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I’d also like to note that it tends to be these same tops who exhibit impatience if you need a moment to adjust to their size, as if they’re somehow doing you a favor.

In our society, masculinity is often tied to physical attributes, particularly the size of a man’s penis. This fixation can lead to feelings of inadequacy among men who believe they don’t measure up. It’s an unfortunate narrative that equates worth with size—whether it’s a big house, a big job, big money, or a big dick. The famous gay porn film “The Bigger the Better,” featuring Matt Ramsey and Rick Donovan, says it all in its title. These ideals are especially prevalent in traditionally conservative areas, where rigid norms overshadow diverse expressions of male identity. This creates challenges for those who are gay or don’t conform, as acceptance tends to be limited. In contrast, urban settings offer greater acceptance and a wider array of identities, allowing individuals to embrace their authentic selves. This raises the question: how can we redefine masculinity to celebrate diversity rather than conforming to narrow standards? We need to foster a culture where every individual feels valued, regardless of their physical attributes. Hopefully, I will see more of this change in my lifetime.

Public transport? That’s cute! But I still prefer my cars—I decide who gets in, and I like my rides uninterrupted! 😉

Two guys, Matt and Chris, are alone together, and Matt says, “Tell me something dirty.” Chris smirks, leans in, and whispers, “The dishes… haven’t been washed… in three days.” Matt grins and says, “Oh, you know just how to get me going.”

For men, especially in gay culture, it’s often the endowment that becomes the hang-up. But you reach an age where you stop giving a shit about any of your insecurities—and that’s where real confidence begins.

Except I don’t lease my cars—I own them outright. 😉

The whole sugar daddy thing cracks me up. At that point, why not just go all in? Let’s be a couple! Screw it! We could start planning our retirement together—I’ll handle the bingo cards, and he can bring the energy drinks! The transactional vibe of sugar daddy relationships feels a bit too clinical for me; it’s like taking the client/escort dynamic and just slapping a “relationship” label on it. If we’re both getting what we want, let’s make it real instead of keeping it transactional!

You make a great point about the timing and long-term implications of insurance. For businesses, self-insuring or joining pools makes sense, especially with a three-year breakeven. For homeowners, especially in high-risk areas, the costs can feel disproportionate to the benefits, especially if you won’t be in the home long enough to see a return on investment. With inflation affecting home values and payouts, it adds another layer of complexity. Ultimately, it’s about balancing peace of mind with financial reality.

You may just want to hire an escort at that point, unless there’s a massage component that only a trained masseur can bring. But from what you’re describing, an escort seems better suited. Literally say what you just wrote.

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Thanks. I don’t see the submit vote box. Am I not allowed to vote because I’m still considered a newbie? The hand icon feels like a scarlet letter.

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Such a helpful bunch. 😄 Maybe a moderator can direct me then on how to send in my mail-in ballot for this all important enema vote.

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I do. For peace of mind. I take care of myself: workout, supplements, diet, the whole routine - I’m sure it’s overkill, but it’s more mental for me. Frankly, some of these providers are also huge! I do it also an insurance policy.

Calling me “piggy” is where I draw the line. I do like calling my tops “Beasts” though.

I think the younger generation, because they grew up with the internet, they are so inundated with all these unrealistic body standards. They’re constantly bombarded with hyper-edited images that make anyone feel self-conscious. And the kind of porn that’s available to them now is so different from what we had growing up—it’s everywhere, and it sets this crazy standard that can make people feel they need to look a certain way. I also think a lot of straight guys—though definitely not all—seem to feel like they have to appear ‘masculine’ 24/7. If they even glance at another man’s body, they’re suddenly ‘gay’ or something, and that’s a big deal to them. Sad.

Not sure which reply you’re referring to, but just to clarify, my response to you was aimed at understanding your perspective, especially as someone speaking as a prospective client who occasionally visits your side of the pond. Thanks for clarifying—now I know where you stand.

Calling them “control freaks” is generous—they sound like major time-wasters. In the end, it’s better for you; they’re clearly not worth your time. Unfortunately, it does waste your energy, but I guess that’s part of the business. You have to treat each prospective client as genuine and legit, because you never know who actually is. Or maybe they block because they realize they can’t handle all of your dick. 😂

That’s a really interesting perspective, especially when you factor in the coastal areas where land value typically dominates. I wonder if there’s also a balance between the cost of premiums and self-insuring that people consider, especially for those with enough assets. It’s one thing to go bare because you can afford to rebuild, but I imagine there’s also a strategic component, where some may prefer to invest what they would spend on insurance premiums elsewhere, betting the risk is worth it. It all seems to come down to how comfortable someone is with the level of risk they’re willing to carry.

Got it.