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Judging by his YouTube videos, this guy is seriously talented. Does anyone know where he is located or how to get in touch with him? (Edit) I found this: https://jan-kosto.square.site/ Prices are too high for me, but damn, he's got a major gift.

Streisand is the queen of bloat. Apparently someone was afraid to tell her that nobody reads anymore.

I fell asleep about a third of the way in. I have to re-watch it, but need to be caffeinated when I do. It is a visual feast, but I'm not much of a Jolie fan. I think Lady Gaga's face would have worked better. No one would have needed to teach Gaga how to sing. I wasn't quite buying the Jolie singing hype, but the lip-sync/edit seems to be very good. I do admire Jolie's bravery. The end result could have been an easy disaster, and she managed to avoid that.

Sadly, it's just a matter of time before we see a Matthew Shepard incident filmed. Only this time, there will be millions celebrating the visuals on social media. Plenty of hatred against gays, still. I have serious fears for the next four years.

$100 for 10 massages sounds like a deal to me, steroids or not.

There is no special language. Some HE guys live with risk, while others get spooked easily. It's a coin toss. The term "erotic massage" implies an illegal service. Just because sites like RM (not located in the U.S.) offer the word "erotic" does not mean every provider is going to be OK with you putting that in writing. IMO, hiring a HE guy is always a gamble, because so many of them are not professional. They are guys posing as masseurs. The absolute best way to get what you want is to show up for an appointment and see if you get lucky. There are no guarantees, no matter how you parse the words.

I don't believe Rob ever played that game. He is a sensual man, and loves the sensual massage, whether you ask for one or not. Sensual is his nature. The question is can you expect sex, and what type of sex? Sex is very different from sensual in the massage business.

Thanks for the update. He's handsome, and a trained professional. Too bad it's "text only."

We're working within a marketplace, where there seems to be a service for everyone if you dig deep enough. Some providers are willing to dabble in exchange for that extra "tip." Men get horny. Not easy to hide on a massage table. Once the spirit is lifted, out comes a menu of possibilities. Part of this fantasy, part of this thrill is getting more for less. Also, massage with sex is a very different feeling than just sex. It's a different service, especially in the brain. There aren't many guys out there who possess the talent, who know how to deliver both, while taking the massage aspect seriously. As long as the search goes on, rules don't seem to apply.

It appears you don't realize the amount of money some men are willing to throw at this thrill ride.

I think for some guys it is a date. Hard to tell how the fantasy mind works on individuals. From reading this board, some guys do endless research, usually trying to figure out their chances of getting an escort experience out of a guy. My gut tells me that Rob did not want to be an escort. I believe he was partnered when I saw him. He loved the therapeutic aspect of massage, and he loved being and receiving sensuality. He is a gay man, and he's human. With some guys he might go further, and that would depend on the day, on the mood, on the stars. Some guys don't want to be predictable. Some guys don't want to fulfill certain expectations each and every time. Rob once told me, "Don't always expect that." I told him I respect his wishes, and I always will. He was too good, too talented to mistreat.

Rob is that rare find. He knows he has talent, and he enjoys being sensual. He is a sensitive human being who likes to share. He senses when the body on his table is willing to surrender. He is masculine, and doesn't talk too much. He also has a terrific body odor. Never an upsell. Easy to share your desires. If he were still in NYC, I would be seeing him regularly. I always had a wonderful time with him, and my body fully appreciated his gifts.

It was a first for me. I have never seen a half-naked homeless man, playing with his dick, lying down on 4 seats during the day in Manhattan. I use the Q train regularly to get to the Upper East Side. The new 2nd Ave portion is fantastic. No faster way to get to the East 90's. I often take the F to Red Hook in Brooklyn or north to Rockefeller Center. All the people who take trains in NYC look the same to me. Most look like hard-working New Yorkers, or tourists. Yes, there are quite a few beggars, but begging in the NYC subways has been present long before I moved here. It never occurred to me to grade a train by "aggressive" beggars. Everyone in NYC seems aggressive to me. How else can one survive this fabulous jungle?

I take the subway all the time. The only crimes I have witnessed are young people jumping the turnstiles. That has been going on for 50+ years. These past six months, I've seen plenty of cops underground, and the trains are packed, sardine packed, and I'm not talking about rush hour. It seems lots of tourists this year. The homeless woman who got burned was in a parked train at the last stop on Coney Island. The suspect appears to have mental problems, and more details are to come. During the very cold spells, more homeless are using the trains to get warm. The homeless situation in NYC has never been good, but since Covid, it's been very bad. Last week, I stepped onto a packed Q train. Lying on one of the 4-seat sections was a very thin homeless guy, shirtless. He had his hand down his pants, and he was mumbling something. He looked like someone on heroin, possibly in his 30's. It was not an easy thing to witness. It was freezing outside. People rushed to get inside this car, but when they discovered him, they were stuck. The train's doors had already closed, and there was no room to move anywhere. I wasn't close enough to experience his odor. He was a mess (but had the potential to be good looking). There has always been crime in the subways, especially in winter. So many among the homeless in America are suffering from mental illness. There are no easy answers or remedies.

