BrooklynIrish

That's my take as well. I'm far less drawn to a "pretty face" and "rock-hard abs" than having a sense that the provider is a) actually skilled and b) enjoys the services they offer. Once I have an understanding of that then, I start thinking about how hot they are. 🤣

Ugh. This jackass. 

Can confirm this. He’s also a really sweet guy who can also go “Dom top” if you want. 

I have a different take on this, which I think boils down to: do you hire for convenience or do you hire to have sex with men you believe would not be interested in without payment? I mostly fall into the former category. I'm not hanging out at bars or clubs much anymore. I don't drink or do drugs. My job is very demanding. And I have disposable income. So when I hire, I do so because I do not want to spend 2-3 hours on Grindr being approached by guys I'm not interested in or rejected by guys I am. So when a masseur I see regularly compliments my oral skills or notices I'm fitter than when he last saw me, I take the compliment. I also tend to hire guys closer to my age (late 30s to 40s) and more conventionally attractive (e.g., not ripped, not with 11 inches, etc). 
Now, if I were hiring a 25-year-old who is 6'2" with an eight-pack, who has an active OF where he fucks similar guys, I would probably feel like this guy is shining me on if he compliments me. 
But clients also have to maintain that they are hiring a professional. I have specific skills that sometimes provide pro bono to some friends and organizations. But I'm also regularly approached by people who want my services for free. That doesn't feel good to me. But I've also taken jobs where I might say, "This is so much fun or energizing that I'd do it for free." A provider saying they MIGHT have approached you off the clock is saying the same thing. They're enjoying their time with you, which is excellent, but that doesn't mean you've suddenly stopped being a client. Take the compliment and enjoy it, but understand it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship. 

I rarely get asked for pictures, but I will share a face picture once we've set up a meeting. As someone said earlier, I probably know every angle of the guy's body. So, his having a G-rated pic of me is no big deal. I also like the way I look, so I'm not nervous about how it will be received. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Could not agree more. I saw a provider who is aware of CoM this weekend. He bemoaned how shitty some of the members here are when commenting about him and other providers. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Can confirm this. He’s also a really sweet guy who can also go “Dom top” if you want. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

Ugh. This jackass. 

I hope people realize that undercover officers can and do lie when asked this question.
There is no rule that they have to identify themselves.

confirming as well

The only times I pay "before" are at a vending machine, ticket booth, or travel agent.

I make an exchange after but I show them envelop at the start. I mostly meet with regulars, so it's no issue. 

No you’re not. Don’t pay up front. Decent guys won’t expect payment up front. It starts the session off on an awkward footing. I much prefer to have the client pay afterwards. Occasionally a client will give me an envelope beforehand or put the cash ‘on the side’ visibly before we start. I try and disregard it because I want to make it seem as less like a transaction as possible. Only twice have I had a problem where they ‘didn’t have the money’🙄.
First one was because his card didn’t work (I have a card reader) and I guess that could be understandable. There was no other alternative so I rather foolishly left without payment but with a promise he’d send via PayPal when he was back home (the guy was from China). To my surprise, and let’s be honest to my shame because I’d 90% written it off, he sent the money a couple of weeks later! Absolutely restored my faith in human nature that did. 
The other time I walked the client to the cash point….very closely. No one has ever wanted a post session discount. 
I am careful about the kind of clients I’ll accept so maybe that reduces the chance of someone refusing to pay. If he insists on payment up front it’s more likely he’s seeing the kind of client who tries things on with him. Do you want to risk hiring that kind of guy? 
 

Can confirm this. He’s also a really sweet guy who can also go “Dom top” if you want. 

I saw Stephen last night and he was incredible. He looks as good or better than his photos. He's a big hunk of a man with a great chest. He was very adept in bed. Great kisser. He also really listened to what I wanted and delivered. Stephen is also a really nice guy, and fun to speak with. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet. 

It sounds like you did dodge a bullet.