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I've been to a lot of places throughout my life, and this question is one I've contemplated. When it comes to everyday living, nothing quite beats Manhattan for me, and the list of pro reasons is quite long. For instance, I don't need a car or car insurance. I love my senior MTA discount. I love the culture, even though I can't afford a lot of it anymore. I love the energy, the diversity, and the brainpower of the people. I love the good, lengthy friendships I have here. I love the 4 seasons, with winter being fairly mild, compared to my childhood home. I love my doctors, and the fabulous, affordable health care I receive here. I love my Co-Op, and the manner in which we all care for the future of our building. I love the massage community and the gay community here. I love grocery shopping in all the boroughs. I love having 3 major airports less than 1 hour away. Coming and going is incredibly easy, no matter the transport mode. I'm finding NYC a great place to grow old, because there are so many fun distractions if you want them. I just wish someone with power would end the insane sirens. They are killing my eardrums as I walk the amazing streets.

I enjoyed the rewind a couple of times.

No, I wouldn't say that. I am aware that a lot of straight guys love enormous balloon-shaped tits, no matter how ridiculously fake they look. Image is very subjective, and almost always comes down to personal taste. It's the "too far" that bothers me most, especially on a man. It is so easy to cross that line.

"One night I took home some girl, turned out to be a Ladyboy, which I'd done before, but this time instead of fucking the Ladyboy, the Ladyboy fucked me...and it was kind of magical." I'm going to give it to Mike White on this one. I'm not counting him out yet. He just needs a good rest. Strong talent doesn't die so easily.

Holy shit. What a turkey. Very embarrassing. Rumor has it Taylor-Johnson made 2 million on the picture. No suffering there. It looks like the movie grossed 475 million against a 110 million budget. Not sure, but is that not a success? I'm reading that Sony was expecting much higher numbers, and blamed the critics. What fools. The movie sucks. I can't believe it was able to pull in 475 million. Apparently, people are questioning if this has ruined Taylor-Johnson's chances at playing James Bond. I had not heard he was being considered. I think he would make a great Bond, and if they decide to finally show Bond naked, Taylor-Johnson would be the actor to make that happen with great success. I had no idea this was Marvel movie. I'm not a Comic Book type.

I'm still a bit stunned by how bad this season is. I'm sure Mike White is completely exhausted (he has said so in many interviews), and it shows in this season. The late night talk show hosts are so laughable when they stick their tongue up everyone's ass, praising them for their superfine work on this season's show. Warning, spoilers. I was so hoping Jason Isaacs would have shot himself. His character died before the season started. His aimless moping really is a drag on everything. Who didn't know the 3 women were going to invite trouble? It wouldn't surprise me to learn that Carrie Coon had something to do with Michelle hooking up with Valentin. I wish all three guys would have dropped shorts before jumping in the pool. It would have made perfect sense, prosthetic penises or not. The brother's kiss kind of made me throw up. Gay incest does nothing for me, and its a subject the gay community does not need to attach itself to. However, I love when a popular Hollywood show causes Megyn Kelly to have a brain aneurysm, so thank you Mike White. The best scene, IMO, was between Walton Goggins and Sam Rockwell. I didn't love the writing for Walton, but Sam's writing and acting was quite good. Not sure what to say about Natasha Rothwell pairing with Pornchai. At least the scuffle noise mystery has been solved.

Wow, what a great ass. Looks like the crack is shaved completely clean. I was very surprised they shot him from behind while in the bent down position. They do not usually ask an actor to do that. I am also surprised by how much nudity he is doing. Sadly, the story has too many eye roll moments. No one in Hollywood cares about preposterous anymore or jumping the shark.

Sometimes I get lucky with Google, but it doesn't happen very often. Plus, it's risky to click on just anything. I didn't even know how to copy and paste an animated gif. I'm surprised it worked. I don't remember the site, and the scenes are from a different movie. I did not realize his wife directed the nude scenes, or maybe I got that wrong. The brain is a blur this morning. I believe I heard her say they shot the nudes scenes first. I had never seen his wife before, and I was expecting a whole different kind of woman. I also didn't know Aaron has an accent. Never heard him in an interview before.

