Decatur Guy

I think Nate_SF is right. This site seems like part of a fading era of the internet. But I did meet Nate_SF more than 10 years ago because of this site, and it was one of my best encounters ever. And I recently met GentJ via this site. So it did and still can work. When I tell providers about the site, I do warn them that some clients (not many) can be really harsh on here and just to be cautious about that. Just a handful of bad apple clients (and providers, too) can ruin the whole barrel. I still find the experience mostly positive, though.

Good point.

I definitely have to think twice once someone is quoting more than $300 an hour. Factors that could make me go up: Great chemistry on a get-to-know-you-call. He advertises a fetish I really like (such as a top who enjoys being rimmed). I don't really have physical types, but sometimes someone has a certain look where my interest goes up. And sometimes, my drive is higher and therefore my price tolerance is too.

I have never had free. I had an offer for free once but turned it in down. I do think I have received the "regular client" discount from certain providers, where they may ask $250 vs. $300 for others. I'm not high maintenance, so it's pretty easy $$$ for them.

Interesting topic! As with many of the other people who have replied, I tend to go with regulars over new hires but do both. That's because I also find the first-time hiring process increasingly problematic. But even more, I find the encounters get better around the third meeting onward. Of course, providers leave the biz, move out of town or things fizzle, and the only way to find new regulars is to do the first-time thing again. And then sometimes, I just spot someone new who really gets my attention. But I'd say 75% of my hiring is repeat business.

Yes! He's fantastic.

There have always been cities that puzzled me for their surprising low number of escorts. New Orleans is another. That is such a hedonistic playground but has relatively few escorts. (At least on RM). Then there are cities that have more than I expected, such as Orlando.

I'm glad you brought that up as I was just thinking the same thing the other day. And specifically Spiderman. Not other superheroes so much. It got to the point I was wondering if one of the Spiderman movies had a super-vague homoerotic scene that became a sensation. The guys look good in their costumes. But I've never had any real interest in that kind of thing.

No judgments here - I have a lot of kinks. But I also have rejection issues, whether I'm the one being rejected or the one doing it. And cucking feels too close to rejection. It's been years, but I used to sometimes hire two tops at once. Even if I felt like one was doing better than the other, I tried very hard to make them feel equal appreciated. And usually in the trying, they both ended up being well-received, so to speak. All that said, there is a certain hotness to what unfolded. Just not for me. PS - I would like to add that I have had scenarios where both tops understood that one of the tops would be more or less taking the lead. But they both knew that going in and were both fine with it and no one was cucked. It was more than one was Batman and one was Robin, so to speak.

I'd guess around $4k to $5k a year. I'm cautious financially. I'd likely do $10k a year if I were indulging myself as much as I'd like.

The physical attributes are 50% of the appeal to me - at most. I definitely respond to a providers' text, how he presents himself and what he seems to be interested in.

I just met with GentJ this evening.BIG THUMBS UP! It was a BFE but some naughty, quietly confident jock thrown in for fun. I found him easy to communicate with over RM messenger and on text.

Yes, particularly if the person isn't reviewed or discussed on here. And I'm finding fewer and fewer reviews/discussions on the providers that I want additional info on. In that regard, this site unfortunately is becoming less relevant to me.

My preference is experienced providers who have done this for several years and who are 35 to 55.

Yes! I'm more likely to take a chance on a $250 hour vs. $350 hour.