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No I wouldn’t assume anything except that you need to always clarify expectations.

No I wouldn’t assume anything except that you need to always clarify expectations.

*rolls eyes*
giving $50 to some random from sniffles is not comparable to laying down a $50 deposit to a confirmed provider who has reviews both here and on rentmen.  It's not rocket science 

Just go with the flow. Sitting back and watching for a bit is also really sexy for all parties. 
I would not invite the provider who has said he doesn't enjoy it. I think most providers would like group bookings - I really enjoy when I get to invited to threesomes with other providers by clients- it's a chance to have sex with someone I am much more likely to have sex with in my personal life so almost like catching me in my natural habitat. I always make sure not to get carried away and that the client feels important though.

I’ve arranged 4 threesome’s in recent months.  Most notable being recent experiences with cuteblondeboy/FTM_AngelGabe and last weekend with Roman_Speers/AshtenSky.
I once had a regular indicate he’d prefer not to participate in a threesome  His reason was that, whereas in an orgy he could tap out if he needed a break, in a threesome he felt he needed to stay engaged.  Silly me, I never considered that   
But, while in my 60’s, my catholic school upbringing has still left me somewhat naive in certain things.
So, I’m curious - should a threesome be a completely “go with the flow” exercise, or are there certain techniques/routines that keep everyone engaged and satisfied?
Please share your favorite examples if you have any.  

No I wouldn’t assume anything except that you need to always clarify expectations.

He used to compete in bodybuilding, and it looks like he’s in a relationship now. He’s Asian.
If you do a reverse image search, his IG pops up right away.

So shortly after posting this: I ended up booking someone at midnight in another town that I took same day notice. He was great. I had to stay in the area overnight, but then the next day I picked up another client. Score 🏆 lol. Unfortunately neither were from RentMen but Adam4Adam and another hookup app. As I said in a different post, RentMen doesn’t get as much traction in the smaller towns. Which sucks considering it’s the most expensive of the platforms I’m on. Then I went on tour couple days later, so I often tunnel vision away from social networking when I’m on tour.
That said, I get what you’re saying. And I do that. Tbh so many people in my regular lifestyle think I’m busy or that I don’t have time. But truth is, I’m very often working on my client’s time. Even the last trip I took: was not planned necessarily on my time. I went as it coordinated with my client’s visit to the area also. I have a couple friends in the twin cities area, and I didn’t even inform them I was coming until the day of I was commuting to my client. Because if some shitty weather delayed the travel, I might have not gone at all; since this particular client also runs on a limited availability…Even though he’s perfectly free, he is only in a city a set few days at a time once a month.
Of course after meeting my main client, I can go back to my own schedule which is often open. But since this post, I haven’t had any issues with clients not being able to meet late. One of my meets, he was actually needing to meet at like 1 a.m., and booked a hotel for me when I got to town around 11, so I could get ready. That was a sweet gesture.
 
 
That is true. And I do try to say that to myself at times. That it’s just the way it is. Like even in the case of the client in original post, I didn’t tell him all the details but: I couldn’t get to him sooner because I was waiting for a tire to arrive that got lost in a set shipped a couple weeks prior. It was scheduled to arrive the day he wanted to meet. But I also ASKED HIM the day before if he could meet, but it was “no it’s not a good day, but tomorrow I can”.
 
But I told him, “I asked earlier if there’s ANYTHING I need to know about how late you can or can’t meet” and I did tell him I had a tire appointment around 4. He just said no and to let him know. Well I did let him know, once I knew myself what time I would have everything finished. But then he says 9 is too late. Many clients are fine with 9 pm, but I guess he is one of the up at a 5 a.m. guys. Which wasn’t relayed to me until I was getting ready to walk out the door 🙈 
Fortunately the universe gave me 2 new clients because I was really relying on that session worth $400. But he couldn’t meet the next day because he had a wedding. Busy busy busy. But not my burden to carry.
 
Yeah and those types I don’t even bother trying to accommodate. I spent many years earlier in the escort world, rushing to reach last minute clients. Nowadays, I would never. It’s not worth it, especially if they can’t give reasonable notice.
 
