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So I wasn't going to come back here to this forum but decided to share my experience in case it helps anyone.
I am not a user of Wegovy, but I do use one of the other medications in this class.  I went on the medication to manage another health issue, but yes, weight loss was a welcome side effect of using it.
The headline: My Experience : this medication is life changing and I am not exaggerating
*  my primary medical condition has been successfully managed, almost since the start
* I have lost a significant amount of weight.  I never believed I would be under 200lbs again in my lifetime.  On this medication, I am way under this goal.
* I have the ability to experience feeling full for the first time in my life.  I was never able to feel this before (sans being stuffed from a buffet) .  I am no longer obsessed with food 24/7.  I no longer crave only bad things.  I can eat things in moderation.
* I was able to curtail other bad habits.  I was able to completely give up my 6 pack + diet soda daily obsession.  I stopped eating fried foods.  I made many other healthy lifestyle changes.  I was even able to curtail my compulsive gambling to moderation!  I am a strong believer the medication works on many obsessive/compulsive behaviors.
The bad;
*It can cause digestive "distress'.  The way this medication works in part is to make things take longer to digest so you feel full and longer.  It takes getting used to.  Diarrhea can be an issue, especially early on.  helpful tip:  ACTIVA is your friend!
*Medication can be hard to get refilled (frustrating supply issue)
*You need to make sure Dr's know you are on these meds prior to anesthesia.  It takes more time to get food completely out of your system which can interfere.
 
Might there be better medications in he future?  Of course.  For me, this drug was nothing short of a miracle, and I am very glad I took the risk and didn't wait.  My life is definitely better.

So I wasn't going to come back here to this forum but decided to share my experience in case it helps anyone.
I am not a user of Wegovy, but I do use one of the other medications in this class.  I went on the medication to manage another health issue, but yes, weight loss was a welcome side effect of using it.
The headline: My Experience : this medication is life changing and I am not exaggerating
*  my primary medical condition has been successfully managed, almost since the start
* I have lost a significant amount of weight.  I never believed I would be under 200lbs again in my lifetime.  On this medication, I am way under this goal.
* I have the ability to experience feeling full for the first time in my life.  I was never able to feel this before (sans being stuffed from a buffet) .  I am no longer obsessed with food 24/7.  I no longer crave only bad things.  I can eat things in moderation.
* I was able to curtail other bad habits.  I was able to completely give up my 6 pack + diet soda daily obsession.  I stopped eating fried foods.  I made many other healthy lifestyle changes.  I was even able to curtail my compulsive gambling to moderation!  I am a strong believer the medication works on many obsessive/compulsive behaviors.
The bad;
*It can cause digestive "distress'.  The way this medication works in part is to make things take longer to digest so you feel full and longer.  It takes getting used to.  Diarrhea can be an issue, especially early on.  helpful tip:  ACTIVA is your friend!
*Medication can be hard to get refilled (frustrating supply issue)
*You need to make sure Dr's know you are on these meds prior to anesthesia.  It takes more time to get food completely out of your system which can interfere.
 
Might there be better medications in he future?  Of course.  For me, this drug was nothing short of a miracle, and I am very glad I took the risk and didn't wait.  My life is definitely better.

So I wasn't going to come back here to this forum but decided to share my experience in case it helps anyone.
I am not a user of Wegovy, but I do use one of the other medications in this class.  I went on the medication to manage another health issue, but yes, weight loss was a welcome side effect of using it.
The headline: My Experience : this medication is life changing and I am not exaggerating
*  my primary medical condition has been successfully managed, almost since the start
* I have lost a significant amount of weight.  I never believed I would be under 200lbs again in my lifetime.  On this medication, I am way under this goal.
* I have the ability to experience feeling full for the first time in my life.  I was never able to feel this before (sans being stuffed from a buffet) .  I am no longer obsessed with food 24/7.  I no longer crave only bad things.  I can eat things in moderation.
* I was able to curtail other bad habits.  I was able to completely give up my 6 pack + diet soda daily obsession.  I stopped eating fried foods.  I made many other healthy lifestyle changes.  I was even able to curtail my compulsive gambling to moderation!  I am a strong believer the medication works on many obsessive/compulsive behaviors.
The bad;
*It can cause digestive "distress'.  The way this medication works in part is to make things take longer to digest so you feel full and longer.  It takes getting used to.  Diarrhea can be an issue, especially early on.  helpful tip:  ACTIVA is your friend!
*Medication can be hard to get refilled (frustrating supply issue)
*You need to make sure Dr's know you are on these meds prior to anesthesia.  It takes more time to get food completely out of your system which can interfere.
 