Oh boy. Had to walk away and stop watching this. It's a new release on Max, and I can't believe anyone in his right mind financed it. Not only does Parker Posey appear (without the Southern accent), the cast has Edie Falco, Lisa Kudrow, Brian Cox, and an extremely overweight Dean Norris. The writing is so bad. The story and the premise is ridiculous. The two gay sons are terrible, along with their Asian gal-pal. Comedy is difficult to write by itself, but adding horror to it? Does it ever work? Instead of laughing, I cried. Watching this film was too painful. I had to shut it off before it ended. IMO, it deserves a 0% on Rotten Tomatoes. So far it has 44. One can only wonder, are there any gays who enjoyed this mess?

All it takes is one little pill washed down with some liquor.

Well now we know. Mike White cast Arnas Fedaravicius for his super-fine ass.

Well, a good fantasy doesn't always require engagement, at least not mutual engagement. I once met a married straight guy who was using the gym at a bath house in the southern Midwest. He was tall and slender, with dark hair and a beautiful cock and balls. He was only looking for a good blow job, and he was charming in the way he quietly expressed his honesty with me. I said I could help him if he wanted to join me in my room. He asked if I minded if he watched straight porn on his phone. I had first met him in the shower, so I knew he was clean. Once in my room, he was totally open to me licking anything and anywhere, and I did, but no kissing and no reciprocation. For me, it was pure heaven.

Interesting. Kraven is on a lot of critics "Top" lists. I was planning on watching it. I'm totally in love with Aaron Taylor Johnson. He can slap his junk against my face any time.

"Straight" providers are almost always going to be lazy lovers when working with a gay customer. They are also more selfish. They mostly want to be serviced, or a gaping hole, and they want control. If you're looking for a sensitive, masculine, romantic lover type, willing to explore and invest sexual energy with you, straight is not the answer. If kissing is your thing, a straight guy is a disaster. I have never been with a straight guy who was able to passionately kiss another man. Straight guys in sex work aren't usually famous for their acting skills. I've never met a straight guy who can suck cock like it was his last meal. If you want a BJ that will send you to the moon and back in first-class, hire a gay professional.

Interesting find. I like the way he hints at his possible specialty. Requires a video call. Lots of guys not going to enjoy that.

I imagine a wealthy, closeted environment would be too tempting to resist, especially if you look like a leading Bel Ami model. As many say, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. There's plenty of "taboo" sex going on in places where it is dangerous. The wealthy play by different rules. I can't imagine navigating those waters at the age of 24, except the boy doesn't seem to be American. Amazing to me that he's working in medicine in Italy. I'd be very nervous getting undressed for him. He sure takes a pretty picture, and he leaves little to the imagination.

LOL, so true. Burned out from massage? I don't think that could ever happen to me. My body loves to be worked on. Back in the day, when massages were $60, I had one a week, sometimes two. They really helped my body and mind deal with stress. For many years I went to a guy on 45th St. who gave equal time to my feet and skull. There is something about deep reflexology on the feet that sends my body to the moon, and keeps it there for a good week, walking on clouds. Also, there is nothing like a 12-minute shampoo, without soap and water. My scalp loves being scratched and manipulated. Even now, I've been doing physical rehab for the past 3 months, and part of the therapy is massage. My PT is a woman, and at first I was reluctant, until I felt her commanding grip. She is so good, I asked if she freelances, and she said no. Sure, sensual is really nice, especially from a sexy, caring provider. My body doesn't care about sex, it just loves to be worked over. The service makes me feel 20 years younger.

Just finished Episode 2 in Season 3. Holy shit! I am still trying to find the words. Here is a miracle, this show has been around since 2019. All of my friends have seen it, and they know my hate for Apple. Not one spoiler has come to my attention in all this time. I have even seen some brief interviews with some of the stars, the last of which was Jon Hamm. Lots of tempting build-up, but no details. Everything I have seen has been a complete surprise. This roller-coaster ride is top shelf. It seems every other episode, my stomach is my throat. It's so nice to see that quality can be found on TV.

Some of the trending posts lead me to reading in the Deli. @CuriousByNature and @Keenan, your posts on this thread are eye openers. On second thought, I couldn't do the job. The scrutiny that guys endure here would kill me. I wonder who among us customers could tolerate being publicly naked and so openly judged? It was difficult enough dealing with criticism in the workplace, which was mostly kept private. I've never had to endure a customer rant on the internet, let alone a vile pile-on.

