ApexNomad

Providers are offering something that often goes beyond what the average person might have in terms of physicality, and I think most providers would agree. When you scroll through platforms like RM, you’ll notice that most of the men featured tend to have sculpted bodies and above-average attributes. Beauty is currency, and if you have a big dick, that’s another layer of currency. So, when a provider puts an ad up to the general public and opens the door to a client who may not meet that same standard, it shouldn’t come as a shock. The provider is opening the door to a human being who may have a different body type or size than what’s common in the escort space. Providers who enter this space know they’re offering something unique, and that uniqueness is the very thing they are capitalizing on. Some do it better than others, and those that do are the ones who, I’d argue, are very empathetic. They’re aware that the clients they see may not always look like the idealized images online. I think most providers understand what they’re getting themselves into and shouldn’t be unpleasantly surprised by the variety of body types or features they encounter. If they are, then they’re probably in the wrong profession. That’s why the few providers I’ve become friends with who’ve retired never bothered asking for stats.

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Hey @56harrisond - is he a porn star?

If I understand correctly, a sex therapist provides counseling, advice, and therapeutic techniques to address sexual issues. A sex surrogate, on the other hand, can engage in physical intimacy with a client as part of the therapeutic process. However, this is done in a very controlled and professional environment, with clear boundaries and under the supervision of a licensed therapist or psychologist. The goal is to help the client address emotional, psychological, or physical challenges related to intimacy and sexual function. The sessions are designed to help the client feel more comfortable with their sexuality, overcome specific issues (such as sexual dysfunction, trauma, or intimacy issues), and gain greater confidence in their sexual and emotional life. These terms weren’t prevalent when I was coming of age; if they did, I certainly wasn’t aware of them. I lost my virginity to an escort and sought one out specifically due to past trauma. I would say he acted, for me, very much like a sex surrogate in that regard.

Welcome to legal challenges. Proving intent is often tricky, especially in discrimination cases. Direct evidence (like an explicit statement of bias) is rare, so most cases rely on circumstantial evidence, patterns of behavior, or disparate impact (when a policy disproportionately affects a protected group, even without explicit intent). BUT, the escort industry operates in a very legal gray area, particularly here in the U.S. (I should clarify that), making legal challenges difficult, especially in discrimination cases. Providers, being independent and often working in jurisdictions where escorting is prohibited, don’t have to adhere to the same anti-discrimination laws as businesses that serve the general public. Even if discrimination were to occur, the nature of the business means that legal action is unlikely, as most individuals wouldn’t risk bringing a case under these circumstances. So, bottom line: it’s highly unlikely that someone would pursue a discrimination lawsuit in this context, particularly given the legal risks involved.

The legal implications of requesting a photo depend on the industry and the intent behind the request. In employment law, asking for a photo with a resume can raise discrimination concerns under federal laws like Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. Escorting operates in a completely different legal gray area. Without going down a rabbit hole, let’s just say providers generally have more discretion in choosing their clientele, as they are not considered public accommodations like beauty salons or spas, which are subject to anti-discrimination laws. A provider asking for a photo is usually about comfort, safety, or personal preference rather than unlawful discrimination. Ultimately, while a business open to the public must be careful, an independent provider has more freedom to set their own terms.

I agree - it’s not common, but it does happen. Even with the money you’re paying, you don’t mind if a provider looks at porn or closes his eyes? That part has never happened to me, and I must say, I would not like that. Sure, are they probably fantasizing about someone else when they’re fucking me, perhaps. But if they are, they do a good job in pretending they’re not. I would hope that they are enjoying it as much as I am. But who knows.

That’s the perfect word: delightful. It really was. The new songs are great! I really like Pasek and Paul of the newer generation of songwriters.

