ApexNomad

You’re not weird at all! I think it’s beautiful—it’s a form of self-expression that can be incredibly fulfilling. I’m not a psychiatrist, but I’ve been told that the desire to maintain control in sexual situations can often stem from past experiences where a person felt a lack of agency or power. In these cases, expressing control within a safe and consensual dynamic can provide a sense of empowerment and confidence. The preference for scenarios like undressing or having a partner undressed might reflect themes of vulnerability and intimacy. Being undressed can evoke a sense of emotional exposure, while the one who remains clothed holds a certain power in the dynamic, creating an arousing contrast. These power dynamics allow individuals to explore trust, connection, and emotional depth in a controlled way, where vulnerability becomes a form of strength. Ultimately, these desires are a way to engage with both emotional and physical intimacy, creating a fulfilling, meaningful experience that goes beyond mere physical attraction.

Oh, you bring up a very good point. One of the reasons I prefer a provider to arrive fresh and clean is because I don’t want to smell the session before me. And believe me, I can definitely tell when that happens! It’s occurred more times than I’d like, and it really turns me off.

Yes, it’s that easy. With tipsy guests around, you’ll be handing out your number. A lot. Looks like you’ll have a busy January ahead!

I also find it such a turn-on when a guy’s just wearing sneakers while we’re in bed. There’s something incredibly sexy about him standing at the edge of the bed, fully in control, using those sneakers to brace his weight and get a good grip as he’s going all in.

I feel the same way about paying for a provider’s Uber or Lyft—just factor it into your fee. Don’t tell me. I don’t want to use my personal account to arrange transportation to/from or know where you live. That’s none of my business. Many first-time providers only offer outcalls, so you end up covering the cost of the hotel and their transportation (in addition to their fee).

For me, I only engage in role play scenarios with regulars—someone I’ve been with before and with whom I’ve built a level of trust in the bedroom. I think any kind of role play requires a certain amount of trust to really work. The best role plays are the ones that let both people get creative and fully lose themselves in the story. Some of my favorites include professor/student, boss/assistant, a private tutor session where things get… educational; a summer fling; or even an end-of-the-world scenario.

This is a very individualized niche and really depends on the guy and the specific scent someone finds appealing. That sour musk can be a major turn-off for some but an undeniable turn-on for others. It’s important to find a provider who truly understands this and can deliver accordingly. Personally, I’m all about being soap-and-water clean when I’m with someone. I’m not a fan of a provider showing up ripe from the gym or going a day or two without showering—it’s a turn-off for me. That said, I actually love when I’m the reason a man works up a sweat. I find it incredibly sexy and a huge turn-on when my top is sweating because he’s really plowing into me. Feeling the glisten of sweat on his back and ass, as I run my hands up and down, or wiping sweat off his brow while he looks at me—it’s just so intensely arousing and satisfying.

Very true.

Standing Room would be better at the St. James if it meant not having to sit down.

To answer Ali’s question flipped around, I’m not a therapist or doctor, but if I were with a regular provider who seemed off, I would gently inquire. And if there was a problem, I would offer to help. I once helped a regular provider with a legal matter.

Yes, he offers erotic massages now. One of the best providers ever—and an all-around great guy!

Requiring a photo is a dealbreaker for me (assuming FaceTime isn’t an option). That said, I really appreciate that he’s upfront about it in his ad copy—it saves both of us time. As for whether seeing what I look like helps determine chemistry or attraction, that’s beyond my control. I’d hope that for a professional provider, it wouldn’t matter, but ultimately, that’s their decision. I will say, though, I’ve met a few providers who looked amazing on paper, but meeting them in person completely changed my impression—for the worse.

The St. James has the worst house seats of any theatre, and that’s with a renovation.

It’s true that violence shocks us into paying attention because it plays into our primal instincts for survival and fear. But if we accept that as a default, we risk normalizing it and reinforcing cycles of harm. The challenge—and the necessity—is to reject that reflex and instead operate with intention and principle, proving that meaningful change can arise from strength in restraint, creativity, and compassion. A system built on violence cannot sustain justice; only an ethic of care can do that.

See Wicked - better story, better music, better songs! You won’t be bored.

Our country is founded on the rule of law, ensuring justice is pursued through lawful means, not violence. The systemic failures in healthcare are real, and what’s happening is wrong. The justice system and other institutions don’t always get it right, but violence is never the answer. The stark alternative to pushing for reform and accountability through lawful means is chaos, where no one is safe, and justice becomes a matter of might, not right.

I’ve read plenty of escort horror stories on here—and I’ve had a few of my own. But rather than add to the pile, I thought I’d share one of my truly amazing experiences instead. This was one of them.

Quite possibly one of the best (if not the best) and sexiest threads on here!! Thank you @StLouisOct @marylander1940 and all posters. 🙏

Love the smirk. 😍

When people think of me, I hope it’s not the farts they remember.

I love any sound a cock makes.

Haven’t seen it. What didn’t you like about it?