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This! YEARS ago one of my oldest friends shared that too with me. I was dubious - not really believing the old wives tales about big feet, big nose, hat size, etc. - I mean you are going to run into well hung men that have those attributes, but it’s no guarantee. But she swore by the nail beds.
 
I started to take notice after being with one blessed man, and looking at his nail beds muttered “damn her!” lol  After him, I kept track for a bit, and she was right.
BBD 

“Glass closeted” - meaning the gent is known to be gay or like men, but it’s not discussed. Different from “closeted” where the gent is not known or often even suspected of being gay or liking men. 

I’m with @NJmusclelover on this one. While yes, we all can fall victim to jet lag, and crash after a long flight, how one addresses the aftermath of crashing like that -whether it’s in our personal, professional, or hobbyist lives - tells the tale. The way this provider handled things moves him from “unprofessional” to “rip off artist”. 

He took a deposit for a specific window of time, was radio silent for hours on the day when the hobbyist was trying to confirm, replies 40 minutes after he was supposed to be there with an offer to shower, and come over after - and when the client replies that won’t work, this provider flippantly replies that the hobbyist probably just jo’d, and didn’t want to pay for a session, so he’s keeping the deposit since by his twisted logic, the client is cancelling on him. To me, it’s the provider’s last flippant reply that bumps him to rip off artist. 

Sorry this happened to you, NJML - and thank you for this heads up. Something tells me this isn’t the first time, and probably won’t be the last time this provider has pulled a stunt like this. Forewarned is forearmed, so to speak, in this hobby on many fronts. 
 
BBD 

 

Thanks for sharing all these stories, gents!! Nice to know I’m not the only tramp whilst traveling! ?
 
Here are my offerings - the first, and the most recent. Only the names have been changed to protect the not so innocent:
 
1.) Cambridge MA circa 1993 - my team traveled to a college rugby tournament over Columbus Day weekend. I was already playing with guys, but it was a “secret” to everyone, especially my teammates except for the two guys I had played with on the team. I had been hoping I’d room with one of them, but that was not to be. Anyway fast forward, after two days of playing, and more importantly viewing all sorts in the locker room and shower, this rugger was horny. The Sunday night, the host rugby team had a party at their house. It was as you imagine - lots of drink, lots of dirty rugby songs, lots of dares, etc.. I got chatting with another rugger who was also from NYC. Mind you, at the time I was a nice bit of stuff - 6’2” hairy, with a nice thick muscley rugby jock build. The guy I was chatting with was similar in stature - about 6’ with a thick muscley rugby build. He was also a ginger - and the first ginger I had seen who was also quite hairy. We chat, there’s definitely a vibe, and knowing looks, and finally subtle touching and gropes that made it clear we were on the same page. He suggests going back to his hotel room for a drink, I ask about his roommate, he smiles and says he has a single.
 
There was no uber back then, and I hadn’t a notion where we were (we had taken cabs from our hotel), but Ginger knew the way so after about 20-30 minutes walking, talking, I found myself slammed against his hotel room wall as we began making out, feeling each other up. Clothes scattered as we made our way to his bed all the while kissing, feeling, touching. I loved his hairy ginger body, and he had a great thick cock on him. He seemed to like what I was offering too.
 
We’re both horny animals - making out, sucking nipples, make out some more, licking pits, more make out, 69’g, make out, eating ass, make out, giving each other handy j’s as we make out. Then his hand is playing with my balls, then his fingers are going further south, then he says “I want to be in you” just as his fingertips are playing in my furry trench. ? My mind was going 500mph at this point. That was my other secret - I really wanted to bottom, but had not at this point, yet here I was with this hot hairy ginger rugger who wanted to top me. His fingers felt good teasing me back there, he was kissing my neck, kissing my ear telling me how hot he thought I was, how hard I made him, pointing out how much I was leaking, but damn it all to hell, I just couldn’t say yes! ?
 
He was entirely cool with that, if disappointed, but we managed to get two nuts each without anal that night.
 
I remember the bus ride back on Monday, most were hungover, but I was both cursing myself, and congratulating myself for saying no. It was about 3 weeks later I finally gave it up to the hockey jock, which made me think why did I ever say no to the ginger rugger???
 
