BrooklynIrish

I rarely get asked for pictures, but I will share a face picture once we've set up a meeting. As someone said earlier, I probably know every angle of the guy's body. So, his having a G-rated pic of me is no big deal. I also like the way I look, so I'm not nervous about how it will be received. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Could not agree more. I saw a provider who is aware of CoM this weekend. He bemoaned how shitty some of the members here are when commenting about him and other providers. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Can confirm this. He’s also a really sweet guy who can also go “Dom top” if you want. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

I hope people realize that undercover officers can and do lie when asked this question.
There is no rule that they have to identify themselves.

confirming as well

The only times I pay "before" are at a vending machine, ticket booth, or travel agent.

I make an exchange after but I show them envelop at the start. I mostly meet with regulars, so it's no issue. 

No you’re not. Don’t pay up front. Decent guys won’t expect payment up front. It starts the session off on an awkward footing. I much prefer to have the client pay afterwards. Occasionally a client will give me an envelope beforehand or put the cash ‘on the side’ visibly before we start. I try and disregard it because I want to make it seem as less like a transaction as possible. Only twice have I had a problem where they ‘didn’t have the money’🙄.
First one was because his card didn’t work (I have a card reader) and I guess that could be understandable. There was no other alternative so I rather foolishly left without payment but with a promise he’d send via PayPal when he was back home (the guy was from China). To my surprise, and let’s be honest to my shame because I’d 90% written it off, he sent the money a couple of weeks later! Absolutely restored my faith in human nature that did. 
The other time I walked the client to the cash point….very closely. No one has ever wanted a post session discount. 
I am careful about the kind of clients I’ll accept so maybe that reduces the chance of someone refusing to pay. If he insists on payment up front it’s more likely he’s seeing the kind of client who tries things on with him. Do you want to risk hiring that kind of guy? 
 

Can confirm this. He’s also a really sweet guy who can also go “Dom top” if you want. 

I saw Stephen last night and he was incredible. He looks as good or better than his photos. He's a big hunk of a man with a great chest. He was very adept in bed. Great kisser. He also really listened to what I wanted and delivered. Stephen is also a really nice guy, and fun to speak with. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet. 

It used to be if you communicated with the provider on the site, you could leave a review. Depending on how often you engage in this hobby, there are apps like Burner you can use to have a separate number not connected to you. 

Exactly. I don't use my real number (or real name...) when I contact masseurs so RM can have my VoIP number if they want. lol 

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

No, I don't interpret mixed ethnicity as code for anything.