Decatur Guy

I understand that feeling. Especially when I first started hiring. I felt like, "I'm so ugly it's come to this." I still get that way at times, but mostly I like the convenience. And what I lack in looks, I make up for in respect, likability, enthusiasm and reliability. I have a couple of guys who have quit advertising but still see me. And I know I get lower than the going rate.

I met him a couple of weeks ago and enjoyed the encounter. He's a little on the quiet side but fun once you get going.

I've never had a session where WS was the main focus, but I've definitely had times where we discussed it as something to do at some point during the visit. I won't bring up WS unless it's listed in his profile already. I have a couple of regulars who really enjoy being WS givers, so it's now integrated into the planning. They hydrate ahead and I have plenty of water and/or beer on hand upon arrival. I can't do it unless the provider is well hydrated.

Yes, I like to chat afterward. If nothing else, I like to tell them what I liked about the encounter.

It's definitely not a selling point for me. If I like everything else about the profile and it's just in there one time, I usually let it slide. But if he's giving the finger in other pictures, too, and generally gives a sketchy vibe, I move on. I think some Tops do it because they think it makes them look tough. I think there are better poses to get that "service me vibe" across. For instance, of picture of him in a relaxed manspread while sitting in a chair with an erection and big grin on his face. Give me a couple of those and an easy-going Alpha vibe in the write-up, and I'm likely at least ask your rates.

I'm less likely to hire someone with no anal involved, but there are times, for sure, when I just do oral sessions. And sometimes that's my desire, not the provider's limits.

Red flags: Profiles with just a few pictures and just a few words in the descriptions. Providers asking for a deposit upfront. Profiles with pictures that I recognize from five or 10 years ago. Pro-active complaints about clients. Super vague descriptions. Name changers (I don't mind one name change, but when it becomes a habit).

Just saw this. I met with him once. I wouldn't suggest him if it's your first few times meeting up with a provider with his kind of Dom energy. But if you have even a little experience under your belt and are drawn to his type, you might have a good time. I'd meet with him again, but it didn't work out schedule-wise.

Adding my voice to the chorus of fans of Sherman Maus.

Tom Isern.

I tend to stay within a pretty set range per hour: $200 to $300 pre-pandemic. $250 to $350 post-pandemic. I can't of anyone who I was so interested in that was willing to do $500 an hour, etc. I find that the providers at the lower end of my range are often just as good or better than the ones at the higher end, and they are the ones who become regulars. I prefer to have around four (maybe five) providers to call upon regularly vs. always trying out new folks. I once got DP'd by Andrew Justice and Sean Xavier. I think that was $500 for an hour, but that broke down to just $250 per guy. And it was worth it.

I make an exchange after but I show them envelop at the start. I mostly meet with regulars, so it's no issue.

Some of us like to hire guys in their 40s and beyond.

They don't come better than NateSF. Absolutely top tier hire for me. I'm just sorry he's on the other side of the country from me.

I don't have an issue with "upcharges" as long as it doesn't become a long laundry list and I know about them upfront. But I can understand someone charging more for anal either way and more for bottoming than topping. Those are bigger asks, I think.