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With pricing like that, I assume he'd rather provide full service than actually doing a massage.  That isn't surprising for someone who's willing to provide full service since providing an actual massage is a lot of work.

I love the sleuthing, but I have a few genuine questions:
1. If you have a strong suspicion that someone is a scammer, why even bother to contact them unless you think your efforts will result in something good happening (e.g., they realize they are being monitored and they stop scamming).
2. If someone's a scammer who is willing to misrepresent where he is and that he is available for in person meetings, why believe anything else he says?  For example, we don't know if he's actually the porn performer whose pictures were identified.  Once confronted with that information, it makes sense that a scammer would simply lie that they are, in fact, that person versus admitting to having used someone else's photos in his ad.
I hate to say it, but there really isn't a way for us clients to rid sites like Rent.men of scammers.  Rent.men could be more proactive by putting in place some guardrails, but they aren't interested or are unwilling to do so.  The best thing we can do as clients is to repeat the mantra of "no deposits unless you actually know someone."  Earlier today I read here a post from someone warning of an alleged escort who scammed him out of "hundreds" of dollars in a deposit.  I checked the poster's posting history and confirmed that it likely wasn't just a hit piece on the escort -- the poster has hired and commented on other providers.  That goes to show that sometimes even experienced clients get conned by someone with bad intentions.  The only person I've ever paid in advance was someone I hired multiple times over many years and I paid him in advance more than once for trips we were taking.

I love the sleuthing, but I have a few genuine questions:
1. If you have a strong suspicion that someone is a scammer, why even bother to contact them unless you think your efforts will result in something good happening (e.g., they realize they are being monitored and they stop scamming).
2. If someone's a scammer who is willing to misrepresent where he is and that he is available for in person meetings, why believe anything else he says?  For example, we don't know if he's actually the porn performer whose pictures were identified.  Once confronted with that information, it makes sense that a scammer would simply lie that they are, in fact, that person versus admitting to having used someone else's photos in his ad.
I hate to say it, but there really isn't a way for us clients to rid sites like Rent.men of scammers.  Rent.men could be more proactive by putting in place some guardrails, but they aren't interested or are unwilling to do so.  The best thing we can do as clients is to repeat the mantra of "no deposits unless you actually know someone."  Earlier today I read here a post from someone warning of an alleged escort who scammed him out of "hundreds" of dollars in a deposit.  I checked the poster's posting history and confirmed that it likely wasn't just a hit piece on the escort -- the poster has hired and commented on other providers.  That goes to show that sometimes even experienced clients get conned by someone with bad intentions.  The only person I've ever paid in advance was someone I hired multiple times over many years and I paid him in advance more than once for trips we were taking.

Agree with JamesB. If it was me i'd give him a heads up and give him the chance to opt out personally. I'd just say "hey i was interested in booking, but we actually know each other from working together at _____, are you cool with having me as a client?" I don't think you need to name yourself unless he specifically asks your name as a follow up, but just let him know where you know him from and designate what the dynamic was. There'd likely be a big difference between this scenario for him if you are just a former co-worker versus say a former manager or former boss. From the sounds of it you were just coworkers, but he wouldn't know that without you telling him.

Interestingly, I also reached out to him when @jusmeinbr expressed his suspicions.   I was inclined to think he was legit except that his rates were too low...and I told him that.    Everything was fine until he asked for the deposit.   I said no.   He made excuses.   Since he'd already told me the name of his hotel near the Superdome, I asked him to send me a picture of his view.   He said I'm outside and sent me a picture of the front of the hotel from the sidewalk.   I sent him back a picture from the same vantage point that I got from apple maps and noted the IRONY that the SAME WHITE STATION WAGON was reflecting in the glass in my version.   Oddly enough, our correspondence ended there.
Definite case of "Deposit Fraud" and @jusmeinbr's instinct was SPOT ON!

