ApexNomad

How do you vote?

I do. For peace of mind. I take care of myself: workout, supplements, diet, the whole routine - I’m sure it’s overkill, but it’s more mental for me. Frankly, some of these providers are also huge! I do it also an insurance policy.

Calling me “piggy” is where I draw the line. I do like calling my tops “Beasts” though.

I think the younger generation, because they grew up with the internet, they are so inundated with all these unrealistic body standards. They’re constantly bombarded with hyper-edited images that make anyone feel self-conscious. And the kind of porn that’s available to them now is so different from what we had growing up—it’s everywhere, and it sets this crazy standard that can make people feel they need to look a certain way. I also think a lot of straight guys—though definitely not all—seem to feel like they have to appear ‘masculine’ 24/7. If they even glance at another man’s body, they’re suddenly ‘gay’ or something, and that’s a big deal to them. Sad.

Not sure which reply you’re referring to, but just to clarify, my response to you was aimed at understanding your perspective, especially as someone speaking as a prospective client who occasionally visits your side of the pond. Thanks for clarifying—now I know where you stand.

Calling them “control freaks” is generous—they sound like major time-wasters. In the end, it’s better for you; they’re clearly not worth your time. Unfortunately, it does waste your energy, but I guess that’s part of the business. You have to treat each prospective client as genuine and legit, because you never know who actually is. Or maybe they block because they realize they can’t handle all of your dick. 😂

That’s a really interesting perspective, especially when you factor in the coastal areas where land value typically dominates. I wonder if there’s also a balance between the cost of premiums and self-insuring that people consider, especially for those with enough assets. It’s one thing to go bare because you can afford to rebuild, but I imagine there’s also a strategic component, where some may prefer to invest what they would spend on insurance premiums elsewhere, betting the risk is worth it. It all seems to come down to how comfortable someone is with the level of risk they’re willing to carry.

Got it.

You choose not to wear condoms when you top. Am I understanding your next sentence correctly that if your client asks you to wear a condom before topping them, then it doesn’t go ahead? Raw is the law?

Also important when saying someone assaulted you to point out they were also cute.

Chilean Sea Bass my ass!! There will always be goldfish dammit.

As an older man, I can say I’ve never crossed that line with my inner circle of friends, which includes both gay and straight guys. Even with men I’ve gone on dates with, we usually knew within about 10 minutes that it wasn’t going to lead to sex. Many of them have become friends—not my closest, but still good friends. With the free platforms, it really is a jungle out there. I’d suggest lowering all expectations when it comes to those. I’m curious though, what do you think the “majority” of men are actually looking for? If you’re getting blocked, it feels like there’s little hope for the rest of us. To be blunt, you’re a tall top with a big dick—seems like that would please 95% of the bottoms out there!

If you’ve been doing this for a while, you should know what works and what doesn’t when engaging with a provider. If you’re ever in doubt, just ask them to hop on a call for a few minutes. I’m a big believer in a quick call or FaceTime. Shows you’re real. Serious. You can lock down the appointment right there. Worrying about a few words here and there is ridiculous. If a provider is ghosting you because you said a couple of things wrong, move on. Their loss. Any provider who won’t meet you in the middle isn’t worth your time. It’s your money, and you should feel comfortable knowing what to expect. When it comes to massages, I go in with zero expectations. Maybe that’s not the best mindset, but the planning and expectations are much different for me compared to hiring an escort. My needs are different. The layout is typically different and the cost is typically less, too. Allow yourself the freedom to let the masseur guide things a bit more in this space and see what happens.

When you mention a “certain type” of guys, are you referring to specific behaviors you’ve noticed on these platforms, or is there more to it?

The deinstitutionalization movement, which began in the 1950s and accelerated after the passage of the Community Mental Health Act in the 60s, aimed to promote individual rights and community integration for people with mental illness. However, while this shift sought to move care from large psychiatric institutions to community-based services, it did not come with sufficient support systems, leading to inadequate resources for those released. Although halfway houses were established to aid in this integration, many individuals chose to remain on the streets, often due to the lack of supportive environments. PS. If this is your idea of foreplay, it’s working.

As a New Yorker, I can say we value convenience and are usually open to traveling a bit for the right experience, especially if it means better rates or accommodations. But honestly, it really depends on the client. Some will do a short drive or subway ride, while others want to stay within the city limits for ease. That said, I don’t think anyone in the boroughs is gonna trek out to Long Island unless they already live there! Areas in New Jersey (especially those accessible by PATH) could definitely attract clients looking for something a bit different. If a client wants to see you, they’ll see you and make it happen. Best of luck to you!!

While closing institutions aimed to promote individual rights, the shift didn’t come with adequate support systems. Many are now left without the help they need. We should focus on providing both civil rights and the necessary resources, like mental health care and housing, to support everyone, including the homeless and the LGBTQ+ community.

I’m pretty sure if you talk to a homeless person, the first thing on their mind isn’t “down with them gays”—it’s more likely “I wish I wasn’t homeless.” The real issue here is society failing the disenfranchised as a whole, including the LGBTQ+ community.

It’s enjoyable. I’ll see anything with Kathy Bates. (They should also renew High Potential. Great show!)

And when I want them to stay, I also pay.

I’m curious to hear more from the OP. In my experience, I haven’t really encountered this with the providers I’ve met. Most of the escorts I’ve come across—especially in NY and LA—are doing very well for themselves. Very well! A lot depends on the geographical market, and it’s not true for everyone of course. I tend to hire escorts who are at least 30, mostly 35+. One lives in a luxury doorman building in midtown (I had to cover his Uber from his midtown apartment to my midtown hotel, but that’s another story), another lives in a gorgeous penthouse on the Upper West Side, and one has a vacation home in Puerto Rico. I once had a provider tell me he was having a difficult month paying his bills, yet he proceeded to take off his Apple Watch and strip off his Tom Ford underwear. Just as their time with clients may involve elements of fantasy, the perception of escorting can sometimes mask the complexities of their realities.

I’m more hesitant if they’re “straight.”

Sir Peter also has one. Sexy on him!! Fits his “brand.” Also an amazing provider!!