfed by that utter pleasure (because for instance, the bottom just slides it in without saying or asking)... It's very hard to snap out of it. That's why I've made an appointment to go on PReP. Still wanna use condoms, but I want to have that extra protection for when I find myself in a situation similar to the one described above and in my original post. The specialist I consulted about PrEP and PEP said that in a situation like that it would still be better to be on PrEP, but use it event-driven, meaning only take it when you know you're going to have sex (or there's a chance there will be). And not take it the rest of the time. He said that one PEP treatment equalled ten event-driven uses of PrEP so you'd get more mileage out of your PrEP bottle (I mean have sex more times).

Yup, on a short film I was directing. A scene took place in a barn and while location scouting the farm we were gonna use my friend (who volunteered at the farm) showed me how to milk a cow. Fun aside: we had set everything up to start filming (the actors were gonna milk the cow) when suddenly the cow decides it's time to empty her bladder, all over our cables (luckily no equipment got hit, hahaha).

Let us know who you end up going with! I visit Paris regularly and I'd love to hear about any other guys.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help. (Or even Italian!)

That's interesting. I never filter on safer sex so I wasn't aware (until now) that escorts could opt to not fill out the field. Yeah, I sometimes forget that safer sex means different things to different people. I always assume it means fucking with a condom.

I wasn't able to find a Mexican restaurant but I did find a diner that was still open! So I had fries as a midnight snack (they were quite good, too) but now my tummy is upset.

PreP is relatively easily available in Western-Europe thanks to the healthcare here. But I've not noticed the same amount of openness to barebacking as in the USA (just based off of the info in escort profiles, not personal experience). Basically 99% of the profiles state "safe only". If I filter on "ask me" or "anything goes" the hits are few and far between in Europe. Yeah, my experience has been the same. I didn't hire for more than two years and only recently started again and there seems to be a definite shift to being more open about barebacking. I outright say during pre-meetup communication that I fuck with a condom (if the ad says "ask me") if the ad states "safe only" I don't, since I presume we'll be using condoms. Although one guy, who had "safe only" and told me he didn't bareback before the meeting, asked me during the meeting if I preferred it without a condom. But I don't think he was checking if I wanted to bareback but making sure that if I DID prefer barebacking I'd still put on a condom with him. If you have a direct link to his ad you can check what it says about "safer sex", although apparently guys on rentmen can hide it from their profile.

Now I need a midnight snack...

Thank you!!! That's really what I feel like... Since my we seperated three years ago (actual legal divorce was finalized last year) I just have no clue who I am... And it feels like I'm constantly discovering new things about myself. On one hand that's great but it does give a sense of instability sometimes. I hear you about social media. I limit it very strictly. I only follow people on Instagram I personally know in real-life and even then I don't follow all of them. Facebook I use purely for promoting my theater performances. And it's helped a great deal in how I feel. I've recently started reading the "Jeeves" series of books by P.G. Wodehouse and I literally laugh out loud with those.

