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If you're so damn horny, get yourself a cheap hotel room nearby.
According to Wikipedia, 600,000 people go through Penn Station each day. When a commuter needs to use a public bathroom, he is entitled to go to in relative tranquility, and not have to compete with people who use the stalls as their personal sex spaces for the limited availability of public restrooms at Penn Station.
Let's hope these arrests and some time in jail sends this message.
BTC
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Hey there.
Could you explain a bit further? What specifically you mean by "LGBT characters"? 
Also, specifically what "themes" do you not support? It such a broad topic that it's almost impossible for the reader to understand what you meant.
Could you supply some examples? I'm just confused and would enjoy exploring your views more.
Josh

I've always liked symphonic music so here's my contribution: 
NO. ADVANCE. PAYMENTS. EVER.

Unless this is a repeat escort that you trust the answer is NO.

I'm amazed that so fat nobody has blamed Dixon for getting drank at this harasser's home therefore exposing himself to rape, or keeping up or even playing along with the "flirting" just to keep his job therefore making him guilty of what almost happened to him, etc.
In many high-profile rape cases women were vilified in this forum: "she had it coming', was a phrase commonly use.
Many think a cute white man should be judged differently especially considering who the "accused" is, unfortunately some already considered him to be guilty. 

That's the nicest thing you ever said about an "accuser"!
Whatever happened to innocent until proven to guilty? 
He has more money than you and I will ever made in several lifetimes. He'll pay him off (like he's done before) and hopefully he'll start paying for sex like most of us do. 
I'm surprised nobody so far has mocked the accuser for the "cult of victimhood"... 

My son's best friend in elementary school had two moms and it was all perfectly normal. Not common, but normal. 
Kids should be told that families come in all flavors: one mom, one dad, two moms, two dads, one mom, one dad, etc.  We've equated it to what goes on in the bedroom and kids don't care or think about that. 
Kids need to be raised with love; the gender and quantity of their parents is irrelevant. 

I'll take him at his word that he isn't anti-gay but merely didn't know how to respond to the question.  I had no difficulty responding to a similar but more personal question from the nephew of my then boyfriend nearly 40 years ago.  His extended family was out for a walk and his 6 year old nephew got paired up with me to be safe while crossing intersections.  He asked me out of the blue how I could be with his uncle since we were two males and couples were supposed to be male and female together.  I simply said sometimes two men love each other just like a man and a woman love each other.  He accepted the answer and didn't ask any follow up questions.  He definitely accepted me as if I were his uncle as well.  His mom overheard our conversation and praised me for my answer later.  It's easy to answer a question like this in an age appropriate manner unless you get hung up on thinking that anything that isn't hetero normative means you have to think about/talk about people's actual sex lives.  That isn't what a kid is asking about.
I know Snoop's situation involved the characters having a baby, so there's the question of "how do two women make a baby together" that wasn't present in my situation but if Snoop had just thought about it he'd realize the kid wasn't really looking for a lesson in biology.  He could have simply said something like, "I don't know how they had the baby, but they love each other and baby, just like your mom and dad" or something along those lines.

Hey there.
Could you explain a bit further? What specifically you mean by "LGBT characters"? 
Also, specifically what "themes" do you not support? It such a broad topic that it's almost impossible for the reader to understand what you meant.
Could you supply some examples? I'm just confused and would enjoy exploring your views more.
Josh

Hi
I wonder if you could elaborate? I'm interested in understanding your opinion better.
What do you mean regarding age-appropriateness in tv, cartoons,  chidrens movies etc with opposite sex couples?
I distinctly recall seeing as a very small child (before even 5 yrs old) on children's cartoons, movies, tv etc  opposite sex married couples being portrayed. I don't mean seeing couples actually having sex, kissing, or anything like that. I just recall seeing opposite sex couples in media, the school reading books, media etc doing basic things family activities.  For example,  Sesame Street had multiple opposite couples: Gordan & Susan Robinson & Luis & Maria for starters.
Was that age-appropriate or inappropriate display of human sexuality in your opinion?
Thank you in advance for your thoughtful reply.
Josh
 

Hi
I wonder if you could elaborate? I'm interested in understanding your opinion better.
What do you mean regarding age-appropriateness in tv, cartoons,  chidrens movies etc with opposite sex couples?
I distinctly recall seeing as a very small child (before even 5 yrs old) on children's cartoons, movies, tv etc  opposite sex married couples being portrayed. I don't mean seeing couples actually having sex, kissing, or anything like that. I just recall seeing opposite sex couples in media, the school reading books, media etc doing basic things family activities.  For example,  Sesame Street had multiple opposite couples: Gordan & Susan Robinson & Luis & Maria for starters.
Was that age-appropriate or inappropriate display of human sexuality in your opinion?
Thank you in advance for your thoughtful reply.
Josh
 

I am sure he was probably trying to be funny. I brought my nieces (the younger was 9) to Lightyear and no one cared about how two moms have kids. I didn't think it was a good movie; the creators seemed more concerned with representation than character development, but the kids really liked it. If I had been asked, I would have said, "Adoption," though I don't remember if she is ever shown as pregnant.
I don't listen to his music, so I don't really care, as long as he is kind to gays who work with and for him. However, he should know better than to say that sort of stuff in public.