I had my share of gay friends from game night who were waiters and salespeople. One guy worked at Bloomingdales for 40+ years before he retired. The horror stories they shared were not pleasant to sit through. NYC is infamous for its asshole customers. Sometimes the more money people have, the worse they are. In our culture, there seem to be a subset of customers who like to abuse service people. They think it's their right. Waiters learn this quickly. In my 30's, I grew to love massage so much, I thought about going to school for it. I tried it a few times on friends, but my hands tired out pretty quickly. I knew they weren't strong enough. I decided if I can't be as good as the experts I loved, then I didn't want to do it. I admitted I did not have the gift. Before health problems after 50, I had always been a gym goer. You get to see a large cross section of society, naked in the locker rooms. I like to think of myself as a person with humanity, but since I never had a strong libido, it takes a certain something to turn me on. I never had an issue with surrendering my body to another man, but reciprocation was always an issue. My sex partners didn't need to be pro models, but there had to be something that sparked a flame. These obstacles are not qualities for good escort work. However, if I had the right stuff, I imagine I could enjoy a lot of it. I have always loved the concept of being independent, and when I'm attracted to someone, I fully enjoy pleasing him.

I once saw an interview with the movie's creators. They had felt the book was a hit piece, a vendetta against Anna Wintour, and they were clear about not wanting that. It seems Hollywood wasn't much interested in getting on Anna's wrong side, which could hurt a lot of stars. Considering they took a different approach, it worked for them. The movie made Emily Blunt a star, and fed Meryl plenty of scenery and actors to chew on. Given the state of fashion (NYC has less stores now than ever in modern history), I'm surprised anyone is interested in a 2. I guess if you throw enough money at Meryl, she'll do just about anything (if she's even doing it). There does seem to be some interest in fancy clothing that only the wealthy can afford, since people are watching Emily in Paris and And Just Like That, in spite of the critics. Who knows with Hollywood. I'll believe it when I see it.

I am head-over-heels in love with this show. I'm halfway through Season 2, and I have so much to say. I need to find time to write. Season 1 knocked me clear off my LazyBoy.

I loved Vicious with Ian McKellen and Derek Jacobi. The writing was so sharp and funny, and their love seemed so real. I don't have much faith that Hollywood can do that, especially this writing team.

I don't know what "central" means. Is it 40%, 50%, or 60% of my identity? Even if I live to 100, I'm in the last 1/4 of my life. So if my math skills are worth anything, I'm 75% old, and that seems a hell of a lot more than "central" to me. There was a time when I had hair, could stand up straight, and no one could guess my age. Soon after 50 that changed. Now, it's impossible to hide or pretend, no matter how rested or energetic I am. Way too many strangers offer me their seat, and considering I live in NYC, it's very touching to me. I don't want to be one of those narcissists who lives in denial. Old now is the majority of my identity, and when I solicit provider help, I want to be upfront and truthful about it. (Edit) Gay guys don't like being tricked or left to guess.

No need to apologize to me. My social media skills are pitiful. Without clear and correct information, I can easily get lost and confused. I have a very dear friend who endured several brain surgeries due to cancer. He is now wheelchair bound. The guy was a very talented, much loved professor, so to witness the effect that cancer has had on him is very traumatizing and painful. I don't have cancer, but in my elder years, I now consider myself a special needs customer. The days of being handsome, lean, and muscle defined are over for me. I no longer have hair on my head, and I hate being bald. My health issues are serious, but they are not obvious to strangers. I must explain to providers before a service begins to avoid disaster. I require a patient guy who is caring and understanding. Not easy to find. Most guys in this business are not prepared to service special needs customers. Most guys don't want us. I find it is very unfair to expect special consideration without giving someone a chance to absorb the challenges, and come to term with those challenges in their own way. I don't want to identify as an old man, but ignoring the reality does me no good. It's now a part of who I am. That is why I send a nude photo to providers I am interested in. I appreciate the ones who say "no thanks," but most never respond to my queries. Luckily for me, there are enough who do respond. Life can still be good and pleasurable, and those feelings are important to me.