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I did not enjoy this film. I did not understand the hype or praise. I never believed for a minute that she was guilty of murder. I also didn't believe a case should have been brought against her. I thought is was all phony and ridiculous.

I have heard this comment from a lot of people, especially people who aren't keen on musicals. I never saw the show on Broadway, but I'm thinking about catching this.

I don't know anyone who loved it, but I intend to see it.

It's gotten great press. It's on my list to see.

Or love. But none of that stops the guys who live for drama. No matter what you say, you can't talk them off the cliff. I have an older gay sibling who lives for drama. Falls in love with every cute guy he encounters. He's overweight, depressed, and feels lonely. He loves to gossip and create drama. He's unhappy and bored with his life, so he uses drama to create excitement. It's dysfunctional behavior steeped in deeper, more complex issues. The worst part is he sees a therapist. I have no idea what goes on in those sessions, but there's never been any evidence that they help. Most people in service are actors. The best customer service is great acting at the highest level. The act of caring performed by an actor is an illusion. Acting talent has the power to seduce. It's not a bad talent. I think it can be quite useful, and profitable. The challenge is on the customer not to be duped. You must know your place in any transaction. Some men are weak and fall prey.

I saw the movie for a second time. It's not as funny/shocking the second time, but I still laughed and enjoyed the crazy ride. The pacing and the performances are seriously close to pitch perfect. I had not realized that Toros and Garnick were at Vanya's New Year's Eve party, where they would have seen or encountered Ali. I also didn't realize how many hats Sean Baker wore. Not only did he write and direct, he's co-producer, casting agent, and he's the movie's editor. The movie is cast to perfection, and the editing is sharp as a tack. It's a very impressive film that is going to make a ton of money. Sean Baker is a major talent. The music in the movie is amazing also.

A good idea? No. But sometimes you have to learn lessons the hard way. Exactly. If you keep the fantasy short and simple, there's a ton of fun to be had. Some guys live for drama, but mixing money with relationships can get tricky quickly. Mixing money with friendships can get treacherous. It took a few mistakes in my youth to learn the damaging traps to avoid. As an old romantic, I still struggle. I'm in love with my Queens butcher, where I go for specialty meat items. He's a Latin/Italian mix, and I think he's so hot. I swear he flirts with me all the time, gifting me with occasional free meat. He's married with kids, but I melt when he smiles. I would love to offer paid service to him, but I would die if the offer ruined our relationship. Many things aren't worth death, especially the best, however small, relationships. I'm in love with my Asian dry cleaner's son. I've known him since he was thirteen, and now that he's in college, he's hot as hell. He is so sweet and kind to me, it is incredibly easy to assume he's available for other things. He knows I'm a good, loyal, and respectful customer. But what might happen if I tampered with that trust? If I made a play and failed, not only would I lose his trust, I would lose his family. There are many scenarios where the fantasy kills if you make the wrong move, even in relationships where sex is the commodity. My heart is too sensitive to ever be that reckless again. Now, I'm only interested in the fun, fun, fun. No drama.

I thought the movie was a fun roller-coaster ride. Thought the performances were amazing. I found Mark Eydelshteyn oddly attractive, with a very sexy twink ass. Wish he would have done full frontal. His nude flip was impressive. I can see why this film is getting much critical praise and attention. I thought the ending was very touching, and totally unexpected. Mikey Madison's career will probably soar.

In earlier years, I had thoughts about giving others massage. Friends used to tell me I had a nice touch. If I had a larger apartment, I would have invested in a good table, not only for myself but for others. Maybe then I would have taken the thought more seriously. I don't know where you live, but NYC has MMX. Not only can you learn more from a place like that, you can meet and work with other like-minded men, and possibly find the needle in the haystack you're looking for. Maybe there is something similar in your area, or you can plan a learning visit here and explore further. If I had the energy, I would jump.

Yep, we're back to that. There never really was a black and white interpretation, was there? Even being street smart, it was never good to assume or expect anything. As far as I'm concerned, these words were there to feed a fantasy, and many providers knew how to do word-play (mostly between sensual and erotic). The words were part of the search seduction, and they provided a few guys the ability to charge more. Any guy who took the words seriously did so at risk of disappointment. Lots of disappointment expressed here on this board. The truth is, a guy never knows when he'll encounter luck. Obviously, the hotter clients typically have more fun. Asking is only fun if the response is "yes." I avoid asking because hearing "no" would kill the fantasy before the service even starts. Several providers would ask if I wanted more, and that was welcome. Because then I knew they were interested in going further. There was no negative interruption. Until it becomes legal, we're stuck.