Fast forward about 6 years, I’m playing in a recreational rugby league in NYC, and who do I meet at a match? Ginger rugger! Or more properly, now he’s Dr Ginger Rugger. Needless to say, I didn’t say no that time, or any of the subsequent times we got together. He’s still hot even today - but now we’re both more bear than jock. He’s married, but even so, I’d take a ride on Dr Ginger Rugger anytime - hell, his husband is cute enough so he could join too! ?
 
2.) Dublin, Ireland 2019 - I had to go to Ireland for a family wedding down the country. It was a bit of a posh wedding - my family had rented the entire hotel (a great historic country hotel) so you only ever saw family and wedding guests for the weekend. Anyway, after spending a week and a half down the country, I was ready for some “me time”. Knowing this would be the case, I had booked myself into a hotel on the quays in Dublin, so up on the train I went.
 
After checking in, I just wanted to wander around, see what had changed, get my bearings - normal things when you find yourself in a city you haven’t been to in a while. Hand to God, I’m walking past Trinity making my way to Dawson Street, and I hear my name shouted, I turn and see smiling and waving across the road a fellow I knew in NYC. He had been a bartender in the local near the office, but had returned to Ireland about 5 years prior. I was shocked, but delighted! He came across the road, and after hellos, we made our way to the pub I was heading for on Dawson Street.
 
We catch up over a few pints - since returning to Ireland, he completed his Masters, was a partner in a boutique accounting firm, bought a house on the Southside - so life was good for him. And yes, he still looked very good! I will confess, I had a bit of a crush on him as my bartender. Picture a 5’9” Tim Tebow lookalike, and there you have it - though he was hairier than Tim.
 
Anyway, sitting next to me in his suit, he was looking dishy to say the least. He couldn’t do anything that night, but promised to meet me at my hotel the next night for a night out.
 
We met at the hotel bar, he looked great in his casual/going out gear. A few drinks there, he says he took the following day off so we could have a proper night, and we were off. A bit of a pub crawl, and many pints later, back at the hotel having drinks in the residents lounge, and he suggests we take the drinks to my room. We do - I’m not thinking anything is in the cards honestly, just a more relaxing atmosphere. Plus my room had a terrace he wanted to see.
 
We’re still just catching up, talking about who we knew back in the day, what they’re up to now, our lives, normal BS. We’re both on the terrace smoking, and I feel his hand on my ass ? and he squeezed he said “you always had a great arse, I bet it’s hairy like your chest too, right?” The little voice in my head is screaming “OMG THIS IS REALLY HAPPENING!!” Before I could reply, he says, “come inside and show me”. We come inside, he hugs me to him, I can feel his erect cock thru his pants, he tells me I’ve gotten better with age, how he always loved how furry my chest was, and tonight he was going to find out just how furry the rest of me was - and he did.
 
God he was a powerful ride. Very skilled, and had tremendous stamina. This then 49yo was very proud to have orgasmed 4 times with him in our session. Obviously he stayed the night - more properly morning by the time he shot his last. We woke up around noon, had a session, ordered room service, had another session, then he had to take off as he was heading to Belfast the next day for work.
 
I did get some local talent the next two nights out on my own, but they’re another story - or two.
 
I was able to get together with my mate my last night for another sleepover - and he drove me to the airport the next day. If not for the damn rona I would have been back for some more. We are in regular contact - nearly every day - and we’re both looking forward to the end of all the travel restrictions ??

Wow! Blast from the past! Some hot guys for sure, but definitely no hiding just how amateur it all was - which for me, was a plus. 

These strolls down memory lane always get me wondering, “I wonder what these guys are doing today?” About a year ago, a good mate was moving, and in the midst of clearing stuff out, came across an old suitcase packed with old porn mags and VHS tapes. He had a vague memory of packing it all away but had thereafter forgotten about it. Anyway, we got talking, wondering where these hotties in the mags from the 90’s were now. Unfortunately, a few google searches resulted in sad updates. I’m guessing there would be similar results for some of the BulBuddies boys.
My first 90’s crush was featured in one of the mags - Ryan Zane. I wouldn’t let my mate google him - I said in my mind, he and his partner are living their life, running a guest house in the Keys lol  Sometimes, you’re better off not knowing. 
 