So it had been almost two years since I barebacked. It was with my boyfriend at the time. Since then I've always used condoms and over time I totally forgot what barebacking felt like. I even thought that the difference in sensation was purely mental. Well, was I wrong. Last weekend I had three mind blowing sessions with an escort. When we fucked the first time he took out the condom himself. On Planetromeo and Rentmen his ad says about safer sex "ask me" and "needs discussion". So during our second session I started teasing his hole with my dick and some spit for lube. He relaxed so much I could slide right in... And I did. And the pleasure nearly shut down my brain. But I did grab a condom to continue the session. (Our last session was also with a condom so basically I only entered him a couple of times without a condom). I talked to him afterward and he said he's on PreP and had got tested two weeks before and everything was negative. Still I went to the sti clinic to talk about PeP (I don't take PreP as I hadn't been sexually active in the past six months, like, at all, I've just recently started having sex again). The doctor said she would prescribe PeP if it would ease my anxiety but she thought there was basically zero risk. So I decided to not start a treatment. But it did make more me aware that even though barebacking felt mindboggingly great (and the sensation just completely shuts down my rational brain) I still prefer a condom (because of other sti's and also I can last much, much longer). Fast forward to tonight. I see an escort I haven't seen in years. We had amazing sessions before (always with condoms) and I'm teasing his hole with spit and he relaxes and... I realize I want to put on a condom. So I grab a condom from his nightstand. He sees me do that and he says: "Oh, you like it with a condom." I nod and we continue. Here's the thing, I don't enjoy ejaculating. Almost never is it pleasurable. So when I pulled out he asked if I wanted to cum on his chest but I said I didn't need to cum. But I like seeing a guy cum so I ask if I can make him cum and it's clear to me that he thinks it's superhot if he can make me cum. So I agree to cum with him. As I'm on the edge he sits on top of me and puts my dick in his ass just as I'm cumming. (This all happened in a split second, I thought he was just teasing but slipped it in). I shoot half my load in him and try to pull out but this guy is twice my size and weighs like 200 pounds. So I'm unable to pull out entirely. Afterward I ask him if he's on PreP. He says yes but... I feel a little... Sad? Uneasy? Obviously the pleasure from barebacking does get to me and it must have shown in my face... But still, I would've preferred not to cum in his ass. I was also really surprised because this guy years ago only did safe so that's why I wasn't expecting this. I checked his ad after our session but he's unchecked the safer sex option so it doesn't even show in his ad (didn't know this was even possible) because I had thought it said "safe only". Well, I'm going to see a doctor about starting PeP now and have made an appointment for a PreP consultation. Because I seem to have some trouble communicating boundaries and control my impulses. Of course, PreP will not help with other sti's so I still want to use a condom even if I were to start using PreP. But at least it'll be an extra layer of protection for when I find myself in a similar situation and my brain decides to take a holiday. I'm seriously considering stopping with sex for a while. Until I can get a better handle on my brain and self-control. I can go without sex as I've been without any sexual contact for six months so that doesn't bother me (by choice, I hasten to add, hahaha). It seems to be better to just avoid even the possibility of finding myself in such a scenario than taking the risk for now.

Hey guys, here's an update. After having consultations with three professionals (one doctor and two mental health care therapists) the diagnosis is in: it's not bipolar, borderline or even major depressive disorder. It's undealt with childhood/youth trauma (abusive alcoholic dad and neglectful and emotionally distant mother). I was referred to a therapist specialized in trauma and the first session was beyond amazing. I have my next session lined up for next week and I'm actually looking forward to it! She's already taught me some techniques to deal with overwhelm and also learning to allow myself to FEEL whatever I'm feeling instead of clamping down/shutting down and numbing myself. I'm actually looking forward to healing myself! And to be a calm, whole person that can interact with people without constantly feeling like I'm dying on the inside.

I know, right?? Hahaha. Thanks for all the answers! I was really wondering about the table. How viable it is as a masseur to travel without one (if it's a dealbreaker for clients or not and so on). Because I've been pondering if I'd like to become a travelling masseur myself. I'm used to giving massages on a bed so that would not be a problem. I've worked with a portable table before but those things are still superheavy and so clunky. The masseurs I've had sessions with did it on the bed.

I wondered how travelling masseurs do their massages. Do they travel with a table everywhere? Or do it on the bed? Do masseurs do outcalls? If so, do they bring a table? I had a travelling masseur once and he made a makeshift... thingie on the ground out of pillows and a comforter. He said that a hard surface was better than doing it on the bed. While massaging me he got horny and begged me to fuck him. Which I did. On the bed. This was in Europe, so no license was in danger, right? :eek: (By which I mean I think I can say we had sex.)

Great, thanks! I've just booked my second stay now. I'm going back mid-november. I texted Raphael to check if he'd be in Barcelona, but he's hasn't responded. Have you had any luck contacting him? Maybe I'm just planning too far out for him... Still would be nice to get a reply. We had such great moments in the sauna. Yeah... I'm hooked. I booked the TWO hotel this time. There's some guys (including Raphael) I'd love to get some private playtime with. @tassojunior thanks so much for all the info and recommendations. It made my first experience at Sauna Thermas just amazing.

Did you end up finding someone? I'm interested 'cause I like visiting Paris also.

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.