I like his look. Do any New Yorkers know if he's traveling with a table?

LOL. Better than Google Translate.

LOL. Far from it. If I had the libido I had 30+ years ago, I'd be a horny dog barking up every hot masseur I could find.

I know. But since time in immemorial I have never seen the words Covid or Monkeypox in a massage ad, and we see those words now. Things change, and some things are very different now. I suspect a State licensing board would disagree. But HE customers don't care. Don't spoil their fantasies.

I don't know anyone who has pristine skin. I also don't know any doctor who examines a patient without gloves on. It's impossible to know the details of a circumstance that happened in private. We can easily guess for 20 more pages. Even highly trained, licensed massage therapists are not trained to identify every skin condition. Some of you should Google "contagious skin conditions." I had a rash once near my ankle, after flying home from a trip abroad, that several doctors could not diagnose. I first went to a local clinic, and the entire staff came to look at my rash because everyone there was baffled. Of course all those initial doctors wanted to believe it was some version of lyme. Turns out they were all wrong. Many of you guys think it's normal, safe or even "healthy" to get bare-handed HE massages from someone who does this work by the hour. That's a lot of bodily fluids, in a dimly lit space, washing across a lot of bare skin of strangers. How well does each provider take care of himself? To each his own on taking risks. How "ridiculous" is it for a service provider to not wear gloves?

OMG. I got a tingle in my groin after reading this. A head and neck massage after release is pure heaven. Brought back so many fond memories of how many guys used to do it. Too bad this beauty is in NJ. Can't do that.

There is maybe one photo where he looks his actual age. Too many of these smartphone photos have a glaze over them. I guess it's a special effect. I could never let someone who looks this young touch my naked body. The visual is too creepy for me.

Wow, that seems extreme. I might question the software, and contact RM. When I was a Premium Member, I went back and forth on every NYC ad. I was doing research, so I can only imagine what the providers were thinking. The only a-hole who attacked me for not booking was Michael the Russian, and that was without ever emailing him. We had no contact whatsoever. I think he went by MeltInMyHands. His a-hole behavior was notorious. Several threads here. I wrote RM and complained. I sent them the threatening emails this a-hole sent me. I believe he got kicked off RM. The NYC market seems more professional, even among the HE group who have had no training at all. I can only imagine what RM is like for others. Scary. Cancellations happen. They are a fact of life. Yes, some a-holes will abuse, but it's never considered professional to assume all customers who have to cancel are a-holes. I had to tell a recent first-time masseur that my body sometimes rejects the medication I take. I usually know in the early morning, and I typically book massage for later in the day. He told me he would not accept a last minute cancellation, so I did not book with him. What was I supposed to do? Would he have treated me better if I had a full blown accident on his table? Sometimes, with certain people, you can't succeed. Much better to simply move on, and give your money to someone more worthy.

He sure is cute.

IME, in a Physical Therapy setting, which is often a hospital or clinic, and where massage is part of the PT service, the therapists won't touch you without gloves on. Gloves are worn even when taking temperature or blood pressure. I have always assumed this had something to do with Covid. Not only do PT therapists wear gloves, in NYC, the staff is still wearing masks. I don't know if the rules are mandatory, because not everyone follows them. They may only be recommendations. When I get a pedicure these days, which includes leg/calf massage, I've yet to find someone working without gloves. Toe nail fungus and athlete's feet are very common, so gloves make sense to me. I haven't been to a spa setting in a very long time, but I've never experienced gloves there. However, I've never experienced a massage therapist not wash his hands immediately after the work. You are taught the importance of doing this in training. Depending on the number of customers per day, washing your hands often, each day, every week of work, can produce all sorts of problems with hand skin. Many service providers will resort to wearing gloves simply to protect their own health. I'm sure wearing gloves, especially these days, is far more common than we wish to believe. From a health perspective, it really is a smart choice. Real life isn't a porn movie. HE massages usually don't follow any rules. What risks are we willing to take?

I can most definitely tell you from decades of experience, the size or appearance of the hands has nothing to do with guessing quality of work. On top of that, just because a massage therapist may look like a gym God, it does not mean he knows how to put power, heat, or energy behind his hands to perform deep work. More often than not, I have been surprised by who actually has the gift. There have been exceptions, but mostly I've been surprised. A large, insensitive hand on my erection? I'll pass. (Edit) Look at the hands on many of the edging videos. I don't think I've ever seen large hands among the truly gifted.