BBD 

It all depends on the circumstances. Sometimes I can be rock hard when I’m bottoming to the point that my top or I cannot touch my cock as I’m *that close* to orgasm. This has happened usually as a result of our foreplay, durty/naughty talk prior and during sex - and during those times I have cum hands free. But honestly, the majority of times I bottom I’m fully flaccid or with a semi chubby bouncing around.
 
As has been said the pleasure doesn’t always come from the penis and ejaculating. If you’ve ever had an anal orgasm when flaccid you know what I mean.
 
As to your point @Kevin Slater, as a grower to begin with, and with a very average in length but fat member, when I’m on my back, flaccid, enjoying my top, I do turtle in - but the pre will be pouring out. I’ve even cum many times like that usually in conjunction with an anal orgasm or when my top is hammering my prostate just right. You’re not alone in tops that get off on that visual 😉
 
BBD

This gent is not only a handsome guy, but he looks incredibly familiar to me. Not from RM either. I have a feeling I’ve met him socially - and more than once 🤷🏼‍♂️ This will frustrate me now lol 
If anyone has any idea of his social media presence do hit me up with a DM.
Oddly enough, this is the second time in as many weeks I’ve come across a profile on RM of a gent I know in real life. In the first instance, I’m very good friends of many years with his partner - so his RM profile was a bit of a shock to say the least. Not knowing what’s known and unknown there, I of course am staying schtum. 

Anyway, this whole “where/how do I know him?” Is going drive me spare! So anyone have any insight, do let me know. 
 
BBD 

It all depends on the circumstances. Sometimes I can be rock hard when I’m bottoming to the point that my top or I cannot touch my cock as I’m *that close* to orgasm. This has happened usually as a result of our foreplay, durty/naughty talk prior and during sex - and during those times I have cum hands free. But honestly, the majority of times I bottom I’m fully flaccid or with a semi chubby bouncing around.
 
As has been said the pleasure doesn’t always come from the penis and ejaculating. If you’ve ever had an anal orgasm when flaccid you know what I mean.
 
As to your point @Kevin Slater, as a grower to begin with, and with a very average in length but fat member, when I’m on my back, flaccid, enjoying my top, I do turtle in - but the pre will be pouring out. I’ve even cum many times like that usually in conjunction with an anal orgasm or when my top is hammering my prostate just right. You’re not alone in tops that get off on that visual 😉
 
BBD

In a good amount of his porn, he’s an enthusiastic bottom. His listing himself as only a “Top” on RM may be marketing, and/or strategic to allow him to pick the circumstances under which he’d bottom. 

I’m with @NJmusclelover on this one. While yes, we all can fall victim to jet lag, and crash after a long flight, how one addresses the aftermath of crashing like that -whether it’s in our personal, professional, or hobbyist lives - tells the tale. The way this provider handled things moves him from “unprofessional” to “rip off artist”. 

He took a deposit for a specific window of time, was radio silent for hours on the day when the hobbyist was trying to confirm, replies 40 minutes after he was supposed to be there with an offer to shower, and come over after - and when the client replies that won’t work, this provider flippantly replies that the hobbyist probably just jo’d, and didn’t want to pay for a session, so he’s keeping the deposit since by his twisted logic, the client is cancelling on him. To me, it’s the provider’s last flippant reply that bumps him to rip off artist. 

Sorry this happened to you, NJML - and thank you for this heads up. Something tells me this isn’t the first time, and probably won’t be the last time this provider has pulled a stunt like this. Forewarned is forearmed, so to speak, in this hobby on many fronts. 
 