A provider has every right to request a client’s photo if they choose. It’s their prerogative, and if they state it in their ad, even better—then the client can decide if it’s even worth pursuing without wasting time. Personally, only a handful have asked for a photo, and while I don’t exchange pics, I offer a FaceTime instead. That approach works beautifully, except for one provider who had the audacity to charge me for a FaceTime call after I politely declined to send a photo. Ultimately, I get the client sentiment: you’re paying a lot of money for a service, so your looks shouldn’t matter. I get it. For some being asked, that could already set a tone and be a dealbreaker. And for many providers, that’s absolutely the case—they take you as you are, no matter how you look or how old (legally of course), and everything is great. But some providers prefer to see a client first for their own reasons, and that’s their choice. Just like it’s yours to accept or move on.

I think it really depends on the two people involved. Anything is possible if they approach the relationship with honesty, communication, and love. Success will be relative to what each person values, and I don’t think it can work if both aren’t on the same page. That’s true for any relationship, really.

I saw this today because of your review. Your review is spot on. Agree with everything you said. I really enjoyed this. Thank you.

Listen, I will take a male nude scene any day. I’m just not sure I would have included some of these in my top 10.

Agreed!! You should have made the list. 👏

Pseudoephedrine, yes - I have to present my driver’s license. But I personally have never been carded for OTC cough syrup.

With the exception of maybe three of them, this is a terrible list.

He’s had a few profiles. One that I recall is Bigdick4u - something like that.

That’s unfortunate. I’d be curious to see how they make a whole musical of it with a beginning middle and end considering it’s 2.5 hours, but the show limped along for 2 seasons. There were some nice songs - songs that need to be sung in full or they lose their impact. For example, the show’s signature song - Let me be your star - I can’t imagine that song being edited or sung any differently. It would lose a lot of propelled the dynamic between the two stars and their motivations, I think.

I’ve never been carded and were around the same age. I guess I do look my age. LOL You should enjoy being carded at 66. God bless you.

Saw the season finale. Wrapped everything well. Fun. Enjoyable. Richard Beck can’t fire a gun to save his life or I his dad’s for that matter. RIP Anthony Michael Hall. The fight scene with Reacher and Paulie was long overdue and worth the wait - highly entertaining, if completely unbelievable. He’d be in a wheelchair. But that’s okay - he’s Reacher.

For what it’s worth, I didn’t mean to suggest that a top should only focus on their partner’s needs at the expense of their own. What impresses me—really in any relationship—is when both people are aware of and attuned to each other’s experience. That kind of mutual connection is what stands out to me. I genuinely enjoy pleasing my partner, but in my experience, that kind of reciprocity and self awareness—sadly—isn’t always the norm. And you certainly don’t need to hear this from an old man like me, but you are special. You seem very thoughtful, intuitive, and present in a way that’s rare. It’s something that I’m sure many in your orbit, whether it be in your professional or personal relationships, cherish.

Are you a provider? 😂 😘

This season isn’t as strong as the previous two, and from what I’ve read here and elsewhere, that seems to be the general consensus. That said, I still applaud Mike White for taking creative risks, even when they don’t fully land. Writing is hard. Building out a world is hard. He’s not just writing these episodes—he’s directing and producing them as well. His aesthetic and voice are undeniable, and I’ll always be interested in his work because he has something to say. If all season 3 gives us is Sam Rockwell’s masterful monologue, I’ll take it.

Agreed! And when you do find them, these are the keepers.

Speaking as a bottom, and based on your comment about what impresses you, my question isn’t so much whether a top can go for hours. Having my ass catch on fire doesn’t impress me. What impresses me most is exactly what I said—putting a partner’s needs above your own. Creating intimacy. Because the simple truth is, if a top is going for “hours,” there’s really no benefit to the bottom at that point. It becomes painful. It’s no longer about them; it’s about the top.

I love this picture so much! Thank you posting this @Danny-Darko There’s something so profoundly intimate about the simplicity of this image. The hands, intertwined, tell a story without words — a connection that transcends the physical and speaks to a deeper, unspoken bond. The strength in the grip, the vulnerability in the touch, and the way their bodies are captured in that moment of closeness speak volumes about the beauty of human connection. It’s not just a physical act; it’s an expression of trust, desire, and/or love that feels timeless. We should all be grateful to find that connection whenever we can.