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For me, a total top in bed is someone who exclusively takes the penetrative or dominant role during anal sex—they don’t bottom. But beyond that, it’s also an attitude. A total top takes charge, sets the tone, and leads both the physical and emotional energy of the encounter. They often enjoy being in control. That can show up in different ways—sometimes tender and attentive, other times rough and commanding. But the best ones understand it’s not just about getting off; it’s about making their partner feel wanted, desired, and cared for.

Take everything with a grain of salt. Have your own interactions with the provider and go with your gut and what feels right.

Because there’s a ton of pressure to look a certain way in our culture—especially in gay culture. And when you can’t change the size of your dick, you change the size of your muscles.

Agreed! I watched two episodes of MCM and couldn’t get into it. I fell asleep during the second episode. I thought the show was trying too hard to get those laughs in every minute.

Doesn’t matter how it’s prepped—I’m a meat lover. I’ll take any kind—every juicy inch. 😉

It’s not uncommon for providers to have multiple clients per day. I’ve been one of those multiple clients in a day. And it showed. (I mostly hire in the evening.) For me, it’s about the quality of each encounter that would be a concern.

Another option to consider is traveling to the provider’s city. If you’ve found someone you really like and they’re based in a city you’ve never explored, that could be a fun opportunity. You could have them show you around a bit—maybe start with dinner or a show (depending on the location and what they’re into)—and stay in a hotel of your choosing so it feels more neutral and comfortable for you. Do a little research on the city ahead of time and plan something that feels easy and enjoyable. Sometimes being in their comfort zone helps create a more relaxed, natural vibe too.

Totally normal! Especially if one is newer to it or it was a longer session. Your body’s adjusting, and soreness can happen just like after a workout. That said, it shouldn’t feel like sharp pain or last too long—if it does, that could be a sign to take it slower next time, use more lube, or focus more on relaxation and communication with your partner. Listen to your body and don’t be afraid to take breaks. I still feel a little ache or “soreness” sometimes after—but in a nice, “I had a good time” kind of way. And it never lasts long.

Crap. I must have taken a wrong turn. I’m looking for “Big Dick’s Alltheway Inn.”

Hey @Whitman hope you’re doing well! 😊 would you happen to know if this is a porn video?

I completely understand your perspective, and thank you for sharing. For me, especially when it comes to regulars, I’ve found that it takes a certain level of compartmentalizing. Otherwise, I can absolutely see how it becomes easy to get enamored or emotionally invested in the provider. There’s something about the intimacy—even if it’s transactional—that can blur the lines. The body might understand its business, but the heart doesn’t always get the memo. We’re human! And without veering too far off topic, I can also understand the appeal of hiring straight providers. There’s sometimes an emotional detachment there that, paradoxically, makes the experience feel safer for some. Less performance, less pretense. Maybe even a sense of mystery or unattainability that makes the dynamic feel more grounded in reality, oddly enough. Everyone comes to this space with different needs, histories, and expectations. And at the end of the day, I think it’s okay to want what you want—so long as it’s respectful, honest, and clear-eyed.

Love this story. Between Gypsy and that fuck, can’t get any better than that. 👏

The current trend of referring to prostitution as trafficking isn’t without basis; it reflects an evolving understanding of how power imbalances, economic desperation, and systemic exploitation shape the choices people make. That doesn’t mean every instance of consensual sex work is trafficking, but when celebrities or industry figures wield disproportionate power, the question isn’t just whether someone agreed to sex—it’s whether that agreement was truly voluntary. I think it’s important to distinguish between legal nuance and societal cynicism. And we’re seeing that play out in the Combs case. The criminal justice system is tasked with determining guilt beyond a reasonable doubt, which necessarily involves evaluating the credibility of witnesses, the presence (or absence) of consent, and the broader dynamics of power. Reducing allegations of sexual assault to a transactional lens—asking whether someone would “do it for money”—overlooks the legal and ethical reality that consent cannot be freely given when there’s coercion, manipulation, or abuse of power. And you’re exactly right to reference the “price of admission” mindset—that’s precisely what allowed predators like Cosby to operate unchecked for so long. It normalized coercion and blurred the line between opportunity and exploitation. Legally and morally, we need to ask harder, more honest questions about consent, pressure, and power—not just what someone may have been willing to do for a check.

I recently saw this and completely agree with your review—it was a lot of fun. It had a different feel from the movie, which is a classic in its own right. I saw Simard, who was terrific. The only weak link for me was Michelle Williams—she lacked the spark the rest of the cast had and didn’t quite gel in the same way. Still, all in all, great fun! And yes, the staircase scene was fantastic. Thank you Sam for the early review!

He looks amazing! I hope he’s doing well. His absence has been missed here.

It’s directed at all the people you refer to as “fat pigs.” Cruelty framed as commentary is still cruelty — and that’s your pattern here. You like to call it on-topic, but it’s just another excuse to punch down. You’re not an escort, and you’re not fucking them — so why the compulsion to even speak as if you are. Let the people doing the work express their own frustrations. You mask your disdain as insight, but all your offering is judgment and condescension.

You never miss an opportunity to denigrate — another cheap shot, steeped in… what’s that word of yours? Oh right, disdain.

Hilarious? I didn’t find it hilarious at all. In fact, in my opinion, it comes across as having a lot of disgust and contempt for the client. The tone feels emotionally detached, as if the situation is more about judgment than understanding. It paints a bleak picture of something repetitive and dehumanizing. It’s the kind of response from a provider that would make a skeptical client pause and rethink their choice to hire. If it ever gets that awful, then stop seeing the client.

If you ever want to feel depressed, read this. This highlights just how detached and numbing regular experiences can become. I hope my regulars think fondly of me, as I do of them.

Yes. And what a beautiful way to get fucked!!

When I reflect on the first time I reached out to a provider, back when texting and apps weren’t a thing, I wonder if I could go through it again in today’s age, especially with all the technology we have now. I remember speaking with the provider both over the phone and in person for my first time. There was no way I could have conveyed what I wanted via text or email—it would’ve felt too clinical or detached, and not at all reflective of the experience I was seeking. Seeing it written down, I think, would have stripped away everything I needed from the moment. I think it took the provider no more than five minutes to understand exactly what I wanted, or rather, what I needed. He knew right away. It was in the way I spoke. I was nervous. I was tripping over my words. He could sense my unease, and he understood it. There’s something about the human connection that gets divorced from the page. Everyone’s experience is different, and how and when they come to it in life varies. It’s all so personal.

This was amazing! Stunning performance. She will be remembered come Tony time.

Agreed with everything you said. This part, though, can be hard for some. Especially inexperienced clients who may not know how to express what they want, particularly when it comes to sex.

Season 3 is finally over. And all I can say is: WASH YOUR FUCKING BLENDER!!!! C’MON!