Might there be better medications in he future?  Of course.  For me, this drug was nothing short of a miracle, and I am very glad I took the risk and didn't wait.  My life is definitely better.

I used to think Rob Marciano was pretty cute
 
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personal possessions yes, but personal safety, identity theft, depending upon your jurisdiction- they could even force you to take legal proceedings to make them leave, claiming some kind of tenancy at sufferance
 
What can I say, as much as I try to get past it-- the attempted extortion by an escort on me has still fucked me up till this day on issues of trust.

My Top3 (alphabetically) without hesitation.
 
AlxWard
CooperXXX
Peter Hung

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

What else can I tell you? Accurate ad. showed up, lived up.

Sorry if I was unclear. Absolutely, asking the question is fine, but leave out the actual participants. (just my opinion) It doesn't bring any real value in potentially hurting someone's livelihood over this.

My take (I realize with the benefit of reading about what happened).
 
You should have just stuck to 4:30p and not sent that additional text.
He should have handled the communication much better.
You should NOT have publicly called him out on this. It's not like he did something terrible like rip you off or hurt you.
 
I might think twice as a hypothetical client about hiring an escort if I knew he communicated like this. But I definitely would not want you as a client if I was a hypothetical escort after the shameful behavior you have demonstrated taking this minor disagreement public.

My call for pizza was only because this thread looked like it was going to be nothing but another "pile on" Killian thread which wasn't going to benefit anyone. I am very happy to see (in addition) that it turned out Killian survived, experienced recovery, and demonstrated personal growth. Killian, I like the new you. It looks great on you both physically and mentally. Much luck and success!

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

The second part of that question is --- I would definitely not appreciate being asked for a tip. It has happened only twice. I wouldn't in that case, period, and probably wouldn't rehire.
 
The first part, how I decide is a combination of many factors like others have mentioned.... including rate and going above and beyond (i.e. the escort drove 1 hour to meet me, or the escort picked me up at the airport). Most of the time, I reward good service by repeat hiring and great service with longer appointments in the future (i.e. overnight, weekend etc.).

The second part of that question is --- I would definitely not appreciate being asked for a tip. It has happened only twice. I wouldn't in that case, period, and probably wouldn't rehire.
 
The first part, how I decide is a combination of many factors like others have mentioned.... including rate and going above and beyond (i.e. the escort drove 1 hour to meet me, or the escort picked me up at the airport). Most of the time, I reward good service by repeat hiring and great service with longer appointments in the future (i.e. overnight, weekend etc.).

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

I would also not approach an escort I have met in a public situation.  I would probably do something like give him a brief nod or wink if we managed to make eye contact and leave it at that.
On a related note I recall how terribly uncomfortable I was when an escort from NYC I was with in another state ran into someone he knew socially while we were together and that person started a conversation with him.

I look to my clients for 3 things. Be clean and fresh (that’s the top requirement and an absolute red line), be punctual (I have a schedule, if you’re unavoidably delayed please communicate, we can always reschedule), be respectful and polite (I’m a human being not a piece of meat). That’s all. If they’re those things then I’m able to give my best for them. They’ll get my total attention and focus because there’s no issues with cleanliness, rushing or dealing with attitude to distract me. 
Their body size, shape or colour isn’t any issue atall. A good provider knows that sexiness goes way beyond physical appearance. There’s something sexy and attractive about everyone and a great provider will know how to find it in their client and bring it out. The fact that you’ve come for a session in the first place makes you attractive in my opinion. It means you chose me to share it with…and that’s definitely a positive for me! It starts things off well and I’m eager to show you that you made the right choice. 
Long post, sorry but I think this is important because lots of my clients say they worried about being sexy enough to have a massage and fun. It’s a shame because everyone can be sexy and they shouldn’t worry about their body shape. Just be clean punctual and nice. 

