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Given the context of the interaction, this safe word may not be too safe.  There are plenty of opportunities to (mis)construe it as an invitation rather than a cease and desist.  After all, it consists of ”top,” ”pit,” ”ass,” and ”hole” -- if you know what I mean.  🤭

This is not descriptive enough.  217 can be pure muscle mass or "something else"......   🤪

"I'm 5'11, 217 - sorry, I don't have a photo. 
But I can send you a couple links to courtroom artist's sketches. One's more recent than the other. Would that work?"

I’m just as confused as you are.  Perhaps I’m way too ignorant in the terminologies and definitions.
However, I do see the points made by @Gilfson.  I recall my friend once asked, when engaging in a similar discussion on sexuality/identity/orientation, “Do you still call yourself a vegetarian if you eat meat for whatever reasons?”  I don’t know and I don’t really care enough to know.  My reply was: “You do you.  You eat whatever you want whenever and however you want.  I can care less.”
That said, IMO, if you’re a herbivore, eat your salad; if you’re a carnivore, help yourself with medium rare; and if you’re an omnivore, enjoy your all-you-can-eat buffet.  At the end of the day, you may be the only person in this entire universe who cares about how you label yourself.

I am finding that there are more clients out there not treating providers with respect.  Primarily for me these are the ones that will call last minute looking for a last minute appointment.  Also for me it's the way some of the way that a client will talk to a provider.  Yes I am a sexworker but I am also a human so treat me with the same respect you'd want yourself.

I don't confine it to only providers and their clients.  My perception is that mutual respect and neutral civility have all but disappeared from society in general. 

It’s not so much about lust/desire; it’s more about timing/convenience.  Most people work during daytime.  For me, work and its associated stress are the biggest boner-killer.  It’s more favorable to have fun with a work-free mindset.  Therefore, late afternoon / night / weekend / vacation hours are more optimal.  Of course, the client’s fun time is the provider’s work time.  This conflict partially explains the mismatch between the clients’ and providers’ wishes in terms of appointment time.

This week has been really rough for me. I’ve had 5 or 6 guys flake on me right before meeting. Had a pic collector today who blocked me an hour before our scheduled time to meet. Just wondering what are some signs to look out for from guys like this so I avoid wasting my time and mental energy… thanks in advance.

This happened to me a few weeks ago but it wasn’t fragments… it was a whole sheet.

I agree entirely with this.  We all have "types" as to physical attributes.  For me, young or young-looking, smoother rather than hairier, good shape (but not shredded), about my height or taller, a twunk (but happy to drift towards twinkish or muscle guy-ish), a good smile (!) and an at-least-average cock.
But just as important is that they have a personality and can participate in a conversation and that they are happy to be seeing me and not there out of need or desperation.  That means some financial and emotional stability.  I don't care if they invest, haha, but I want their life more or less in order.  I had one regular I really loved seeing (we met 30-40 times a year for almost three years), but towards the end he started asking me for some extra above our (already generous) agreed-upon fee - first to pay his phone bill, then to pay for something else - until almost every week was a new need.  I believe drugs became an issue for him, though I didn't see any signs, but I stopped seeing him because I wanted a lover (and he was a great one) but not a dependent.  

Average is when it’s on someone else
Well Endowed is when it’s on you 🤪

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles.  So it requires some independent research on my part.  Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only.  There are no right-or-wrong answers.  Please don’t judge/criticize me.
1.     Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation.  This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE.  I’m aiming for maturity.  I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world.
2.     Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi.  Straight is a hard stop.  I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting.
3.     Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though.  A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing.
4.     Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above.  I typically book 2-hour appointments.  The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial.  Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air.
5.     Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered.  Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible.
6.     Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity.  I want someone different from me.  Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing.
7.     No tattoo — it is a distraction.  Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

Q: How do you balance/maintain your personal romantic relationship(s)?  How do you separate (sex) work from real-life (sex) situations?  How do your real-life romantic partners feel about your work?
I believe if anyone seriously invests the time and energy in studying the countless topics here in CoM, he can probably write a nonfiction, how-to book about the various aspects of sex work, from both the providers' and clients' viewpoints.  For the creative type, he can even fictionalize all the discussions found on CoM.  CoM is truly a not-so-hidden treasure chest.

Q: How do you balance/maintain your personal romantic relationship(s)?  How do you separate (sex) work from real-life (sex) situations?  How do your real-life romantic partners feel about your work?
I believe if anyone seriously invests the time and energy in studying the countless topics here in CoM, he can probably write a nonfiction, how-to book about the various aspects of sex work, from both the providers' and clients' viewpoints.  For the creative type, he can even fictionalize all the discussions found on CoM.  CoM is truly a not-so-hidden treasure chest.

