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The thing that struck me is his going through your bags, opening your mail, etc. That signified a fundamental lack of communication that made him feel entitled to invade your privacy. My partner and I are married, we've been together for nearly 25 years. In spite of that, neither of us would ever look at the other's checkbook, cellphone, dresser drawers, closets, billfold, pockets, bags, etc. We are deeply respectful of each other's privacy. If either want's to know something, we just ask.
 
I agree, some counseling is in order, with an eye to establishing a new level of communication between the two of you.

Once I traded massages with a professional. When giving me feedback on the massage I gave him, he said it "wasn't unpleasant." Definitely a case of damning with faint praise.

Once I traded massages with a professional. When giving me feedback on the massage I gave him, he said it "wasn't unpleasant." Definitely a case of damning with faint praise.

I used to go to occasional BDSM parties. Scenes like that weren't uncommon.

Once I traded massages with a professional. When giving me feedback on the massage I gave him, he said it "wasn't unpleasant." Definitely a case of damning with faint praise.

I don't know many Asians well, but most appear to be very into family. A lot of what whites take for granted in the way of personal autonomy doesn't even seem available to Asians because family obligations are felt so keenly.
 
I know one young Asian guy pretty well from my gym - American-born Chinese. His parents are foreign-born and he lives with them. He's about 20 years old and we talk all the time mostly about working out, but really about anything. He asks me for advice all the time - on fitness and working out, about his career, etc. He could be gay, but I'm not sure. He's working at muscling out - doing lots of squats and deadlifts - it's giving him a nice perky bubble butt which I am fascinated by.

I don't know many Asians well, but most appear to be very into family. A lot of what whites take for granted in the way of personal autonomy doesn't even seem available to Asians because family obligations are felt so keenly.
 
I know one young Asian guy pretty well from my gym - American-born Chinese. His parents are foreign-born and he lives with them. He's about 20 years old and we talk all the time mostly about working out, but really about anything. He asks me for advice all the time - on fitness and working out, about his career, etc. He could be gay, but I'm not sure. He's working at muscling out - doing lots of squats and deadlifts - it's giving him a nice perky bubble butt which I am fascinated by.

And students smoked in class, flicking their ashes and grinding their cigarettes out on the floor of the lecture hall. It's easy to forget how pervasive smoking was. Everybody smoked everywhere - work places, stores, movie theaters, restaurants, hospitals (yes, hospitals). They lit up without asking when they were guests in the home of others, assuming that it was OK. It wasn't really that long ago - it only changed in the 80s.

And students smoked in class, flicking their ashes and grinding their cigarettes out on the floor of the lecture hall. It's easy to forget how pervasive smoking was. Everybody smoked everywhere - work places, stores, movie theaters, restaurants, hospitals (yes, hospitals). They lit up without asking when they were guests in the home of others, assuming that it was OK. It wasn't really that long ago - it only changed in the 80s.

And students smoked in class, flicking their ashes and grinding their cigarettes out on the floor of the lecture hall. It's easy to forget how pervasive smoking was. Everybody smoked everywhere - work places, stores, movie theaters, restaurants, hospitals (yes, hospitals). They lit up without asking when they were guests in the home of others, assuming that it was OK. It wasn't really that long ago - it only changed in the 80s.

While we are at it, let's check out Arjun Rampal
 
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Arjun Gupta...conventionally or unconventionally beautiful?
 
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Ok, since today I'm cheating on my unconventional approach ..let's binge with the best!
 

 
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Just got back from a boozy brunch & watching The Danish Girl. Could we pause & admire Sebastian Koch's gaze? Lordy!
 
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He comes to SF fairly often. He was just here a few weeks ago. I considered booking with him but I had other priorities.

His reviews are mixed, most great, but some not so good. Even with the unfavorable reviews, I wouldn't hesitate to take a chance on him.

If a provider (escort or masseur) that advertises on a site offering Adult Services is easily insulted by various client expectations, maybe that provider should try some other line of work.

Multiple pictures - at least four or five, at least a couple should be completely unclothed. The copy should convey a sense of who the escort is. The profile should provide express notice of things such as hard limits, tiered rate structures and any other information that would influence a hiring decision, without requiring the reader to parse the copy or scrutinize or interpret and wonder just what it means.

I enjoy the opera, but I enjoy the symphony a lot more - it's really transporting.

I enjoy the opera, but I enjoy the symphony a lot more - it's really transporting.

I've been to Flynn/Dirk for massage. He's a great guy, very friendly and sweet and he gave an outstanding therapeutic massage. And of course his looks and body are wonderful. At the end of the massage, he asked me if I wanted a happy ending. This, in my book, is not an erotic massage, and I always so "no" to it. It was a bit of a disappointment. I've been thinking about going back to him because he's so much bigger and muscular. I would like to see if he's any better at erotic massage than he was my first time. He also advertises muscle worship. That could be fun - massage/muscle worship with a big handsome muscleboy like him.

There are all kinds of ways in which older people subtly apologize for being old: feeling ashamed of their appearance without clothes, spending thousands of dollars getting cosmetic procedures, dying their hair, feeling out of place around younger people, etc., etc. In other words, they agree with the world at large that being old is something negative that needs to be covered up, concealed, excused.
 
Some people, though, are able to age without feeling like it is something they have to apologize for. I saw a great documentary the other day on Netflix, titled "Iris," about a 90+-year-old fashion icon named Iris Apfel. Everyone should watch it. Iris is 91 or 92 and still having the time of her life.
 
I enjoy hanging out with adults of any age - young college students to the old old. I'm sure there are people who harbor negative thoughts about me because I am well into my seventh decade, but as they say, "What you think of me is none of my business."
 
Believe me, if anyone knew how great this stage of life is, they would be lining up for it.

Building self-confidence doesn't mean you become impervious to disappointment. You experience it and move on.

Building self-confidence doesn't mean you become impervious to disappointment. You experience it and move on.

And I'm often surprised by fellow client type posters saying "I'm too old for so-and-so unless I pay". Yes it's more difficult as we age to attract what we like. But in my sixth decade here and yes while I have the sags and marks of aging (and major weight loss), my confidence overshadows a lot of that....I'm having fun. And not ALL of my young gentleman friends are hired.