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I would say I am very normal or typical with this topic.   We all have times we suffer from depression related challenges.    I seem to allow myself a little time,  then I get busy and I mitigate the circumstances  (unless a death of a family member or the like).
I have found that being productive is essential in getting things back on a positive track,  but again,  I don't suffer from any serious issues.   Clinical depression is something I've not experienced and would rather not.
Being an optimist is where I'm comfortable.

I’m confident you can find a man with a muscled/athletic body to take care of you @Daniel_D 
You just have to research suitable men. When you contact them, explain you’re happy to pay full rate but you want a romantic “boyfriend experience”. Be very specific: say you want lots of kissing and cuddling and to be hugged, but you don’t want (if I understand your desires correctly) penetrative sex nor to climax.
Some years back, I was asked by a younger but very overweight acquaintance about an athletic muscle-bottom I was dating. He was embarrassed about his own body but he too wanted a very romantic time (but no sex) with a hot guy with a muscled body. I was asked if the muscleboy would be willing to meet him. He later told me how the handsome muscleboy stripped down to a black speedo on arrival. He sprawled on the bed to let my acquaintance worship his body fully, and he was cuddled and kissed by the muscleboy. It was heaven for my acquaintance. In fact it was so good that he hired the muscleboy again a few nights later so that he could see how he looked in tight white briefs. 

@Brutus I’m stunned that you would be so crass. No, you NEVER ask “if he escorts”! You have to be respectful.
 
The essence of this thread is that these young men are often available. They do not, however, consider themselves as escorts nor do they advertise. If you’re just looking for an hour of wham-bang quick sex, these guys are not for you.
 
The aim is to form a relationship with a handsome, muscled young man. If you are an older man, you have to use your natural advantages of experience, worldliness and financial capacity. Of course to a handsome muscled young man of 18-23, an older man can be aged 35.
 
I’m much older than that and was 50 when I started meeting models etc. I have the ability to talk to people easily, to make them laugh and to focus all my attention on them. In short, I always courted a young man and seduced him into my bed. Luckily, in many cases it didn’t require a lot of effort. I mentioned earlier that I’d always invite an attractive young guy to dinner in a good restaurant. I also stated how you have to be aware that these guys may work as models, trainers etc but their financial situation is generally precarious.
 
I always preferred to have an introduction to a guy from a mutual contact, but if that wasn’t possible I’d use a direct (but respectful) approach.
 
FWIW to a guy I was chatting to in person, I used to smile and say ‘ You’re interesting. I’d like to get to know you better. How about I take you for a coffee (or a drink, or lunch, or dinner)?’ Just suggest whatever seems appropriate for the time/place, eg if at the gym after a work-out, I’d offer to buy them a meal. Be friendly and don’t get upset if he refuses; just smile and say ‘I hope to see you around. Maybe next time we can chat more’
 
And in the past, I’ve met a few guys off IG. I send a polite message, saying their posts have impressed me and I would enjoy meeting them. I suggest that I take them out for drinks to get acquainted.
 
Bear in mind that most handsome, muscled young men (working as models, trainers etc) have been hit on before by older men (and women). They are not going to be surprised or shocked by you but you must display some finesse and discretion. Most of these guys do not want their friends to know how they manage to finance their lifestyle.

Anyone with experience with him. Coming down to LA today wanted to schedule a session with him.
 
 
https://rentmasseur.com/SpencerMasseur

I have met a couple of members on the forum here and of course we've talked about the guys we hire. I have a very old friend who lives in the area and hires and we talk very frankly about it. He doesnt have the budget to hire pros. I'd like to hire a pro for him as a gift.

He sounds like he's new to it-- like you said, his profile is only a few weeks old. It takes time to find the right balance between waiting for clients to contact you and hitting up your regulars. He'll figure it out in time-- in the meantime, the fact that you had a good enough experience that you left a positive review is a great sign!
 
In my experience, the biggest red flag for a desperate escort is when they start lowering their prices to convince you to hire them.

I met him in Las Vegas a week ago and would give him an A+. He is a great communicator and I found booking him to be very easy and when we met, he was amazing. I would totally recommend. Cheers!

There is so much here that makes no sense. Why, if you had such a bad experience, did you seek out another? If, as you said, he told you your weight would be an issue, it seems he did you a solid by forgoing a session rather than pretending it would work. Also, the stuff you said about cauliflower, etc. just fucking rude. I suppose you'd be open to being judged on your physical appearance given how freely you trash someone else.

My fav NYC performer
https://rentboy.pro/boys/adrianmoss
No anal but yes BFE