Reminds me of the don't say gay bill in Florida a few years ago. Says way more about the parents and the bigots pushing it then it ever did about the kids who could care less other then mild curiosity. 

I’d much rather be in the position of explaining love to a child than explaining hate. Explaining love is a gift. Explaining hate is a burden, and too much of Snoop’s own catalog has already glorified the latter.

It’s kind of ironic, because there was a video clip of him saying how he would love to be in the middle of the three way kiss between Britney and Madonna after their 2003 vma performance. Plus the language in his rap lyrics aren’t exactly kid friendly either. How’s he going to explain that to his grandkids?

Here is the exact Snoop Dogg quote before being cleaned up by Yahoo:
“They, like, she had a baby with a woman. Why my grandson in the middle of the movie like ‘Papa Snoop? How she have a baby with a woman? She a woman,'” 
“Oh shit, I didn’t come in for this shit, I just came to watch the goddamn movie. Hey man, watch the movie. Uh-uh. ‘They just said she and she had a baby. They both women. How she have a baby with a woman? She a woman'”
Bozo's first thought is why would anyone care what an illiterate, foul-mouthed, aging rap star has to say about anything? Much less start a thread about it.
Is Snoop Dogg now a moral compass? 
And why do illiterate celebrities actually teach their children and grandchildren to be illiterate? With their million$ they could hire the best tutors to teach them ENGLISH. When that kid grows up Snoop is going to have to explain a lot worse than this...
Hey Snoop, have you ever heard any of the lyrics in your songs? What about some of the s*** you put out there?
BTC
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Always was repulsed by Snoop Dog.

So what do you think the neighbors of gay couples with or without children should be telling their children?  Pretend those neighbors don't exist until the children are "old enough"?  Should parents prevent their children until they're "old enough" from watching any of the gazilion celebrity-oriented TV shows or Youtube videos in case they show any of the multitude of gay celebrities and gay celebrity couples, again, with or without children?  How old is "old enough"?  Or should we have gay-free housing zones for people who don't want their children to see gay couples with children and have to answer any questions?

I don't see an ad that matches what was described, either.  
Quite honestly I didn't read the entirety of the original post because it read more to me like erotic fiction than reality.  I'm open to being wrong about that, but the lack of an ad that matches what was described does raise my skepticism even higher.
For the record, I don't think it's necessarily "internalized homophobia" that would cause some people to think it would be best not to pursue a man under these circumstances.  I wouldn't do it, and not because I'm ashamed of being gay.  It just sounds socially awkward.

You know, some of us do not give a shit about what the neighbors think.  I do not condone being flagrantly creepy and disrespectful, but really, if the neighbors are that sensitive, figuratively fuck them and actually fuck the son.

Several people have mentioned ignoring the offending posters but on a forum like this—small and geared toward people with common interests—is it unreasonable to ask for some level of tolerance and civility from all members?  Yes, there are a lot of assholes on fora throughout the internet who revel in the anonymity and freedom to post whatever vitriol they want, but we don’t have to be like them.  Scrolling and ignoring are good options but what’s wrong with expecting ourselves to meet a higher standard when posting and commenting?

We’ve all seen it happen: A benign thread on this site that gets derailed by haughty and venomous users who seemingly delight in belittling and bullying others. Sometimes their comments reflect an inability, or maybe an unwillingness, to accept that others simply disagree with them. Perhaps more disturbing are the times when their spite and snark emerge with no clear provocation, leaving the rest of us to wonder whether participating on this site is worth the hassle. Either way, this mean girl dynamic — the bullying of fellow users into submission and silence — is difficult to avoid on Company of Men, and it undermines this site as a space where all of us can convene and connect.
 
Outside of reporting such behavior to site administrators — an imperfect response that raises its own set of challenges — I see no clear path toward curbing this dynamic on CoM. (If others have suggestions, feel free to share.) I am naming it here for the benefit of others who, like me, are troubled by the mean-spiritedness of some of our fellow site members. You are not crazy; some of our peers on CoM are terribly unkind, and their petty and spiteful communication styles can make it difficult to spend time here.
 
And sure, this is not unique to CoM. Aggressive and malicious comments from others pervade practically every online domain imaginable. But I find the mean girl dynamic on CoM particularly disheartening because of the purpose of this site. As a gay man of a certain age who is often invisible in bars and clubs catering to the gym-bodied under-40 crowd, and who engages in the type of encounters discussed on this site, I don’t have many people that I can talk to about my specific “extracurricular activities.” (I imagine this is the case for some — not all, but some — of you as well.) I was so relieved when I finally discovered this site after years of wasting time and money on unskilled providers just looking to make a quick buck. I was also incredibly grateful for the outlet (and on some days, the lifeline) this site provided during the COVID lockdown. CoM has the potential to nurture a spirit-lifting camaraderie for those of us who struggle to find it elsewhere. I wish some of us weren’t so seemingly hellbent on tearing others down.
 
Note: I have not named any specific users in this post, as the issue at hand extends beyond any single user. I implore anyone who chooses to comment on this thread to follow suit.

CBC has reported that 6 cases in gay men have been reported in the last two weeks. One had had one vax  but not the second as recommended. Just a reminder this has not gone away. 

Here's what you can do: Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER send a deposit again.
Ever.