Just want to thank everyone for chiming in on this thread! I really appreciate the perspectives and it makes me feel a lot more comfortable booking a session.

As someone who has been large most of his life, I had a period where I walked a lot and swam a lot and was very trim, but that did not last.
 
I feel good about myself , self love is important, but I also am smart enough to know its not attractive to some, and of course there are the health issues.
 
The heaviest I got to was 320 pounds and currently i am slowly loosing and at 275 today.
 
When i see a new provider I always send a description, in a email or text message,  “I am a 60 year blonde bear 275 pounds looking for …..”  and take it from there.
 
If someone says does not work for me  - I thank them for the honesty and move on.
 
I have a couple of great providers who make me feel great, and we have a fun time exploring pleasure.
 
I could go to a bathhouse, pay my $25 and wander around all night, maybe get lucky, maybe get rejected, maybe end up in a cubicle giving myself a hand job.
 
Or I could spend $300-$600 with a provider and have a wonder couple of hours .
 
A lesson there for providers who are looking to improve their business.
 
I reflect back on an evening i spent in a gay B&B which was closing optional.  I spent a couple of nights there, the middle night I was the only guest, the owners were out of town and they had a guy in who was looking after the place and me.
We had chatted briefly when he arrived, i did not take much notice, i was swimming and sunbathing naked, had a walk on the property and a swim in the river that passed thru their property, i had a long relaxing outdoor shower, and thought nothing of it.
I went into town in the late afternoon, had a walk on the beach and some dinner.
When I returned the host offered me a glass of wine, and wanted to see a pic of my husband, so i grabbed my iPad and found one, he came and sat very close to me while looking at the pics.  He then suggested a moonlight swim.
I dived in first, he joined me and of course he was very handsy.
We had a fun night, drank some wine, soaked in the hot tub, played, I particularly remember bending over the balcony as he ate my ass out.
he told me that what attracted him to me, was the way I just showered that afternoon without any self consciousness.
 
The really professional providers will see past your excess weight and will discover your inner sexiness and enjoy you as a sexual being and an interesting person
 
 
 
 
 

Exactly this. “Discover your inner sexiness” Although I’d say it’s not inner because it is on display in how you behave and interact. A good provider will notice these things like that guy noticed you taking a shower. Someone who only looks superficially won’t notice. 

It’s the reason if clients ask to send me their picture I decline. It’s not necessary to see a picture. A picture isn’t the person, it’s just what they look like not who they are. 

I have no interest in the guy, but, if anybody is curious, here's a clip from one of his camsoda sessions.....that repeated sound you hear is notification of him getting a tip......
https://hotladsworld.com/video/aaron-carter-naked-and-busting-a-nut/

While I wouldn't personally go the apologizing route (I just don't see a positive outcome there at all) and I would just move on, I think you should do whatever you will find easiest to live with.  If you are going to drive yourself nuts over the wondering and won't be able to just let it go, then by all means spend a little more effort pursuing the answer you need.
Whatever you choose to do, do not under any circumstances cross the line to stalkerville and definitely prepare yourself for the real possibility that you may never get the answers you seek.  If closure is something that you absolutely can't live without and you aren't able to get a response... may I suggest you write a letter to the escort... putting everything you emotionally need to in that letter, seal it, and then burn that letter and move on.

In my very early days of hiring I used to be willing to hire without seeing a face pic.  Unfortunately, I had to stop doing this because it always ended in disappointment for me.  I think this was mostly because I couldn't prevent myself from projecting via fantasy of what the faceless provider looked like and the cold reality when actually seeing the escort of how off I really was to the real thing.  The funny thing about it is I likely would have been ok in many of the cases if I was able to see the real thing before having to use my imagination.
Put me in the category of someone who will not hire without seeing your face.
I definitely appreciate those providers saving us both time and problems by being upfront about refusing to provide a face pic- instead of providing a fake one!