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A long time ago, I worked as a captain for a high-end caterer. A generous gratuity for the service staff was always built into the charge to the client for the function. It was required - not discretionary. If the client wanted to tip more, they could, but they couldn't tip less than the required service charge. It just wouldn't have happened that a bartender would, on his own initiative, put out a tip jar, or even ask about it for that matter. Shirtless bartenders???? - That's so 70's.

Never encountered a slow-cooker recipe I liked. Nothing but overcooked chicken or brisket with the flavor completely cooked out. OTOH, a slow cooker is the perfect appliance for making sublime brown sauce and consomme.

I don't avoid gay healthcare providers, but I don't seek them out either. For me, the overriding criterion is "do I like and trust them?" Im most comfortable with very sharp young people -either sex- the kind of people who are so smart that they leave me a little awe-struck.

Big problem for him and his firm but not for you. If you want to continue seeing him, get another lawyer, pronto.

I'm also curious what speakers of non-English languages think of their language being spoken with an American accent. E.g., when I hear German being spoken with an American accent, I think it sounds dreadful, but the Germans don't seem to think so.

I always tip - just not that much - usually $20.00

Watching a British crime series "Marcella." Very good.

I have heard from a few different providers that the bulk of the business is same-day and spur-of -the moment. Spur-of -the moment doesn't work for me - I'm heavily scheduled, so I'm a book in advance kind of guy and can't imagine booking a provider on the spur of the moment.

just really love to swallow a guy's spit - just like in the films - I open wide and let him drop a wad in my mouth. And passing the wad back and forth is hot also.

Dont forget Immodium if there's going to be a long interval between hosing out and action.

When I'm searching for providers into FF, I do a word search to find guys who specifically mention it in their profiles. The ones who just list it as a preference often have little to no experience. In fisting, experience matters.

I hope it all works out. You may find it's not that much of an issue.

I just look at a guy - and something about him either says "hung or "not hung." I definitely go for big dicks, but it isn't a problem if a guy isn't hung big. I'm mostly about the body and the ass. Dick and face are secondary.

Whether it's true or not, I love guys with big noses

You proposed a single "test" to evaluate different situations. That's conflating.

There really is no age that is too old. The problem arises when someone is not willing to be satisfied with the partners available to them. An 80 -year old with only half of his teeth left can't access the same pool of partners as a built 28-year old. He either has to live with that or he has to hire. I anticipated this a long time ago. I used to watch old guys hitting on guys a third of their age in bars and I thought they looked pathetic. I was hoping that, by the time I reached their age, I would have learned to appreciate partners closer to my own age. And that's exactly what happened. And I discovered that old guys are one of our best-kept secrets - they're fabulous fucks.

No I didn't conflate them. You did.

We know that most escorts would fail your test. Not because of any failing on their part, but because the test has unrealistic expectations built into it - that the escort is supposed to be your friend forever because one time or a few times he provided a personal service to you. We don't expect a "til death us do part" commitment from any service provider - not even a psychotherapist with whom you have shared your deepest, darkest secrets. If you want a "til death us do part" commitment in a relationship, you should be looking for a spouse not an escort. And actually, the same holds true for friendships between older men and younger men. No one expects a "til death us do part" commitment from their friends. Why would you hold your friends to that type of comittment? And what is all this stuff about "testing" to begin with? Relationships that involve testing usually end up with the person being tested fleeing. Sooner or later the person being tested will disappoint you. Then you are faced with the dilemma of what to about the failed test.

What is it that you are trying to prove with your test? That escorts are in it for the money? We already know that. I do know one escort well enough to have discussed this very topic with him. He only gets together with paying clients. He told me he found it satisfying and felt no need to hook up with anybody recreationally outside of work. He is very well known and very well thought of. So what does your test say about him that we don't already know? And why even think about it anyway. The fact that escorts charge for their services is a non-negotiable feature of the relationship. And of course it is not uncommon for younger men to get together with daddies for gifts, travel and favors., etc. We even have a word for them - sugarbabies. I just don't understand what you think you have discovered that we don't already know. I might think differently about it I chased younger men, but I don't. The youngest guys I go after are in their 40s. I have a social media relationship with an affluent daddy in SoCal who sponsors young bodybuilders and he talks about how he occasionally has to yank his boys' chains by threatening to cut back on the food coaching and steroids.

Whenever anyone starts to complain about the obvious - that escorts are in it for the money-as though they are the first to have discovered this dirty little secret - it makes me think that they need a new hobby.

You wrote it - whether you intended to or not.

Not all young guys are attracted to wealth and prestige. When I was in my 20's, I met my share of older men who were in positions to do a lot for me. I always kept them at arm's length because I didn't want to give them an opportunity to control me.. I had seen what being kept was like and I though "No thanks."

You might be running with the wrong crowd if you have young "friends" who need to be paid to hang with you who are not escorts. And it is true that one's options narrow the older one gets. I started preparing myself emotionally for this 30-40 years ago, so it isn't a surprise or shock that it's happened and I cope fine. One of the ways I cope is by staying very "well-kept." I have heard of situations where client and escort become close friends and it changes the relationship. But ordinarily, escorts are service providers who get paid for what they do. Why would you think that they wanted to hang out with you off the clock?

This.