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Since the recent Facebook privacy scandal Instagram has changed their API. Coincidentally when this happened I have been unable to get any hits with Google reverse image search. Even when doing a test with my own pictures which I know are online. It seems that Google no longer indexes Instagram pictures (or is unable to).

Wait, Friendboy actually has a toggable tag on the profile for this?? That's... Well. Okay. I mean, sure if a guy just mentions it in his ad. But the platform providing it... Okay, well, know your market, I guess.

Oooh, so excited for you! Have fun! In my experience all the Latin men from South America I had sessions with were all very enthusiastic and passionate kissers wih tongue and very deep. I do think that all the guys, except one who identified as bi, I had a session with were actually gay. Of the three non-Latins I had it was as follows: Romanian: bi, kissed dry, no tongue but did seem to enjoy it. He was actually a really nice guy. Egyptian: kissed with tongue but his style of kissing wasn't compatible with mine Moroccon: gay and nice kisser Ask if they kiss, then ask to show you. Some guys will French kiss you right on the spot. Others will say they only do it in the cabin. If that's the case, and no kissing is a dealbreaker for you, I told a guy before going into the cabin that if he didn't kiss our session would not go through and I would not pay. Seems blunt, but communication is very important. Try to find Raphael. He's a great guy. Great kisser, friendly, sexy and fully vers (he bottomed for me). Pictures of him were posted earlier in this thread. He usually arrives between 4 and 5pm. He was the tallest guy there so he's hard to miss. I had a, what I thought was very cute, moment with one of the guys. We were intensily cuddling and I ask if he's gay. And he slightly surprised said: "Yes, I'm gay. Can't you tell I'm gay? Don't I look gay?" I assured him that, yes, I could he tell was gay. I was so endeared by this 'cause usually guys get offended if they are perceived to be displaying gay characteristics (because it's not considered masculine). I cuddled him even more after that.

What's SA? Do you mean you use these three primarily to find escorts and you end up paying between 150-200? I'm interested on how you approach escorts on Grindr, or do they hit you up?

Rentmasseur is operated by the same company as Rentmen. Since Rentmen doesn't ask for an ID, maybe Rentmasseur doesn't either.

I recently saw an ad on Hunqz with the tagline: "Hot muscular jock for same." I thought "I think he's in the wrong section of the site..."

I prefer upbeat movies. "Love, Simon" just warms my heart. Sure, it may be a bit of fantasy given that almost every single person in that movie (re)acts maturely and emotionally appropriate and supportive. But to me it was a much needed breath of fresh air amongst all the usual drama that is the queer coming of age films. What is really important for me about the movie, though, is that it gives people a template on how you can respond in a situation like that that is supportive and positive. If you like comedies, I highly, HIGHLY recommend "4th Man Out" (available on Netflix). It's about a gay guy coming out to his lifelong best friends. The movie focuses on the friendship and the clumsy fumbling (but funny and endearing) actions his straight friends go through in order to try and be a good friend to the gay guy. "GBF" is nice, but not as memorable for me as "4th Man Out". It lacked strong comedic elements. And these aren't strictly coming-of-age movies but I really like them: "First Period", it's a parody on the '80's teen coming of age movies (think "sixteen candles") and the two leads are men in drag (Lance Bass's hunky boyfriend is also in it). The script is so chock full of jokes you hardly catch them all on the first viewing. "Were the World Mine". A beautiful musical movie about a high school kid that DOESN'T allow himself to be bullied. One who fights back and has a backbone. The songs are ethereal and the story is magical. I've seen it many times. I have to be honest, I hated "Call Me By Your Name". That relationship to me was bordering on emotional abuse (from the older guy to the younger one). And just felt like gay clickbait. I don't even remember seeing any gay sex in there yet we see tits and vagina and straight sex? Not that there has to be gay sex in a movie but it was odd that they didn't show anything gay as explicitly as they did like the straight sex scene in the movie. The older guy to me came across as an absolute asshole and manipulative. Not a single endearing moment in that movie for me.

I really like Durex Real Feeling. They're more expensive and their use-by date is a lot shorter than other condoms but they feel really nice, both for the top and bottom. They feel softer and smoother and seem to have much less friction.

For a while now I've wanted to hire a guy to accompany me to a private sauna. Just the two of us and the hottub, dry sauna, swimming pool... A couple of hours of relaxing and fun for my Birthday.

W Well that shut me up. I assumed that the men participating in the study on the effects of HIV drugs were not going to self-report on cognitive functions. I'm gonna keep quiet now because I don't have enough knowledge on this particular subject to really engage in the discussion.

It's not that barebacking is new, obviously, it's that now that PrEP is an option, more people are open to the idea of barebacking.