Greetings all. Thank you for discussing me. To answer your questions and comments. I do quite well because their aren't a lot of Daddy Bear escorts out there, and a lot of guys are into it. If I am not to your tastes, that is fine. I long ago gave up needing to be liked by everyone, but also, ask yourself why you feel the need to put someone down to make yourself feel better? Maybe work on your self esteem rather that insult someone because of a size or age difference. 
So Marylander1940 and all those questioning the situation, I suggest you check things out for yourself. And to all of you, come and see me when you are in the Bay Area. I am a great guy.
Much love!

Findom = financial domination.  

Findom = financial domination.  

This brand caters to the men who have a lot of flesh (altered, inflated or naturally plump) to pack into their trousers. Wildman 

Interesting that he's willing to show his face on Rentmen (well, sort of, since he's wearing sunglasses) but in all of his porn scenes that I've seen he's wearing a mask.  He's a sexy young man and looks like he'd be a top's dream based on his scenes.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

I equate PNP with drug use like meth or G.  I've never associated the term with marijuana or alcohol use.  I also associate its inclusion in an ad as an indication that the provider partakes, not just that he's open to clients who do, unless his ad has text that clearly spells that out.
A major reason for me to avoid providers who list PNP in their ads: People who use substances regularly are frequently less reliable in terms of keeping appointments.

In the gay community mostly Meth and GHB. Cocaine too. I don't book anyone with PNP on their profile. 

If I see someone with 'PNP' on their profile I won't book. When I've asked about this they either refer to Meth, or GHB. The whole "I have PNP in case my clients use, but I don't" is... sus.

I'll wade into the "is it just a preference or is it racism" debate with an anecdote.
I was visiting a friend of mine about 20 years ago who was telling me that he just doesn't find black men attractive.  (We're both white.)  I happened to have brought a fitness magazine with me that had an incredibly gorgeous black man on the cover.  I showed him the magazine and asked, "Are you really telling me you wouldn't have sex with this guy if he asked?"  My friend admitted that the guy was hot.  I think the "racism" part is that he generally didn't even give black men a second look; he saw the skin color and immediately thought to himself, "Not for me."  It's not like all black men look alike, nor do all men of Asian decent look alike.  Someone saying they just don't find men of a certain race/ethnic background attractive indicates to me that they have a preconceived notion that each person in that category won't turn them on rather than having an open mind and then ultimately acknowledging that they find a larger percentage of whatever category it is less appealing.  
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I understand preferences but I don't understand absolutism.

There is no set definition.  Here's the most recent discussion here regarding what BFE means to different people:
 
Maybe a moderator can move this to "Questions About Hiring" or merge it with the other thread since this isn't asking about a specific escort?

Yes, I think experienced clients are generally smart enough to distinguish between a hit-and-run poster (whether he attempts to malign a particular escort or praise one effusively) and one who contributes measured content.  
Your scenario, while different in details, reminds me of another back-and-forth between an alleged client and escort that ultimately left the escort looking like the sane one.  I won't go into all of the details, but the client's complaint was, ultimately, that he thought he was so hot that he should get full service for $50.  He tried to hide the relevant details in his initial post, basically calling the escort in question a thief, but the escort's description of what transpired was far more cogent -- plus he shared receipts without divulging the client's identifying information, and it was clear that the client was simply trying to get more than he was willing to pay for.  
There have also been numerous occasions here where a new poster attempts to malign a newish escort, but it's pretty easy for anyone with half a brain to see through those.
The solution to this is not to prevent actual clients from posting their honest experiences but rather for the escort being able to rise above negativity by ignoring it if it's a one time silly thing, relying on other positive posts to outnumber the negative one, and, especially, not presenting yourself in a manner that gives credence to the negativity.  It sounds like you removed PNP from your ad which is wise unless you actually do use substances in connection with your work.  Simply protesting that you don't use drugs while having PNP in your ad doesn't mean anything to anyone who has ever known anyone with a substance abuse problem because, until they are ready to admit their problem and seek help for it, they always present with denials of their drug use.

This. Be clear about what you want. I think I’m good at reading a client’s desires but sometimes a little clarity before the session helps me to understand what they really want.