Average cock size is a point of debate and personal to everyone, but I consider "average" to be 5-6 inches long, with "well endowed" to be 7 inches or larger. Big cocks are REALLY fucking hot and beautiful to look at, but feeling like I'm (literally) being split in half is not my idea of a good time. 5-6 inches is more than enough to get the job done, and with a lot more pleasure than a really big cock. 7 is a sweet spot: the "fill you up" feeling without the downside of my vagina tearing at the seams. I might dare to venture at 8 inches, but delicate handling of my dainty lady bits would be required.

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles.  So it requires some independent research on my part.  Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only.  There are no right-or-wrong answers.  Please don’t judge/criticize me.
1.     Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation.  This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE.  I’m aiming for maturity.  I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world.
2.     Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi.  Straight is a hard stop.  I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting.
3.     Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though.  A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing.
4.     Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above.  I typically book 2-hour appointments.  The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial.  Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air.
5.     Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered.  Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible.
6.     Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity.  I want someone different from me.  Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing.
7.     No tattoo — it is a distraction.  Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles.  So it requires some independent research on my part.  Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only.  There are no right-or-wrong answers.  Please don’t judge/criticize me.
1.     Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation.  This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE.  I’m aiming for maturity.  I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world.
2.     Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi.  Straight is a hard stop.  I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting.
3.     Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though.  A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing.
4.     Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above.  I typically book 2-hour appointments.  The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial.  Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air.
5.     Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered.  Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible.
6.     Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity.  I want someone different from me.  Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing.
7.     No tattoo — it is a distraction.  Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles.  So it requires some independent research on my part.  Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only.  There are no right-or-wrong answers.  Please don’t judge/criticize me.
1.     Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation.  This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE.  I’m aiming for maturity.  I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world.
2.     Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi.  Straight is a hard stop.  I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting.
3.     Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though.  A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing.
4.     Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above.  I typically book 2-hour appointments.  The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial.  Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air.
5.     Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered.  Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible.
6.     Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity.  I want someone different from me.  Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing.
7.     No tattoo — it is a distraction.  Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

Sure mate! I’d say well endowed to me would be 9in/22cm + when I see cocks those sizes or bigger I’m throughly impressed. 

I'm always intrigued by the possibilities behind the definitions of "average" vs "well-endowed."  I understand everyone has a personal standard for length and girth.  Would you mind sharing your preferences @Alabastrine @Muscleking?

Episode 6 is what I have been waiting for all along.  Although the plots and subplots are somewhat predictable, the acting is superb.  I'm impressed by the supporting and side characters too!  I didn't expect the stories to carry so much emotion.  However, for the series to peak at the penultimate episode, is it too little too late?  By now, I'm afraid a lot of audience have lost interests and given up already.  Judging from the previews of the finale, it seems like the last episode will simply be a frantic wrap-up of all the loose ends.  I hope I am wrong. 

It’s not so much about lust/desire; it’s more about timing/convenience.  Most people work during daytime.  For me, work and its associated stress are the biggest boner-killer.  It’s more favorable to have fun with a work-free mindset.  Therefore, late afternoon / night / weekend / vacation hours are more optimal.  Of course, the client’s fun time is the provider’s work time.  This conflict partially explains the mismatch between the clients’ and providers’ wishes in terms of appointment time.

That’s a very perplexing encounter.  I’m not trying to be judgmental or cynical here, but have you considered that he might have an ulterior motive in touring your home?  Were there any valuables on display?  Did he seem like he was taking mental pictures of your floor plan?  Again, I may be overly pessimistic and cautious; however, has it crossed your mind that you may need to heighten your home security measures as a result of his visit?

Have you had self-proclaimed lesbian clients who become straight after spending time with you?  If so, it is doubly fabulous indeed!  😜

I’m just as confused as you are.  Perhaps I’m way too ignorant in the terminologies and definitions.
However, I do see the points made by @Gilfson.  I recall my friend once asked, when engaging in a similar discussion on sexuality/identity/orientation, “Do you still call yourself a vegetarian if you eat meat for whatever reasons?”  I don’t know and I don’t really care enough to know.  My reply was: “You do you.  You eat whatever you want whenever and however you want.  I can care less.”
That said, IMO, if you’re a herbivore, eat your salad; if you’re a carnivore, help yourself with medium rare; and if you’re an omnivore, enjoy your all-you-can-eat buffet.  At the end of the day, you may be the only person in this entire universe who cares about how you label yourself.