I came out as naughty submissive. Which is pretty accurate. I like it if my partner takes the lead but I will not put up with anything that I don't enjoy. By simply tapping them with a finger and going "nu-uh". Or saying "I don't enjoy that". It is pretty accurate for me but only outside of the BDSM scene. I am super vanilla, so most of the questions didn't apply to me. I do identify as a submissive top and like active (but sweet) powerbottoms.

I get that sending dick pics individually might be a waste of time so why not post a couple up on their profile? I understand @thickornotatall 's wish to see the good before hiring. It is part of the service, Big dicks isn't an interest of mine so I don't really care either way, though I do appreciate having some nude pics of the escort, if only to enjoy the nice memories after our date.

I've seen more and more ads popping up lately that have no fully nude or dick pics in their profile and in their ad text it says: "Do not ask for dick/XXX pics, I do not send these". It makes me wonder... These guys realize that their dick and being nude is part of the service, right? Sure, sure, there are no rules and guarantees but... Let's not kid ourselves, a lot of clients are looking to get nude. Personally for me it doesn't matter whether I get to see their dicks in advance since for me the body, face and chemistry is so much more important (and their butt, hahaha). But unwilling to send ANY nudes? Or post them? As an escort? I find it interesting/strange, to say the least.

To me that feels a bit like a contradiction in terms? Healthcare to me means making medical care available to everyone regardless of their income. Which is how it works in Belgium. You pay 9 dollars a month and you are covered for everything that relates to mainstream medicine. For alternative medicine each healthcare company is allowed to come with its own payouts. If you are unable to pay the 9 dollars a month I think our social services pay it for you... But I'm not completely sure about that. There still is a "personal part" in medical costs here in Belgium. For instance, a visit to the GP costs 25 euro, but healthcare pays back 20 euro. The 5 euro is known as the "personal part". For more serious ailments (like cancer, for instance) the personal part is waived and everything is covered completely by healthcare (including consultations, treatments, medications, doctors and even psychotherapy during cancer treatment). (Incidentally a friend of mine had to see a GP in the US when she was travelling there. My eyes bulged when she said she had to pay 200 dollars for the consultation.) If the financing is that bad in the US, to me that's not a good system of healthcare... By the way, I'm not glorifying or flaunting the system in Belgium. I'm genuinely enjoying the discussion and hearing how it is over there and share information.

Wow, seeing you guys talk about healthcare and PrEP makes my eyes cross a little... In Belgium when it's decided that a drug is covered by healthcare it becomes a nationwide standard and all healthcare companies are required by law to provide the exact copay or benefits or whatever the term would be. Getting PrEP in Belgium is making an appointment in one of the specialized STI clinics here and you pay around 15 euro (20 dollars) a month for a bottle. All the testing and consultations are covered by healthcare, as far as I know. Or at least the biggest chunk of it. Thanks for sharing. I've not personally seen such a dramatic shift to barebacking here in Europe, even though PrEP is relatively easy to come by. But since my personal experience is very limited, I can't really make a statement either way. But I have heard stories about Berlin, for instance, where barebacking seems to be on the rise. I know it's easy to say that if you're worried about barebacking, don't do it, but when you're in the heat of the moment and your dick gets engulfed by that utter pleasure (because for instance, the bottom just slides it in without saying or asking)... It's very hard to snap out of it. That's why I've made an appointment to go on PReP. Still wanna use condoms, but I want to have that extra protection for when I find myself in a situation similar to the one described above and in my original post. The specialist I consulted about PrEP and PEP said that in a situation like that it would still be better to be on PrEP, but use it event-driven, meaning only take it when you know you're going to have sex (or there's a chance there will be). And not take it the rest of the time. He said that one PEP treatment equalled ten event-driven uses of PrEP so you'd get more mileage out of your PrEP bottle (I mean have sex more times).

Yup, on a short film I was directing. A scene took place in a barn and while location scouting the farm we were gonna use my friend (who volunteered at the farm) showed me how to milk a cow. Fun aside: we had set everything up to start filming (the actors were gonna milk the cow) when suddenly the cow decides it's time to empty her bladder, all over our cables (luckily no equipment got hit, hahaha).

Let us know who you end up going with! I visit Paris regularly and I'd love to hear about any other guys.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help. (Or even Italian!)

That's interesting. I never filter on safer sex so I wasn't aware (until now) that escorts could opt to not fill out the field. Yeah, I sometimes forget that safer sex means different things to different people. I always assume it means fucking with a condom.

I wasn't able to find a Mexican restaurant but I did find a diner that was still open! So I had fries as a midnight snack (they were quite good, too) but now my tummy is upset.

