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There's only one hotel recommended in that thread, and that hotel has since closed.

Any recent experiences?

Are there any high end hotels where this isn't the case? I thought that was standard now.

Just knowing that he's been in prison, without knowing the details? No, not a dealbreaker at all. It's not exactly uncommon. Sure, there are certain crimes that would be a dealbreaker if I somehow knew about them, but that's not a realistic expectation which is why this site, street smarts, and intuition are important.

I've evaluated potential buyers with info I can find online, but only in the service of determining how likely they are to follow through on the deal. I never actually met them in person. Looks didn't factor into it. In the end, cash is king. Congrats on your home sale!

It seems that his issues with chronic back pain and surgery were a big factor in withdrawing from his former life. New York Times reports he told a friend that his back condition makes dating and physical intimacy impossible.

Advertising in SF now. Immediately recognized the face as a OF model from eastern Europe. The photos/vids on RM are convincing but I wouldn't be surprised if lifted from OF. Not sure how RM verifies photos but despite that, a very suspicious profile. Based on other threads that mention him, seems to be a scam or bait and switch.

That's a good point Apex! I forgot that could actually be ideal for a guy with a 9 to 5. I've usually assumed providers keep bartender hours, roughly.

How open do you think providers are to very early morning appointments? I'm talking like 6 AM or 7 AM. I frequently go through periods where my schedule is chaos and those times would be great for me but I've always assumed that would be way too early to get someone's A-game or for them to show up at all (and I can't blame them). Any experiences?

Don't time the market. "Far more money has been lost by investors trying to anticipate corrections, than lost in the corrections themselves.” - Peter Lynch It's basically a cardinal rule for anyone who manages their own money, though most sabotage themselves by not following it and not understanding why it's important.

My gym locker room is full of guys taking posing selfies despite the signs prohibiting photography. So I don't blame anyone not wanting to get caught in their photos.

I've played around with fiber intake, supplements, timing of eating, what I eat etc. and I still can't imagine not douching. I'm careful not to douche too deeply which can create a mess itself but I envy those who apparently don't need to at all. The physician who casts himself as the gay anal sex expert has said that douching shouldn't be necessary when other factors are attended to but I still don't see how that can be achieved.

I've never heard of that and can't find any evidence to support that. If anything it's probably good to take calcium/vitamin D with PrEP since that could help offset potential losses in bone density. No reason why those can't be taken at the same time as far as I can see.

IMO, there's a world of difference between offering simple cash for sex and threatening to impede one's career if sex is not provided or otherwise implying career advancement/opportunities in exchange for sex. There are certainly gray areas in the latter case (such as people offering sex to those in a position of power instead of a more top-down power dynamic). But this appears to be an example of a clear top-down power dynamic with threats to the models' livelihoods and career if they didn't play along and I find those cases to be clearly coercive and abusive.

To be clear the calcium in dairy interferes with doxycycline's absorption. So space out consumption at least a couple hours. Also space out antacids/multivitamins with doxy.

What I meant by that was that some people have personalities that preclude honest and safe dealing with other people -- in other words, criminals. That comment was in no way meant to describe homeless people in general. Just something I would be attuned to if dealing with someone living on the streets (which is a more specific population than "homeless"). For the record, I don't place blame on this general group of people for their circumstances and believe most of them are victims of forces beyond their individual control. I'll leave it at that.

If someone's sleeping on the street, then there are deeper issues than just homelessness and financial insecurity. It's a sign that someone has burned all their bridges, usually as a result of drug use, untreated mental illness, or simply having a personality that's incompatible with polite company. Don't put yourself in a position where you'll get burned too. Oh, but to answer your actual question... that's a tough one. Honestly it would be good to know who this is so clients can steer clear, but on the other hand I could see how some might judge sharing that info to be in bad taste.

Yes it's typical and most seem not to care. Most providers seem to expect doing so. I'm with you though, I don't like that texts hang around forever and using a burner (app or phone) doesn't change that. I don't really understand why apps like Signal aren't more widely used here.

Are providers notified when you add them to your buddy list or is it private?

Thanks Apex! That's really helpful.

Bump. Open to DMs too 🙂

Normally the rule is the oil is not compatible with latex or polyisoprene but Pjur explicitly states that all of their lubes are latex safe. Which leads me to believe there isn't much jojoba oil in there, or at least not enough to break down the latex. If it was just straight oil instead of being primarily silicone it would probably be different story. From their website: All of our personal lubricants undergo a condom test. So you can rest assured that all pjur personal lubricants are also compatible with latex condoms.

I tried Pjur for the first time recently, based on recommendations here. I was surprised because it felt better in my ass than other silicone lubes I've tried. Previously I'd thought that water vs silicone vs oil was pretty much all that really mattered but I guess not. The packaging/bottle sucks though. Screw top for lube? I might repackage it for myself in a better container. I wonder what about it makes it feel more comfortable. Maybe the jojoba oil? I can't imagine there's much oil in it since it's latex compatible.

I like these in theory but changing the refills or even just pulling it up to see how much is left is a huge pain with these. The top always pops off which can become messy. Still use it though because it's still better than other travel options.

To the extent that the motivation is financial, I find myself wondering just how rewarding it is for the average provider who derives most of their income from this work. Among that group, any guesses as to what the median income might be? 90th percentile? Client hours per week? Maybe an indecent question. And sorry if veering off topic. Just something I ponder when asking the question in the title. Given high overhead expenses and the unique challenges of the work, it's actually hard for me to imagine they're making "enough" to make it worth it. Which is one reason I never balk at fees.