PhileasFogg

Oh Sam….Sam, Sam, Sam…those are the words of MY youth! 🤣🤣
Welcome to the 80’s

Ironically, that situation only scratches the surface to a separate situation that occurred in the last week, but that’s another topic for another thread 🥸

Yeah, I had this happen with two Chicago guys several weeks ago.  The mistake I made was asking Guy 1 for a blessing to see Guy 2 which he took as asking for permission.  He was instantly offended and said he wanted to think about it.  After two weeks of silence, I approached Guy 2 directly, explaining the back story.   Ultimately Guy 1 gave permission and we planned a weekend trip.
During the trip, Guy 2 suggested that Guy 1 was furious with me.  So I tried to clear the air reaching out to Guy 1.  He replied with the most histrionic, gaslighting, accusing tirade by text that one could imagine.
There’s a much longer story here - and I’ve subsequently learned some things about Guy 1 - but it’s a shame - Guy 2 is a prince (and better than Guy 1 in so many levels)  But I will not do anything more to come between or create conflict for them.  Guy 2 will have to figure out the unhealthy relationship dynamic on his own.  But to avoid making issues for him, I’ve been silent since the tirade and moved on and had outstanding encounters with new guys.
Ironically, I have reason to believe that Guy 1 moved to poison my well with some other guys - but that’s on him.   

My weekend encounter in New Orleans was with a long time - younger - friend (our first following a mutual “coming out”)
At Oz last night, he said something about “Ohio Skibidi Toilet” and I had to look this one up!
Other terms learned in my encounters with 20 somethings this week:
- heard = I understand you
- word = I agree
- dipped = Left Abruptly
What are some of the other words/phrases you hear??
 

Oh Sam….Sam, Sam, Sam…those are the words of MY youth! 🤣🤣
Welcome to the 80’s

I love this.  I am pretty average looking but I have been told by a few hot guys I see regulary that they like seeing me because of how I treat them.  One of them has told me that I make him feel loved.   Maybe thats why I have such great times with guys way out of my league!

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.
What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

My weekend encounter in New Orleans was with a long time - younger - friend (our first following a mutual “coming out”)
At Oz last night, he said something about “Ohio Skibidi Toilet” and I had to look this one up!
Other terms learned in my encounters with 20 somethings this week:
- heard = I understand you
- word = I agree
- dipped = Left Abruptly
What are some of the other words/phrases you hear??
 

Me Too!

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.
What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

A lot has been said here.  On either side, families are complications to planning. Some grace is warranted.  In the end, it’s more relevant how either party responds to the situation and how that might affect future encounters 

A lot has been said here.  On either side, families are complications to planning. Some grace is warranted.  In the end, it’s more relevant how either party responds to the situation and how that might affect future encounters 

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.
What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

A lot has been said here.  On either side, families are complications to planning. Some grace is warranted.  In the end, it’s more relevant how either party responds to the situation and how that might affect future encounters 

I have several regulars who are never on time.  However, they are traveling and as long as they put forward an effort when we are together, I am fine with the delay.  I have come to expect it and plan accordingly.  AS they are coming to my home. I always have other things I can do while waiting.  I have one regular who cancels at the last minute more than half the time but more than makes up for it the other half.  I just have back up plans for any time I have an appointment with him and I long ago stopped getting upset about it.  Yes I am disappointed when it happens, but I also know that it is like being edged, eventually the frustration I feel now will result in a bigger explosion of joy later on.   
In this case,  pay for the time you spend together and enjoy that.  Disappointment can be washed away with a great orgasm.  If you have already paid him, on the way out, I would mention that the session was great but you are disappointed that it was less time than you had originally planned and any lost time from your time together makes the difference between a memorable session and one, like today's, merely great.  Big kiss on the way out and perhaps something like:  See what you missed out on.  

Dude … here’s what I’m thinking. Your feelings are your feelings. I think anyone would be annoyed. If I read correctly you said he was visiting his family which is not too far from your location. Family can add an extra layer of complexity. He’s going to be 30 mins late, which, due to your travel situation, would shave 30 mins off your scheduled session. Unfortunately, you didn’t leave a lot of room for error. In my 61 years it has been my experience that if you don’t leave room for error, that is a set up for disappointment. I’d say enjoy the shortened session, get what’s yours, wish him a happy new year, then head home. Yeah, the room cost extra so chalk it up to an expensive lesson learned. Trite but true - no good deed goes unpunished. I’ve had a similar situation - more than once. (I am a slow learner.) Shake it off and move on. And if I have misunderstood the scenario, please correct me. Good night. 

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.
What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

TBF, by 'Near Travel', they could mean, 'I'm near, so you can travel.'

Wow, planning is good and I like planning.  However sometimes especially when traveling for business I end up with an evening free that I did not expect to have and I start sending messages out to see who is available. If you don’t want the business just say so and I will move on. Someone having overly specific instructions in their ads is a reason for me to keep moving. I can’t remember when that worked out.

Merry Christmas, Company of Men
 
We came for growth, stayed for the laughs,
Shared a little truth and slapped a few backs.
Awkward moments, courage shown,
Real men learning we’re not alone.
 
Here’s to showing up just as we are
See you next year, same hearts, same scars.

Not all ads are clear and articulate.  And many are static.   I can’t tell you how many times I’ve responded to one - in the manner instructed - only to find out that the provider “really didn’t mean it” or “wasn’t on top of maintaining the ad”
So, the criticism cuts both ways.
Now, as to calling a potential client an idiot, it might just be better to block them to try and connect dots that make no sense.  If they really are an idiot, do you really want to meet?

Not all ads are clear and articulate.  And many are static.   I can’t tell you how many times I’ve responded to one - in the manner instructed - only to find out that the provider “really didn’t mean it” or “wasn’t on top of maintaining the ad”
So, the criticism cuts both ways.
Now, as to calling a potential client an idiot, it might just be better to block them to try and connect dots that make no sense.  If they really are an idiot, do you really want to meet?

How?   Usually face down and ass up?

Sounds like you need to try sniffies on the gulf coast where I live  🤣

New Orleans (my closest market) is a magnet for hustlers and meth heads. Couple that with preferring twink profiles and pickings are thin (except for a couple of exceptions like FTM AngelaGabe) unless there’s an occasional traveler.  So, I import talent for weekends there or go to them. 
So, I use filters extensively