PreP is relatively easily available in Western-Europe thanks to the healthcare here. But I've not noticed the same amount of openness to barebacking as in the USA (just based off of the info in escort profiles, not personal experience). Basically 99% of the profiles state "safe only". If I filter on "ask me" or "anything goes" the hits are few and far between in Europe. Yeah, my experience has been the same. I didn't hire for more than two years and only recently started again and there seems to be a definite shift to being more open about barebacking. I outright say during pre-meetup communication that I fuck with a condom (if the ad says "ask me") if the ad states "safe only" I don't, since I presume we'll be using condoms. Although one guy, who had "safe only" and told me he didn't bareback before the meeting, asked me during the meeting if I preferred it without a condom. But I don't think he was checking if I wanted to bareback but making sure that if I DID prefer barebacking I'd still put on a condom with him. If you have a direct link to his ad you can check what it says about "safer sex", although apparently guys on rentmen can hide it from their profile.

Now I need a midnight snack...

Thank you!!! That's really what I feel like... Since my we seperated three years ago (actual legal divorce was finalized last year) I just have no clue who I am... And it feels like I'm constantly discovering new things about myself. On one hand that's great but it does give a sense of instability sometimes. I hear you about social media. I limit it very strictly. I only follow people on Instagram I personally know in real-life and even then I don't follow all of them. Facebook I use purely for promoting my theater performances. And it's helped a great deal in how I feel. I've recently started reading the "Jeeves" series of books by P.G. Wodehouse and I literally laugh out loud with those.

So it had been almost two years since I barebacked. It was with my boyfriend at the time. Since then I've always used condoms and over time I totally forgot what barebacking felt like. I even thought that the difference in sensation was purely mental. Well, was I wrong. Last weekend I had three mind blowing sessions with an escort. When we fucked the first time he took out the condom himself. On Planetromeo and Rentmen his ad says about safer sex "ask me" and "needs discussion". So during our second session I started teasing his hole with my dick and some spit for lube. He relaxed so much I could slide right in... And I did. And the pleasure nearly shut down my brain. But I did grab a condom to continue the session. (Our last session was also with a condom so basically I only entered him a couple of times without a condom). I talked to him afterward and he said he's on PreP and had got tested two weeks before and everything was negative. Still I went to the sti clinic to talk about PeP (I don't take PreP as I hadn't been sexually active in the past six months, like, at all, I've just recently started having sex again). The doctor said she would prescribe PeP if it would ease my anxiety but she thought there was basically zero risk. So I decided to not start a treatment. But it did make more me aware that even though barebacking felt mindboggingly great (and the sensation just completely shuts down my rational brain) I still prefer a condom (because of other sti's and also I can last much, much longer). Fast forward to tonight. I see an escort I haven't seen in years. We had amazing sessions before (always with condoms) and I'm teasing his hole with spit and he relaxes and... I realize I want to put on a condom. So I grab a condom from his nightstand. He sees me do that and he says: "Oh, you like it with a condom." I nod and we continue. Here's the thing, I don't enjoy ejaculating. Almost never is it pleasurable. So when I pulled out he asked if I wanted to cum on his chest but I said I didn't need to cum. But I like seeing a guy cum so I ask if I can make him cum and it's clear to me that he thinks it's superhot if he can make me cum. So I agree to cum with him. As I'm on the edge he sits on top of me and puts my dick in his ass just as I'm cumming. (This all happened in a split second, I thought he was just teasing but slipped it in). I shoot half my load in him and try to pull out but this guy is twice my size and weighs like 200 pounds. So I'm unable to pull out entirely. Afterward I ask him if he's on PreP. He says yes but... I feel a little... Sad? Uneasy? Obviously the pleasure from barebacking does get to me and it must have shown in my face... But still, I would've preferred not to cum in his ass. I was also really surprised because this guy years ago only did safe so that's why I wasn't expecting this. I checked his ad after our session but he's unchecked the safer sex option so it doesn't even show in his ad (didn't know this was even possible) because I had thought it said "safe only". Well, I'm going to see a doctor about starting PeP now and have made an appointment for a PreP consultation. Because I seem to have some trouble communicating boundaries and control my impulses. Of course, PreP will not help with other sti's so I still want to use a condom even if I were to start using PreP. But at least it'll be an extra layer of protection for when I find myself in a similar situation and my brain decides to take a holiday. I'm seriously considering stopping with sex for a while. Until I can get a better handle on my brain and self-control. I can go without sex as I've been without any sexual contact for six months so that doesn't bother me (by choice, I hasten to add, hahaha). It seems to be better to just avoid even the possibility of finding myself in such a scenario than taking the risk for now.