Closed down? Where did that come from? I have no idea what is going on internally at RM. Even if they provide an explanation, I doubt I would believe it. I was a recent Premium customer, but I have not received any communication from them regarding this change. Maybe it only went out to providers. Nonetheless, I'm not surprised.

I always understood it to mean the following: Sensual: Provider may touch sensitive areas without engaging in sex acts. Erotic: Provider will provide HE, and he may get naked and let you touch him. Many also believed it was an open door to the possibility of penetration. Obviously, the words were just another word-play marketing tool for providers who wanted another read-between-the-line choice. Now, there will be less choice, leaving many to wonder further what they will actually get for their money.

Exactly. Now watch the changes begin.

That sounds like fun. I wish more would be interested in doing this. I once had a masseur in San Francisco who used an undressing ritual soon after you arrived. It was amazing. We undressed each other, and I'll never forget the way he touched my junk as he was sliding my underwear down to the floor. So hot and sexy. That was a very memorable massage.

@mike carey LOL, I never feel bad about hating user interfaces. I did not grow up on computers, so for me, it's like learning French. However, my brain still works (thank God), and when something is shown to me, I can learn. Thank you for showing me, Mike. I had no idea Theme existed, or what it could do. Interesting feature. Now I know how to avoid the snowflakes next holiday season. Much appreciated!

I don't remember that. I think the word "twink" rose significantly when porn went to the internet in the early 90's. It became a growing, dominant porn category, and studios began specializing in reaching out to those customers. Today, young, skinny guy porn is everywhere, with some studios only producing that. Same here. Never liked alcohol much. Never liked the smell of a bar. Stripper clubs were fun. Those places smelled more of man sweat. Loved that.

That's really lovely to know. Thank you for the note. Now if only I could figure out what all that means, and how to do it. LOL. I'm so not made for a tech world.

+1 Life is complicated enough for a gay man. Have to disagree with that. Aggression and entitlement are far more prevalent these days. Simply watch the Karen-on-airplane videos on YouTube for the last 10 years of air travel. You'll see people behave in public in a manner I've never seen before. And I flew for business most of my life. And end up like Oscar Wilde? Certainly not a bad way to live, or offer as an example. However, when it comes to sex work among gays and gay-bar life, it helps to get street smart. Pick your venues with care, and know your place within them.

Sorry. OT again. I like lime a lot. I just happened to be at Fairway Market today, a grocery store I don't normally go to. Lo and behold Duke's was on their mayo shelf. Next time I need mayo I'm going to try it. Thanks for the mention. I love a good mayo.

What I meant by growing old, is facing the choice of accepting or rejecting the coarsening of our culture. When I was younger, I saw everything through rose colored glasses.

Sorry, not on Grindr. Lots to be sad about these days. Growing old is a bitch.

Interesting discussion. If I had the money, I'd rather spend it on watching him work. Sexually, he's not my type, but I can see why a lot of guys and gals drool over him. Whenever I have seen him in interviews, he always comes across as some version of manic. There is that laugh. As a sex worker, I don't think I would enjoy being intimate with him. I don't think the word savor is in his vocabulary. Plus, he's way too young. OT: I never heard of the brand Duke's before. I see it has no sugar, and uses more egg yolk (which may make it more fattening). I'd be interested in trying it.

I don't think social grace rules of yesteryear apply to social media of today. Today, I'm surprised when anyone exhibits good manners. I don't own a smartphone, so I've never been on Grindr. I heard it was for hot, younger guys looking for sex. If that is mostly true, and you're not hot and age appropriate, then I would say there's some glutton for punishment at work here. Disrespecting boundaries is a huge turn-off for most gay men. Huge turn-off. It's even more intense for sex workers. Someone who assumes you can introduce RM banter on a place like Grindr, without permission, is not thinking. IMO, this shortsightedness is begging for rejection.

+1

The body seems amazing, at least for my taste. Love his legs and butt. If he's got a nice face, nice personality, and a lot of talent, I could easily see how falling head over heels could be a thing.