BBD 

 

Ha! Nothing wrong with enjoying the finer things in life! Lord knows I’ve been guilty of that - both in this hobby, and other areas 😉
As with all, shall we say, “major investments” one looks for specific returns. So before booking a suite at the Hotel de Paris in Monte Carlo, or similar, one would want intel in what return to expect for such an investment! 😜

It’s not about viewers or the network being conservative or prudish. We’ve had other gay anchors in NYC who have had their nudes from the apps leaked, and they didn’t get the boot. What this fellow did went WAY beyond that. He was talking about his boss - naming him, first and surname - during his web chat, going on about how much he wanted his boss to fuck him, speculating on how he looks naked, how big he would be, how he’d fuck, how much he cums, etc., all the while he was pleasuring himself. That’s why I said imagine it was a hetero guy saying the same type of stuff about a female co-worker. We wouldn’t even be questioning him getting the boot. 

Why is still a story?? 

Every employer I’ve worked for has had some sort of policy, (or if a contract was involved, a clause), about bringing disrepute on the company, blah, blah, blah. Boiled down to basically meaning don’t do anything stupid that would embarrass you, and the company. Erick not only did something stupid, but he named names of co-workers while he was doing something stupid. Imagine if it was a hetero man doing the same, but instead named names of female co-workers in the manner Erick did.

None of this is about sex shaming, and nothing Erick did or said was about being sex positive. 

Very handsome Spaniard!
Definitely ticks the boxes ✔️  

My reverse image skills are truly woeful 😂 no joy for me - so if anyone knows, hit me up on DM/PM with his IG 🙏🏻

Nothing like that at all. This gent is monetising his looks, and specifically targeting gay men - a group which going by his public comments, he holds a very low opinion of. Given this, why would I or any gay man want to help someone like this continue to make money off of us? 
It’s basically an extension of my “shop local” mantra - there’s plenty of hot, out, gay men to thirst over. 

Sexuality runs the gamut whether it’s preferences in partners or preferences in practices. I don’t buy into the argument that labels don’t matter. Otherwise, one’s preferences aren’t allowed to matter, and you’re expected to be all things to everyone. 

However anyone wishes to identify themselves sexually is OK, just respect it. What you may think about their self identity is another matter. 

Do I find some straight guys hot? Absolutely! Both providers and IRL. But, in this hobby, I wouldn’t look to engage a straight provider - but that’s more about my “shop local” thing. Could that change? Possibly. I may not be looking for a straight provider, but if the gent ticks all the boxes otherwise, I could be open. Straight guys IRL are another matter. Unlike some other guys I know, I’d never make that first move - I figure if he wants it, he can make the first move, which has happened, and which has resulted in some fun times.
At the end of the day, each of us like what we like for whatever reasons. I may not get the whole strictly focused on straight men only thing, but I also don’t get some of the practices gay men engage in with other gay men. As long as it’s legal, (this hobby notwithstanding), no one is getting hurt, and the parties come out of it satisfied, go for it! 
 
Just my tuppence. 
BBD 

 

My meager contribution - Marlon and Lowi. Marlon is the bigger, taller slab of beef, and Lowi is RM’s own LeanderMasseur (https://app.rent.men/LeanderMasseur?nlh=1)
Lowi is the top in this video - given he admits to 5’7” on his ad, he may be more like 5’5”ish, making Marlon well over 6’2”. Yum! 

I can’t track anything on Marlon, if you gents have info on him, much appreciated 😀

Link to the video: 
https://www.gayporno.fm/marlon-lowi_2742341.html

This!! 🙌🏻

I know there will be hobbyists who will (vehemently) disagree with me, but in the two decades I’ve indulged in this hobby, I’ve had maybe two encounters, both in my early days as a hobbyist, with genuine straight providers that sufficed. They weren’t spectacular, and they weren’t unpleasant - they just sufficed a need at the time. 

Without getting into the whole discussion of providers who identify as straight or bi when they’re not either for marketing, there are plenty of actual gay providers out there. Again, just my opinion and experience, a gay provider is the one with whom you’re far more likely to have a successful encounter. 

Sorry to read about your very disappointing experience, @Daniel_D, and I hope your future experiences are far, far more enjoyable. 
 
BBD 

“Glass closeted” - meaning the gent is known to be gay or like men, but it’s not discussed. Different from “closeted” where the gent is not known or often even suspected of being gay or liking men.