Well applaud 👏🏽 to you for having the patience and understanding. Many clients out there can’t or don’t want to be flexible. Some like the control factor of making an escort be there and square at a set time, not understanding that very often: meeting new clients isn’t a routine commute or schedule. If I have dinner plans at 6 and a client wants to meet by or before 7, that’s going to create a time discrepancy. Like I don’t want to go to a session hungry because it could be 3 hours minimum from commute, booking and going back. But I also don’t want to miss out on the session all together, or show up on a full stomach.
One thing I’m finding and I even told one of my favorite clients: there’s starting to be certain times and days that don’t seem to work. I’ve already discouraged 🚫 booking after noon and before 3 due to hotel check in/out times when I have to arrange in-calls. I’m also considering not booking after 5 before 7 p.m., because that tends to conflict with any dinner plans I may have, though when I’m traveling solo I can usually be flexible.
I’m also starting to reconsider Sundays for any travels. I used to like traveling on Sundays but now I’m finding I can’t get going until later in the day. Also the Midwest is just weird with the weather. It was crappy weather Saturday, so I couldn’t get anything done outside. Then Sunday was beautiful so I grilled and did stuff outside. I didn’t have any appointments, even though I was open to take some after 6 p.m. but the client I thought I had, flaked (per my recent post).
And now today Monday, very different weather than yesterday. I probably won’t be open to take any bookings for outcalls since it’s planning to be snowing.

I have fallen in love with a provider several times…….but only for an hour or two. 

I have had to cut clients off because they became infatuated and could not distinguish reality from fiction- despite me being very clear: I am not opposed to dating a client but I would need to be provided for in that I wouldn't have to work. 

Run, Rudy, run.

For mine, he advertised himself as 35 and I was 45. 
After two weeks he said I have something to tell you. He hands me his driver's license and he is actually ten months older than me, born in the same year. He certainly looks fucking 35 years old and everyone believes it. So many people think he's with me because he's the younger jacked guy who needs a daddy and needs a green card or passport (he doesn't; he already has his -- if anything we are getting married so I can get his passport, lol) but people will believe what they want. 
I know the truth.  He pays half the bills, I don't actually contribute anything to him these days except for half of our living expenses and maybe a decent vacation here and there where he pays what he can and I maybe pickup upgrades from coach to first class, etc. 
I'll write the story at some point over the summer if ya'll are interested in how it all happened.

I had minimal male to male contact as a teen, once I received a BJ and got paid and the other a drunken frot session with a friend.  Two years after my wife died, when I was 50, I found that sex with women left me feeling empty and guilty.  I decided to try having sex with a man.  I started hiring very selectively and for the most part part for 15 years I hired frequently but only one or two escorts in a rotation. Lately, I have hired and used dating apps much more frequently.  This is especially so  since my move to Palm Springs.  I feel great about my choices to do so and agree with the other posters who suggested that doing more earlier seems like it would have been prudent.  I do not know exactly why I was reticent.  At this time, though I see women on occasion, I am more active with men.  As I age, I have found that women I have met are more interested in a long term situation while men are more casual and escorts, of course, generally are not looking for a long term relationship with their clients.   I am friends with many of the men I have hired over the years even though I do not see them professionally any longer.    
Finances are not a major issue but they do lead me to be a bit conservative about my hiring.  

You had to be first in line. First cum, first serve.

I've been on hiring break for a couple weeks. But prior to that i hadn't noticed any issues. The providers who are good had still been good and the ones who weren't good either stayed not good or eventually got better once they figured out how this works. I hadn't noticed or experienced any broader shift in how providers treat us personally.
The customer is definitely not always right though lol.

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I respect all the experiences shared here, but mine was incredible. He's a super sweet and kind person. The massage was terrific, and his body is insanely hot and he definitely puts it to use as part of the massage. 11 out of 10 stars for me and I hope to see him again.

Thanks for all the replies I feel a lot better about taking the plunge when I travel this January. Just for clarity when I say fat I'm 105kg 5"8

Thanks again everyone I'll let you know how I get on in January. I'll be going to Berlin and Alicante and somewhere in-between. It's gonna be a trip alone for my 40th birthday to kind of find myself lol cheesy I know xxx

I am fully aware that my I-don’t-know response is childish, unproductive, and toxic.  Thank you to @purplekow, @Simon Suraci, and @jackcali for your suggestions.  I will keep them in mind and be a more responsible person in the future.
Ironically though, it seems like all of the providers that I have met understand me way better than I understand myself.  They can deliver & perform miraculously without any explicit directions from me.  Regardless, I do see why I need to be more vocal.  Some of the ideas in this thread, albeit wild, are rather tantalizing.

Approach it the same way you would when you want to blow your plumber, or housekeeper, or doctor.  Chemistry is important.  Look for signs that he's willing first.

I’m willing to give it a go for the right fee. Just saying…..

I finally gave him a try and was happy with how everything turned out! He’s handsome and sweet, the massage was deeper than I expected, and he taught me about cupping too. I’ll try that next time. The extras were fun, he was playful and I enjoyed myself a lot. When I told him what felt good, he was very responsive. I will definitely go back!